FlyyBohemian
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No. I've heard of women who did and they ended up in miserable marriages. I wouldn't want to risk my emotions getting involved.
At this point in your Christian walk, would you date/marry someone who is unsaved?
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Blaz has a beautiful heart which is sold out to please God, and in that sense she is totally yielded to change what needs to be changed and to submit to where she is called to submit; which is why it's easy for me to agree with her post. Reading between the lines, I understand what she means.
I also understand your post as well and the two of you are actually saying the same thing; it's just worded differently. The two of you are women who love God and want to please Him and live in obedience to His Will.
You will both make beautiful wives to some very blessed husbands.
A happy marriage, simply flowing with the Holy Spirit with peace which will flow between you and your husband just as freely.
Marriage Blessings... to you.
Blaz has a beautiful heart which is sold out to please God, and in that sense she is totally yielded to change what needs to be changed and to submit to where she is called to submit; which is why it's easy for me to agree with her post. Reading between the lines, I understand what she means.
I also understand your post as well and the two of you are actually saying the same thing; it's just worded differently. The two of you are women who love God and want to please Him and live in obedience to His Will.
You will both make beautiful wives to some very blessed husbands.
A happy marriage, simply flowing with the Holy Spirit with peace which will flow between you and your husband just as freely.
Marriage Blessings... to you.
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Reading your post I thought about young Brides to Be and even older Brides to be, who need to know this and to not fear being themselves and to not fear a controlling husband... better yet, not tolerate a controlling husband.
Reading your post I thought about young Brides to Be and even older Brides to be, who need to know this and to not fear being themselves and to not fear a controlling husband... better yet, not tolerate a controlling husband.
Nice & Wavy
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Re: At this point in your Christian walk, would you date/marry someone who is unsaved
No
...don't do it.
No
...don't do it.Please don't worry about me. My walk is in progress and I have God to leading me. Christian is a label. I know folks who are kinder and do more good than so-called Christians. Eddie Long is a Christian too. Are you a real follower as Christ said it?? So you follow all the Laws of the Old Testament because He said he didn't come to dismiss them, but to fulfill them...so you a Christ-following Jew? Look, you never know when someone will accept Christ. You just got a headstart on some..doesn't make you better, just early. Give a good man who is open to Christ a chance. I wonder how many disciples Christ would've not had if he judged them for what they already were or labelled.
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There are Christian women who married Christian men and the same thing happened.
IMO the equalness needed is the same values, characteristics, core goodness, etc. Just because both are Christians and/or go to same church doesn't mean instant compatibility. I think being open to possibilities and being firm in your relationship with God is what is needed. I can see a lot of women on here passing up Aaron, Moses, Elijah, or Saul, pre-Paul, etc because technically they weren't Christians either. And poor David...yall wouldnt look 2x at him and he was the "apple of God's eye."
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Love Always
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mstrublvr, I like what you had to say especially about being unevenly yoked. If you want to be real there are a lot of single women in the church that desre to be married and as the years go by they remain single for the simple fact that they will not entertain someone a man that isn't "saved". I don't really want to get deeper than that but I definitely see what you're saying. I also agree with the other ladies as well.
mstrublvr, I like what you had to say especially about being unevenly yoked. If you want to be real there are a lot of single women in the church that desre to be married and as the years go by they remain single for the simple fact that they will not entertain someone a man that isn't "saved". I don't really want to get deeper than that but I definitely see what you're saying
. I also agree with the other ladies as well.mstrublvr, I like what you had to say especially about being unevenly yoked. If you want to be real there are a lot of single women in the church that desre to be married and as the years go by they remain single for the simple fact that they will not entertain someone a man that isn't "saved". I don't really want to get deeper than that but I definitely see what you're saying
Thanks, Love Always. I definitely understand what some of them are saying too. Who wants the work and headache...believe me I get it. Plus you are supposed to learn from examples and mistakes. I pray we all are blessed with amazing mates..and can post over in the marriage section soon LOL
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Guitarhero
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Re: At this point in your Christian walk, would you date/marry someone who is unsaved
We don't use that terminology but I understand what is meant by it. I think that at this point in my life, no. I would want someone who is not anti-my religion. It's just too hard a road to make a relationship work these days without having someone misunderstand your religious points of view and try sabotage you somehow.
We don't use that terminology but I understand what is meant by it. I think that at this point in my life, no. I would want someone who is not anti-my religion. It's just too hard a road to make a relationship work these days without having someone misunderstand your religious points of view and try sabotage you somehow.
