LivingDol1
Well-Known Member
okay i know not many people respond to my threads but i'd really appreciate some insight and reassurance... give me reasons to calm down or not give a rat's butt.
my work crush has been chatting me up for 2 months. after 2 months of chatting, hemming and hawing, and subtle flirtation, we are finally set to spend some time outside of the office tomorrow. we were talking on monday and he was asking me about my weekend and more specifically what i was doing NEXT(this) weekend. I didn't want to say "nothing" and wait for him to ask me on a date b/c he's tanked on those opportunities before. so i told him about a show tomorrow night that me and some colleagues are going to. he expressed interest, so i said that he should come out with us. he accepted, asked me to send him details and we went on our way.
wednesday rolls around. i see him, we chat. awkward pauses, rambling conversation, etc. i finally say "oh i forgot i have to send you the deets for saturday."
he goes, "Oh yeah, i nearly forgot. please send it to me."
so i send it. i tell him, "hope you can make it, feel free to bring friends." SUPER casual, group outing. he goes, "awesome, i'll see if anyone wants to go but i don't have any plans on saturday so i'll proly come." I didn't write back. No need.
Thursday, hardly saw/spoke to him. Friday, saw him once, said hi quickly. Let the day pass.
He doesn't have -any- personal info of mine. no phone #, no FB, nothing.
Should I worry that he won't show up? If he doesn't, does that make him a d-bag?
In a normal situation, wouldn't a guy ask for a way to contact you when he gets to the destination? I know I asked him out but I am still the chick here and I don't want to just give away all of my info. I made it very easy for him by inviting him to a casual event. I still believe that men who are interested in a woman will do what it takes to get their attention and court them.
I am taking into account that we are colleagues and that could be a reason for why he isn't trying to get my personal info.
HEEEELLLLLPPPPP my sorry lame butt!!!
much appreciated. i never ask guys out. i'm so lame.
my work crush has been chatting me up for 2 months. after 2 months of chatting, hemming and hawing, and subtle flirtation, we are finally set to spend some time outside of the office tomorrow. we were talking on monday and he was asking me about my weekend and more specifically what i was doing NEXT(this) weekend. I didn't want to say "nothing" and wait for him to ask me on a date b/c he's tanked on those opportunities before. so i told him about a show tomorrow night that me and some colleagues are going to. he expressed interest, so i said that he should come out with us. he accepted, asked me to send him details and we went on our way.
wednesday rolls around. i see him, we chat. awkward pauses, rambling conversation, etc. i finally say "oh i forgot i have to send you the deets for saturday."
he goes, "Oh yeah, i nearly forgot. please send it to me."
so i send it. i tell him, "hope you can make it, feel free to bring friends." SUPER casual, group outing. he goes, "awesome, i'll see if anyone wants to go but i don't have any plans on saturday so i'll proly come." I didn't write back. No need.
Thursday, hardly saw/spoke to him. Friday, saw him once, said hi quickly. Let the day pass.
He doesn't have -any- personal info of mine. no phone #, no FB, nothing.
Should I worry that he won't show up? If he doesn't, does that make him a d-bag?
In a normal situation, wouldn't a guy ask for a way to contact you when he gets to the destination? I know I asked him out but I am still the chick here and I don't want to just give away all of my info. I made it very easy for him by inviting him to a casual event. I still believe that men who are interested in a woman will do what it takes to get their attention and court them.
I am taking into account that we are colleagues and that could be a reason for why he isn't trying to get my personal info.
HEEEELLLLLPPPPP my sorry lame butt!!!
much appreciated. i never ask guys out. i'm so lame.