Anyone ever feel discouraged about progress?

FAMUDva said:
I'm not feeling really up beat about my hair these days. I'm tired of these stinky Buns! I want longer hair, but I want my thickness back!

Seems like I don't have hair as thick as it was pre-LHCF. I guess it's because I've skipped the trims per some of the suggestions here. I have had dustings, but my last "trim" was this past spring. I'm so scared to let my hair stylist trim because I'm afraid it will set me back, but ultimately I know I want EVEN length that looks as thick as it used to!

I'm :mad: sometimes at how my hair looks these days! I may take Lauren's advice and move from buns to roller sets. IDK, but I'm starting to get depressed! Especially when I see friends that I haven't seen for a long time and they have THICK long hair and are NOT doing all the stuff I'm trying to stick with on LHCF. Maybe it's just me... maybe it's just PMS... IDK, but I'M FRUSTRATED!

Any thoughts? Anyone have same or different seniments?

TIA
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I'm starting to feel like you too. My hair has grown a good amount, but I see others who aren't bunning or trying to restrict heat use, and it seems like their hair is growing faster. Not sure, I'm trying not to watch my hair like a pot on hot water (you know they say those pots take longer to boil :lol: )
 
I'm very depressed today so I understand how you feel. I can't seem to get my shedding to stop 100% so I can't even focus on growth because I can't get my hair back to being healthy. I don't even comb it anymore for fear of hairloss. I'm still using the prescribed poo from my dermatologist but its so drying so I'm experience breakage now too. My hair has grown from right at my earlobes to the bottom of my long neck so the growth is happening but I can't do anything with it but wear it up because it just doesn't seem strong and healthy. I've even dusted it and trimmed it a few times. (SIGH) Just wishing they shedding would finally stop altogether.:(
 
I'm discouraged with my progess since the end of summer. A few months ago I was getting very frustrated with my hair, so I started hitting it with the blowdryer, flat iron or hot comb every week so I could manage it. 3 months of this almost left my nape chewed up. I was hoping to be on my way to APL by this time, and now I'm hoping to be there by next Christmas. In 3 months I set myself back a year :( :( :(
 
blac_quarian said:
Yes FAMUdva, currently I'm feeling very discouraged about my progress. Particularly when I see all the great pics and posts showing significant growth obtained during the same period that I've been on my personal journey. While I applaud all the success other members are having, sometimes I ask myself when am I gonna actually see something happening in terms of length? :perplexed Boy, it really gets to me at times (the seeming lack of progress), but I console myself with the fact that my hair is definately thickening up, my edges are coming back and I already know that historically, my hair grows very slowly. I have to get myself a digi-camera and start taking pics too, who knows, maybe my eyes are playing tricks on me...
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My sentiments exactly. Sometimes I just want to grab some scissors and get to chopping, but then I take a deep breath and put it in a bun. For me, bunning it reduces my 'hair anxiety'
 
carmella25 said:
Oh yes girl I know exactly how you feel. I hate it sometimes. But dont give up youll make it through :)
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Thanks :)

I forgot I started this thread. I'm still bunning, but am anxious for my touch up on Dec. 19th to see what progress I have. My plan was to bun from Sept through Dec. I've only worn it down once in Oct. and plan to again for Christmas. After Jan 1, I'll still bun, but probably not as religously. I will be going in to get my hair styled more frequently. Roller sets and roller wraps will be in order since I don't like direct heat.

I'm still discouraged, but I'm hanging in there.
 
I used to always feel depressed about my progress because of protective styling. Ask anybody how many "I give up" threads that I've posted on any board! Now I'm used to the bun because I know that when I get to my desired length, I'll get to wear it long and proud! Until then, I'm okay with my bun.
 
blac_quarian said:
Yes FAMUdva, currently I'm feeling very discouraged about my progress. Particularly when I see all the great pics and posts showing significant growth obtained during the same period that I've been on my personal journey. While I applaud all the success other members are having, sometimes I ask myself when am I gonna actually see something happening in terms of length? :perplexed Boy, it really gets to me at times (the seeming lack of progress), but I console myself with the fact that my hair is definately thickening up, my edges are coming back and I already know that historically, my hair grows very slowly. I have to get myself a digi-camera and start taking pics too, who knows, maybe my eyes are playing tricks on me...
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:ohwell: ...Co-signing....
 
