aribell
formerly nicola.kirwan
I've been pursued by a longtime friend who has been expressing his interest pretty consistently for a few years. He is explicitly marriage minded. I decided to talk to him about his intentions and we decided to be more intentional and see how things develop. He's been completely consistent, calling every night and texting during the day.
It was my birthday this weekend and on Friday my work team bought me flowers. I took a pic and put it on Facebook 'cause they were pretty. But that weekend and since then, he has been asking me repeatedly where the flowers came from to the point that he's getting upset with me since I haven't told him. At first I was just lightheartedly teasing him by not saying where they came from, but then he started becoming more insistent on knowing. I guess I didn't like the demand to know and I just kind of brushed it off. Well, now he's upset with me, but my point to him was that I wanted to know what significance it had for him. One, we're not a couple, so it can't be an issue of "is she cheating?" And two, I didn't get anything from him regardless (I live 4 hrs. away), so it's not like he's doling out all this money on me and I'm taking advantage. Had he done something, I might feel more inclined to reassure him.
Of course I get why he might feel jealous thinking they were from another man; but at the same time I don't feel like he has a right to demand to know. He didn't want to end the conversation, but I told him we'd talk tomorrow.
Am I wrong?
It was my birthday this weekend and on Friday my work team bought me flowers. I took a pic and put it on Facebook 'cause they were pretty. But that weekend and since then, he has been asking me repeatedly where the flowers came from to the point that he's getting upset with me since I haven't told him. At first I was just lightheartedly teasing him by not saying where they came from, but then he started becoming more insistent on knowing. I guess I didn't like the demand to know and I just kind of brushed it off. Well, now he's upset with me, but my point to him was that I wanted to know what significance it had for him. One, we're not a couple, so it can't be an issue of "is she cheating?" And two, I didn't get anything from him regardless (I live 4 hrs. away), so it's not like he's doling out all this money on me and I'm taking advantage. Had he done something, I might feel more inclined to reassure him.
Of course I get why he might feel jealous thinking they were from another man; but at the same time I don't feel like he has a right to demand to know. He didn't want to end the conversation, but I told him we'd talk tomorrow.
Am I wrong?