Biggest Setback: Botched Trim or Botched Relaxer?

[KeyahGirl]

Both options are evil, but if you had to pick, which do you think is more detrimental - a bad trim or a bad touch-up? I self-relaxed and it ... didn't go well. No breakage, but underprocessed like a mutha (I used Phyto Index II) and just dry as a bone. I went to the beauty supply to get some conditioner and talked to a lady there who is a retired beautician. I told her what happened. She looked at my hair and said that she could see the underprocessing, but if I condition well and am gentle, I'll be all right. She said that getting a bad cut is the worst thing in the world for someone who wants lengthy, healthy hair because no amount of conditioner can make your hair grow back to where it was.

I feel a little better, but I still think that a bad relaxer is worse. If you get scalp burns or something, it can mess you up for good. Anybody agree with me? Also, for those for whom Phyto did nada, can you rec a good relaxer? The woman I talked to said she loved Optimum Care, but I used that once and it was hot garbage. I wish I could get my hands on some Elucence. My old hairstylist used that, and it was great!

 

[cutiebe2]

I would say a botched relaxed is hands down more detrimental than a botched trip. For the simple reason that a trim does not affect the health of you hair, you might not reach your length goal by the date you wanted to, but at least you don't have to work on protecting your hair health. A botched relaxer might lead you your hair falling out and you having to start over (depending on the circumstances)

 

[alexstin]

I would say a botched relaxed is hands down more detrimental than a botched trip. For the simple reason that a trim does not affect the health of you hair, you might not reach your length goal by the date you wanted to, but at least you don't have to work on protecting your hair health. A botched relaxer might lead you your hair falling out and you having to start over (depending on the circumstances)

Cosigning!!! Oh and I had the same experience with Phyto.

 

[ubavka123]

A botched relaxer, hands down! I am just now getting over my botched self-relaxer in October of 2005! It took over a year with all the trimming I had to do, to get my thickness back. I lost a lot of hair as a result of trying to do a relaxer myself (I couldn't see the back of my head...). I trim on my own and sometimes it might come out crooked, but I can grow that out. It takes time to rebuild the hair volume, which a botched relaxer can take away from you.

Edited to add that I have minimized self-trimming as well, because of the risks, but I would still take a botched trim over a botched relaxer anyday. I just won't be doing either to myself any time soon!

 

[HERicane10]

A botched relaxer WITHOUT A DOUBT! You've got the potential to end up with broken hair, bald, or scalp burns which could kill the hair follicle....and then puff....no more growing that hair back. I'll take a botched *** cut & healthy hair any day!

 

[envybeauty]

From previous experiences......

A BOTCHED CUT!!!!!


I have had botched relaxers and my hair weathered the storm. A botched trim by a STYLIST === TRAMATIC EXPERIENCE!!!

I had one in say October 2006 (my mind has apparently blocked out the exact date to spare me further harm). Before my trim, my hair IN THE FRONT was APL. I got compliments every day on my hair even when my hair and I played tug of war in the morning....men, women, even children would stop me and say " I love your hair" then.....

I decided to get long layers. Went to this ok salon (been there a few times before for wash and sets) and thought the stylist is stylish, and everyone seems to flock to her so I'll let her do it. Well....when the first hunk of hair fell into my lap like a dead rat that I shrieked and flung it to the ground....it was over. I was tramautized forever. I still think back to that dreadful day and say ......."WHY, WHY>>>>>>>" I shouldn't have let her do it. That chick had hair the size of a mustard seed and I let her near my mane. THAT CHICKED DARN NEAR SCALPED ME....simply butchered me!!! I have the right mind to go and tell her too..... It would have been cool if my layers looked good after the cut but nooooooooooooo....I looked like I had a mushroom cap on my head.

Every bad and memorable experience I have had has been because of a BAD CUT BY A STYLIST!!!

 

[gymfreak336]

I would say a botched relaxed is hands down more detrimental than a botched trip. For the simple reason that a trim does not affect the health of you hair, you might not reach your length goal by the date you wanted to, but at least you don't have to work on protecting your hair health. A botched relaxer might lead you your hair falling out and you having to start over (depending on the circumstances)

Cosigning as well. A botched relaxer leaves me trimming for the next couple of months.

