Sasha Fierce
Active Member
I have only been in one relationship which lasted 3 years and was pretty bad the whole time.
For a very short time after the break up, we had sporadic contact as if trying to "be friends" or whatever...
The last time I saw him (Christmas 2005) we had an argument which confirmed that anything between us was completely gone.
I called him the next day. I should have never seen him or talked to him but once you let that person back in and get agitated, the cycle begins again. He said he did not have time for "this" and would call me back.
He never called. I called back three times over the next two days and told myself if he did not respond at the third call, I would completely wash my hands of the situation. (Some may argue that at this time he wiped his hands of me).
Mid January I received a facebook notification to update our "how do you know this person" status. (He had joined facebook after the breakup and added me as a friend. He wanted to update our status to "Past relationship/Was practically married"). I removed him from my friends list. I got an e-mail from him at three different email accounts saying he couldnt believe I did that.
Later towards the summer, I received phone calls from his mom saying she wanted to know how I was and that he was worried about me or wanted to know how I was. I ignored those comments and continued to ask her what she had been up to...
I got a few more facebook messages through the year. I ignored them all.
Over the two years, I have still had bad dreams, boughts of crying, and wondering thoughts...but thank God I am much better. In all of his communications, he never aplogized for the dirt he did to me. His words sounded as if he was checking with some distant associate.
I guess what I am wondering is, has anybody ever completely cut off the ex? to never speak to them again?
I could not accept letting him into any part of my life knowing how poorly he treated me and seeing he did not have the decency to apologize.
I guess I am curious to know if anybody else handled it like me. When I first began typing this post, I wanted to hear whether you all thought I did the right thing. After writing it down and seeing it plainly, I know I did the right thing.
For a very short time after the break up, we had sporadic contact as if trying to "be friends" or whatever...
The last time I saw him (Christmas 2005) we had an argument which confirmed that anything between us was completely gone.
I called him the next day. I should have never seen him or talked to him but once you let that person back in and get agitated, the cycle begins again. He said he did not have time for "this" and would call me back.
He never called. I called back three times over the next two days and told myself if he did not respond at the third call, I would completely wash my hands of the situation. (Some may argue that at this time he wiped his hands of me).
Mid January I received a facebook notification to update our "how do you know this person" status. (He had joined facebook after the breakup and added me as a friend. He wanted to update our status to "Past relationship/Was practically married"). I removed him from my friends list. I got an e-mail from him at three different email accounts saying he couldnt believe I did that.
Later towards the summer, I received phone calls from his mom saying she wanted to know how I was and that he was worried about me or wanted to know how I was. I ignored those comments and continued to ask her what she had been up to...
I got a few more facebook messages through the year. I ignored them all.
Over the two years, I have still had bad dreams, boughts of crying, and wondering thoughts...but thank God I am much better. In all of his communications, he never aplogized for the dirt he did to me. His words sounded as if he was checking with some distant associate.
I guess what I am wondering is, has anybody ever completely cut off the ex? to never speak to them again?
I could not accept letting him into any part of my life knowing how poorly he treated me and seeing he did not have the decency to apologize.
I guess I am curious to know if anybody else handled it like me. When I first began typing this post, I wanted to hear whether you all thought I did the right thing. After writing it down and seeing it plainly, I know I did the right thing.
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