Guitarhero
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Re: At this point in your Christian walk, would you date/marry someone who is unsaved
I don't think dating is inappropriate nor unnecessary, it's simply the way that people meet each other today. Few families use a matchmaker for their kids. But one thing that troubles me and is hard to get a grip on, whether to make a move or just wait. You know, they say wait on G-d but that at times, G-d is waiting for you to make a move. With spouses and whatnot, this is the single most complex issue for me to comprehend (know where I need to be given a certain situation).
I did...but well, I didn't think about G-d in those days anyway...but surely came back to Him. Yeah, don't do it...you will suffer greatly.
I don't think dating is inappropriate nor unnecessary, it's simply the way that people meet each other today. Few families use a matchmaker for their kids. But one thing that troubles me and is hard to get a grip on, whether to make a move or just wait. You know, they say wait on G-d but that at times, G-d is waiting for you to make a move. With spouses and whatnot, this is the single most complex issue for me to comprehend (know where I need to be given a certain situation).
No
I did...but well, I didn't think about G-d in those days anyway...but surely came back to Him. Yeah, don't do it...you will suffer greatly.
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Laela
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That's a great point you've raised here and it's sad that indeed, Christians today do choose to divorce, and not because of situations such as abuse and adultery... Just the same, there are just as many happily married Christian couples, who met in many different ways. So I hear you on compatibility..yet if God is the standard you live by, there's no way you would accept someone who doesn't love your God.
I'll also say this: If someone has a calling on their life from God, it will become evident at some point.. Staying firm in your relationship with God, will let you see possibilities, but it also would afford you the Wisdom to recognize the Aarons, Moses, Elijah's and not waste your time with Nabal. God just won't leave you hanging like that...
Prov 13:12 says a hope deferred makes the heart sick but a desire fulfilled is a tree of Life.
Be blessed...
That's a great point you've raised here and it's sad that indeed, Christians today do choose to divorce, and not because of situations such as abuse and adultery... Just the same, there are just as many happily married Christian couples, who met in many different ways. So I hear you on compatibility..yet if God is the standard you live by, there's no way you would accept someone who doesn't love your God.
I'll also say this: If someone has a calling on their life from God, it will become evident at some point.. Staying firm in your relationship with God, will let you see possibilities, but it also would afford you the Wisdom to recognize the Aarons, Moses, Elijah's and not waste your time with Nabal. God just won't leave you hanging like that...
Prov 13:12 says a hope deferred makes the heart sick but a desire fulfilled is a tree of Life.
Be blessed...
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fifi134
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@mstrublvr You seem pretty defensive about my post yet what I typed is what God says in His Word. Your defensive stance is not towards me, it's towards the verse I posted. The Bible says we are not to be in relationships with those who are non-believers yet you say one should go against Scripture and do so anyway. That is a big problem. A real follower would heed His word, not compromise it to fit their lifestyle.
@mstrublvr You seem pretty defensive about my post yet what I typed is what God says in His Word. Your defensive stance is not towards me, it's towards the verse I posted. The Bible says we are not to be in relationships with those who are non-believers yet you say one should go against Scripture and do so anyway. That is a big problem. A real follower would heed His word, not compromise it to fit their lifestyle.
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fifi134
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Amen!.........
Amen!.........
Fifi - #1 Man said God said. Everything we believe is by faith. The bible has been altered by many for their own purpose. Check your history...but that's another topic...
I never said go against the Word. I say be open to life and its possibilities. Today a non believer, tomorrow a believer. You don't know someone's path. Who knows...I am open to life and all the surprises God has in store for me. Also, I don't have a problem with the Word, I have a problem with those who try to use it against others and put them down or question their choices. You seem a lil judgy to me and that's a turn off to me a believer....I cannot imagine the judginess making anyone who is not a believer want to listen....darn sure not a man. This is a problem because we are supposed to be examples. So yea I am defensive. I will stand up to a judge any day for myself and others who seem lacking to someone like you. Use the Word as a light to lead, not blind.
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Laela, I never said I would accept a man who doesn't love God...and for the record Jews, Muslims, Buddhists, Catholics, Native Americans all believe in God - they call Him by another name is all. So there are a lot more people who love God than just Christians...I am sure He knows that even if we don't. Again people get caught up in labels. Is it preferred for a man to have my same label, sure. But I will take a man who loves God, serves God, is kind, loves me, has same goals and temperament, values etc but doesn't call himself a Christian BUT who is open to the possibility anyday. That is the compatibility I hope for. Not everything for you will come in the packaging you expect is my understanding.
