2013 Relaxed Hair Buddy Thread

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divachyk said:
Nix08, Cherry89, baddison, Luprisi DominicanBrazilian82

First off - happy anniversary Nix08!!! :blowkiss:

My hair is annoying me. It's big, fluffy & dry. I used WEN fig and it made my hair feel delightful, at first. My new growth softened and my hair felt phenomenal. After it dried, the hair remained soft but it got big, fluffy and uncontrollable. The weird thing is, it's soft but dry. I compare it to getting a roller set -- you know how sometimes the hair comes out soft but it's a bit dry and you get tiny little breaks when you comb it. That's kinda what my hair feels like now - soft but dry and it looks dull. I washed with WEN and followed up with a quick conditioning session of AO HSR while showering. Perhaps I need a full out DCing session post-WEN. I might have to cowash tonight. REALLY don't want to but I need hydration. I baggyed last night but that didn't do it.
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divachyk - yeah, i think you really need some moisture. its gets like that for me too, when I'm this deep into a stretch. Not sure why the baggying didn't work, tho. That's usually the "be all-end all" solution for me. I get my dry thirsty roots back to normal in one nite!... what did you baggy with? I use my spritz of S-Curl/Jojoba oil mixture.
 
KhandiB I will be 5 weeks post on Saturday and my new growth is already starting to pop. It's this summer heat I tell you! I'm doing well though. I clarified for the first time 2 weeks ago and I can really tell the difference it made on my hair. My hair is getting back its sheen! It was really dull for a minute there.
 
Loving said:
KhandiB I will be 5 weeks post on Saturday and my new growth is already starting to pop. It's this summer heat I tell you! I'm doing well though. I clarified for the first time 2 weeks ago and I can really tell the difference it made on my hair. My hair is getting back its sheen! It was really dull for a minute there.
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Are you usually a slow grower?Loving I just turned 4 weeks today and I almost panicked because my hair last week felt so straight and I'm like "how the heck i don't have new growth, omg my hair stopped growing!" And I washed my hair and did my normal weekly duties and low and behold i fee the bulk, it's like it appeared out of nowhere. I think me doing for flexi rods and air drying in a scarf flattens my new growths very well! When you do a long stretch, any amount of new growth seems tameable lol
 
Lilmama1011 I'm an average grower. But every other T/U cycle I get a growth spurt.

I would love to do a flexi rod set but I work out 4 times per week and I'm sure the set would not last past Monday morning.
 
Loving - thats great!! I clarify every other week because I use a lot of cones and use serum and hair grease at times . It does wonders!!

soonergirl - Hey buddy!! When do you plan on relaxing? I was going to this week but decided that my hair can be managed for another couple of weeks ..

I cant stretch without using heat..
 
Hi everyone!

For all of you that workout on a regular basis, do you mind sharing your regimen with me? I want to start working out more regularly and I want to have some ideas on how often you are washing/cowashing your hair. I currently roller set once a week and my hair is at SL so my options for styling are kind of limited. Thanks in advance!

Edited to say that I also cowash once a week but let it air dry.
 
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Loving said:
Lilmama1011 I'm an average grower. But every other T/U cycle I get a growth spurt.

I would love to do a flexi rod set but I work out 4 times per week and I'm sure the set would not last past Monday morning.
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Speaking of flexi rods, I did a whole set, only lasted a day, curls was all smushed, when I do the four flexi rods it looks like a full set and I can lay anyway i want and it still lasts up to 5 days
 
@Luprisi because of the gym I am the ultimate bun queen! That's the only hairstyle I can wear to look decent as I sweat a lot at my edges even though I wear a hairband. I only wash once per week and have no issues with smell or dryness. I just make sure to do a DC on the weekends to give my hair the moisture it needs. On Sundays, I let my hair swang :grin: . On Monday morning, its back in a bun for work as I work out at 5:30 a.m.

You could probably use a donut to make your buns until you get a little more length. I am BSL and I still use a donut for my buns...I take too long without it and I have limited time to get ready for work.
 
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Luprisi said:
Hi everyone!

For all of you that workout on a regular basis, do you mind sharing your regimen with me? I want to start working out more regularly and I want to have some ideas on how often you are washing/cowashing your hair. I currently roller set once a week and my hair is at SL so my options for styling are kind of limited. Thanks in advance!

Edited to say that I also cowash once a week but let it air dry.
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Luprisi- I work out everyday, Monday through Friday, with heavy cardio (and sweat) on Mon. Wed. and Fri. I just do weights on the other days, so not much perspiration. Therefore:

I shampoo on Saturday.........I sweat heavily on Monday and Wednesday....I cowash on Wednesday night........I sweat heavily on Friday.......Shampoo again on Saturday...

