Anyone ever feel discouraged about progress?

[FAMUDva]

I'm not feeling really up beat about my hair these days. I'm tired of these stinky Buns! I want longer hair, but I want my thickness back!

Seems like I don't have hair as thick as it was pre-LHCF. I guess it's because I've skipped the trims per some of the suggestions here. I have had dustings, but my last "trim" was this past spring. I'm so scared to let my hair stylist trim because I'm afraid it will set me back, but ultimately I know I want EVEN length that looks as thick as it used to!

I'm sometimes at how my hair looks these days! I may take Lauren's advice and move from buns to roller sets. IDK, but I'm starting to get depressed! Especially when I see friends that I haven't seen for a long time and they have THICK long hair and are NOT doing all the stuff I'm trying to stick with on LHCF. Maybe it's just me... maybe it's just PMS... IDK, but I'M FRUSTRATED!

Any thoughts? Anyone have same or different seniments?

TIA

 

[locabouthair]

ive looked at your albums and i think your hair looks thick. you have made a lot of progress and i cant wait to be where you are at now.

 

[Mystic]

I feel your pain Famudva, and many others here share your sentiment. The only thing is we keep picking ourselves up and pressing on.

The thing that gets me going when the frustration hits is to spice up my hair routine. I do not bun but I wear a lot of different falls/phony pony, lots of conditioner washes, rollersets, and I tie down my hair as soon as I get home from work so the NG is kept soft and flat. This routine prevents me from doing a lot of combing and I am now loving the thickness of my hair. You should also give henna a try. Cassia or henna will definitely help facilitate thickness to your strands.

I hope things will turn around soon for you.

I'm not feeling really up beat about my hair these days. I'm tired of these stinky Buns! I want longer hair, but I want my thickness back!

Seems like I don't have hair as thick as it was pre-LHCF. I guess it's because I've skipped the trims per some of the suggestions here. I have had dustings, but my last "trim" was this past spring. I'm so scared to let my hair stylist trim because I'm afraid it will set me back, but ultimately I know I want EVEN length that looks as thick as it used to!

I'm sometimes at how my hair looks these days! I may take Lauren's advice and move from buns to roller sets. IDK, but I'm starting to get depressed! Especially when I see friends that I haven't seen for a long time and they have THICK long hair and are NOT doing all the stuff I'm trying to stick with on LHCF. Maybe it's just me... maybe it's just PMS... IDK, but I'M FRUSTRATED!

Any thoughts? Anyone have same or different seniments?

TIA

 

[SUPER SWEET]

I feel your pain...One of thing I've learned is taking pics helps to track progress. Also trying new styles such as weave, phony ponies and rod sets help to fight the fatigue.

 

[baby42]

hi that how i did feel and my hair is cut short i cant bun or none of the things you lady use to get growth so i just do the little things like wash con and protein vit water need more and stop thinking about it keeping useing my mtg doing what i could looking at your hair and other lady keeping the faith and guess what i got braid put in nov 1 so now i am going to do what the lady do to braid for now so it can grow and i want it long lol so if think about where you are and and my boy cut and me and smile alittle of all you ladys have help me get to where i am now so sister dont worry just do what you and it will turn around happy growing

 

[FAMUDva]

ive looked at your albums and i think your hair looks thick. you have made a lot of progress and i cant wait to be where you are at now.

Thanks Loca... It just seemed like my hair was thicker and maybe even healthier pre-LHCF. IDK, maybe it's in my head. Don't get me wrong, it's not unhealthy now, but it seems like it has been healthier before.

I am thankful for the little progress I have had and pray for more progress. I'm just a little PMS-y I guess.

 

[FAMUDva]

I feel your pain Famudva, and many others here share your sentiment. The only thing is we keep picking ourselves up and pressing on.

The thing that gets me going when the frustration hits is to spice up my hair routine. I do not bun but I wear a lot of different falls/phony pony, lots of conditioner washes, rollersets, and I tie down my hair as soon as I get home from work so the NG is kept soft and flat. This routing prevents me from doing a lot of combing and I am now loving the thickness of my hair. You should also give henna a try. Cassia or henna will definitely help facilitate thickness to your strands.

I hope things will turn around soon for you.

THANKS! I guess I'll have to read the henna thread. Is it messy? I'm a bit afraid that it will be messy, so I hadn't tried it yet.

 

[FAMUDva]

hi that how i did feel and my hair is cut short i cant bun or none of the things you lady use to get growth so i just do the little things like wash con and protein vit water need more and stop thinking about it keeping useing my mtg doing what i could looking at your hair and other lady keeping the faith and guess what i got braid put in nov 1 so now i am going to do what the lady do to braid for now so it can grow and i want it long lol so if think about where you are and and my boy cut and me and smile alittle of all you ladys have help me get to where i am now so sister dont worry just do what you and it will turn around happy growing

Thanks baby42!

 

[Sha76]

hang in there. from you sig. I think your hair looks pretty thick, and it is making some serious progress.