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And ladies, I truly wish the best for all yall..even the judges...especially the judges. I noticed in the responses to my posts about being open straight up bible thumping and stone hurling. Take it down a notch. Do not be like the pharisees who thought they had it going on because they could quote scriptures, but couldn't see the One who wrote the scriptures. Just sayin.
Last post in this forum. Yall can keep this topic going as is and I will stay open to what God has for me. Let's agree to disagree.
Gotta go build something positive with all these stones thrown my way lol. Be blessed...and humble.
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Last post in this forum. Yall can keep this topic going as is and I will stay open to what God has for me. Let's agree to disagree.
Gotta go build something positive with all these stones thrown my way lol. Be blessed...and humble.
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blazingthru
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Re: At this point in your Christian walk, would you date/marry someone who is unsaved
Thanks so much Shimmie, I think that would be a great topic for young adults as well as woman who have never been married, or have been and or now divorced.
I wanted to share something with you. There is an Elder in our Church she has a great marriage but she wants her husband to be as spiritual as she is but that’s not under our control God deals with us differently, anyway she saw him fall on his knees and lift his hands up and was shaking and she was just stunned she said, oh my, he is really feeling the spirit and is in deep prayer, let me go and encourage him and she went over and just was saying Hallelujah over and over and he was trying to talk to her. She was steady praising the lord and he said honey it’s not the Holy Ghost, my back just went out.
Well I was laughing all over the place, I could imagine how it all looked. I said if my husband was to do the same thing I would have laid out right on the ground so I understand. But her husband is a man of God he is just not as spiritual as she is, his prayer is not as long as hers, She gets up at 3:30 am for her quiet time, and work out and then goes to work. I am not there yet either. So amen for her and her dedication. But I thought that was so funny. In any case, she met him he was Methodist and they would see each other off and on eventually he wanted to date her and she introduce him to her father who explained what they were and what they believed and he wanted to marry her so he studied the bible with her father and was baptized. And she made him wait another year to make sure it took, then they got married and they are much older now and the most loving couple, but he works her nerves and she tells us, even up on the pulpit but we all know him so we know what she means. Funny. I love those people dearly. They are a great example of a good marriage.
Thanks so much Shimmie, I think that would be a great topic for young adults as well as woman who have never been married, or have been and or now divorced.
I wanted to share something with you. There is an Elder in our Church she has a great marriage but she wants her husband to be as spiritual as she is but that’s not under our control God deals with us differently, anyway she saw him fall on his knees and lift his hands up and was shaking and she was just stunned she said, oh my, he is really feeling the spirit and is in deep prayer, let me go and encourage him and she went over and just was saying Hallelujah over and over and he was trying to talk to her. She was steady praising the lord and he said honey it’s not the Holy Ghost, my back just went out.
Well I was laughing all over the place, I could imagine how it all looked. I said if my husband was to do the same thing I would have laid out right on the ground so I understand. But her husband is a man of God he is just not as spiritual as she is, his prayer is not as long as hers, She gets up at 3:30 am for her quiet time, and work out and then goes to work. I am not there yet either. So amen for her and her dedication. But I thought that was so funny. In any case, she met him he was Methodist and they would see each other off and on eventually he wanted to date her and she introduce him to her father who explained what they were and what they believed and he wanted to marry her so he studied the bible with her father and was baptized. And she made him wait another year to make sure it took, then they got married and they are much older now and the most loving couple, but he works her nerves and she tells us, even up on the pulpit but we all know him so we know what she means. Funny. I love those people dearly. They are a great example of a good marriage.
fifi134
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I'm sorry but I still completely disagree. By being "open to life and its possibilities" one can still go against the Word. You said you would gladly date someone who is not a Christian, however the Bible says not to. If you don't have a problem with the Word, why go against it?
You are right about one thing though, IDK anyone's path. But if I know that at this very moment they are not saved, I will adhere to Scripture and not even entertain the thought of dating them. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
I'm also sick of the argument that Christians are not to judge. That is biblically incorrect. The Bible calls us to judge.
John 7:24 Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment.”
What kind of a chaotic mess would we be in if there was no judging? When you see your brother/sister sinning, are you not to judge and correct them? Christians are to love one another and one of the prime aspects of love is chastising one for doing what's wrong. Does a loving father not discipline his children when they act up? We should judge out of love to uplift one another. We are simply told not to judge if we ourselves are doing the same thing.
Matthew 7:1-5 Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you.
