Always A Cheat

I believe that if he cheats and you take him back, you are telling him that he can do whatever the hell he wants and you will always be there...so in theory yes...once a cheat always a cheat...
 
There's a chance that a cheater will cheat again and that's a chance I wouldn't take.

I'm sure there are people who change, though.
 
Well, he didn't cheat on me. While we were friends he cheated on his then girlfriend. He's working on his relationship with God and he claims that when God finish working on him he's gonna be ready for ME!!

Thanks for the reply:)
 
For some once a cheat always a cheat....but IMO thats just because they haven't met the right person that is NOT worth losing.
 
ree.denise said:
Well, he didn't cheat on me. While we were friends he cheated on his then girlfriend. He's working on his relationship with God and he claims that when God finish working on him he's gonna be ready for ME!!

Thanks for the reply:)
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How is he working on his relationship with God and when will he be done?
Please keep your eyes open and good luck.

wavesofmotion said:
For some once a cheat always a cheat....but IMO thats just because they haven't met the right person that is NOT worth losing.
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I don't understand, should a woman put up with cheating because she's found Mr Right? Is it really Mr Right if he's a cheater?? Please explain...
 
FlowerHair said:
How is he working on his relationship with God and when will he be done?
Please keep your eyes open and good luck.



I don't understand, should a woman put up with cheating because she's found Mr Right? Is it really Mr Right if he's a cheater?? Please explain...
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If a guy cheated on a previous GF its not necessarily predicable that he will cheat on the next GF. Some people believe that once a guy cheats they are most likely to cheat forever. I believe that once he finds the right woman he will realize that he will never want to cheat on her because its not worth destroying their love.

I was thinking about a different circumstance (not when the guy is actually in a relationship, cheated and then the woman takes him back).
 
No, I don't believe once a cheat always a cheat. I'm not a fool either, so I would have to see major changes and sincere remorse for me to stay and trust again. Also why he cheated is important.
 
ree.denise said:
He's working on his relationship with God and he claims that when God finish working on him he's gonna be ready for ME!!
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:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Ole boy done pulled that line out of the book of "Silly And Meaningless Black Church Cliches 101." :rolleyes: Stuff that people like to say to sound good, "religious," "holy," and "sanctified," but don't mean a darn thing in real life.

God's gonna be working on all of us until the day we die. None of that has to do with his decision whether or not he's going to still cheat and whether or not y'all need to be in a relationship.
 
I don't believe that, unless that person has a mental health issue. Anyone can change with effort and motivation. I cheated on just about every boyfriend I had, not because I couldn't control myself but because I wanted to. If he wants to be faithful he will.
 
I do not believe "once a cheat, always a cheat." Anyone is redeemable from cheating - especially if they're made to understand the damage it does (and if they're punished in some form or fashion).

But cheating aside, I think this guy is telling you something important. Yes, he likes you but he thinks you deserve exclusivity and he cannot give that to you right now.

If you do want an exclusive relationship, then you should be grateful that he gave you fair warning, and KIM.
 
I don't necessarily believe that.

I do know someone that this statement is true for. He has cheated on every woman that he has been with. Then he meet a woman that he claims is the best thing that ever happened to him and he doesn't want to lose her. They got married. Guess what??? Although he has claimed to find "Ms. Right" he is currently cheating on her. So in this case even finding the right person didn't stop him from cheating.
 
Sometimes I think:

all men cheat. eventually...in some way...

Once they get bored they "cheat"

What is cheating? Sex? Kissing? Intimicy? Going to dinner with another women and not telling you about it?

Men are not as loyal as women generally.

That's just my opinion. And I am just talking about nice, normal guys. You also have the really triflin ones that are just flagrant, blatant...

ETA: With God, all things are possible, though...
 
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YES, I've been saying that for a while and I haven't been proven wrong yet. But I also realize that it is my opinion and I've seen so many relationships "get over" the cheating phase (so sad that i've actually heard women call it a phase) and they take their men back but that's just giving them the Ok to do it and get away with it. (Oh and the same goes for women, I dont discriminate!)
 
No, I don't believe this. So, if a person cheats on their boyfriend/girlfriend when they are 19 they can't be trusted now at 36 because "Once a cheat, always a cheat"? Sorry, I don't buy that.

Now, I do believe that if a person has cheated on YOU, in YOUR relationship that the chances are extremely high that it will happen again.
 
No, I don't believe once a cheater, always a cheater. In the same breath, I do believe that if you cheat in a specific relationship once, the likelihood of you cheating again within that relationship is SKY high. :ohwell:
The longer the time between the last cheat, the less likely it is that they will cheat again.
 
To me cheating is less about sex and more of a reflection of character...everybody can slip up once, maybe twice....but if someone's a chronic cheater I think it says something about them and I wouldn't trust them in general.
 
I dont necessarily believe once a cheat.. always a cheat, HOWEVER!!! Im not the one to see if u'll cheat on me twice (if that makes sense)
 
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