 

[FAMUDva]

hang in there. from you sig. I think your hair looks pretty thick, and it is making some serious progress.

Thanks Girl!

 

[HighlyFavored1]

Looking at your siggy, I can definitely see that your hair is making progress . I agree with others who have said that it really helps to take pictures to track your progress because it's easy to forget how your hair used to be.

Also, I've had to realize that everyone's techniques don't work for me. For example, I have to get regular trims, my ends get too tangly when I don't. So I just found someone who I really trust doing it. And buns don't work for me either, it chews up my ends so I have to use clips for protective styles. Hopefully we can both keep finding what works for us and I'm sure we'll see the progress!

Happy hair growing!

 

[Precious_1]

I absolutely LOVE your hair. i dont see what you are talking about. stay up girl, i cant wait to be where you are. Are you in atlanta? I was there a few weeks ago, and i dont know why but everybody had lovely hair. i asked my friend what was going on over here.

 

[blac_quarian]

Yes FAMUdva, currently I'm feeling very discouraged about my progress. Particularly when I see all the great pics and posts showing significant growth obtained during the same period that I've been on my personal journey. While I applaud all the success other members are having, sometimes I ask myself when am I gonna actually see something happening in terms of length? erplexed Boy, it really gets to me at times (the seeming lack of progress), but I console myself with the fact that my hair is definately thickening up, my edges are coming back and I already know that historically, my hair grows very slowly. I have to get myself a digi-camera and start taking pics too, who knows, maybe my eyes are playing tricks on me...

 

[ajargon02]

I'm not feeling really up beat about my hair these days. I'm tired of these stinky Buns! I want longer hair, but I want my thickness back!

Seems like I don't have hair as thick as it was pre-LHCF. I guess it's because I've skipped the trims per some of the suggestions here. I have had dustings, but my last "trim" was this past spring. I'm so scared to let my hair stylist trim because I'm afraid it will set me back, but ultimately I know I want EVEN length that looks as thick as it used to!

I'm sometimes at how my hair looks these days! I may take Lauren's advice and move from buns to roller sets. IDK, but I'm starting to get depressed! Especially when I see friends that I haven't seen for a long time and they have THICK long hair and are NOT doing all the stuff I'm trying to stick with on LHCF. Maybe it's just me... maybe it's just PMS... IDK, but I'M FRUSTRATED!

Any thoughts? Anyone have same or different seniments?

TIA

Yes, I get discouraged about my hair. Especially when I look at some of my older album photos. Then I do a dc, and dry twist, and I can see that I have made progress. I think that we all go through that at different points. You aren't alone I would just keep babying your hair(psc ) and when you are feeling a bit down about it, go and do something nice for yourself, and focus on something else. It's hard,but it works!

 

[Angelicus]

Hey, if you like wearing your hair down daily and see a problem with thickness or hair cut evenly, by all means, get the trim.

If you're like me and pretty much hate wearing your hair down, then put it back in the bun. No worries. It's your hair! You can reach your goal. Like the last poster said, sometimes you need to just focus on something else and get your hair done lol.

 

[CarefreeinChicago]

i can relate 100% i think for 2years on not relaxing my hair should be longer but i will say it is thicker i think i am going to twist every 4 weeks and hope that helps me retain some length HHG

 

[InJesusName]

I have felt the same way as well. Maybe try another protective style. I recently changed from buns (which were depressing me because I am practically bald at my temples) to roller sets, and I am feeling much cuter therse days. ITA with the ladies that said focus on something else besides your hair. I have forced myself not to check progress until I get a relaxer. Keep your head up! All of your hard work will pay off.

 

[luvlonghair]

I'm always discouraged about progress. Especially since it looks like I've only retained 2 inches this year. I can't trim my own hair, but can dust. I need someone else to do it for me. Unfortunately I've been to scissor happy stylists that cut all my growth and continues to keep my trim in layers. Now that I'm on the 2007 LHCF Bootcamp and I'm only going to dust in 2007, I'm surely not going to be discouraged anymore

 

[Candiss]

Yep, I can definitely. I think in my case it's like trying to watch a pot of water start to boil. I got my hair dyed on sept 26 and on oct 26 I measured the new growth and it was almost 1/2 inch! Now that's a lot, more than I thought I was growing because It doesn't seem like my hair is all that much longer. But I think I am watching it TOO closely. I just don't think its a good idea to watch my progress in terms of a month or even two months. I think I should say I want to acheive x,y,z by this month of this year and go from there and leave the month to month measuring alone.

 

[Amour]

Thanks Loca... It just seemed like my hair was thicker and maybe even healthier pre-LHCF. IDK, maybe it's in my head. Don't get me wrong, it's not unhealthy now, but it seems like it has been healthier before.

I am thankful for the little progress I have had and pray for more progress. I'm just a little PMS-y I guess.

I wonder if you were manipulating your hair less back then? maybe a no manipulation challenge is for you. My sister's hair really really responds to no manipulation...

