Be honest - why did YOU get married?

Why did you get married?

  • For love alone

    Votes: 11 17.2%

  • For love . . . plus other reasons

    Votes: 40 62.5%

  • I was knocked up.

    Votes: 6 9.4%

  • I got tired of being alone.

    Votes: 3 4.7%

  • I thought it might be my last/only chance.

    Votes: 4 6.3%

  • He had money/high earning potential.

    Votes: 6 9.4%

  • He could lay some pipe :giggle:

    Votes: 10 15.6%

  • Other (please explain)

    Votes: 9 14.1%
  • Total voters
    64
  • Poll closed .
I got married because I fell in love with a wonderful man who understood me completely and still does. He's wonderful in so many ways.
 
Because we were in love.
Because we understand each other.
Because we wanted to form a family together.
Because we wanted to bind ourselves to each other.
Because we totally couldn't imagine living without the other.
Because we could actually put up with living with each other.
Because we wanted to see how far this thing can go.
 
Because we had a child.
Because he was a great guy, great father, great boyfriend.
Because I wanted my kids to have the same father.
Because he loved me.
Because he was a great provider.
Because I loved him and he was tired of waiting.
 
Because I was knocked up
Because he loved and wanted me (and I him)
Because we both like drag racing
Because he did not want me to abort
Because I did not want to have a child out of wed lock
 
Spidergul said:
Because I was knocked up
Because he loved and wanted me (and I him)
Because we both like drag racing
Because he did not want me to abort
Because I did not want to have a child out of wed lock
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I like honest answers like this. Not that the other answers are not honest. But I know for you to put this out there it's got to be a fact.:yep:

It also shows that people who marry for different reasons can have a happy and have a good marriage.
 
He had excellent credit
Owned his own home - that was 4 minutes away from my job
Owned his car
Had is own business
No kids
Disease free
He gave mean brains even though he got nothing in return
Fed me everytime he saw me
LMAO

Seriously, because I love him more than I could ever have imagined.
He's my peanut, but overall he had it going on. Main reason, he is the only man that was able to tame the shrew. He knew ME and still loved me,even thought I was the best and baddest thing to walk the planet, that in itself....is deep as hell. LOL
 
dlewis said:
I like honest answers like this. Not that the other answers are not honest. But I know for you to put this out there it's got to be a fact.:yep:

It also shows that people who marry for different reasons can have a happy and have a good marriage.
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Oh, I forgot to add he was exactly what I asked God for in a man. So ladies, when asking for help from the Father in finding a man, be specifc and true. You may indeed get what you aked for.:yep:
 
we clicked when we met ten years ago, I was only 16 but knew he would be in my life for ever.

I have never met anyone so special in my life, He is a people magnet, he is positive, fears god, very respectful,clean, tidy, hardworking,honest, loving and everything a woman could ever wish for.

He has changed me for the best and I know God put him in my life for a reason.

He has stood by me through thick and thin, helped and supported me like no one ever has,boosted my self esteem, confidence.

words cannot express how much I love my husband.

I am so blessed that we now have two beautiful baby boys :love:

I just showed him what I wrote, He has a huge smile on his face and simply said
"I love you more than that,,,full stop!" lol, thats our little thing we do when we try and prove who loves each other the most :giggle:
 
Because I was 20 and clueless.
Because I was seeking attention.
Because I wanted a gold star for getting married young.
Because I thought I was special because I was the first in my group of friends to get married.
Because I wanted to live a fairy tale; didn't know that I was marrying the Evil Prince.
Because I thought that marrying him showed him how much I loved him; didn't know that marriage required more than "love".
Because I was flattered to be asked; didn't know that "I" was the prize...he should have considered it a honor to be asking me.
Because my parents were never married; I thought I was beating a "statistic"...now I have walked into another---divorced, mother of four.
Because I married for love...not knowing that what I was really feeling was fear...

And for all of those same reasons above, I stayed in a long, 17 year dysfunctional, loveless marriage where everyday I lost sight of me (who I was and who I thought I'd be). It took a lot of work, self-reflection, introspection, and courage to walk away. And I truly could not be happier now that he is out of my life.
 