For Christians, the Bible is our guide to life, our rule book for how we ought to do things. If you think there's an issue with using the Bible to question the choices of a 'Christian', I don't understand why. If that is what you identify yourself as, it shouldn't be a problem when people point to Scripture as their source. Your beliefs are outlined in the Bible, so why is it wrong to judge someone's beliefs based on their words/actions to what the Bible says? I don't understand.
We shouldn't use Scripture to try to make anyone feel low, I agree, but that is not what I did in my first post. I merely pointed to where Scripture said different to what you said.
Lastly, there are some who have altered Bibles to suit their own purposes, but there are countless true translations of the Bible that have been shown to be near copies of the original Hebrew. The Bible isn't translated from one language than translated into another language from the previous translation. Every translation comes from the original manuscripts. Nevertheless, the Word of God will stay true from generation to generation.
Jeremiah 31:33 I will put My law within them and on their heart I will write it; and I will be their God, and they shall be My people.
I'm sorry but I still completely disagree. By being "open to life and its possibilities" one can still go against the Word. You said you would gladly date someone who is not a Christian, however the Bible says not to. If you don't have a problem with the Word, why go against it?
You are right about one thing though, IDK anyone's path. But if I know that at this very moment they are not saved, I will adhere to Scripture and not even entertain the thought of dating them. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
I'm also sick of the argument that Christians are not to judge. That is biblically incorrect. The Bible calls us to judge.
John 7:24 Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment.”
What kind of a chaotic mess would we be in if there was no judging? When you see your brother/sister sinning, are you not to judge and correct them? Christians are to love one another and one of the prime aspects of love is chastising one for doing what's wrong. Does a loving father not discipline his children when they act up? We should judge out of love to uplift one another. We are simply told not to judge if we ourselves are doing the same thing.
Matthew 7:1-5 Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you.
For Christians, the Bible is our guide to life, our rule book for how we ought to do things. If you think there's an issue with using the Bible to question the choices of a 'Christian', I don't understand why. If that is what you identify yourself as, it shouldn't be a problem when people point to Scripture as their source. Your beliefs are outlined in the Bible, so why is it wrong to judge someone's beliefs based on their words/actions to what the Bible says? I don't understand.
We shouldn't use Scripture to try to make anyone feel low, I agree, but that is not what I did in my first post. I merely pointed to where Scripture said different to what you said.
Lastly, there are some who have altered Bibles to suit their own purposes, but there are countless true translations of the Bible that have been shown to be near copies of the original Hebrew. The Bible isn't translated from one language than translated into another language from the previous translation. Every translation comes from the original manuscripts. Nevertheless, the Word of God will stay true from generation to generation.
Jeremiah 31:33 I will put My law within them and on their heart I will write it; and I will be their God, and they shall be My people.
blazingthru
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The person you meet is not always going to know God and if he is serious about you and he is the man that God has already designed for you, he will come to know God through you. As long as you keep things on a friendship level. Its true many have brought men to church and they ended up married to someone else, that was not the man for you. So we just can't look at men from a dating point of view but a friendship. Ultimately our desire is to help someone come to Christ everything else is secondary. Then two there is the power of Prayer, get a prayer partner pray about your desire to have a husband that puts God first, that has a heart for God, Who is kind and loving and dependable and ask God to bless his finances so that he can provide for you, you want this because if he puts God first you best believe he is going to treat you like the queen you are. If a man is truly interested in you and your a person thats faith is planted like the tree by the water he is going to want to know more about it. With much prayer he might want to study the bible and if he is the man for you, God will work everything out in your favor. In this we need to have a lot of faith and trust in God. We need to be obedient without obedience we cannot have a true relationship with God.
We also need to set aside time with God everyday. like an appointment. of course you commune with God all day but you need to have some special time with the lord everyday. If 4 am is the best time then so be it. I just posted a story about my friend now she had been married before but her husband was abusive and she just didn't want to go down that road again so she refuse to even consider a man until her child was ready to go off to college. I Love this woman so much because she endured so much in her life and yet God sent her a special man. she met him at a dinner she had been talking to him and he was so funny she kept laughing thorough the event then she happen to look down and see his socks he had two mismatched socks on and she looked up at him and he said What! they are both blue.. Oh my goodness that would have been it for me but you see God had a plan. HE was methodist she was Seventh Day no match at all but God had a plan and so when she realize that it was becoming more then friendship she introduce him to her parents and her father said if you want to date my daughter well you have to study the bible. We know your methodist but if this is what you desire then this should be no problem and so he did. not right away, but he did and afterwards he got baptized and she still made him wait a year to make sure it was about his relationship with God and not only about her. They been married almost 30 years.
