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A piece of a man is better than no man...
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Almaz
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Sometimes people don't have to say a thing it is their ACTIONS that speak louder than words.
I know a woman that dealt with a married man for 20 years they finally got together and she found out he lied about a lot of things
He was much older than he told her
He had more children than he told her
He had LESS MONEY than he told her
HE did NOT own the property as she thought he did
He got sick died and left her with nothing
She wasted all those years and her fertility on a piece of SCHMAN
I know a woman that dealt with a married man for 20 years they finally got together and she found out he lied about a lot of things
He was much older than he told her
He had more children than he told her
He had LESS MONEY than he told her
HE did NOT own the property as she thought he did
He got sick died and left her with nothing
She wasted all those years and her fertility on a piece of SCHMAN
But she LOVEDED him.
Lynnerie
Well-Known Member
Betty Wright sang about it in "After the Pain." See bolded section...
YouTube - Betty Wright - After The Pain
Well, I couldn't resist the urge to tell you the end of my story
For all those who wanted to know was there life after the pain
After the pain
You come and love me
And I welcome you
You're a glad sight to see
And after the rain
And all that I have been through
I still can't explain
How I can still love you like I do
But I do, yes, I do
Still love you like I do [After the pain]
Though you still do me like you do [After the pain]
After the pain
We sit and we talk awhile
And I fight with all my might
To hold back the tears from falling with a pleasant smile
And after the rain
I can't believe you got the nerve to still call me, baby
And I try to tell you, "No, it ain't so"
But I guess "No" just ain't in me
'Cause boy, I still love you like I do [After the pain]
Though you still do me like you do [After the pain]
Yeah, I know you're laughin'
Those of you who heard "Pain"
Yeah, you're right, I sure did
I said I'd never take him back again
Well, it's a woman's prerogative to change her mind isn't it?
But we do it all the time
Don't laugh, you probably done the same thing too
It's just that you know me and I don't know you
You know one thing, time has taught me that
Havin' a piece of man is better than havin' no man at all
So I'mma just take what I got and work with it
You understand what I mean
And don't you remember thinkin' back just a few years
When people used to try to help you stay together
They find out you're on the verge of breakin' up
They used to cook up a little food and throw a little party
And whisper things in your ear like
"Don't blame Mr. Charlie, Mr. Charlie is just a man
And he's doing the best he can"
I heard 'em say, "Don't blame Mr. Charlie, Mr. Charlie is just a man
And he's doing the best he can"
erplexed
That's why I still love you like I do [After the pain]
Though you still do me like you do [After the pain, the pain]
YouTube - Betty Wright - After The Pain
Well, I couldn't resist the urge to tell you the end of my story
For all those who wanted to know was there life after the pain
After the pain
You come and love me
And I welcome you
You're a glad sight to see
And after the rain
And all that I have been through
I still can't explain
How I can still love you like I do
But I do, yes, I do
Still love you like I do [After the pain]
Though you still do me like you do [After the pain]
After the pain
We sit and we talk awhile
And I fight with all my might
To hold back the tears from falling with a pleasant smile
And after the rain
I can't believe you got the nerve to still call me, baby
And I try to tell you, "No, it ain't so"
But I guess "No" just ain't in me
'Cause boy, I still love you like I do [After the pain]
Though you still do me like you do [After the pain]
Yeah, I know you're laughin'
Those of you who heard "Pain"
Yeah, you're right, I sure did
I said I'd never take him back again
Well, it's a woman's prerogative to change her mind isn't it?
But we do it all the time
Don't laugh, you probably done the same thing too
It's just that you know me and I don't know you
You know one thing, time has taught me that
Havin' a piece of man is better than havin' no man at all
So I'mma just take what I got and work with it
You understand what I mean
And don't you remember thinkin' back just a few yearsWhen people used to try to help you stay together
They find out you're on the verge of breakin' up
They used to cook up a little food and throw a little party
And whisper things in your ear like
"Don't blame Mr. Charlie, Mr. Charlie is just a man
And he's doing the best he can"
I heard 'em say, "Don't blame Mr. Charlie, Mr. Charlie is just a man
And he's doing the best he can"
erplexedThat's why I still love you like I do [After the pain]
Though you still do me like you do [After the pain, the pain]
hopeful
Well-Known Member
Unfortunately, most women don't even get the "piece" they want. My mom always said she wanted the piece that went to work and brought his check home. She never even got that. Most people never get every single thing they want, that is why it is best to go for the absolute best. We all have shortcomings, but when you start out only wanting a piece you often only get a piece of a piece, like a quarter of a man, then you gonna have to do 3/4 of the work, be frustrated, and be disappointed. I don't know how women do it . I have a fully developed, mature, responsible, loving husband and there are still days I just want to pull my hair out. My point is even the best will work your last nerve. Most would be better off alone than settling on any old thing. They often don't realize until it's too late that they would have had a much happier and productive life if they had left that little piece of nothing alone. The problem is the piece usually subtracts from instead of adding to a woman's peace, happiness, and productivity.
