Alpha Female
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Ok, I KNOW I will get a lot of posts from ladies disagreeing with me and trying to clobber me over the head, thinking I'm generalizing and what not. So let me first start off by saying I'm not talking about ALL Black men, because you can't generalize a whole race or group of people. I was doing some net-surfing for this conversation/discussion group I will be participating in on the state of Black Male/Female relationships, and came across the article in the link below.
Now let me secondly come right off the bat and say that I have no problems with black men dating white women - that was not my issue with the article because I, in fact, date people outside my race as well. What I took issue with is this guy's little rant about all the reasons Black men don't date Black women. It was literally nauseating! "We're too independent, too head-strong, too controlling, expect too much, don't care about our appearance, not sexually open (compared to other races), don't make our men feel appreciated, don't cater to our men, we're bitter, we're angry, yada, yada, yada.
And I'm like gimme a fricking break already!!! I'm sick of hearing this bull#$&! I'm sick of a lot of Black men whining like babies about how unfair the world is to them, about how racism is still keeping them down & holding them back, about how Black women don't build them up & encourage them. I'm like - Build up YOUR SELF already! Stop blaming your past & your environment for everything wrong in your life. Stop expecting a Black woman to wait hand & foot on you! Stop thinking you're some King that's supposed to be bowed down to & catered to. Stop blaming your choice to date White women on what you perceive as the inadequacies of Black women. Be a damn man already, and start taking some responsibility for yourself and the decisions & choices you make in life, and stop blaming everybody else for what is wrong in your life!!! GGGGGRRRRRRRRR.
It's just so frustrating and sickening to hear this type attitude from a lot of our Black men. No wonder Black marriages are on the decline! No wonder more & more Black women are staying single longer, not marrying at all or finally starting to cross the color line. I'm not saying some of the above things aren't real issues - because yes, racism is still alive & well in 2008, but for God's sake, JUST DEAL WITH IT! And I'm not saying don't believe in & encourage your man because every relationship should include that, with the belief & encouragement flowing in BOTH directions! But when is it enough for some Black men?!?! I mean, really, when is it ever enough?! One thing I do agree with that this guy said in the article was his statement at the very end "It is harshly possible that we may never be able to come together in harmonious attempts to survive as a race." And that's a sad, but true possibility...
http://www.blackstate.com/dateblackwomen.html
Now let me secondly come right off the bat and say that I have no problems with black men dating white women - that was not my issue with the article because I, in fact, date people outside my race as well. What I took issue with is this guy's little rant about all the reasons Black men don't date Black women. It was literally nauseating! "We're too independent, too head-strong, too controlling, expect too much, don't care about our appearance, not sexually open (compared to other races), don't make our men feel appreciated, don't cater to our men, we're bitter, we're angry, yada, yada, yada.
And I'm like gimme a fricking break already!!! I'm sick of hearing this bull#$&! I'm sick of a lot of Black men whining like babies about how unfair the world is to them, about how racism is still keeping them down & holding them back, about how Black women don't build them up & encourage them. I'm like - Build up YOUR SELF already! Stop blaming your past & your environment for everything wrong in your life. Stop expecting a Black woman to wait hand & foot on you! Stop thinking you're some King that's supposed to be bowed down to & catered to. Stop blaming your choice to date White women on what you perceive as the inadequacies of Black women. Be a damn man already, and start taking some responsibility for yourself and the decisions & choices you make in life, and stop blaming everybody else for what is wrong in your life!!! GGGGGRRRRRRRRR.
It's just so frustrating and sickening to hear this type attitude from a lot of our Black men. No wonder Black marriages are on the decline! No wonder more & more Black women are staying single longer, not marrying at all or finally starting to cross the color line. I'm not saying some of the above things aren't real issues - because yes, racism is still alive & well in 2008, but for God's sake, JUST DEAL WITH IT! And I'm not saying don't believe in & encourage your man because every relationship should include that, with the belief & encouragement flowing in BOTH directions! But when is it enough for some Black men?!?! I mean, really, when is it ever enough?! One thing I do agree with that this guy said in the article was his statement at the very end "It is harshly possible that we may never be able to come together in harmonious attempts to survive as a race." And that's a sad, but true possibility...
http://www.blackstate.com/dateblackwomen.html