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I was mentioning it to a member and felt it was something interesting to discuss.
According to demisexuality. Org:
Demisexuality is a sexual orientation in which someone feels sexual attraction only to people with whom they have an emotional bond. Most demisexuals feel sexual attraction rarely compared to the general population, and some have little to no interest in sexual activity. Keep reading to understand more about this orientation.
What is the emotional bond demisexuals need for sexual attraction?
It varies based on the demisexual’s personal experiences and is slightly different for everyone. Emotional intimacy is a main component, usually, so some demisexuals find themselves attracted to close friends or romantic partners. Other components may include familiarity with the person and knowledge about them (ex: learning about aspects of their personality).
However, forming an emotional bond doesn’t guarantee that sexual attraction will happen. It is just a prerequisite for it to occur at all. The length of time required to develop an emotional bond may vary. For some demisexuals, it’s after several years of being close friends with someone, and for others, it might be a short but intense experience, such as traveling abroad for a week with them.
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That is how I got my writing job. I am a demisexual. I have unwavering control over my sexuality, except for one flaw. I am not asexual, but I am on that spectrum.
The thing that turns me on is an emotional connection. This is funny, because you have to have an emotional attachment to have sex right? That is the way it should be? But it not an absolute truth. You can have sex with someone you do not particularly care for, except if you are a demisexual.
I was introduced to the notion sitting next to a gentleman at the bar. He was attractive, I was lit. It should have happened. The kissing was mechanical. It was Two lips touching. It could have been perceived as hot. But I had a mental block. I apologized and he laughed. I asked what was so funny and he said it is funny that your nickname is "Demi," (that is my real nickname y'all) "like a demisexual. "
He gave me his number, and probably got what he was searching for elsewhere, but I went home alone again. It was painful. I discounted it as a hangup but the truth is i cannot Just have sex with someone like that. I feel antiquated lol. I cannot do internet dating or texting upon initial contact.
Does anyone else here feel this way?
According to demisexuality. Org:
Demisexuality is a sexual orientation in which someone feels sexual attraction only to people with whom they have an emotional bond. Most demisexuals feel sexual attraction rarely compared to the general population, and some have little to no interest in sexual activity. Keep reading to understand more about this orientation.
What is the emotional bond demisexuals need for sexual attraction?
It varies based on the demisexual’s personal experiences and is slightly different for everyone. Emotional intimacy is a main component, usually, so some demisexuals find themselves attracted to close friends or romantic partners. Other components may include familiarity with the person and knowledge about them (ex: learning about aspects of their personality).
However, forming an emotional bond doesn’t guarantee that sexual attraction will happen. It is just a prerequisite for it to occur at all. The length of time required to develop an emotional bond may vary. For some demisexuals, it’s after several years of being close friends with someone, and for others, it might be a short but intense experience, such as traveling abroad for a week with them.
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That is how I got my writing job. I am a demisexual. I have unwavering control over my sexuality, except for one flaw. I am not asexual, but I am on that spectrum.
The thing that turns me on is an emotional connection. This is funny, because you have to have an emotional attachment to have sex right? That is the way it should be? But it not an absolute truth. You can have sex with someone you do not particularly care for, except if you are a demisexual.
I was introduced to the notion sitting next to a gentleman at the bar. He was attractive, I was lit. It should have happened. The kissing was mechanical. It was Two lips touching. It could have been perceived as hot. But I had a mental block. I apologized and he laughed. I asked what was so funny and he said it is funny that your nickname is "Demi," (that is my real nickname y'all) "like a demisexual. "
He gave me his number, and probably got what he was searching for elsewhere, but I went home alone again. It was painful. I discounted it as a hangup but the truth is i cannot Just have sex with someone like that. I feel antiquated lol. I cannot do internet dating or texting upon initial contact.
Does anyone else here feel this way?
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