naturalTAN
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I used to be pretty trusting of everyone that I called a friend and never had a problem with them hanging around my dates, boyfriends or crushes. I used to actually love doing group type stuff in the beginning to see if the guy was as great as I thought he was or I was just building him up in my head.
Anyway, I've been backstabbed by girls that at the time were my best friends (2nd year in HS and 1st year in university) who decided to help themselves to the guy that I was seeing. After the second time, I was hurt and for awhile did not share anything about anyone that I was interested in or dating because I did not want anymore repeats. I have mellowed out some over the years because although I'm more cautious now, I don't like the idea of having to essentially "hide" a guy from my friends because of the immature people that hurt me in the past.
I wrote all that to ask do you allow your friends or female family members around your age regular access to your man or would you have an issue with say one of them having his number and calling for favors from time to time?
ETA: I actually think that both situations turned out pretty good for me because thankfully I had some trifling friends that sniffed out the trifling guy that I was seeing and I got to rid my life of them at the same time. I've actually been wondering if "baiting" a guy in the beginning with a friend to see how he reacts could be beneficial. Thoughts?
Anyway, I've been backstabbed by girls that at the time were my best friends (2nd year in HS and 1st year in university) who decided to help themselves to the guy that I was seeing. After the second time, I was hurt and for awhile did not share anything about anyone that I was interested in or dating because I did not want anymore repeats. I have mellowed out some over the years because although I'm more cautious now, I don't like the idea of having to essentially "hide" a guy from my friends because of the immature people that hurt me in the past.
I wrote all that to ask do you allow your friends or female family members around your age regular access to your man or would you have an issue with say one of them having his number and calling for favors from time to time?
ETA: I actually think that both situations turned out pretty good for me because thankfully I had some trifling friends that sniffed out the trifling guy that I was seeing and I got to rid my life of them at the same time. I've actually been wondering if "baiting" a guy in the beginning with a friend to see how he reacts could be beneficial. Thoughts?
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