Being A Basic ***** Or Being A Free Spirit

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L.Brown1114

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I've always been a free spirit. I was a ton of fun and unique BUT I couldn't keep a job due I all the partying and hangovers and I didn't have a plan with my life. I was all over the place, I wanted to live everywhere and got nowhere.

Now I'm holding down a 8 hour job and have a great plan for my future and haven't changed my mind and don't plan on changing it. I was so afraid of being normal I over extended.

Now I'm talking to this new guy and he said I was "basic" not gonna lie but that stung. To the point where he lost any chance of being more than a friend, if that. But I can't help to admit it stung because no one told me I'd have to choose almost. Idk of there is a middle ground. I don't want to go back to my old self completely but I miss the old me. Or at least parts of me that would have cut off guys like him with no questions asked and not felt a god dang thing. And how fun I was....
 
Op

Tell Jesus he used the term basic in the wrong way lmaooo:lachen::confused:

Don't be insulted he didn't even insult you right lmaoo he need to learn the proper use of English

Nothing basic about you im sure, he is basic as fluck... Or el basico

Next time he text you tell him to choke on his basic burrito

*** he sound like the type to date only black women as prey

Manipulative c33t
 
L.Brown1114 said:
He said the way I talk sounds like a sitcom. He said like "friends" he's Hispanic and dates only black girls. I have a hunch I act too "white" for him. I mentioned it and he didn't deny it...
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Jose need to get on before he get spit on with his negging attempt.

Look, if a dude can't be bothered to be on his best behavior before he even get a whiff of the cookie then there is absolutely no upside to being an acquaintance let alone anything else.
 
Does he play Pokémon Go? I can accidentally tap his kneecap with my bumper while he tries to catch 'em all.... :look:

Don't mind me! :lachen:

Basic? I don't know where he is from to think that's okay?! That was rude. Cut this guy off and keep being yourself. You never have to minimize yourself for the right one.
 
Lucie said:
Does he play Pokémon Go? I can accidentally tap his kneecap with my bumper while he tries to catch 'em all.... :look:

Don't mind me! :lachen:

Basic? I don't know where he is from to think that's okay?! That was rude. Cut this guy off and keep being yourself. You never have to minimize yourself for the right one.
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Ok Lucie what is up with you lately? You have gone all gansta. I mean I like it but is everything ok?
 
L.Brown1114 said:
I've always been a free spirit. I was a ton of fun and unique BUT I couldn't keep a job due I all the partying and hangovers and I didn't have a plan with my life. I was all over the place, I wanted to live everywhere and got nowhere.

Now I'm holding down a 8 hour job and have a great plan for my future and haven't changed my mind and don't plan on changing it. I was so afraid of being normal I over extended.

Now I'm talking to this new guy and he said I was "basic" not gonna lie but that stung. To the point where he lost any chance of being more than a friend, if that. But I can't help to admit it stung because no one told me I'd have to choose almost. Idk of there is a middle ground. I don't want to go back to my old self completely but I miss the old me. Or at least parts of me that would have cut off guys like him with no questions asked and not felt a god dang thing. And how fun I was....
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This post is not about ol' boy. You seem as though you are struggling with the decision of holding down an 8 hours gig instead of living your old life. His neg attempt only highlighted that. This post simply sounds like a lack of surety on your part.

1) Why aren't you happy with your decision?
2) Why do you think you are being judged? Who's judging you?
3)Why do you have to decide between being a free spirit and having a 9-5? I won't call it a middle ground, but there are ways to get what you want while providing yourself with what you need.

I'm not expecting you to post your answers here. I just wanted to give you some food for thought.
 
Lucie said:
Does he play Pokémon Go? I can accidentally tap his kneecap with my bumper while he tries to catch 'em all.... :look:

Don't mind me! :lachen:

Basic? I don't know where he is from to think that's okay?! That was rude. Cut this guy off and keep being yourself. You never have to minimize yourself for the right one.
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He's obsessed with it lmao! What info do you need? :look:
 
keyawarren said:
I agree. He's an ******* and that was definitely negging. As for you, you should look into why it stung. It sounds like you're not happy with your current position in life.
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I'm just lost and trying to find myself again This time I'm actually excited about the journey though

I miss being a free spirit. but with that came irresponsibility

frogkisses said:
Men who are struggling with life or feel as though you have something they don't will go to no end to bring down your confidence. They try to instill self doubt, because of their downfalls.
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Very true! I asked him his insecurities. He names literally 10 things. He asked me and I named 2. He claimed I was lying, I wasn't...
And the two things i listed are easily fixable. Losing weight and getting rid of my hyperpientation guess he wasn't too happy about that
 
Sounds like he's trying to be cool using a term he just learned. He sounds really really ignorant and rude and insecure and corny.
And you with your free spirit sound cool.
But *sigh* we all have to grow up and get responsible with life IF you have goals and dreams. If your philosophy is to always live in the moment without planning for tomorrow than so be it too. (Not advisable by the way lol). Maybe if you chose a career where you can be creative and have time off where you can be irresponsible part of the year? Idk. Plan out your irresponsibility :)
How old are you?
 
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lux10023 said:
Op

Tell Jesus he used the term basic in the wrong way lmaooo:lachen::confused:

Don't be insulted he didn't even insult you right lmaoo he need to learn the proper use of English

Nothing basic about you im sure, he is basic as fluck... Or el basico

Next time he text you tell him to choke on his basic burrito

*** he sound like the type to date only black women as prey

Manipulative c33t
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I screamed!!!!:lachen::lachen::lachen:
 
Fine 4s said:
Sounds like she's trying to be cool using a term he just used. He sounds really really ignorant and rude and insecure and corny.
And you with your free spirit sound cool.
But *sigh* we all have to grow up and get responsible with life IF you have goals and dreams. If your philosophy is to always live in the moment without planning for tomorrow than so be it too. (Not advisable by the way lol). Maybe if you chose a career where you can be creative and have time off where you can be irresponsible part of the year? Idk. Plan out your irresponsibility :)
How old are you?
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I was waiting for the first *****y response lol. I'm surprised it took this long. Like I said I don't miss the irresponsibility and I did find a career that suits me that wasn't the point of what I said. And I say free spirit as a way to best describe myself to make it easier for people to analyze. How on earth do I think I'm cool? o_O
 
He said you're basic now? Either he's using the word wrong or you're telling the story wrong. Based on the title I thought you would be inquiring whether the board thought ho years made you basic or just young wild and free.
 
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