Be Honest: Would You Look At Your Friend Differently

Would You View Your Friend Differently?

  • Yes

    Votes: 120 83.9%

  • No

    Votes: 23 16.1%
  • Total voters
    143
  • Poll closed .
hell to the yes. and i'll be the first to tell her that'll it will turn and bite her in her butt. and how would she feel if she were that man's wife. i've said all of this and more once to a friend. i'd do it again.
 
I ended a friendship over this. I thought she didn't know but the heifer did and got mad that I was telling her about his long term girlfriend. As you all have seen, I have very clear cut values and I don't bend them too often. The cheating one is a biggie for me.
 
Yes.

There is a story but I'll have to come back...suffice to say she was not happy in her relationship, and the married man was an old boyfriend from back in the day who had 50-11 reasons for why their relationship was ok. I had to really let her know they were both trifling for it. I mean dude flew out here from Cali with his chick pregnant (my friend knew this when he got here, but not at first) while her man and child were gone away at the house they "played".

I met the guy, he was really cool people. But I had to tell her, B. ain't cool folk anymore...cool folk don't come up with bull**** reasons why it's okay to wife someone, then tell yourself it's cool to sleep with other people....especially when she's pregnant.

The whole scenario made me real, real jaded about men and marriage. Like, she'd been telling me about this dude for YEARS about what a good man he was, how she let a good one get away, blah, blah.
 
^^THIS :perplexed


Yes. I wouldn't want that to happen to her, so I couldn't be happy for her new relationship.
 
Yes and no. Back then I'd judge the he11 out of her. As I got older I realized that there are so many situations people swore they'd NEVER be in and then the shoe was on their foot. I'd still be her friend and let her know how I feel about what she's doing.
 
Live and let live and to each her own. I can't sit on my high horse trying to tell another grown person how to live their life. Or act like someone's judge and jury because they make different decisions than me. As long as it's not my hubby she can do what she wants. That's her lesson to learn not mine.
 
No. I would say my piece. But... in experience, this depends on the friend. The friend who did it is now a Christian.

Sent from my T-Mobile G2 using T-Mobile G2
 
Not at first. I've made horrible mistakes in my life, so I cant talk. I would advise her first, then move on if she didn't want to hear of it. No one's a saint and deserves a chance.
 
You are who you hang with and if you tell me who your friends are then one can easily tell you who YOU are.

I can't. I always wonder how friends can just turn the other cheek or eat dinner & hang out with the other party KNOWING what they know.

It's been done to me so i can't do it to someone else.
 
naw. not really. :look:

If she's happy, then I'm good. Do you. None of my business. At the same time, don't call me to worry me about foolishness if/when ish starts to hit the fan.... I'm gonna tell you, I toldja so......
 
Real friends tell their friends the truth, so yes, I would tell her regardless of if she thought I was judging her.
 
Maybe...I would trust you less than I already do - I don't trust anyone 100%. I wouldn't tell you it was cool, but I can't tell you what to do. Just don't be upset when the wife and her friends come gunning for you and if other people look at you differently. Especially if you are in a small town/city, everyone knows EVERYDANGONE so someone that knows yo mamma knows about your foolishness.
 
Yes I would look at my friend differently, but I don't think I would end the friendship. It's her lesson to learn, I'll speak my peace and urge her to stop the nonsense but I won't ride her about it or cut her off. Though I've never been married I consider adultery one of the most heinous crimes, because it involves everyone around you; friends, parents, bro/sis in-laws and most of all children. If I know anything in life I know I would never cheat on a spouse, so yes she gets the HARD side-eye and talking to. I'll just remind her you reap what you sow so don't ever come crying to me when this blows up in your face.
 
COULDN"T BE MY FRIEND. Heck call me judgemental. I feel once people do UNMORAL things as such, there are no more limits in my eyes. Because they are labeled as SUPER SELFISH and COLDBLOODED.
 
TBH, my friend was having an emotional affair with her professor (married man) and yes, I do look at her differently. I'd remind her that he was married but I got the impression that part didn't bother her much.

Sent from my VM670 using VM670
 
This has happened in my life & I did look at her differently. She didn't know he was married when they met... Then after 3 months he told her he was separated from his "horrible" wife. He lived in NJ and worked in NYC. She NEVER saw his place.

:look:

I was like... Ok, leave. He lied to you for 3 months and he's probably not even separated!!! What is there to discuss?! ...She didn't listen & kept seeing him :nono:

After 6 months of dating he ended things with her b/c he had miraculously decided to "work things out" with his "horrible" wife whom he probably never separated from :look:

That was a year ago. He still tries to text her & email her every now and again. As far as she TELLS me, she ignores his messages & hasn't seen him in a year.


Sent from my iPhone.
 
Yes, at first I tried to work with her and just encourage her to stop but then she did something I thought was so trifling I just couldn't stomach it. Her and the guy went out of town on a trip under the guise of business and she lied to her boyfriend and he lied to his wife. He even had his wife pick him up and drop him off at the airport. She just felt so proud of herself over it.

I'm not perfect at all but I do know that people can be toxic and I just didn't want that around me any longer.
 
Everybody has the right to decide what kind of company they keep. If she wants to spend times with another woman's husband I would just choose to spend less time with her. It's not about judgment or thinking you are better than someone, people select friends on any grounds they want. For me sleeping with a married man is a deal-breaker friendship wise.
 
Um yes!!!

And from my High Horse I would pull one of these...
280ir2f.jpg


and

tumblr_lr62uyik8b1qdlkgg.gif



Cause
2dv0776.gif

I'm sorry I just don't fuggs with no trollops...

We've all made mistakes my eye...
tumblr_lrj4darhpu1qax6b8.gif


I would also try my best to "accidentally" rat out dude with the quickness...
 
Im sorry but I couldn't be friends with none of yall jugemental women. If you were a real friend you would talk to her and find out more about the situation. Why she is with him? What she likes about him? What he is telling her? If she is in love with this man then she may need ur emotional help. Give her your opinion. That sounds crazy for y'all to say hell naw i won't be her friend no more. Maybe if she is an associate. But my true homie...no way...we ride together forever and always. Ain't no d*ck coming between me and my girl. ESPECIALLY NONE THAT AINT EVEN MINE.
 
tru4reele said:
Ain't no d*ck coming between me and my girl.
Click to expand...

No Dick? Not even your man's? :look::lachen::lachen:

ETA... Of course, you should have a convo and try to assist your girl in the situation but if she still la la loopsie for the dude after all the foolishness has been exposed... For me personally, She gotta go...
 
Last edited:
A friend of mine did, and I did look at her differently. (We're still friends, though). She was telling me about a mystery guy she reconnected with. When she finally let on that her new beau was a married man, I told her that she was compromising her integrity by being with him and that I would not compromise my own by listening to her tales about him or offering advice about what she should in any situation, because my only advice would be for her to end it. I know she didn't like hearing that, but I didn't care. Wrong is wrong. I'm not perfect, but I'm not sleeping with someone else's husband, either.
 
Last edited:
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top