WaterMoccasin
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Ok, so I'm in a serious relationship with a guy who's currently in another state completing his studies (he moved away some months ago). We talk to each other every day, things have been going well so far (even though neither of us are too keen on long-distance relationships) but he's having a bit of a rough time being away from his old network of friends and family and talks quite often with his best friend (male), family members and me of course.
Before he went away, I met a female friend of his and I got the vibe that she liked him beyond friendship. I dismissed it initially because he clearly wasn't into her and she was not only unattractive (he places some value on looks) but an older woman. However, I found out she's actually the same age as him and me, and only looks about ten years older. He and I have gone out with her (and her sister) since and I got the same vibe then too, even stronger- that she's into him. However, I also got the vibe that she accepts he doesn't see her that way and at least wants to maintain a friendship so I dismissed her as harmless for the most part.
Whenever SO comes to town, he and I spend lots of time together and we spend time with his male best friend and with his family. I'm not always available so he would spend time with them alone and he would also make it a point to see this female friend. My problem isn't really with this (even though out of all his other friends, male and female, he only makes sure to see her and they're all supposedly on the same level of friendship), it's that she calls him quite often when he's away, as in every week (he has told me this). In fact, she told me once that she was gonna myspace me to ask about him once when she hadn't heard from him in 2 weeks.
I've started resenting what feels like a constant intrusion because I know she likes him underneath (he has even agreed with me, telling me he had always suspected the same when I first told him my suspicions), and I feel that for someone that's not a family member, a best friend, or his woman, the frequent calling is quite inappropriate. Am I being unreasonable?
I haven't told him I have a problem with it because that's his business in a way and I know how he is when it comes to being social and enjoying feeling connected to everybody, but at the same time, I have a gut dislike for her actions because she's trying to keep herself a little too present.![Ohwell :ohwell: :ohwell:](/smilies/ohwell.gif)
Before he went away, I met a female friend of his and I got the vibe that she liked him beyond friendship. I dismissed it initially because he clearly wasn't into her and she was not only unattractive (he places some value on looks) but an older woman. However, I found out she's actually the same age as him and me, and only looks about ten years older. He and I have gone out with her (and her sister) since and I got the same vibe then too, even stronger- that she's into him. However, I also got the vibe that she accepts he doesn't see her that way and at least wants to maintain a friendship so I dismissed her as harmless for the most part.
Whenever SO comes to town, he and I spend lots of time together and we spend time with his male best friend and with his family. I'm not always available so he would spend time with them alone and he would also make it a point to see this female friend. My problem isn't really with this (even though out of all his other friends, male and female, he only makes sure to see her and they're all supposedly on the same level of friendship), it's that she calls him quite often when he's away, as in every week (he has told me this). In fact, she told me once that she was gonna myspace me to ask about him once when she hadn't heard from him in 2 weeks.
I've started resenting what feels like a constant intrusion because I know she likes him underneath (he has even agreed with me, telling me he had always suspected the same when I first told him my suspicions), and I feel that for someone that's not a family member, a best friend, or his woman, the frequent calling is quite inappropriate. Am I being unreasonable?
I haven't told him I have a problem with it because that's his business in a way and I know how he is when it comes to being social and enjoying feeling connected to everybody, but at the same time, I have a gut dislike for her actions because she's trying to keep herself a little too present.
![Ohwell :ohwell: :ohwell:](/smilies/ohwell.gif)