1/1/16 Get Out & Date

I agree

Entire profile would kill a hard on laced with viagra

No! Needs to be totally overhauled

Diy projects, holistic, no!


PretteePlease said:
@nlamr2013
as soon as I saw servant of the lord I lost my boner. my lady wood is gone.

Why don't you let your light shine they will see you are a servant in time

it says plant based chef meaning you like to cook that way it leaves room for error just say you are Vegan

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nlamr2013 said:
Sure the about me? Help me out yall :/
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Wait, you're on pof? You shouldn't be on pof with a profile like that lol. Maybe okc or match?

I would suggest making yourself sound more 'fun' and carefree. Like you can keep the same interests up there, but just fun it up some.
 
nlamr2013 said:
Sure the about me? Help me out yall :/
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The servant of the lord thing is intense
The DIY thing is childish and not sexy or appealing. Unless you want to attract men who like DIY too? (Is a non-DIYer a deal breaker lol)
For the messages just be nicer lol how did you decide he was thirst bucket by the first message? At least give him a decent chance to know you ( if you're attracted to pictures/profile)
His first message he complimented you and asked to take you out. A simple thank you and I would say something like: Thanks for the compliment! My profile must've really appealed to you lol!

When he asked to go to Applebee's etc instead of saying "I can't eat there" I would say those are great suggestions, do you know if they have a vegan menu? Considering I'm a vegan, I usually eat at home but I would enjoy going out with you. "
Etc lol
 
PretteePlease said:
@nlamr2013
as soon as I saw servant of the lord I lost my boner. my lady wood is gone.

Why don't you let your light shine they will see you are a servant in time

it says plant based chef meaning you like to cook that way it leaves room for error just say you are Vegan

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Oh thanks multi quote is working you can't tell me nothing now.
lux10023 said:
I agree

Entire profile would kill a hard on laced with viagra

No! Needs to be totally overhauled

Diy projects, holistic, no!
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Lol! Good that was the point. I'm huge on receiving the right type of attention.

qchelle said:
Wait, you're on pof? You shouldn't be on pof with a profile like that lol. Maybe okc or match?

I would suggest making yourself sound more 'fun' and carefree. Like you can keep the same interests up there, but just fun it up some.
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I signed up on okc with a fake profile just to check it out and there were entirely too many white men. And I feel like I'm too young for match?

frogkisses said:
The servant of the lord thing is intense
I mean...
The DIY thing is childish and not sexy or appealing.
How is diy childish? Lol I'm seriously asking. I'veactually had more than a few messages about the diy bit. I'm also not a sexy person and I'm OK with that
Unless you want to attract men who like DIY too? (Is a non-DIYer a deal breaker lol)
Lol! No sis.
For the messages just be nicer lol how did you decide he was thirst bucket by the first message? At least give him a decent chance to know you ( if you're attracted to pictures/profile)
His first message he complimented you and asked to take you out. A simple thank you and I would say something like: Thanks for the compliment! My profile must've really appealed to you lol!

When he asked to go to Applebee's etc instead of saying "I can't eat there" I would say those are great suggestions, do you know if they have a vegan menu? Considering I'm a vegan, I usually eat at home but I would enjoy going out with you. "
Etc lol
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OK I'll try that. I didn't like his profile though which is why I thought I was being nice and giving him a shot by responding.

Thanks yall for the suggestions
I'll think of some edits to make
 
@nlamr2013

I agree with the above suggestions. If the man doesn't give you a dangerous vibe, what's wrong with meeting at Chili's? It's all about increasing your interactions with men and learning about your likes and dislikes.

Keep calm and order a salad.
 
ArrrBeee said:
@nlamr2013

I agree with the above suggestions. If the man doesn't give you a dangerous vibe, what's wrong with meeting at Chili's? It's all about increasing your interactions with men and learning about your likes and dislikes.

Keep calm and order a salad.
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I didn't really like him but was trying to be nice.
 
ArrrBeee said:
@PretteePlease
@CaraWalker
@frogkisses

How do you ladies handle "being nice" to people you're not interested in online?
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online or on the date? online I just ignore them. im tweaking my strategy for irl.

so I just had a date today and idk dude... im tweaking my strategy for irl. we get there almost at the same time, this little brunch spot which every good brunch spot is always terribly crowded around here. and he seems so pissy right off the bat even though he was acting like he really wanted this date to happen. like he kept awkwardly wandering back and forth in the crowd and *****ed about how loud and busy the restaurant was. so I made a concerned face and asked if he wanted to leave. normally I am very friendly but when a guy seems pissy I offer to end the date.

we stayed and ate though and he seemed better so I asked about his mood and hes like im actually having a great time. im like oh, when I got here im like omg this dude hates me. he admitted he shouldnt have started off complaining :lol:

so when they are behaving in a way that I don't like I normally just drop all the pretense and straight out cut to the chase. if they are too nice and I know its not going to happen I just dont engage a lot and let them do most of the talking. then at the end of the date I make no mention of getting together again.
 