The person you meet is not always going to know God and if he is serious about you and he is the man that God has already designed for you, he will come to know God through you. As long as you keep things on a friendship level. Its true many have brought men to church and they ended up married to someone else, that was not the man for you. So we just can't look at men from a dating point of view but a friendship. Ultimately our desire is to help someone come to Christ everything else is secondary. Then two there is the power of Prayer, get a prayer partner pray about your desire to have a husband that puts God first, that has a heart for God, Who is kind and loving and dependable and ask God to bless his finances so that he can provide for you, you want this because if he puts God first you best believe he is going to treat you like the queen you are. If a man is truly interested in you and your a person thats faith is planted like the tree by the water he is going to want to know more about it. With much prayer he might want to study the bible and if he is the man for you, God will work everything out in your favor. In this we need to have a lot of faith and trust in God. We need to be obedient without obedience we cannot have a true relationship with God.
We also need to set aside time with God everyday. like an appointment. of course you commune with God all day but you need to have some special time with the lord everyday. If 4 am is the best time then so be it. I just posted a story about my friend now she had been married before but her husband was abusive and she just didn't want to go down that road again so she refuse to even consider a man until her child was ready to go off to college. I Love this woman so much because she endured so much in her life and yet God sent her a special man. she met him at a dinner she had been talking to him and he was so funny she kept laughing thorough the event then she happen to look down and see his socks he had two mismatched socks on and she looked up at him and he said What! they are both blue.. Oh my goodness that would have been it for me but you see God had a plan. HE was methodist she was Seventh Day no match at all but God had a plan and so when she realize that it was becoming more then friendship she introduce him to her parents and her father said if you want to date my daughter well you have to study the bible. We know your methodist but if this is what you desire then this should be no problem and so he did. not right away, but he did and afterwards he got baptized and she still made him wait a year to make sure it was about his relationship with God and not only about her. They been married almost 30 years.
makeupgirl
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If you didn't want someone to respond via scriptures, then what are you doing on a Christian forum? That's like saying, we can go to a candy store but cannot have any candy or give out candy. (maybe a bad analogy but I failed this on my SAT) Anyhoo, if you are truly in Christ (which is the definition of a Christian) then you are supposed to, required to, ya better follow every word, sentence, paragraph, poem, song in the word of God. He didn't speak it in existance or inspired the authors to write his word down for nothing. It's for his glory and honor but also to give us instructions on how we should live this life.
For the record, the Pharisees actually were called hypocrites to their face by Jesus himself. They twisted the word for themselves and was doing stuff in the name of God for their own pleasures.
Which leads me to.....my point....we all sin and come short of the glory of God. That's a fact because it is scriptural. Meaning we're still going to mess up. If you're in Christ, then you have the indwelling of the Holy Spirit to lead and guide you into all truths in all parts of our life, not just the spiritual life. So, ask yourself this, what are you going to do if you meet the man of your "dreams", you get married, but you never consulted with God your heavenly father about this to see if this guy is from him to you according to his ordained purpose. Then you're pretty much acted against God at that point and said "Yo God I can take it from here, I don't need your help" God is our free background check on our future mates. Why not trust him and take him at his word? If he said, do not be unequally yoke with unbelievers, then duh don't be unequally yoke with unbelievers. Don't have a life with them, don't marry them, don't have kids with them. It's not that hard to figure out when you take the word as it is spoke and not add or take away from it. He didn't say, do not be unequally yoke with unbelievers but if you're having trouble finding a mate after such and such age, then feel free to date whomever. NO, NO, and NO. This is what got Abraham in trouble when he knocked up his maidservant. It richocet a lot of stuff that was not good...adultary (sorry I'm without spell check today
), the birth of the muslim nation via Ishmel, jealousy and strife between Sarah and Hagai and Ishmal and Issac. After this example, I think I would trust God not man.
So no, you're on a Christian forum so you're going to gets got with a whole lot more bible thumping (I hate that phrase). Why? because that's what we who are in Christ do. We study scriptures to communicate with God. To get his perspective on life. The examples in the book happened for real, it's not a fairy tale. It's to let us know this is what happened, why it shouldn't have happened, this is what you need to do in case of, and by faith you should follow and pay attention to what has been written. So be open to the fact that what God has for you is written in his word. Trust and believe in him fully with your whole heart about every aspect of your life and you'll be fine.
Finally, Christian is not a label. No, it's a position, it's our title, it's our nationality so to speak. Those who have trusted and believe in Christ as their Lord and Savior are new creatures in him and has renewed their mind; have decided to follow Christ by faith and has decided to die to self and in Christ by the aid of the Holy Spirit for guidance and wisdom. It's not a fashion label like Gucci, for a brand for a credit card or a product brand. Not everyone who say I am a Christian is a true born again, washed in the blood of the lamb Christian.