LHCF has a tendancy to make you wanna be all up in your hair... well it does to me lol

 

[FAMUDva]

Yes, I get discouraged about my hair. Especially when I look at some of my older album photos. Then I do a dc, and dry twist, and I can see that I have made progress. I think that we all go through that at different points. You aren't alone I would just keep babying your hair(psc ) and when you are feeling a bit down about it, go and do something nice for yourself, and focus on something else. It's hard,but it works!

Ahh.. Thanks

 

[FAMUDva]

I wonder if you were manipulating your hair less back then? maybe a no manipulation challenge is for you. My sister's hair really really responds to no manipulation...

LHCF has a tendancy to make you wanna be all up in your hair... well it does to me lol

Girl, I manipulate much less now. I only comb my hair once a week and use a soft brush to pull it back maybe twice a week. NO tight buns, braids etc. I guess the great thing is my edges have never suffered.

Right now I'll keep it uneven since I'm wearing protective styles through the rest of the year. I guess I just got down after seeing a friend last weekend and her hair looks GREAT! She is not a LHCFer, but has beautiful, thick, long hair. For some reason I think is so much easier than some of us make it on LHCF. I am very thankful for finding the forum and all and thankful for some of the suggestions and product review as they have been helpful.

I just have always felt it's pointless to have long hair if it looks lifeless or if I can never enjoy it. I'm just trying to get over my SL hurdle and get to APL so that I can take sylver2's approach. She has lovely hair and it's not always up in a bun... I guess I'll have to put myself on a "stop sweating other peoples fotkis" for a few months.

Life is good... I DO have healthy hair that is all mine. So sometimes it's worth being thankful for what I do have and stop longing for what I don't (yet).

Thanks again ladies for the words of encouragement!

 

[Mystic]

THANKS! I guess I'll have to read the henna thread. Is it messy? I'm a bit afraid that it will be messy, so I hadn't tried it yet.

It's not messy at all. It is the same texture of a relaxer so if you self-relax, you will find applying the henna a breeze. If not, practice makes perfect.....

 

[FAMUDva]

It's not messy at all. It is the same texture of a relaxer so if you self-relax, you will find applying the henna a breeze. If not, practice makes perfect.....

Thanks! I don't self relax... don't think I ever will, but maybe I'll see how henna works.

 

[Amour]

Girl, I manipulate much less now. I only comb my hair once a week and use a soft brush to pull it back maybe twice a week. NO tight buns, braids etc. I guess the great thing is my edges have never suffered.

Right now I'll keep it uneven since I'm wearing protective styles through the rest of the year. I guess I just got down after seeing a friend last weekend and her hair looks GREAT! She is not a LHCFer, but has beautiful, thick, long hair. For some reason I think is so much easier than some of us make it on LHCF. I am very thankful for finding the forum and all and thankful for some of the suggestions and product review as they have been helpful.

I just have always felt it's pointless to have long hair if it looks lifeless or if I can never enjoy it. I'm just trying to get over my SL hurdle and get to APL so that I can take sylver2's approach. She has lovely hair and it's not always up in a bun... I guess I'll have to put myself on a "stop sweating other peoples fotkis" for a few months.

Life is good... I DO have healthy hair that is all mine. So sometimes it's worth being thankful for what I do have and stop longing for what I don't (yet).

Thanks again ladies for the words of encouragement!

hmmm just like my sister, she doesn't not do anything to her hair at all; im always like deep-condition, she be like deep what? Sometimes I have to start giving advice when I look at her hair than at mine erplexed erplexed

oh well, My mom thinks my hair grows faster, its just that I've had some major setbacks with dye, trim-a-thons and what not so i'm still nursing my hair back to health. She has always had really thick hair aswell

Your hair looks garweous though... thick looking, shiny and the progress you have made is inspiring

 

[KhandiB]

I feel your pain.. Im severly discouraged right now... about my length more so than anything else...

 

[Mahalialee4]

Sometimes we need to STRESS IT LESS AND stop wearing it out with too much of everything. Sometimes I think our hair just gets TIRED. bonjour.

 

[cocowhite]

Well for awhile I have been feeling discouraged about my length. I really don't consider it to be long at all and I want it to be thicker. I am about 99% sure that it is going up into some type of protective style so that I won't have to think about it for awhile. I don't know maybe it's the change in weather, but I feel gloomy.

 

[FAMUDva]

I feel your pain.. Im severly discouraged right now... about my length more so than anything else...

You hit the nail on the head Khandi! My length is OK, but I've got a looooooonnnnggg way to go until long hair and it's so discouraging. *sigh*

 

[FAMUDva]

Well for awhile I have been feeling discouraged about my length. I really don't consider it to be long at all and I want it to be thicker. I am about 99% sure that it is going up into some type of protective style so that I won't have to think about it for awhile. I don't know maybe it's the change in weather, but I feel gloomy.

((((hugs)))) I certainly feel your pain. I've been bunning and french braiding since Sept. I just can't wait to have long, blunt, thick hair. I think I'm asking for too much.