BGT
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OK, please don't get me wrong. I hope I don't come out sounding conceited or b!tchy, (because that is not at ALL my intentions) but I need to know if I'm not alone here.
I would consider myself to be the most attractive out of all my friends. I have been openly complimented by other females while out in public, but never by guys! I feel that I have a lot to offer. I'm attractive, smart, getting my college degree, articulate, focused, goal-oriented, kinda entertaining, can cook pretty well. So why am I the only one single?
Not only that, I've NEVER had a BF! erplexed I've got one friend married, one engaged, another in a serious relationship, and I can't even get a holla. Granted, we are all 19-20 years old but sometimes I feel as if I am destined to be single.
I have had 3 really close male friends who might have been something if the time was right.
One was a white guy I've known for a long time. We've always had a crush on each other (he used to tell his granny that I was the most beautiful girl he'd ever seen ) But I think he was afraid of a relationship. He was taking me to a graduation party of a mutual friend and we stopped at Walgreen's to pick up a greetings card. It was the first time we had been alone (without a group of friends) in public and he seemed kind of ashamed... he would walk fast in front of me, as if he didn't want people to think we were together (which we weren't!) And once we got to the party, he hid in the bathroom almost the entire time.
Another was a really sweet black guy who I just loved. But mutual friends had the feeling that he was just too intimidated by me (my speech, the way I put myself together, my aspirations...). He just couldn't handle it.
The last one was another nice black guy. My senior prom date. He seemed to like me a lot and I thought I did too, but I just wasn't physically attracted to him enough and I thought he was just toooooooo nice (I hate chivalry ). He responded by telling our co-workers that I was a b!tch.
So I guess what I'm wondering is why I'm not getting any love or attention. erplexed My sister says that the way I carry myself, and the way I look and dress, and the way I speak -- it makes me seem like I have everything together. Like, "Why approach this girl? I'm gonna get shot down anyway." But I'm thinking, "Approach! Approach!"
Anyone else feel the same way?
I would consider myself to be the most attractive out of all my friends. I have been openly complimented by other females while out in public, but never by guys! I feel that I have a lot to offer. I'm attractive, smart, getting my college degree, articulate, focused, goal-oriented, kinda entertaining, can cook pretty well. So why am I the only one single?
Not only that, I've NEVER had a BF! erplexed I've got one friend married, one engaged, another in a serious relationship, and I can't even get a holla. Granted, we are all 19-20 years old but sometimes I feel as if I am destined to be single.
I have had 3 really close male friends who might have been something if the time was right.
One was a white guy I've known for a long time. We've always had a crush on each other (he used to tell his granny that I was the most beautiful girl he'd ever seen ) But I think he was afraid of a relationship. He was taking me to a graduation party of a mutual friend and we stopped at Walgreen's to pick up a greetings card. It was the first time we had been alone (without a group of friends) in public and he seemed kind of ashamed... he would walk fast in front of me, as if he didn't want people to think we were together (which we weren't!) And once we got to the party, he hid in the bathroom almost the entire time.
Another was a really sweet black guy who I just loved. But mutual friends had the feeling that he was just too intimidated by me (my speech, the way I put myself together, my aspirations...). He just couldn't handle it.
The last one was another nice black guy. My senior prom date. He seemed to like me a lot and I thought I did too, but I just wasn't physically attracted to him enough and I thought he was just toooooooo nice (I hate chivalry ). He responded by telling our co-workers that I was a b!tch.
So I guess what I'm wondering is why I'm not getting any love or attention. erplexed My sister says that the way I carry myself, and the way I look and dress, and the way I speak -- it makes me seem like I have everything together. Like, "Why approach this girl? I'm gonna get shot down anyway." But I'm thinking, "Approach! Approach!"
Anyone else feel the same way?