LiftedUp
Well-Known Member
Ok ladies, problem solved... I think.
He called and ask me if he can take me out on a "birthday lunch" tomorrow. I'm not sure if I like being an after thought but I agreed to it.
He is a nerdy/quiet/reserved guy so I understand that he may not be the most outgoing person but geez one day to make me feel special and you cannot do that? Sigh...
Thanks for the honest opinions *hug*
Is he just not that into me?
So I met this guy and it so happens that he seems perfect and fits 95% of what I am looking for in a guy. He really embodies all the important things on my list. The one or two not so important criteria that he doesn't meet, I'm willing to overlook it, because they're purely superficial, trust me.
So from like day 2/3 after he expressed his interest, I told him upfront that I'm looking for a long-term relationship and a life long partner. He said that he respects my wishes and agrees with me because he's looking for the same. So we both decided to have a 1 month get to know you before getting into a committed relationship since we both intend on a long-term relationship. This will be week 4.
We went on a couple of dates, he a perfect gentleman, my parents gave him the thumbs up (they met him by chance while we were out), my friends are excited so yes everything is going well, his friends are excited, our mutual friends are excited etc.
We are not seeing anyone else and we have not moved beyond kissing.
Then, my birthday comes around. He wished me "happy birthday" then no present, no date, nada. Now we're unofficial so a present is not mandatory but no romantic dinner, nothing? I went out with my family for dinner (he knows this) and with my friends (he know this), why does he think that it's acceptable that he not do the same?
I'm perplexed and really think that this guy does not appreciate me enough.
So after being short with him yesterday and today, he calls to find out if I'm alright and if I am angry with him. So I said no, I'm busy and ended the call early. Then he sends me some lovey dovey texts (I'm into texting, he prefers phone calls...).
I'm ready to let this taper off by the end of the week and move on because I really cannot deal with someone who doesn't appreciate me, think I'm special etc.
Am I overreacting? Am I being hasty? Or am I missing something????
I'm a big girl I can take it straight.
He called and ask me if he can take me out on a "birthday lunch" tomorrow. I'm not sure if I like being an after thought but I agreed to it.
He is a nerdy/quiet/reserved guy so I understand that he may not be the most outgoing person but geez one day to make me feel special and you cannot do that? Sigh...
Thanks for the honest opinions *hug*
Is he just not that into me?
So I met this guy and it so happens that he seems perfect and fits 95% of what I am looking for in a guy. He really embodies all the important things on my list. The one or two not so important criteria that he doesn't meet, I'm willing to overlook it, because they're purely superficial, trust me.
So from like day 2/3 after he expressed his interest, I told him upfront that I'm looking for a long-term relationship and a life long partner. He said that he respects my wishes and agrees with me because he's looking for the same. So we both decided to have a 1 month get to know you before getting into a committed relationship since we both intend on a long-term relationship. This will be week 4.
We went on a couple of dates, he a perfect gentleman, my parents gave him the thumbs up (they met him by chance while we were out), my friends are excited so yes everything is going well, his friends are excited, our mutual friends are excited etc.
We are not seeing anyone else and we have not moved beyond kissing.
Then, my birthday comes around. He wished me "happy birthday" then no present, no date, nada. Now we're unofficial so a present is not mandatory but no romantic dinner, nothing? I went out with my family for dinner (he knows this) and with my friends (he know this), why does he think that it's acceptable that he not do the same?
I'm perplexed and really think that this guy does not appreciate me enough.
So after being short with him yesterday and today, he calls to find out if I'm alright and if I am angry with him. So I said no, I'm busy and ended the call early. Then he sends me some lovey dovey texts (I'm into texting, he prefers phone calls...).
I'm ready to let this taper off by the end of the week and move on because I really cannot deal with someone who doesn't appreciate me, think I'm special etc.
Am I overreacting? Am I being hasty? Or am I missing something????
I'm a big girl I can take it straight.
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