Sorry to get preachy but this had to be said. Now I'm going to eat a plum.
If you didn't want someone to respond via scriptures, then what are you doing on a Christian forum? That's like saying, we can go to a candy store but cannot have any candy or give out candy. (maybe a bad analogy but I failed this on my SAT) Anyhoo, if you are truly in Christ (which is the definition of a Christian) then you are supposed to, required to, ya better follow every word, sentence, paragraph, poem, song in the word of God. He didn't speak it in existance or inspired the authors to write his word down for nothing. It's for his glory and honor but also to give us instructions on how we should live this life.
For the record, the Pharisees actually were called hypocrites to their face by Jesus himself. They twisted the word for themselves and was doing stuff in the name of God for their own pleasures.
Which leads me to.....my point....we all sin and come short of the glory of God. That's a fact because it is scriptural. Meaning we're still going to mess up. If you're in Christ, then you have the indwelling of the Holy Spirit to lead and guide you into all truths in all parts of our life, not just the spiritual life. So, ask yourself this, what are you going to do if you meet the man of your "dreams", you get married, but you never consulted with God your heavenly father about this to see if this guy is from him to you according to his ordained purpose. Then you're pretty much acted against God at that point and said "Yo God I can take it from here, I don't need your help" God is our free background check on our future mates. Why not trust him and take him at his word? If he said, do not be unequally yoke with unbelievers, then duh don't be unequally yoke with unbelievers. Don't have a life with them, don't marry them, don't have kids with them. It's not that hard to figure out when you take the word as it is spoke and not add or take away from it. He didn't say, do not be unequally yoke with unbelievers but if you're having trouble finding a mate after such and such age, then feel free to date whomever. NO, NO, and NO. This is what got Abraham in trouble when he knocked up his maidservant. It richocet a lot of stuff that was not good...adultary (sorry I'm without spell check today
), the birth of the muslim nation via Ishmel, jealousy and strife between Sarah and Hagai and Ishmal and Issac. After this example, I think I would trust God not man. So no, you're on a Christian forum so you're going to gets got with a whole lot more bible thumping (I hate that phrase). Why? because that's what we who are in Christ do. We study scriptures to communicate with God. To get his perspective on life. The examples in the book happened for real, it's not a fairy tale. It's to let us know this is what happened, why it shouldn't have happened, this is what you need to do in case of, and by faith you should follow and pay attention to what has been written. So be open to the fact that what God has for you is written in his word. Trust and believe in him fully with your whole heart about every aspect of your life and you'll be fine.
Finally, Christian is not a label. No, it's a position, it's our title, it's our nationality so to speak. Those who have trusted and believe in Christ as their Lord and Savior are new creatures in him and has renewed their mind; have decided to follow Christ by faith and has decided to die to self and in Christ by the aid of the Holy Spirit for guidance and wisdom. It's not a fashion label like Gucci, for a brand for a credit card or a product brand. Not everyone who say I am a Christian is a true born again, washed in the blood of the lamb Christian.
Sorry to get preachy but this had to be said. Now I'm going to eat a plum.
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Zeal
Well-Known Member
Re: At this point in your Christian walk, would you date/marry someone who is unsaved
Definately, Not.
Reason: The bible says that we should not be un-equally yoked. It is difficult enough dealing with my own saved drama.
It is easier to pull a person down then it is to lift a person up. Scientifically and Spiritually. If anything, I can't put myself in predicuments. I may not always be strong.
I don't think we would have the same focus. My heart is hidden in Christ.
However, when push comes to shove, I would need Divine Influence from the person I am dating. Someone who respects and has an understanding of my love for Christ. Someone who would not mind hearing me talk about the Lord and enjoy it. (When I get excited and go on one of my rants [if you will] about what God did for me. I do that sometimes....and it's like
. Sometimes, not a lot I get like Jeremiah. But when I do..........
I don't want to put any man's life or well-being in danger. God is a jealous God. He might desire more of my God time. ( A saved courter might be the same) My focus might get blurred.
I can appreciate someone who can correct me in love when I start tripping and not agree with my every foolish antic.
FOR HIS OWN SANITY - He has to know the Lord to deal with me. [I'm just sayin'] I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the Lord. I am his daughter. However, I have Simon Peter tendencies. Please be patient with me. God isn't through with me yet.
Definately, Not.
