Another Woman As His Screensaver?

[ZapMami]

Just curious how other people feel about this. Under what circumstances would it be okay for your SO to have another woman's photo as a screensaver on his phone? Does it matter who it is- a celebrity crush, family member, his childs mother, his best female friend?

 

[sunnieb]

Celebrity or other famous black woman is cool with me.

All others.....no.

 

[oneastrocurlie]

Mom, grandma, auntie.

That's all I think I'd be ok with.

 

[sunnieb]

Reminds me that I need to pick a Dallas Cowboy to set as my cellphone wallpaper for football season.

 

[LovinLea]

Not even a celebrity. Maybe his mom for a couple of weeks, no mama's boys.

 

[Dee-Licious]

Mom, grandma, or blood sister in a pic with him especially if one had passed or something
Past that... nah... maybe a pic of him with one of his 2 close aunts would maaaaybeeeee be ok

 

[BGT]

Why would he have another woman be his screensaver when it could be you?

 

[okange76]

Celebrity or Family member like Daughter, Mother or Sister is fine. I don't trust cousins anymore. Cousins hook up with each other all the time so....

 

[LostInAdream]

Celebrity or Family member like Daughter, Mother or Sister is fine. I don't trust cousins anymore. Cousins hook up with each other all the time so....

 

[Gin&Tonic]

Another woman a screensaver would seem really weird to me.

 

[Honey Bee]

Cousins hook up with each other all the time so....

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That was my exact face!!

 

[intellectualuva]

That would be weird to me. I would have all sorts of questions....unless it's him and his mom or auntie. Definitely not his child's mother....lmao....like for what.

 

[Charmingchick1]

My MIL passed suddenly this year and my husband had a picture of his mom as his screensaver for a little while. He's since changed it, but that's the only "other woman" I'd be ok with under the circumstances. If his mom were still alive and he had her as his screensaver it would seem a bit much to me. I think a celebrity crush over a certain age would be odd too.

 

[SurferBabe]

My MIL passed suddenly this year and my husband had a picture of his mom as his screensaver for a little while. He's since changed it, but that's the only "other woman" I'd be ok with under the circumstances. If his mom were still alive and he had her as his screensaver it would seem a bit much to me. I think a celebrity crush over a certain age would be odd too.

I was just going to post this. I usually wouldn't care about a celebrity crush but after a certain age it is immature as hell . Any guy who has tried to talk to me who has a half naked woman/celeb crush as his screensaver or phone/computer wallpaper turned out to be basic, broke, or both.

 

[intellectualuva]

I was just going to post this. I usually wouldn't care about a celebrity crush but after a certain age it is immature as hell . Any guy who has tried to talk to me who has a half naked woman/celeb crush as his screensaver or phone/computer wallpaper turned out to be basic, broke, or both.

Yep.

Or has several photos of the celebrity women on their Facebook page. They usually stay talking about finding a woman who looks like that...when they look like a struck match.

 

[sunnieb]

Full disclosure:

Dh never sets pics on his background. He says that he's doing good just to have and use his ipad. Maybe that's why I don't care.

 

[Pat Mahurr]

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Right?

This reminds me of a thread I saw on here years ago where a poster said that a lot of the girls she knew had lost their virginity to their brothers. She was so nonchalant about it as if it were normal. I can't remember the thread, but I'll never forget that WTF feeling.

 

[Theresamonet]

Y'all are okay with your man having a celebrity crush as their screensaver? That's weird and childish to me. You're a grown man with a real life woman.

My FH has only ever had as his screensaver: me, himself (his old 6-pack), our dog, his late grandfather, his artwork, random pop art. He likes looking at beautiful women just as much as the next man, and has celeb crushes, but he's never saved any to his phone. I didn't mandate this; I guess he knows better. Lol

 

[tilati]

Mom, grandma and daughters, that's it.

 

[PeaceFlow]

Hmm I haven't encountered any of this with SOs so it would be weird now.

I would say beyond a certain age, plastering pictures of celebrities on walls or phones/laptops is kind of immature. I remember a married white woman of 35 at work completely covered her whole desk space with pictures of Eminem and I found it so odd LOL.

I just don't think I have time for a relationship with a man who has his head in the pussy clouds all day and has to look at "crushes" constantly. I am a lil judgmental about where people intentionally place their energy.

 

[tocktick]

Hmm I haven't encountered any of this with SOs so it would be weird now.

I would say beyond a certain age, plastering pictures of celebrities on walls or phones/laptops is kind of immature. I remember a married white woman of 35 at work completely covered her whole desk space with pictures of Eminem and I found it so odd LOL.

I just don't think I have time for a relationship with a man who has his head in the pussy clouds all day and has to look at "crushes" constantly. I am a lil judgmental about where people intentionally place their energy.

Pussy clouds?

 

[SurferBabe]

Yep.

Or has several photos of the celebrity women on their Facebook page. They usually stay talking about finding a woman who looks like that...when they look like a struck match.

And don't get me started on grown men who have a bunch of SM pictures of themselves posing with the promo models at events. These women are paid to take pictures with thirsty men. What are you trying to prove? They don't want you! Grow up.

 

[sunnieb]

I'm showing my age.

I was thinking along the lines of typical celebrity crushes that married folk have. Dh loves him some Sade! Whenever one of her songs would come on, I'd make fun of him and say 'there's yo girl'.

Same with me, and my 'men'. I forget the youngins with their SM obsession. No, that's not OK to have pics of women plastered all over SM. Matter of fact, I don't like grown men all over SM period.

 

[PeaceFlow]

Just remembered he has had a picture of me on one of his phone screen saver pages and a pic of his dog (now RIP) on the other since we first became official. It would be cute if he had a pic of his Mum too.

Only thing that bothers me is that my body looks xtra toned on that picture Need to get back to that.

 

[CoilyFields]

Why is this a thing?

If it ain't me or the kid(s) then it shouldn't be anyone! We're the only ones he should be looking at that often...

 

[ChasingBliss]

Hmm I haven't encountered any of this with SOs so it would be weird now.

I would say beyond a certain age, plastering pictures of celebrities on walls or phones/laptops is kind of immature. I remember a married white woman of 35 at work completely covered her whole desk space with pictures of Eminem and I found it so odd LOL.

I just don't think I have time for a relationship with a man who has his head in the pussy clouds all day and has to look at "crushes" constantly. I am a lil judgmental about where people intentionally place their energy.

Totally agree with EVERYthing you said especially the bolded.

 

[Nikkiluv254]

I'm a grown woman who dates grown men. At 35+ you should know better than that.

 

[caribeandiva]

Under what circumstances would it be okay for your SO to have another woman's photo as a screensaver on his phone?

Only his mom, grandma or sister if she died. And it'd have to be only for a limited time like her birthday or memorial anniversary or something.

 

[caribeandiva]

Why would he have another woman be his screensaver when it could be you?

Exactly. Especially with my fine a$$!

 

[caribeandiva]

They usually stay talking about finding a woman who looks like that...when they look like a struck match.

The visual is killing me