Wednesday's cowash takes care of Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday
Saturday's poo takes care of Thursday and Friday

I wear braid outs everyday. Since I work out during my lunch, I have to preserve my hair style. Before I work out I will gather my hair into a high, loose bun and place a cotton head band around the edges (make sure that the ends are not in contact with the scalp). By gathering my hair so high, the sweat will not saturate the ends. The cotton head band absorbs a lot. When I take my bun down, my curls are slightly looser, but still there. I actually like my post workout hair better than my morning do. (I also did this when I wore roller sets. It still worked, just make sure that the ends DO NOT touch the scalp)
 
Loving Mande30

Thanks for your suggestions! I think that I'm doing ok. I just have to have a schedule to arrange my wash days and cowash days along with my workouts. I do gather my hair up but I don't wear a sweat band, I get headaches when I have anything too tight too my head!
 
KhandiB said:
@Loving - thats great!! I clarify every other week because I use a lot of cones and use serum and hair grease at times . It does wonders!!

@soonergirl - Hey buddy!! When do you plan on relaxing? I was going to this week but decided that my hair can be managed for another couple of weeks ..

I cant stretch without using heat..
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Hey ladybug, I am going 20 weeks. And I am gonna go as a long as I can without heat during the stretch.. I went 2 months without heat last stretch and my thickness improved a lot. Hang in there for a few more weeks girl!!
 
KiWiStyle said:
shortdub78 how is the shedding doing?? Did you like the S-Curl??

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KiWiStyle
the shedding is calming down a bit, and so far i like the juice. it smells better and it is not as thick as the original. i washed my hair last night. i applied some this morning, used my cantu leave-in on my strands, and used my SD nourish oil to seal. hair feels pretty soft. i am going to use some scurl again tonight. i bought it for my daughter, but wanted to try it on myself too.

i want to color my hair jet black or blue black so bad, but that stylist of mine made me feel some kind of way about it. i have colored my hair jet black plenty of times. she threw me off when she said it would be too harsh for me. said it wouldn't go well with my eyes? well i am trying to hold out relaxing my hair until the end of the month, so i gotta do something to it. i gotta spice things up. i got date night this weekend, so i am going to have to flat iron the hell out of my hair, so it won't look poofy. if i color my hair, i will do it friday night.
 
shortdub78 said:
KiWiStyle
the shedding is calming down a bit, and so far i like the juice. it smells better and it is not as thick as the original. i washed my hair last night. i applied some this morning, used my cantu leave-in on my strands, and used my SD nourish oil to seal. hair feels pretty soft. i am going to use some scurl again tonight. i bought it for my daughter, but wanted to try it on myself too.

i want to color my hair jet black or blue black so bad, but that stylist of mine made me feel some kind of way about it. i have colored my hair jet black plenty of times. she threw me off when she said it would be too harsh for me. said it wouldn't go well with my eyes? well i am trying to hold out relaxing my hair until the end of the month, so i gotta do something to it. i gotta spice things up. i got date night this weekend, so i am going to have to flat iron the hell out of my hair, so it won't look poofy. if i color my hair, i will do it friday night.
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Yes, I love the smell!! You can do it, just try to keep those roots stretched as much as possible until then and as for the jet black hair, I've never had it or wanted it so I don't know. I do believe your complexion should be considered in any color we choose for our hair.

I'm soo happy the shedding is finally subsiding, now you can concentrate on your growth and thickening things back up. I'm have some serious work to do on my crown and hairline. My crown grows the fastest but it also grows very thin, I can see it in my hemline. The entire center portion of my hairline is a hot mess, PERIOD!! I have not found a solution to date. It seems to be getting worse and worse...I'm starting to think its hereditary because my father and maternal grandmother has it...BIG TIME.

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Hey Buddies xu93texas KiWiStyle shortdub78 yoli184 Altruisticoam EnExitStageLeft soonergirl SunySydeofLyfe
In honor of my HHJ I bought a stand bonnet dryer today...I am so frustrated with my hair right now...I did a nice trim a couple of days ago and flat ironed for the first time in forever and been trying to wear a Bantu knot out and looking like the wicked witch by the end of the day...gonna try roller setting and see if that will keep me rom having the urge to shave my dang head! Mini rant!
 
GrowAHead
Hairroots

Hi buddies - I am 9 days away from my relaxer. I can't wait but my hair is really doing well. Next time I think I will stretch to 16 weeks instead of 13. This weekend is hardcore protein to prepare for the big day. How are you doing? When will you relax?
 
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Hey Buddies xu93texas KiWiStyle shortdub78 yoli184 Altruisticoam EnExitStageLeft soonergirl SunySydeofLyfe
In honor of my HHJ I bought a stand bonnet dryer today...I am so frustrated with my hair right now...I did a nice trim a couple of days ago and flat ironed for the first time in forever and been trying to wear a Bantu knot out and looking like the wicked witch by the end of the day...gonna try roller setting and see if that will keep me rom having the urge to shave my dang head! Mini rant!
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I have never done a bantu knot out on myself either and probably never will. I think it'll turn out scalpy and that's a look I ain't trying to have. Rollersetting almost always get me back from a hair funk, so yes, I say do it!!! Don't shave your dang head!!!

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I've been able to do it successfully once or twice...I never know what it's going to look like when I'm done...this week has been a HAM!