Reason: The bible says that we should not be un-equally yoked. It is difficult enough dealing with my own saved drama.
It is easier to pull a person down then it is to lift a person up. Scientifically and Spiritually. If anything, I can't put myself in predicuments. I may not always be strong.
I don't think we would have the same focus. My heart is hidden in Christ.
However, when push comes to shove, I would need Divine Influence from the person I am dating. Someone who respects and has an understanding of my love for Christ. Someone who would not mind hearing me talk about the Lord and enjoy it. (When I get excited and go on one of my rants [if you will] about what God did for me. I do that sometimes....and it's like
. Sometimes, not a lot I get like Jeremiah. But when I do..........I don't want to put any man's life or well-being in danger. God is a jealous God. He might desire more of my God time. ( A saved courter might be the same) My focus might get blurred.
I can appreciate someone who can correct me in love when I start tripping and not agree with my every foolish antic.
FOR HIS OWN SANITY
- He has to know the Lord to deal with me. [I'm just sayin'] I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the Lord. I am his daughter. However, I have Simon Peter tendencies. Please be patient with me. God isn't through with me yet.
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Guitarhero
New Member
Re: At this point in your Christian walk, would you date/marry someone who is unsaved
I don't know if you know but I've been married before..but not in the church...essentially "not" married, plus, I wasn't religious at the time. When I think about explaining it, my head spins.
His family is Jewish according to Jewish law...mine if partly Jewishly descended. That's not the problem because I found my faith again in the synagogue as well as eventually the church. He didn't, truly. The problem was that his family was forced to the Orthodox Ethiopian Church because of political reasons. The grandmother had him baptized/confirmed as a baby and she found faith in Jesus as Messiah. They still practiced Judaism with all the feasts etc. But he and his brothers and, I guess, parents (step-mom), were not that religious. Then the socialists took everything and murdered people in the millions. Since his childhood, there was nothing but parties, drugs, terror and death. Little room for finding true religion or faith.
See, I basically don't have a problem with anybody Jewish, orthodox, Coptic or catholic. But I will have nothing to do with protestants, muslims, Hindus, religious Buddhists or any other traditions because they don't comprehend us. It's hard enough Jewish/catholic lol! I just won't do it. And I'm not going to be raising up any man. In our tradition, you are baptised in infancy, reborn into the family of G-d. In confirmation, the H-ly Spirit comes upon you in a special way to guide you for the rest of your life. You are trained by your parents. You are simply catholic since birth. I'm not going to get into a relationship with any other except maybe for a Jew (for various other personal reasons) in hopes I can lead somebody to the Church. That's on them. There are many marriages in the Church requiring a dispensation to marry (others not of it) but I'm not going to be one of them. This next time around, it'll be through the Church. I'm not one to meet a nice guy and wait for him to find Jesus, planting seeds. Nope, tis for the birds, hoping forever. Well, I didn't do that the first time around. I just don't believe in it. Of course, ...the Jewish issue...but it's more cultural than not for me and is highly complicated. As for race, yes, I'd prefer any color of Native guy. There are even messianic or orthodox Native Americans as you must know by now. But that's it. I have one plan and will not sway from it. Never again. You can end up losing too much of yourself.
I don't know if you know but I've been married before..but not in the church...essentially "not" married, plus, I wasn't religious at the time. When I think about explaining it, my head spins.
His family is Jewish according to Jewish law...mine if partly Jewishly descended. That's not the problem because I found my faith again in the synagogue as well as eventually the church. He didn't, truly. The problem was that his family was forced to the Orthodox Ethiopian Church because of political reasons. The grandmother had him baptized/confirmed as a baby and she found faith in Jesus as Messiah. They still practiced Judaism with all the feasts etc. But he and his brothers and, I guess, parents (step-mom), were not that religious. Then the socialists took everything and murdered people in the millions. Since his childhood, there was nothing but parties, drugs, terror and death. Little room for finding true religion or faith. See, I basically don't have a problem with anybody Jewish, orthodox, Coptic or catholic. But I will have nothing to do with protestants, muslims, Hindus, religious Buddhists or any other traditions because they don't comprehend us. It's hard enough Jewish/catholic lol! I just won't do it. And I'm not going to be raising up any man. In our tradition, you are baptised in infancy, reborn into the family of G-d. In confirmation, the H-ly Spirit comes upon you in a special way to guide you for the rest of your life. You are trained by your parents. You are simply catholic since birth. I'm not going to get into a relationship with any other except maybe for a Jew (for various other personal reasons) in hopes I can lead somebody to the Church. That's on them. There are many marriages in the Church requiring a dispensation to marry (others not of it) but I'm not going to be one of them. This next time around, it'll be through the Church. I'm not one to meet a nice guy and wait for him to find Jesus, planting seeds. Nope, tis for the birds, hoping forever. Well, I didn't do that the first time around. I just don't believe in it. Of course, ...the Jewish issue...but it's more cultural than not for me and is highly complicated. As for race, yes, I'd prefer any color of Native guy. There are even messianic or orthodox Native Americans as you must know by now. But that's it. I have one plan and will not sway from it. Never again. You can end up losing too much of yourself.