FAMUDva said:
Thanks :)

I forgot I started this thread. I'm still bunning, but am anxious for my touch up on Dec. 19th to see what progress I have. My plan was to bun from Sept through Dec. I've only worn it down once in Oct. and plan to again for Christmas. After Jan 1, I'll still bun, but probably not as religously. I will be going in to get my hair styled more frequently. Roller sets and roller wraps will be in order since I don't like direct heat.

I'm still discouraged, but I'm hanging in there.
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Don't be discouraged. It sounds like you're going strong with the protective styling.

BTW, I like how the poses in your siggy pic and avatar match. :)
 
balisi said:
Don't be discouraged. It sounds like you're going strong with the protective styling.

BTW, I like how the poses in your siggy pic and avatar match. :)
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Thanks! I didn't even realized the poses matched until you mentioned it. :lol:
 
I feel not so much "discouraged" per se, but anxious. I hear so many ladies(Adrienne in particular) talk about their past experience with the baggie method and how they retained mucho growth as a result, and I want my growth too!!!!! I'm doing the b.m. until april, and by then, the weather should be humid enough for me to just wear a bun with the ends only soak with oil, and tucked in. I should retain alot of growth, but I just can't wait!!!!
 
I usually get the hair blues in the winter months which is why I wear it up all winter and by the time spring rolls around I feel like letting it down again.
 
FAMUDiva, your hair is gorgeous! But I can see where you're coming from. In October I got fed up with transitioning but I was dead set on not perming. I was a kind of sick and tired of co-washing and then trying to figure out what to do with 2 textures (I'm transitioning w/o the BC or at least until I hit 2 yrs).

Well, I made an appointment and got a sew-in weave. I've been maintaining it pretty well and when I don't make it to the salon to get it washed, deep conditioned, re-styled, I do it myself. It's really taken my mind off of transitioning for a minute and allowed me to "breathe." Maybe doing something different to your hair will give you that breather also, as Anky, mysweetevie and others posted. :)
 
you have beautiful hair, Famu......i am feeling you on the discouragement tip...i am not completely happy with my hair progress.. my hair is still growing, but it is getting thinner and thinner. but i am not mentally and emotionally ready to cut and trim my hair.... kinda sad......
 
This is me right here. I measured my hair in June of this yr and just did it again this month and I only gained 2 inches. That makes me sad
 
I know exactly how you feel, but LHCF has helped me retain what I have grown. What is discouraging for me is that my sister and my aunt cut their hair short and then 6 months later it is back at bra strap. It took me 3 years to get to that length and my pregnancy gave me a growth boost. I am always stuck at arm pit length. I also have an associate who has cut her hair numerous times to a few inches long AND has grown it back to waist length several times.

But everyone is different and retaining what you have is good to.
 
Yes...I should be well beyond armpit now, maybe even bra-strap, I've been at this so long. However, whenever things get good, then I have a setback. We have moved a lot in the past 2 years and everytime, I get a setback. I self-relaxed last year in October and lost so much hair because I don't have the skill to do it. I guess I overlapped. It took until summer for my hair to fill in again. I cut off the thin ends and started over in July. Of course, now, we have moved again to Europe, to a corner of the world where there is no help for my hair, so I am all on my own. That is not really the problem, but the hard water just wreaked havoc on my hair when I arrived--lots of shedding and breakage, so I just took a scissors to my hair a few days back. I was so sick of looking at it. I feel like I will never reach my goals sometimes, but I have decided to just forget about it, stick to my rollersets, put the scissors away, and in about 6 months, I should be back on top again. :) A lot of this game is waiting, and I am so impatient. I admire the ladies who wait to cut thin parts, but I am constantly at them with the scissors. My brain just doesn't like to process the sight of my hair being thin! Anyway, I am back to the beginning. Thanks to LHCF, I know what to do. I just need to react quicker when I see problems. I don't troubleshoot my hair problems as well as I should.
 
I'm feeling SO discouraged right now..I just want to quit.
I feel like I have no idea what I'm doing and that nothing will work for me. Ugh! I'm just disgusting with my hair right now.
 
I'm feeling really crap about my hair at the mo. Just took my weave out it doesnt look as healthy as it did the last time. I havent relaxed for 3 months or so and only have an inch growth - I'm trying to hide my hair until the end of next yr. My hairs really dry. I'm sick of it.
 
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