My mother who thinks washing my hair too much washes out the relaxer and that is one of the reason why in the past I couldn't retain hair length. I would correct her but she doesn't believe.
Thanks LHCF for throwing out that misconception. Plus if it did So What, I want a clean scalp and head of hair!
Hilarious! grease was the "moisturizer" of choice back in the day. Lol. And still is to some obviously. SMH...I'm still trying to convert my sister. Anything that smells good to her just has to be great for the hair. Oh well.
Both of you are very smart. When I started on my healthy hair care journey I was acting like I had just got religion. I was telling everyone what they need to do......well pretty soon I realized you have to let your HAIR do the talking....
Hey now, ain't nothing wrong with some grease.
My sister and your sister must be BFFs or something because that's exactly how she judges products-by their fragrance.
That is toooo funny, and it's so true.
Now, two separate conversations with my roommate...
Convo #1:
Roomie: Well, I put the relaxer all the way through the ends of my hair.
Me: Why? Your hair is already processed. Overprocessing hair leads to breakage.
Roomie: But it makes your hair straighter if you do it every time you perm your hair.
Me: "..."
Convo #2:
Roomie: *puts leftover relaxer in the fridge*
Me: What are you doing?
Roomie: I'm putting this stuff up so I can use it next time I perm.
Me: Well, why don't you just mix what you need instead of using the entire box?
Roomie: *looks at me like I'm stupid*
I quit after that one.
I was told that we can't leave conditioner on my hair for longer than what the bottle says, because conditioners have alkaline and if it sits too long it will start to break our hair down.
..I simply said "no it doesn't" and went to sleep with my conditioner in. Then she said, "well you can do that cause you're natural and your hair is strong. You can't do that with a relaxer."
Offered to show pics of the long-haired relaxed ladies here...she said the pics were probably fake.
I quit after that.
I don't think people really believe that it is PERMANENT. Actually, I don't think I really believed that until I started transitioning. And when I tried to explain to two co-workers why I have two textures they looked at me like I was crazy and said, "But relaxers don't last that long."
This is actually true of some conditioners, or I should say ingredients. They tend to act corrosive if you leave them on for longer than you should and they can break your hair. Never new this till my friend whom majored in chemistry and has her own haircare line told me when we were chatting one day.
this sounds so 1845 on massa's porch. So embarrassing.Great thread! I have had ppl tell me I wash my hair like a "white girl", and "white" products don't work on black hair.
I heard a convo in the bbs that went like this:
lady 1: black people are ONLY supposed to wash there hair ONCE a month
lady 2: That's Nasty! I wash mine TWICE a month!
then they went on to talk about hair grease...
lady 1: Blue Magic is the best grease for growing hair. I been using it for years!
lady 2: I'm gon start using it.
lady 1: I grease my head very week!
the curious side of me just had to see what their hair looked like, so I walked to the side of the store they were in and lady 1's hair was at the top of her ear, badly damaged, broken, no edges and just a hot mess. lady 2's hair was NL but badly broken, see-thru and scraggly ends.
All I could do was smdh ... the blind leading the blind...
I have heard, more times than I can count, that my hair will grow faster if I cut it as if there is some trigger at the end of the hair that tells the roots to sprout hair faster?
Now that just makes NO SENSE at all but so many people say it that I guess others just believe it and spread the nonsense around?
I always wonder why people use the words "relaxer" and "perm" interchangeably as if it were the same thing...:scratchch
Are you serious?The fight starts when I mention drinking water ... my cousins and mother have to force themselves to drink water because it tastes BAD
this sounds so 1845 on massa's porch. So embarrassing.
Both of you are very smart. When I started on my healthy hair care journey I was acting like I had just got religion. I was telling everyone what they need to do......well pretty soon I realized you have to let your HAIR do the talking....
LOL, thx for sharing OP. That really takes me back to where I used be in the past. LOL. Thank God for this site right, lol.
So ladies, I'm sure we ALL have had a conversation like the one I had with a group of my friends the other day......................................
What off the wall hair care practices or comments have you heard in conversation and how did you respond??
IMO people can do what they want with their hair what gets me mad is when people try to tell ME what to do with my hair (people with chewed up EL/NL hair at that). The other day my mum kept telling me my hair wasn't "relaxed enough" (it's not bonelaxed and I love it!!!). Then I was told by my sister if I don't weave I'm going to have to flat iron every day and relax every month to maintain my own hair...
Do what you want with yours but if you don't know what you're talking about please don't tell me what to do with mine!
Just as I thought that I was the only one that's experienced crazy conversations about hair, this thread shows up!
All I could do was turn to her (who by the way has ear length hair) and say,”Wow that’s….that’s an interesting theory. Uhm….listen, have you heard of a site called LHCF?”
Wooooooooowwwwwww! Bless her heart!!!!
I'm curious. What area of the medical field does she work in? please don't say dermatology!Just as I thought that I was the only one that's experienced crazy conversations about hair, this thread shows up!
What happened to you reminds me of what happened when my daughter and I went to the hairdresser a few months ago. I’m sitting in the visitor’s chair eyeing my stylist to make sure that she only trims my daughter’s hair (because lately she’s taken to cutting instead of trimming) when her other client noticed what I was doing. Apparently she felt that I cautioned my hairdresser one too many times about cutting my child’s hair because the woman (who introduced herself previously as someone in the medical field) felt the need to tell me about the benefits of cutting hair.
First she starts off with,” Oh you really shouldn't worry about your daughter's hair being cut. You see, what most people don't know is that most of our body is controlled by hormones and hormones deliver messages to our bodies through the use of receptors….”
As she launches into her explanation, my hairstylist, who is now prepping my child’s hair for a rollerset, starts to nod vigorously.
But then she continues ,” so it’s really good when your hair is cut because whenever it's cut the receptors in your hair sends messages to your hormones letting them know that your hair has been cut and that jumpstarts your hormones to start growing new hair. So when you cut your hair, that’s the signal to your body to tell it to start growing again!”
When she said this - Noooo joke – I paused to wait for her to break into a smile or something that said that she was kidding! That's when I realizes that she. was.serious!! She was sitting there looking at me with the most serious look on her face as if she’d just dropped some valuable knowledge on me! Meanwhile, I wanted to tell her that hair can’t have active receptors in it because hair is already dead (not to mention that even if it were alive, cutting inches of hair would still take away from the inches of new growth), but I just couldn’t!!! I was too busy trying to hold it together as I looked at the looks on both my daughter and my hairstylist’s faces!
When my hairstylist heard this she stopped nodding and started becoming extra busy roller setting my child’s hair. Meanwhile my daughter turned away from the mirror so that she couldn’t see me and burst into laughter! I was left all alone to respond to this woman!!!
All I could do was turn to her (who by the way has ear length hair) and say,”Wow that’s….that’s an interesting theory. Uhm….listen, have you heard of a site called LHCF?”
Wooooooooowwwwwww! Bless her heart!!!!
I'm 32 and just recently learned that you can't wash out a relaxer b/c it's permanent. I use to think washing your hair made you need to relax sooner. LHCF taught me otherwise.Friend 1: 5 wks...
Me: WHAT?! And u already about to perm again....I'm 10 wks post...
Friend 2: Oooo girl, how u do that...anything past 5 to 6 wks and it's breakage everywhere...
Friend 1: It's almost time for me to wash my hair...I wash about every 3 days...
Me: Me too...I can't go longer than that
Friend 2: Well that's the reason why you need a perm so often...you WASHING the perm out!!
Me:erplexed I mention that you can't WASH out a perm, it's permanent?