Seraphina
Well-Known Member
I don't generally post this kind of stuff here, but I'm so frustrated and it's late so I don't want to call anyone. Here's my problem right as I type this.
A couple weeks ago I started dating an ex BF of mine from about a year and a half ago. He's a decent person generally speaking and there were things about him that I missed after we broke up. I am now being reminded of one of the few issues we had.
He has a massive sense of entitlement to my body and refuses to respect boundaries. This was always the case. It was literally like he couldn't fall asleep without groping me (mainly my boobs) and would just stay like that all night. It got to the point where I almost felt like a sex toy for him because I couldn't be near him without being manhandled.
Well, right now I'm dealing with some bad ulcers (even have surgery scheduled for it) and he knows this. He knows that I'm in pain, on medication and am exhausted between that and my final exams. Yet, we go to bed and once again he just cannot help himself and is not letting me fall asleep because he won't just let me lay and relax. This went on for almost an hour when I got out of bed and came on my computer, watching TV. He came in about a half hour later and asked me to come back to bed and that he was sorry he "couldn't help it."
So I did and when we got there he said, "Look. I think you just let me play with your boobs for five minutes and then we can go to sleep." So I left again and here I am almost in tears. I am EXHAUSTED and desperately want to sleep but instead, it's almost 2am and I'm wide awake because he refuses to allow me to doze off without being fondled.
This is my first time dealing with this at this extreme. I understand that men get really touchy-feely with the woman in his bed. I get that and don't take issue with that so much. But in this situation, it's continuing after I explicitly told him that I'm in pain and tired and want to be left alone...just for tonight at least PLEASE and he's practically making me barter the privilege of sleeping comfortably for his own petty desires.
Sorry this is so long but my question is...does this sound normal to other people and I'm just being a prude or would you be upset as well? Like I said, I've had other relationships and this hasn't been an issue so I don't think I'm being naive, but maybe I'm wrong? If your dh or so wants sex do you feel obligated even if you are genuinely not feeling well?
A couple weeks ago I started dating an ex BF of mine from about a year and a half ago. He's a decent person generally speaking and there were things about him that I missed after we broke up. I am now being reminded of one of the few issues we had.
He has a massive sense of entitlement to my body and refuses to respect boundaries. This was always the case. It was literally like he couldn't fall asleep without groping me (mainly my boobs) and would just stay like that all night. It got to the point where I almost felt like a sex toy for him because I couldn't be near him without being manhandled.
Well, right now I'm dealing with some bad ulcers (even have surgery scheduled for it) and he knows this. He knows that I'm in pain, on medication and am exhausted between that and my final exams. Yet, we go to bed and once again he just cannot help himself and is not letting me fall asleep because he won't just let me lay and relax. This went on for almost an hour when I got out of bed and came on my computer, watching TV. He came in about a half hour later and asked me to come back to bed and that he was sorry he "couldn't help it."
So I did and when we got there he said, "Look. I think you just let me play with your boobs for five minutes and then we can go to sleep." So I left again and here I am almost in tears. I am EXHAUSTED and desperately want to sleep but instead, it's almost 2am and I'm wide awake because he refuses to allow me to doze off without being fondled.
This is my first time dealing with this at this extreme. I understand that men get really touchy-feely with the woman in his bed. I get that and don't take issue with that so much. But in this situation, it's continuing after I explicitly told him that I'm in pain and tired and want to be left alone...just for tonight at least PLEASE and he's practically making me barter the privilege of sleeping comfortably for his own petty desires.
Sorry this is so long but my question is...does this sound normal to other people and I'm just being a prude or would you be upset as well? Like I said, I've had other relationships and this hasn't been an issue so I don't think I'm being naive, but maybe I'm wrong? If your dh or so wants sex do you feel obligated even if you are genuinely not feeling well?
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