 

[Sistaslick]

Cosigning as well. A botched relaxer leaves me trimming for the next couple of months.

Exactly. A botched relaxer can end up making you get a botched trim or give you an involuntary trim itself that you never asked for.


And you'll pay for those bad effects much longer than a messed up trim.

 

[vaqtea]

From previous experiences......

A BOTCHED CUT!!!!!


I have had botched relaxers and my hair weathered the storm. A botched trim by a STYLIST === TRAMATIC EXPERIENCE!!!

I had one in say October 2006 (my mind has apparently blocked out the exact date to spare me further harm). Before my trim, my hair IN THE FRONT was APL. I got compliments every day on my hair even when my hair and I played tug of war in the morning....men, women, even children would stop me and say " I love your hair" then.....

I decided to get long layers. Went to this ok salon (been there a few times before for wash and sets) and thought the stylist is stylish, and everyone seems to flock to her so I'll let her do it. Well....when the first hunk of hair fell into my lap like a dead rat that I shrieked and flung it to the ground....it was over. I was tramautized forever. I still think back to that dreadful day and say ......."WHY, WHY>>>>>>>" I shouldn't have let her do it. That chick had hair the size of a mustard seed and I let her near my mane. THAT CHICKED DARN NEAR SCALPED ME....simply butchered me!!! I have the right mind to go and tell her too..... It would have been cool if my layers looked good after the cut but nooooooooooooo....I looked like I had a mushroom cap on my head.

Every bad and memorable experience I have had has been because of a BAD CUT BY A STYLIST!!!

Im sorry this happened to you but, the way you narrated this story was FUNNY ..... I mean drop on the ground roll around FUNNY!

 

[glamazon386]

I'm gonna say the botched relaxer is worse. It can cause unreparable damage to your hair. A botched trim isn't going to cause damage. Yeah you might not like it and it'll be a pain to grow out but your hair won't be falling out from it either...

 

[IrisDaVirus]

Botched relaxer hands down. Your hair can grow back from a botched cut, but that may not always be the case with a botched relaxer. I know it's a hard thought but all it takes is one botched relaxer and your hair could be gone for good.

 

[mommatide]

I JUST HAD A BOTCHED RELAXER THIS PAST WEEKEND, STILL TRAUMATIZED EVEN WITH COUNSELING. THERE IS NOTHING LIKE WATCHING CLUMPS OF HAIR SLITHER DOWN YOUR BACK LIKE A BLACK SNAKE. I'M STILL SHAKING NOW MY DO IS LOPSIDED, LOST VOLUME ON THE RIGHT SIDE. THEN I HAD TO GET IT WACKED , SO IT WAS A DOUBLE MESS. WHO KNOW'S HOW LONG IT WILL TAKE TO RECOVER. THAT WAS MY FIRST ATTEMPT AT A HOME RELAXER, NEVER AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Radianthealth]

I vote for Botched relaxer.

 

[Leslie_C]

Im living proof that a botched relaxer is worse lol. A couple of years ago my hair was a little longer than it is now, on its way to being armpit. I gave myself a relaxer that I think was either expired or just too harsh on my hair and there was no saving it from that point. My hair came out like crazy. I had short cottony patches randomly thoughout my head. It was awful. I went natural after that for a little over a year and just relaxed/texlaxed about a month ago. Now Im finally on the road to healthy/long hair again.

A bad cut will grow out, but a bad relaxer can cause u to have to start from square one.

 

[GoGoChik]

Botched Relaxer.

I self-relaxed in June 2006, over-processed my hair and so much hair fell out I thought I was going to be bald. I ended up with very long strands of hair in the front and short 4 inch strands in the back.

The back of my hair is finally growing in. I had to get a major trim in December in order to get the thickness back. I should have been APL in December, but all my hair was uneven. So, now that goal as been pushed back to August 2007.