. I have a fully developed, mature, responsible, loving husband and there are still days I just want to pull my hair out. My point is even the best will work your last nerve. Most would be better off alone than settling on any old thing. They often don't realize until it's too late that they would have had a much happier and productive life if they had left that little piece of nothing alone. The problem is the piece usually subtracts from instead of adding to a woman's peace, happiness, and productivity.
deltadreamland
Well-Known Member
My best friend is like this-well three of them. Makes me feel some kind of way when they say it too. They are sooo desperate to have a man/husband... "shakes my head" They're always checking with me to see what my boyfriend and I are doing/how we are doing in our relationship and are soo shocked when I'm not spending every waking moment with him-just foolishness. I just don't get them....
MissMasala5
New Member
A piece?? A piece??? It's ALL or NOTHING.
Now since folk have done got all musical up in here, here's my contribution to the "piece of a man" musical interludes:
Go Away Little Boy by Marlena Shaw
Go Away Little Boy La la la la la la la la da da da di da
How can I express to you the joy I felt,
when I realized that I had found the perfect man for me?
A man who could, make me feel
all the things I felt a woman should feel.
I said darling, I want to be the perfect woman for you,
Got myself a three year subscription to essence magazine;
Read it from cover to cover; you know I wanted to be perfect for him.
Said black is beautiful just keep getting up together we can make it.
it's gonna be alright.
Forget about what society says, is, or isn't,
or what can or cannot be, keep gettin up.
He quit his job, came home one day with fourteen mirrors.
Some afro sheen, some afro clean,
some afro fluid, some afro do it to it,
come on and sit it up in the room and look at the black beautiful.
Check out the boy, mothers love, mothers love.
I said, well my darling, I hate to get in your business,
you know what I mean, but, I mean, what about a job,
I mean what about the gas, and the electricity,
And, and, and, not that I am equating,
a job with your man hood, you understand
But, I mean, you did have a choice in this.
He said I got to get myself together;
I'm tired of working for somebody else,
I maybe take out a small business man’s loan and open up a head shop.
I said but that's not bringing no money in,
he said you working ain't you? Get off my back!
I don't know, see I wasn't raised like that ya'll,
I figure if I got to get up and go to work everyday then,
Every able body in the household supposed to get up and go,
at least looking. I know it ain't easy out there, but,
I said if for some reason you feel that you
can no longer be the man that I thought you were
at the beginning of our relationship,
I got this one thing to lay on you my sweet!
[Chorus:]
Go Away Little Boy,
Why don't you just go away little boy,
You see, I am not supposed to sit up here alone in the dark
With some mirrors and no money and no food
I know, I understand and recognize the fact that your lips are,
ooh so sweet, ow!
It don't look like our lips shine,
ain't gone never have another chance to be,
I think I can find myself another man.
And I know what to do if I got somebody who can be true.
So why don't you
run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, away little boy,
Let the door knob hit you
where the dog should of bit you little boy.
Cause your hurting me more, every minute that you delay.
Hey! Cause when your near me like this, woe baby,
you're getting kind of hard for me to understand so my man,
Just go on away, just go on away,
just go on away little boy,
Before, I do something rash.
Oh, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, little boy.
Find yourself another set of apron strings little boy.
Cause your hurting me more every minute that you delay.
When you're near me, when your near me, when your near me,
when your near me, when your near me, when your near me,
when you walk close uptight like this,
you're getting just a little bit too hard for me to resist;
So why don't you go on away little boy before I, before I…
Why don't you just leave me alone,
you know what I mean?
Go ahead, take your things with you.
Your albums, your playboy magazines,
just go on and get out my life!
Now don't stand so close
when you're trying to get that last goodbye kiss,
I know your moves now. don't do me like this!
don't, don't kiss my eyelids like that, and,
Please don't suck my ear lobes like that and,
don't no baby, don't, don't!
Well look, you think you can get a job by Thursday? You promise?
Now you ain't gone fool me this time?
Then you might as well stay, stay, might as well stay!
don't go away!
You can be my man one more time but this time I'm gone try harder too!
This time I'm gonna be sweeter!
Now since folk have done got all musical up in here, here's my contribution to the "piece of a man" musical interludes:
Go Away Little Boy by Marlena Shaw
Go Away Little Boy La la la la la la la la da da da di da
How can I express to you the joy I felt,
when I realized that I had found the perfect man for me?
A man who could, make me feel
all the things I felt a woman should feel.
I said darling, I want to be the perfect woman for you,
Got myself a three year subscription to essence magazine;
Read it from cover to cover; you know I wanted to be perfect for him.
Said black is beautiful just keep getting up together we can make it.
it's gonna be alright.
Forget about what society says, is, or isn't,
or what can or cannot be, keep gettin up.
He quit his job, came home one day with fourteen mirrors.
Some afro sheen, some afro clean,
some afro fluid, some afro do it to it,
come on and sit it up in the room and look at the black beautiful.
Check out the boy, mothers love, mothers love.
