Supergirl
With Love & Silk
Good Morning Hair Buddies,
I have had a revelation this morning and I believe I have figured out the true cause of my ends becoming so thin. I have noticed that in the last year and a half or so, I have had to do 3 major trims. By major I mean 2 or more inches at a time. I knew that I was taking good care of my hair so I didn't understand what the problem could be.
I thought maybe I'd reached my "terminal" length and so the ends would just thin out to prevent more length. I don't know. My stylist, whom I just love as a person, has a limited role in my haircare. She does my relaxer touch-ups only. Over a year ago, I stopped allowing her to style my hair and would just have her send me home w/ conditioner in my hair. Why? Because she combed the wet hair too roughly even after I gave her tips on how to keep my hair from getting tangled in the first place and even after I asked her to comb gently. With the winter season, I allowed her to detangle and place me under the dryer for a while so I wouldn't leave with wet hair.
Some of you saw my thread about the 4 inch trim I did last week. (self-trim) I feel I didn't have any choice in the matter. I have been more upset about the why than the actual what. I have speculated and this morning it hit me. It's her rough combing of my wet hair. This last time when she was detangling my hair, I could hear the comb. I spoke up and said "that sounds like a 'skinny' comb." She said that it was a wide tooth. She told me that my hair gets so tangled in the bowl. (but I've told her how to prevent that prior to now )
This morning when this hit me, I thought about how my ends even at 18 weeks post-relaxer looked pretty good before I went into the salon. I wouldn't think that hair could be damaged in a matter of seconds but now I know that it can happen.
So the advice I need this morning: I have a 2 year relationship with this stylist. She goes to my church as well. Should I try communicating with her about this or just leave without talking?
I have had a revelation this morning and I believe I have figured out the true cause of my ends becoming so thin. I have noticed that in the last year and a half or so, I have had to do 3 major trims. By major I mean 2 or more inches at a time. I knew that I was taking good care of my hair so I didn't understand what the problem could be.
I thought maybe I'd reached my "terminal" length and so the ends would just thin out to prevent more length. I don't know. My stylist, whom I just love as a person, has a limited role in my haircare. She does my relaxer touch-ups only. Over a year ago, I stopped allowing her to style my hair and would just have her send me home w/ conditioner in my hair. Why? Because she combed the wet hair too roughly even after I gave her tips on how to keep my hair from getting tangled in the first place and even after I asked her to comb gently. With the winter season, I allowed her to detangle and place me under the dryer for a while so I wouldn't leave with wet hair.
Some of you saw my thread about the 4 inch trim I did last week. (self-trim) I feel I didn't have any choice in the matter. I have been more upset about the why than the actual what. I have speculated and this morning it hit me. It's her rough combing of my wet hair. This last time when she was detangling my hair, I could hear the comb. I spoke up and said "that sounds like a 'skinny' comb." She said that it was a wide tooth. She told me that my hair gets so tangled in the bowl. (but I've told her how to prevent that prior to now )
This morning when this hit me, I thought about how my ends even at 18 weeks post-relaxer looked pretty good before I went into the salon. I wouldn't think that hair could be damaged in a matter of seconds but now I know that it can happen.
So the advice I need this morning: I have a 2 year relationship with this stylist. She goes to my church as well. Should I try communicating with her about this or just leave without talking?
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