KiWiStyle

I swore up and down that I would never, never fry my eyeballs under a hooded dryer again...see what happens when you swear! Lol...eyes a fryin' right now!
 
KiWiStyle said:
I have never done a bantu knot out on myself either and probably never will. I think it'll turn out scalpy and that's a look I ain't trying to have. Rollersetting almost always get me back from a hair funk, so yes, I say do it!!! Don't shave your dang head!!!

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LOL at scalpy! That is the exact reason I hate them!!! I need to learn to rollerset or get a weave...me and hair are not in a good place right now, I just don't feel like being bothered at all.....shame....
 
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I've been able to do it successfully once or twice...I never know what it's going to look like when I'm done...this week has been a HAM!

KiWiStyle

I swore up and down that I would never, never fry my eyeballs under a hooded dryer again...see what happens when you swear! Lol...eyes a fryin' right now!
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LOL, does hooded dryers really burn your eyes??? That's too funny!!
 
SunySydeofLyfe said:
LOL at scalpy! That is the exact reason I hate them!!! I need to learn to rollerset or get a weave...me and hair are not in a good place right now, I just don't feel like being bothered at all.....shame....
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We all get like that at times, you'll snap out of it eventually. I'm just in a bun, ponytail kinda mood myself...it's whatever to me as long as its cleaned, M&S.
 
Cattypus1 xu93texas Altruisticoam yoli184 shortdub78 EnExitStageLeft soonergirl SunySydeofLyfe

Hey ladies! I did my first post relaxer wash yesterday and it went very well. I didn't pre-poo because it was very impromptu, my dad had an out patient surgery so I decided to come home and shampoo while I waited.

I washed with my Nairobi Pamperlizer (neutralizer) shampoo and followed that with Paul Mitchell Awapuhi wild ginger moisturizing shampoo. I then steam DC for about 30 minutes with my usual mix of:
Nairobi Humecta-Sil
QB Olive & Honey Hydrating Balm
EVOO
Sesame seed oil
ROUX PC conditioner
AVJ.
LORD HAVE MERCY!! I cannot get enough of this power mix! After that I applied kimmytube leave-in conditioner and air dried using the scarf method. My hair felt unbelievable afterwards even without M&S. I am thoroughly texlaxed at my nape and front/middle hairline the rest could use less processing. My air dried pony is much thicker, the diameter feels nice finally!! I just now moisturized and sealed using the LOC method with QB BRBC & my ceramide oil mix...my hair is still full even with product in it!! Because I've been using Roux PC conditioner I am extremely low porosity now so I whole head baggied to be sure the moisture sinks all the way into my strands.

BTW, my chemical burn and scalp is healed for the most part. I don't know if I lost any hair but I'm not going to look to find out. I'm having a good hair moment and I ain't going to ruin it. Thanks again to ALL who offered suggestions :-).

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KiWiStyle said:
Cattypus1 xu93texas Altruisticoam yoli184 shortdub78 EnExitStageLeft soonergirl SunySydeofLyfe

Hey ladies! I did my first post relaxer wash yesterday and it went very well. I didn't pre-poo because it was very impromptu, my dad had an out patient surgery so I decided to come home and shampoo while I waited.

I washed with my Nairobi Pamperlizer (neutralizer) shampoo and followed that with Paul Mitchell Awapuhi wild ginger moisturizing shampoo. I then steam DC for about 30 minutes with my usual mix of:
Nairobi Humecta-Sil
QB Olive & Honey Hydrating Balm
EVOO
Sesame seed oil
ROUX PC conditioner
AVJ.
LORD HAVE MERCY!! I cannot get enough of this power mix! After that I applied kimmytube leave-in conditioner and air dried using the scarf method. My hair felt unbelievable afterwards even without M&S. I am thoroughly texlaxed at my nape and front/middle hairline the rest could use less processing. My air dried pony is much thicker, the diameter feels nice finally!! I just now moisturized and sealed using the LOC method with QB BRBC & my ceramide oil mix...my hair is still full even with product in it!! Because I've been using Roux PC conditioner I am extremely low porosity now so I whole head baggied to be sure the moisture sinks all the way into my strands.

BTW, my chemical burn and scalp is healed for the most part. I don't know if I lost any hair but I'm not going to look to find out. I'm having a good hair moment and I ain't going to ruin it. Thanks again to ALL who offered suggestions :-).

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We are going to see my 1st husband this weekend (R.Kelly)....so I have to do something...I'm going to try mixing my humectasil and make the Kimmytube leave in with the Nairobi moisturesil. I hope I feel like you after its all over. My hair is a mess right now....so neglected...

Suny
 
SunySydeofLyfe said:
We are going to see my 1st husband this weekend (R.Kelly)....so I have to do something...I'm going to try mixing my humectasil and make the Kimmytube leave in with the Nairobi moisturesil. I hope I feel like you after its all over. My hair is a mess right now....so neglected...

Suny
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Have fun seeing R. Kelly!! Your hair will be fine!

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