It took my a long time to figure out what to type in there, couldnt come up with a good descriptor. And of course I would expect a 4b and a 3b to necessarily get complimented using the exact same words. But why not get complimented for the same qualities? A person has waves because she has curlier hair. Complimenting the waves in complimenting the texture. When you pull naps/kinks into a puff you get stretched dullness. Are 4b puffs not as pretty because they lack waves and shine? Is there still something there worth complimenting? What I was trying to get at (and apparently failed) was that 4bs are not complimented for the texture of their hair to the same degrees.
SOS, my questions are rhetorical and not directed at you
I will answer for myself. I love neat hair. I don't care for hair that doesn't look groomed. I don't think I've ever been obsessed with waves or pointed them out to someone while giving them a compliment about their hair, but I might've called a bun "ballerina neat" because tidiness just appeals to me.
I will point out shine, but I will not point out dullness because it's just silly, to me, to do so. My hair is dull and it doesn't bother me one bit. I have never even thought to apply anything to add sheen to it. In fact, I think if I did apply anything like that, it'd look as if I had snail slime on it and maybe stiff like a helmet. But as much as I don't mind my dullness, I have never heard "dullness" used a as a compliment in any context whatsoever so I'd not point it out on someone's head. Not when there's so much more I can say about a style I appreciate that is complimentary.
Now I see a lot of people wearing styles that make no sense to me, nor appeal to me at all. That some people actually thought
the mess a stylist did on my head was cute, when I honestly think it looked as ugly as poop, kinda give you an idea of how different my taste of what's nice is from that of others. I know "making coils pop" is a big deal, but I tend to only appreciate seeing it on hair that is long enough for the look to be "orderly" and neat. Hair looking as if someone just woke up and didn't comb her hair is not cute to me, so I tend to keep my comments to myself. WNGs on a very TWA, regardless of type, tend to look scalpy and remind me of hair that has not been combed. The sort of hair you'd see on people who haven't comb their hair like
these street children. However, I LOVED how
Solange's hair looked. She's probably 4A or 3C/4A...but her hair is so pretty to me! I think the difference is she looks like she ran a brush through it, so while there's no mistaking the coils in it, there's also no question about whether she groomed it. Curly hair separates into coils if short and leaving it that way just isn't cute to me. Like I loathed JayZ's hair
here. It's not like it's impossible to groom it coz he did it
here. Otherwise, he could just
keep it short like we do back home when we can't be bothered to comb our hair...and don't want to be mistaken for crazy. :crazy:
Also I am a huge fan of Bernie Mac afros. I even love attempts at them that don't really form a perfect circle. But when it looks like someone undid braids and just pulled at the hair or just didn't even bother doing a thing...
erplexed Eg: I love the puff of the first girl on
this page...but her other do, me-no-likey.
Looks like she forgot her comb and after undoing her hair just pulled at her hair in different parts. I like all the other looks on that page, but not so much the dude's locs. I like neat locs. And I like uniform twist-outs or braid-outs that have some type of order and that have the same wave throughout. I think the best way to put it is I like a hairstyle not to betray how it was created eg, no big gaping spaces that tells me you just undid braids and didn't comb. I think that's kinda why I hate how a Curlformer set on my natural hair cannot be separated out of the "tube look"
. It reminds me of taking out rollers and walking around with gaps in your head letting everyone know you wore rollers last night.
An example of a natural type 4 head whose hairstyles I have loved from the beginning is Mandy4610
Even her cornrow out Pic#8 in the January '09- March '09 album is so uniform and thus so pretty to me. I think in her albums there are only about 5 or so hairstyles I didn't really like but otherwise, she
sho knows how to work type 4 hair in ways that make me smile.
Texture has never been a determiner for me of what hair looks good, so I give praise where I see it is deserved according to what I like and I do it sincerely without any bias. Plus some styles are I think an "acquired taste" coz very rarely do I find finger coils cute. Now if they look like a straw set and all uniform and orderly, I love love love. But that mess that stylist did on my hair, ermm... :no comment: If hair looks soft, I will compliment that because I do love soft hair. I keep singing praises of my mom's hair after S Curl coz it truly was as soft as it looks.
... just what I have observed 
Aren't those just ponytails/ pulled back hair? I'm confused. Why does it bother you for a type-3 to get a compliment? 
I'm sorry Ms. FuzzyFantabulous (that's what I've named my hair) but I have to be honest. 
. I have a 5-step nightly skin regimen and it's not because I hate myself 