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Because I loved him and God showed me he was the man He wanted me to marry.
Because he loved me and made me feel special and safe.
Because he was everything I ever wanted in a husband, including some things I would have never thought to ask for in a mate, but God knows me better than anyone and He knew exactly what I would need to have a successful marriage.
Because I knew that he would take care of me and would always make sure that I/we/our children would have everything we need.
 
Because I was in love with him and he was in love with me:love:
Because we have children
Because of the way he makes me smile/laugh:grin:
Because he is God fearing
Because he is supportive
Because he is a great provider
Because he is awesome in bed:giggle:
 
Impresaria said:
Because I was 20 and clueless.
Because I was seeking attention.
Because I wanted a gold star for getting married young.
Because I thought I was special because I was the first in my group of friends to get married.
Because I wanted to live a fairy tale; didn't know that I was marrying the Evil Prince.
Because I thought that marrying him showed him how much I loved him; didn't know that marriage required more than "love".
Because I was flattered to be asked; didn't know that "I" was the prize...he should have considered it a honor to be asking me.
Because my parents were never married; I thought I was beating a "statistic"...now I have walked into another---divorced, mother of four.
Because I married for love...not knowing that what I was really feeling was fear...

And for all of those same reasons above, I stayed in a long, 17 year dysfunctional, loveless marriage where everyday I lost sight of me (who I was and who I thought I'd be). It took a lot of work, self-reflection, introspection, and courage to walk away. And I truly could not be happier now that he is out of my life.
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wow :cry2: sorry to read this ((hugs))
 
Because he's the sweetest guy in the world.
Because we finish each other's sentences.
Because he's an honest, GOOD person.
Because he loves me so much and he's so thoughtful.
Because I didn't want to throw him to the white girls.:look: (I'm not joking. Most black girls don't appreciate guys like him. He probably would have ended up with a white girl.)
Because he's intelligent, hard working, and a man after God's own heart.
Because he's one of a kind!
 
"preciate the honest and sincerity in this... GREAT thread ladies!!!!!

Big up to True Love!!

Impresaria said:
Because I was 20 and clueless.
Because I was seeking attention.
Because I wanted a gold star for getting married young.
Because I thought I was special because I was the first in my group of friends to get married.
Because I wanted to live a fairy tale; didn't know that I was marrying the Evil Prince.
Because I thought that marrying him showed him how much I loved him; didn't know that marriage required more than "love".
Because I was flattered to be asked; didn't know that "I" was the prize...he should have considered it a honor to be asking me.
Because my parents were never married; I thought I was beating a "statistic"...now I have walked into another---divorced, mother of four.
Because I married for love...not knowing that what I was really feeling was fear...

And for all of those same reasons above, I stayed in a long, 17 year dysfunctional, loveless marriage where everyday I lost sight of me (who I was and who I thought I'd be). It took a lot of work, self-reflection, introspection, and courage to walk away. And I truly could not be happier now that he is out of my life.
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R4L said:
what i've noticed is no one said it's b/c he's a hottie.
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Yeah, I don't think it's wise to marry someone solely off of attraction... Nor, will I marry a man with the main reason being "i'm sooo in love with him".. that's liable to change. I need other things to be in check. Reading this thread has even further help me to keep things in perspective ...

There are certain things I need to know for sure before I consider marriage...

~Finances.... not even how much you make, but *how*you spend and manage $, what's your debt like, and if you have a lot of it, are you actively trying to clean it up.

~What is your relationship w/ God like? Do you have a lot of morals? .. that's very important to me, morals... do you have a sensitive conscience?

~ Are you good provider? Can I see you as a good parent? A nuturing husband to your wife?

~Of course, I have to be attracted to you, but I can't be attracted to you solely based on looks (which works for me, b/c it's more mental/emotional for me)... and sexual chemistry of course :grin:..

There are other factors to look at too, but these are in the forefront of my mind.
 
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