HappyMadison
Kanye's Surrogate
That why I took out the naughty bit. It maybe be an extreme, but it highlights what demisexuality is to an extent. You are around things that should sexually excite you, an attractive stranger, even sitting in a den of sex, a crush, but you are not turned on in the least. I think the person was trying to feel something, anything going to that extreme. There were several "everyday" examples but I did not want it to take away from the discussion so I took it out.
I guess they lack infatuation... Or that "love/lust" at first sight mechanism. It kinda scary to them. I know it was really scary to me. To the point of trembling. I have to get to know you. And in a society that is increasing heading towards leisure sex someone can feel antiquated And weird. Today it is rare for someone Who wants to get to know you. They want to get sex out the way, then get to know you. My partners start off as friends, always. The guy i married, we did not even date we were friends until our wedding date. It was very confusing. Lol We were never boyfriend/ girlfriend. I somehow skip a step everytime And that feeling sexually attracted to someone. I can consider you attractive, but not to the point I would want to act on it. I would have to get to know you.
There is a quiz that explains it better than i do. I was 80% a Demisexual.
http://lonerwolf.com/demisexual-test/
I think it is a little more than Just getting to know someone. It takes me forever to get over someone I am sexually involved with. I had a One night stand once, and it took me months to get over that. I mean writing poems, making plans and stuff lol. It was ugly, it gets ugly. I was thinking about what could have been and drawing various scenarios around that brief conversation. It been over 10 years and I have archived his name and the whole conversation.
When I used to go out with certain group of friends, I was about them while they were out to entice men and see Who got the most numbers. I would be like how about we go out without doing this, because it makes me uncomfortable to pretend i sharing these feelings for a "hot guy. " That did not excite me. I had jealous friends Who wanted guys Who approach me, and were mad I turned them down. I am like excuse me, it's my body. Saying they could have had them, like i am Just a waste for not responding back to advances??? No, you couldn't lol. I have taken on for the team. He was so fine, but I was not sexually attracted to him. I meant i could have been, but not first meeting him. These friends were coaxing me to pair up with him. Saying there is absolutely something wrong with me. So I did it, I did him... Probably made his night, but I disassociated the whole night. I would be designated driver all the time so that I did not have to participate in this competition. Towards the end of those friendship i got accused of liking them on a romantic level. I was in a relationship with a man for 2 years during this and because I went out purely to hang with my friends and babysit them when they are acting slutty drunkards, there is something wrong with me. They are hardly my type lol.
In college I hung around a group of girls. They were Seniors and I was like a Freshmen And they were purposely cliquey And a freshmen being inducted in this group was unheard of. Their whole reasoning for being my friend was to have me dance on gentlemen in the club and then introduce said guy in the group. I kid you not. They would be like he is cute or he has on an expensive brand of jeans, go dance with him and bring him over. I did not care. I was dancing provocatively, but my mind never made the connection to be sexually attracted to the man or the act. Sexual things do not faze me unless i am emotionally attached to the individual.
It not about having a dysfunction, it's about trying to relate, sometimes it's easier to give a name to how you feel to see if anyone else can identify.
I guess they lack infatuation... Or that "love/lust" at first sight mechanism. It kinda scary to them. I know it was really scary to me. To the point of trembling. I have to get to know you. And in a society that is increasing heading towards leisure sex someone can feel antiquated And weird. Today it is rare for someone Who wants to get to know you. They want to get sex out the way, then get to know you. My partners start off as friends, always. The guy i married, we did not even date we were friends until our wedding date. It was very confusing. Lol We were never boyfriend/ girlfriend. I somehow skip a step everytime And that feeling sexually attracted to someone. I can consider you attractive, but not to the point I would want to act on it. I would have to get to know you.
There is a quiz that explains it better than i do. I was 80% a Demisexual.
http://lonerwolf.com/demisexual-test/
I think it is a little more than Just getting to know someone. It takes me forever to get over someone I am sexually involved with. I had a One night stand once, and it took me months to get over that. I mean writing poems, making plans and stuff lol. It was ugly, it gets ugly. I was thinking about what could have been and drawing various scenarios around that brief conversation. It been over 10 years and I have archived his name and the whole conversation.
When I used to go out with certain group of friends, I was about them while they were out to entice men and see Who got the most numbers. I would be like how about we go out without doing this, because it makes me uncomfortable to pretend i sharing these feelings for a "hot guy. " That did not excite me. I had jealous friends Who wanted guys Who approach me, and were mad I turned them down. I am like excuse me, it's my body. Saying they could have had them, like i am Just a waste for not responding back to advances??? No, you couldn't lol. I have taken on for the team. He was so fine, but I was not sexually attracted to him. I meant i could have been, but not first meeting him. These friends were coaxing me to pair up with him. Saying there is absolutely something wrong with me. So I did it, I did him... Probably made his night, but I disassociated the whole night. I would be designated driver all the time so that I did not have to participate in this competition. Towards the end of those friendship i got accused of liking them on a romantic level. I was in a relationship with a man for 2 years during this and because I went out purely to hang with my friends and babysit them when they are acting slutty drunkards, there is something wrong with me. They are hardly my type lol.
In college I hung around a group of girls. They were Seniors and I was like a Freshmen And they were purposely cliquey And a freshmen being inducted in this group was unheard of. Their whole reasoning for being my friend was to have me dance on gentlemen in the club and then introduce said guy in the group. I kid you not. They would be like he is cute or he has on an expensive brand of jeans, go dance with him and bring him over. I did not care. I was dancing provocatively, but my mind never made the connection to be sexually attracted to the man or the act. Sexual things do not faze me unless i am emotionally attached to the individual.
It not about having a dysfunction, it's about trying to relate, sometimes it's easier to give a name to how you feel to see if anyone else can identify.
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