Geminigirl
Well-Known Member
Here's my deal. I been with my boyfriend for a year and half. We met were I used to work at. Well he ended up quitting and then i joined another department. He came back. When he came back a week later a female started working in his dept. He told me how this female was a slut how she was lazy he didn't like her this and that. I was pregnant with his baby at the time and of course I was hormonal but whenever I would go over to his dept so we could break or go to lunch together I would always see him and this female talking. They'd be in the back chillin on the sales floor chillin working side by side. I was like WOW I thought you ain't like her this and that why ya'll always up in each other's face. I asked him to stop talking to her and I felt that if he truly loved me he would respect my wishes cause the ish seemed suspicious to me. I'm not talking they was on some hi and bye mess I'm talking they was ALWAYS in each other's face. No matter how upset he could see that it was making me it was like he wasn't gonna let this "friendship" go. I'm talking EVERYtime I came to his dept they was together. Even to this day we go to our old job and he will stand and talk to her for however long.
Fast foward. I was just like LOOK what do ya'll have to talk about for so long? What is it about her that ya'll always gotta be up in each other's face? Mind you I had coworkes telling me oh I seen ya man and her over there talking. So I was embarassed and I felt like they knew something I ain't know. But I also felt good cause other people was noticing it as well. So anyways we talking and he was like she likes car, fishing and some other things they have in common. He also mentioned that this girl likes one of his friends and she was always trying to get him to hook them up. He named a list of boys that she likes including her current boyfriend but let me express a concern I have and it goes on deaf ears. He NEVER listens when I talk to him but he can tell me a list of guys this girl likes? Am I overreacting? Am I being controlling? Would you feel the same way in a similar situation? Should he stop talking to her or maybe out of respect to me limit his talking? I feel as though he really likes this girl and he has some kinda deep connection with her that we as a couple don't have together and I think that is what bothers me most about their relationship. What would you do? Don't be scared to hurt my feelings I really wanna know what to do about this situation because she always come up in our fights and she might be one of the downfalls of our relationship.
Fast foward. I was just like LOOK what do ya'll have to talk about for so long? What is it about her that ya'll always gotta be up in each other's face? Mind you I had coworkes telling me oh I seen ya man and her over there talking. So I was embarassed and I felt like they knew something I ain't know. But I also felt good cause other people was noticing it as well. So anyways we talking and he was like she likes car, fishing and some other things they have in common. He also mentioned that this girl likes one of his friends and she was always trying to get him to hook them up. He named a list of boys that she likes including her current boyfriend but let me express a concern I have and it goes on deaf ears. He NEVER listens when I talk to him but he can tell me a list of guys this girl likes? Am I overreacting? Am I being controlling? Would you feel the same way in a similar situation? Should he stop talking to her or maybe out of respect to me limit his talking? I feel as though he really likes this girl and he has some kinda deep connection with her that we as a couple don't have together and I think that is what bothers me most about their relationship. What would you do? Don't be scared to hurt my feelings I really wanna know what to do about this situation because she always come up in our fights and she might be one of the downfalls of our relationship.