ArrrBeee said:
@PretteePlease
@CaraWalker
@frogkisses

How do you ladies handle "being nice" to people you're not interested in online?
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If I do not like someones profile online then I do not answer any messages. No need to be nice at all, not everyone deserves your time.

For online dating I will request to talk on the phone or facetime beforehand. If there is no connection then I gently decline any dates.
If I'm on a date it really depends on who I'm with. If they seem off the wall/violent/sketchy then I will let the date proceed but cut it as short as possible. If they seem aloof, then I will end the date promptly. My biggest priority is leaving safely.
 
Went on a date last night. We met while standing in line to order lunch last week. He's older than I prefer, but he's smart and attractive. I just realized that the last four people that I have gone on dates with have been white.
 
Argument is the wrong term, more like debate. In a nutshell, I told him if he likes me as much as he says he does, he needs to step up, make an effort to see me, etc. He said, "I'm not like those thirsty guys you are used to dealing with", blah blah. The next day (after I wrote that post), he said we should go out the next weekend, but then he didn't follow through. He's communicated with me and has asked to come over (he haven't had secks), but no plans to spend time with me outside of my house. So I'm over him. Dating multiple people has allowed me to be more level-headed and see things more clearly, instead of putting false hopes and expectations on someone who's actions really aren't showing me much.

ETA: @prettylady6464
 
How would you react to a guy who asked you to go to the movies cancels 20 minutes before meeting up? Talking about he s prepping for work...for the next day ...and he just realised what time it was ...asking you to see him next Sunday .
 
I had 2 dates today. I left lunch and went to an early happy hour I was hongree as I am hormonal. I might be on date number 3 in a few hours. I won't be greedy and eat then. Instead I will take this time to be a major beach.
 
On date #3 I was a beech. I was a damsel in distress I was angry black woman it got me out of some hot water I put myself in :look: Now I think I have the upper hand again.
 
Kindheart said:
How would you react to a guy who asked you to go to the movies cancels 20 minutes before meeting up? Talking about he s prepping for work...for the next day ...and he just realised what time it was ...asking you to see him next Sunday .
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What did YOU decide to do about this situation?
 
ArrrBeee said:
@PretteePlease
@CaraWalker
@frogkisses

How do you ladies handle "being nice" to people you're not interested in online?
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Everyone has a purpose. I'm a nice person :look: I don't understand how you can be mean to someone just because they are there and you are not interested. Like who does that have you no manners. If the person is pawing you or saying sexual things by all means show your disgust but you can't just sit there and have a civil conversation and a nice meal?

I went on a date over a week ago with a man that wanted me to be a mean beech and asked me to google Female Lead Relationships i was like what the fluck
 
sgold04 said:
Argument is the wrong term, more like debate. In a nutshell, I told him if he likes me as much as he says he does, he needs to step up, make an effort to see me, etc. He said, "I'm not like those thirsty guys you are used to dealing with", blah blah. The next day (after I wrote that post), he said we should go out the next weekend, but then he didn't follow through. He's communicated with me and has asked to come over (he haven't had secks), but no plans to spend time with me outside of my house. So I'm over him. Dating multiple people has allowed me to be more level-headed and see things more clearly, instead of putting false hopes and expectations on someone who's actions really aren't showing me much.
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This is exactly what I was going through with dude I really liked, what's happened with other guys in the past. Are they all the same?? Dang.
 
ArrrBeee said:
I went on a date the other day to a play video games and out to dinner. Fun times.

@PretteePlease
How do you squeeze multiple dates into one day? That seems exhausting. Are you an extrovert?
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You can ask anyone who has met me from the board I guess I am but sometimes I just don't like people. I'm bubbly and fun and I will talk to anyone I don't care who you are I would talk to President Obama like I've known him all my life. I clean houses on the side and you would be surprised how many of my female clients ask me to hang out with them. You would think folks wouldn't want to hang with THE HELP. But I'm classy, fun, well spoken, adventurous, bubbly, vivacious and I'm outwardly attractive. People will say it shouldn't or doesn't matter but it does. Looks can help you get away with __________.

As far as squeezing in multiple dates on a week day they are usually lunch, happy hour or dinner. Lunch requires coordinating locations but I usually make them come to me. I don't care how busy you are you should at least want to meet me half way in the beginning. Happy hour and dinner are after work so I can leave one and go to the other. All you have to do is be a UPS like logistic expert. Aka make all of your dates in a nearby or convenient location. It actually isn't hard at all.

It isn't exhausting at all because I'm really nosey. I like sitting and talking to people and listening to their story. I need to be a talk show host.

Great now i have the Playing Video Games stuck in my head :lachen:
 
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