Break ups to Make ups

[VirtuousGal]

How many cycles of splitting up only to get back together have you all gone through with past or current loves? What was the final straw if there was one, or if you managed to make it work, what finally made things click?

 

[Ericka]

Bumping because I would like to see the responses to this........

 

[lusciousladie07]

I don't do break up and make up.... There is a reason why we felt the need to break up..LEARN FROM SITUATIONS AND YOU WON'T REPEAT THEM!!!

I'm not a petty person, so if HE breaks up w/ me over something small/trival, then he is not man enough for me, he needs to get some tampons and move on to the next girl..

If we break up over something huge, then thats the reason right there...Why go back to someone that had me feeling like I need leave him alone!?!?! To feel the same hurt again?? NO. Im not a glutton for punishment.. Some people are in your life for a season and some for a lifetime...and he was either my summer fun, fall love, winter warmth or spring fling.

Keep It Moving Honey!! (because one monkey don't stop the show! lol)

 

[calmsensual1]

I've done the break ups to make up thing once recently.

The reason why I kept reconsidering is because I have a problem communicating and so everytime we'd break up, I'd tell him why, and he'd say "why didnt you say something before"

So the very last time we broke up was because he decided to leave me alone at his house on memorial day (which is a holiday dangit) to go walk his dog for 3 hours. After I had told him 3 days earlier that I need more time with him.

Plus, the sex was bad.

I swear he would last for a song and a half.

Im glad I got out of that mess.

 

[Livingmylifetothefullest]

I've done the break ups to make up thing once recently.

The reason why I kept reconsidering is because I have a problem communicating and so everytime we'd break up, I'd tell him why, and he'd say "why didnt you say something before"

So the very last time we broke up was because he decided to leave me alone at his house on memorial day (which is a holiday dangit) to go walk his dog for 3 hours. After I had told him 3 days earlier that I need more time with him.

Plus, the sex was bad.

I swear he would last for a song and a half.

Im glad I got out of that mess.

This is kind of off topic but did you hear this song by The Stylistics? This thread made think of it.

 

[calmsensual1]

Lol no, I havent heard that song. Ill have to check it out.

 

[VirtuousGal]

Okayyy....so I thought this might resonate with more women, perhaps I was wrong, but judging from the many women from different walks of life (including myself to be fair and honest) I've met in this very situation, my gut tells me otherwise. Come on ladies, share!!!

 

[VirtuousGal]

so everytime we'd break up, I'd tell him why, and he'd say "why didnt you say something before"

Im glad I got out of that mess.

I can completely identify with this.

 

[upandcoming]

Yup, many a break ups and makes up with my current ex. Scratch that. MY EX. We were committed for a few months, then broke up, then started to date off and on for a few months without being committed. It was awful, a good learning experience though.

I've learned the only way a break up to make up can work is if you give it time. Lots of time. My sister married a break up to make up, but she lethim go for almost a year to give him time to get his life together. Same with another couple en route to marriage, another on ethat is married. But during break ups NO CALLS, NO TEXTS, etc.

 

[darlingdiva]

I've never played the break-up & make-up game. I don't believe in it at ALL!


Once we're done...WE'RE DONE!!!

 

[Ladybelle]

Me & DH broke up too many times to count before we got married. I would say we only had two-three real break up's and then we ended up back together.

I would chalk a lot of it up to immaturity at the time- we met our freshman year in college & didn't know half of what we thought we knew about relationships & all the things it takes to maintain one.

Thank God we both grew up and got over the foolishness.

 

[ad0rkabletash]

I did the break up and make up thing a few times in my last relationship. That relationship lasted for four years ... from junior year of high school until my third year of college. Most of the break ups were in a result of petty stuff and thinking that a relationship would be a lot easier. The last time that we broke up, it was because he cheated.

Definitely not taking him back after that! That was the final straw.

I'm just going to learn my lessons from that relationship and KIM.

 

[Vinyl]

I did the make-up break-up thing a lot with a past ex. The final straw was that he didn't seem to be taking the relationship as seriously as I was. But I must say that I would have gotten back with him again if I hadn't met someone else that treated me 100% better.

The reason for it was after we'd broken up for the first time and got back together, we both took it for granted that no matter how many break ups we'd always get back together. Looking back, it was waaay too emotionally taxing to keep breaking up/getting back together.

Now, when I consider breaking up I ask myself if I want to be permanently done with the person. It stops the break-ups over petty things.

 

[Ms_Delikate]

Yup, many a break ups and makes up with my current ex. Scratch that. MY EX. We were committed for a few months, then broke up, then started to date off and on for a few months without being committed. It was awful, a good learning experience though.

I've learned the only way a break up to make up can work is if you give it time. Lots of time. My sister married a break up to make up, but she lethim go for almost a year to give him time to get his life together. Same with another couple en route to marriage, another on ethat is married. But during break ups NO CALLS, NO TEXTS, etc.

...I am going through this right now...We broke up last May and I had to make a CLEAN break so that he could get his ish together, that meant no calls, no texts, nothing...Now he is in a much better place and I am giving him a second chance.

 

[tash85]

my current So and I have broken up more times than I can remember. Mostly theyre petty things that are exacerbated by our too-similar personalities

our most reason break up (and our biggest to date) was me becoming well and truely fed up with his empty promises and lack of commitment.

We broke up for 9 months and at first I think he chalked it up to me being emotional and didnt really take it seriously... until I started dating somebody else (rebound, I know, but he was French and sexy as hell ).

He hounded me for six months solid and transformed into a different person; quickly realising that no girl he dates would take my place. I eventually realised that nobody would take his place either, and took him back.

Now our rekationship is better than ever with marriage firmly on the cards, yay me!