Britt
Well-Known Member
Is there a certain type that you naturally gravitate towards? Have you ever dated outside your type and it did / did not work out? By type, I mean physically and personality wise. Ex, the way they dress, certain key personality traits that you are driven towards naturally.
I ask this b/c I know myself, and since I was young (like pre teen/elementary) young, I'm innately drawn to a certain 'type' and for the most part it has not changed... even in my adult years. There are several key characteristics that will make me really drawn to a person or not. For example, funny... I'm drawn to comedic men, whether they are a character naturally, or they are a funny person. I also like men who are go getters, very protective, masculine, a bit rough around the edges (can hold their own), or people just kinda gravitate towards them. Even if they aren't 'rough around the edges' they have to be the other things said above. There's more to it, but I just find it amazing that even at 28 I am still drawn to this. FYI - I'm not talking about a dope boy or street hustla ... been there, done that already. I like men who can take charge and lead the way.
Even when I look at men outside my race or different SES brackets, there's a certain 'it' that I find myself attracted to. So it's def not just a 'black' thing... though, that is my preference.
This summer, I read this book, and it really does explain and break down our biological personality types and what we are naturally drawn towards. A very bright went off in my head when I read it. The book really was an eye opener. It even helped me to put friendships into perspective. Even though my ex was my type physically speaking, as time went on, I realized that he wasn't on the inside. There were some key things that just would not work for me. But that's just who he was, and this is not to bash him, it truly was a character trait that you either accept or you don't. I ask this b/c even though when we look for our mate, we have a reasonable and rational list of all that we want, but someone could have all of those things on your list, or damn near close and you're still not attracted to them.
Compatibility can be quite complex erplexed
I ask this b/c I know myself, and since I was young (like pre teen/elementary) young, I'm innately drawn to a certain 'type' and for the most part it has not changed... even in my adult years. There are several key characteristics that will make me really drawn to a person or not. For example, funny... I'm drawn to comedic men, whether they are a character naturally, or they are a funny person. I also like men who are go getters, very protective, masculine, a bit rough around the edges (can hold their own), or people just kinda gravitate towards them. Even if they aren't 'rough around the edges' they have to be the other things said above. There's more to it, but I just find it amazing that even at 28 I am still drawn to this. FYI - I'm not talking about a dope boy or street hustla ... been there, done that already. I like men who can take charge and lead the way.
Even when I look at men outside my race or different SES brackets, there's a certain 'it' that I find myself attracted to. So it's def not just a 'black' thing... though, that is my preference.
This summer, I read this book, and it really does explain and break down our biological personality types and what we are naturally drawn towards. A very bright went off in my head when I read it. The book really was an eye opener. It even helped me to put friendships into perspective. Even though my ex was my type physically speaking, as time went on, I realized that he wasn't on the inside. There were some key things that just would not work for me. But that's just who he was, and this is not to bash him, it truly was a character trait that you either accept or you don't. I ask this b/c even though when we look for our mate, we have a reasonable and rational list of all that we want, but someone could have all of those things on your list, or damn near close and you're still not attracted to them.
Compatibility can be quite complex erplexed