I said, well my darling, I hate to get in your business,
you know what I mean, but, I mean, what about a job,
I mean what about the gas, and the electricity,
And, and, and, not that I am equating,
a job with your man hood, you understand
But, I mean, you did have a choice in this.
He said I got to get myself together;
I'm tired of working for somebody else,
I maybe take out a small business man’s loan and open up a head shop.
I said but that's not bringing no money in,
he said you working ain't you? Get off my back!
I don't know, see I wasn't raised like that ya'll,
I figure if I got to get up and go to work everyday then,
Every able body in the household supposed to get up and go,
at least looking. I know it ain't easy out there, but,
I said if for some reason you feel that you
can no longer be the man that I thought you were
at the beginning of our relationship,
I got this one thing to lay on you my sweet!
[Chorus:]
Go Away Little Boy,
Why don't you just go away little boy,
You see, I am not supposed to sit up here alone in the dark
With some mirrors and no money and no food
I know, I understand and recognize the fact that your lips are,
ooh so sweet, ow!
It don't look like our lips shine,
ain't gone never have another chance to be,
I think I can find myself another man.
And I know what to do if I got somebody who can be true.
So why don't you
run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, away little boy,
Let the door knob hit you
where the dog should of bit you little boy.
Cause your hurting me more, every minute that you delay.
Hey! Cause when your near me like this, woe baby,
you're getting kind of hard for me to understand so my man,
Just go on away, just go on away,
just go on away little boy,
Before, I do something rash.
Oh, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, little boy.
Find yourself another set of apron strings little boy.
Cause your hurting me more every minute that you delay.
When you're near me, when your near me, when your near me,
when your near me, when your near me, when your near me,
when you walk close uptight like this,
you're getting just a little bit too hard for me to resist;
So why don't you go on away little boy before I, before I…
Why don't you just leave me alone,
you know what I mean?
Go ahead, take your things with you.
Your albums, your playboy magazines,
just go on and get out my life!
Now don't stand so close
when you're trying to get that last goodbye kiss,
I know your moves now. don't do me like this!
don't, don't kiss my eyelids like that, and,
Please don't suck my ear lobes like that and,
don't no baby, don't, don't!
Well look, you think you can get a job by Thursday? You promise?
Now you ain't gone fool me this time?
Then you might as well stay, stay, might as well stay!
don't go away!
You can be my man one more time but this time I'm gone try harder too!
This time I'm gonna be sweeter!
Almaz
New Member
She really did not care about him from what it sounds.
She seems to be looking for the money and free child care. IN this case I am not too mad at her.
Child care payments are a ****. I think she knew this relationship was going the way of the buffalo so she milked it while she could.
She seems to be looking for the money and free child care. IN this case I am not too mad at her.
Child care payments are a ****. I think she knew this relationship was going the way of the buffalo so she milked it while she could.
MissMasala5
New Member
I recently asked a woman I know who was married for 35 years what was the thing that she felt kept things together for so long? Her response made my jaw drop. Basically, she said she let him be himself, that he was a huge flirt and ladies' man when she met him, and knew that in order to be with him she couldn't try to change him, so she let him have his freedom. I honestly felt so many things listening to her story. She had just buried him, so I couldn't speak freely or ask burning questions. But the story just left me feeling so many different things, mainly about her, I'll admit. So much for marital tips only from the married.
winterinatl
All natural!
Wow. Did you get the impression from her he actually had affairs?
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MissMasala5
New Member
Yes. And to that, she said that as long as he kept it away from her, out of sight, out of mind. She loved him, flaws, faults, weaknesses and all. She did say that as long as he told her when he'd be home, no problem. No questions asked, just let her know when to expect him home. I just can't imagine her being totally, completely okay with sharing him. But I will say this, when I was in their presence, their love for one another was pretty obvious. Palpable, even. Which makes her story all the more difficult. He treated her like she was the only person on the planet--did all of the others get that, too?
LifeafterLHCF
New Member
I use to think this way until the last five years.Desiring to be acknowledged by a man in the past had me doing things I'm not too proud of.To some of you blessed ones wouldn't understand.But now I understand its better to be alone so that your not seen as a fool and to have some type of dignity in life.
Seeing my clients daily also reinforce this.These are your welfare baby momma's with 4 kids at age 22..seeing these ladies push me to know I'm worth more than I believe.
Seeing my clients daily also reinforce this.These are your welfare baby momma's with 4 kids at age 22..seeing these ladies push me to know I'm worth more than I believe.
MrsMe
Well-Known Member
I know a couple of women who live by that "ideology"."I'm married or I'm dating and I'd rather be with than alone". If my eyes could roll to the floor whenever they say that, they would have traveled around the world.
I don't understand this idea. When a woman starts with that nonsense talk, I just change the topic.
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I don't understand this idea. When a woman starts with that nonsense talk, I just change the topic.
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lesedi
All is well with me
To be honest, I'd say the vast majority of women think that way. It always cracks me up when (im newly single) i get looks of pity from women when the both of us know about their SO's numerous baby mamas;scandals and other women. Pity from the pitiful is just insulting. It's sad that they feel that they have one up on me because they have a 'man'.
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