Participating in these
Luscious Healthy Ends Challenges is what helped finally eliminate my velcro ends. I tried to make sure to list the names of people who provided information to me when I made changes that gave me significant results.
In July 2012 I left the US and came to France. In Fall of 2012 I gave myself a trim. Over a few days, I trimmed and re-trimmed and tried to fix my hair until my 'longer than tailbone length' hair barely reached my bra-strap. Years and years of care and growth gone in a matter of 2 to 4 days, cut by my own hand.
Sick hair is a real thing. Heartbroken hair is a real thing. New baby hair is a real thing. Hair is organic and is impacted by what is going during the days of our lives. Acknowledge your pain, sadness, stress, joy and or happiness and give yourself grace.
It has taken me twelve (12) years to get back on track. Within those (12) years I have had about three (3) cycles, that were about four (4) years long, where my hair stayed at a certain length or it continued to break to a shorter length, but not grow longer than that break length. From 2012 to 2024 my hair broke up to shoulder/armpit length. Got stalled at chest or bra-strap length. Broke off and got stalled between bra strap and waist length. And for the last four years, kept breaking and stalling just above waist length and breaking at hip length.
In 2024, I had just about given up. But, when I blow dried and trimmed my hair in September 2024, I was astonished to see that my hair almost completely covered my entire lower back, signifying that I was solidly back at hip length hair, moving toward tail-bone length.
But the MOST amazing thing of all is that my Velcro, tangled, breaking , sticky, rough, have to tear apart Brillo, hard ends are GONE!
- 2012-2016 - First 4 year cycle of breakage and very little length gain that started with an over trim and I lost interest in my hair. Hair stayed around armpits.
- 2017-2020 -Second 4 year cycle of breakage between waist length and hip length . Due to infrequent trims.
- 2021-2024- Third 4 year cycle of breakage due to using Olaplex Bonding Products. Hair broke back to above waist length. In June 2024 is when I started to notice I was leaving this break cycle.
I am documenting this for myself. And, I am sharing in the event something might help YOU to identify your hair challenges and get you and your hair permanently on the path on which you want to be.
The state of my hair in December 2024 will be the final determinant of whether I am truly out of this 12 year break cycle or not.
Below are the changes I made once I began to focus on my hair again in 2016.
Change
No. | Ingredient/Product/Process | Time Frame | Added /Removed | Source | Result |
1 | Shea Butter | December 2016 | Added | @ThatJerseyGirl | Stopped losing whole curls. Hair was less frizzy and was gaining some length. Quality of hair changed for the better as in fewer splits and knots on hair strand. |
2 | No Comb or Finger Styling (combed only when blowing out hair) | October 2017 | Added | Women with 4C natural hair. | Less breakage and less hair lost during washing and re-doing hair. |
3 | Ends Routine
(castor oil) | October 2017 | Added | Me | Ends not as crispy the next day. |
4 | Olaplex 0 and 3 | December 2021 | Added | Me | Hair seemed to feel normal. |
5 | Olaplex 0 and 3 | April 2022 | Removed | Me | Heavy balls of broken hair came out after wash day. To be fair I was using a henna infused oil for the first time, too. That henna may have also contributed to the problem. |
| Hair was gaining length | then it broke | back up | to my waist | BREAKAGE/Velcro Ends |
6 | Stopped Using Shampoo | January 2023 | Removed | Me | Hair was stripped, sticky, velcro and crunchy after shampoo. |
7 | Started Using Clay Mix | January 2023 | Added | @snoop | Hair felt less wiry and less traumatized after clay cleansing (Clay/Charcoal/Honey/Goat Milk) |
8 | Started Using Sprouted Fenugreek Oil | January 2024 | Added | @newgrowth15 | Softened hair to the touch. |
9 | Started Covering Hair at Night with Plastic Cap and Scarf | January 2024 | Added | Me | Hair soft and moist in morning and not as crunchy or wiry at roots. |
10 | Started trimming hair every 3 Months | January 2024 | Added | @keranikki | Empowered me to get over fear of overtiming. Now I feel totally autonomous and independent. Trimming was the last thing I felt dependent on hair stylist to do. I am FREE now and do this for myself. Hair hemline started to look even and more attractive. |
11 | Started applying clarifying shampoo on dry, dirty hair before blowdrying process. Followed up harsh clarifying shampoo with a moisturizing shampoo. Let sit on hair before washing, conditioning and blowdrying. | March 2024 | Added | @Lylddlebit | Hair is thoroughly cleansed and not too stripped. A light conditioner can be used effectively and the subsequent blowdrying results are shiny, silky with body and all residue is removed . Hair is super clean. |
12 | Started blowdrying hair every 3 Months with comb attachment on dryer | January 2024 | Added | Me | Changed my blow drying process by using a blowdryer with a comb attachment with high heat and high are and hair comes out silkier. Spray hair with water before blowdrying and do tiny, tiny sections from 12 to 25 sections. |
13 | Started back using Apogee 2 Step Every 3 Months | January 2024 | Added | Me | Hair is not breaking as much and hair is gaining length. |
14 | Alerted about hard water in my area and why my ends continued to suffer and be dryer after wetting them with water. | June 2024 | Added | @GettingKinky | @snoop found a map for France. So, I am conscious that my area has very hard water and need to keep this in mind. I wet my roots more than my ends now. |
15 | Oil and roll up ends of braids up to shoulders and secure with coated rubber bands. | September 2024 | Added | Me | Hair no longer sticks together and has to be torn apart and broke on ends to unbraid. Sticky, velcro Brillo ends are completely eliminated. I cannot leave my ends loosened. They must be rolled up and protected. |
16 | Understand Shampoo Impact | December 2024 | Confirmed | @MzSwift | Found that another person hair responds like my hair to shampoo. Thank goodness both our heads of hair return to normal after the next wash. pH of shampoo could be a problem but still do not no why shampoo is so problematic from a science standpoint, for some afro-textured hair. |
17 | Softening Up Shampoo | December 2024 | Confirmed | Me | I forgot how I used to put oil in my shampoo to soften it up and remove some of the active surfactants to make the formulation less harsh. Will reinstate and use if I need to use shampoo but not plan to straighten. |
18 | Spray bottle Concoction | December 2024 | Reinstated | Me | I usually just have water in my spray water when undoing my braids at night. I plan to add back water, aloe vera, pathenol, glycerine, Scurl, cheap shampoo, oil, essential oil |