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aribell
formerly nicola.kirwan
Re: At this point in your Christian walk, would you date/marry someone who is unsaved
No. Disobeying God won't be a path to being blessed, and it's likely it won't work very well.
I think that if a believer pursues a relationship with an unbeliever, the unbeliever will grieve the believer's spirit and there will necessarily be a certain "distance" between them, like the believer has a whole world that the nonbeliever is not privy to.
If the believer doesn't notice any difference, I think it's saying something about the spiritual state of the believer.
No. Disobeying God won't be a path to being blessed, and it's likely it won't work very well.
I think that if a believer pursues a relationship with an unbeliever, the unbeliever will grieve the believer's spirit and there will necessarily be a certain "distance" between them, like the believer has a whole world that the nonbeliever is not privy to.
If the believer doesn't notice any difference, I think it's saying something about the spiritual state of the believer.
softblackcotton
Well-Known Member
I am considered to be in the baby or toddler stage of my Christian walk. I need someone who we can build together in our walk with God. That's enough of a great challenge without adding a husband who doesn't believe. I remember reading Kings, where Soloman married pagan women they eventually turned his heart from God. He went from being a devout and very blessed man of God to building pagan Asherah poles and temples of Baal. That is why the family of David never ruled all of Isreal ever again. Only Jerusalem. He is just one example. The ancient Jews were so against marrying out, not because of racism, but because of cultural religious conflicts. They were God's chosen people. Ethnic Jews are no longer God's chosen people, but Gentiles or spiritual Jews, we are all God's chosen people. We must exercise the same caution in outsidemarriage as the ancient Jews did.
silenttullip
Well-Known Member
Re: At this point in your Christian walk, would you date/marry someone who is unsaved
I wouldn't its tough enough dealing with an already "saved man"
Then we gotta handle him not wanting to go to church, study bible together, pray together. I always saw myself doing that with that special man. He needs to lead me
and I support him but not me trying to convince him of something he's not ready for
I wouldn't its tough enough dealing with an already "saved man"
Then we gotta handle him not wanting to go to church, study bible together, pray together. I always saw myself doing that with that special man. He needs to lead me
and I support him but not me trying to convince him of something he's not ready for
Laela
Sidestepping the "lynch mob"
Re: At this point in your Christian walk, would you date/marry someone who is unsaved
Well, I hope you see that from your own contradiction, you are the one preoccupied with labels. You may very well pass up someone suitable for you, simply because he calls himself a "Christian"
If it's something you're coming to terms with, that's a good thing.
Well, I hope you see that from your own contradiction, you are the one preoccupied with labels. You may very well pass up someone suitable for you, simply because he calls himself a "Christian"
If it's something you're coming to terms with, that's a good thing.
Laela
Sidestepping the "lynch mob"
Re: At this point in your Christian walk, would you date/marry someone who is unsaved
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Guitarhero
New Member
Re: At this point in your Christian walk, would you date/marry someone who is unsaved
Yes, "we" are. That is highly incorrect. Remember, you gentiles were grafted onto the vine. But I do agree with those examples of great devout people being brought into shame for the spouse they married. It can certainly run you down.
Yes, "we" are. That is highly incorrect. Remember, you gentiles were grafted onto the vine. But I do agree with those examples of great devout people being brought into shame for the spouse they married. It can certainly run you down.
Re: At this point in your Christian walk, would you date/marry someone who is unsaved
My Lord....
Girl you don't play do you.... ?
I mean this as a wholesome and loving compliment.
You really bless me and I did laugh at the first and very last comments of your post.
My Lord....
Girl you don't play do you.... ?
I mean this as a wholesome and loving compliment.
You really bless me and I did laugh at the first and very last comments of your post.
That was insulting why are you even in the Christian forum then? Because apparently us Gentiles don't know what were talking about (the nerve for us to consider ourselves one because we were adopted in. Please stay away from any child who is adopted.) and you haven't made and strides to convert us either.
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