Long hair ladies, can I live vicariously through you?

[BlackMasterPiece]

From this I'm gathering that it means the other woman thinks you're nothing compared to them, and that they are all that and a bag of garden salsa sunchips!

Well when I do my hair flips its not to put any other ladies down....its just because its genuinely in my way and I don't want it caught in my purse straps or because I'm particularly feelin my hair at that moment....a chick would have to be actin REAL reckless for me to do the conceited hair flip thats extremely rare for me.

 

[exoticmommie]

Forgive my ignorance, what does the hair flip mean?

In my case, like diamonds said she did the dismiss flip. She cut me off and flipped her hair at me like go away, look my hair, you can't compare.

If remember correctly, Lucie also told a story of a yt woman doing that to her. But Lucie who has long hair flipped back, and the yt woman got really angry.

Here is a good example.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hqRhDG8-z0I

 

[*Muffin*]

In my case, like diamonds said she did the dismiss flip. She cut me off and flipped her hair at me like go away, look my hair, you can't compare.

If remember correctly, Lucie also told a story of a yt woman doing that to her. But Lucie who has long hair flipped back, and the yt woman got really angry.

Here is a good example.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hqRhDG8-z0I

OMG.... I remember this commercial! Oh no, no, no. Things would get ugly .

 

[bahamababe242]

@ that commercial
LHCF yall schoolin me!!!

 

[BlackMasterPiece]

In my case, like diamonds said she did the dismiss flip. She cut me off and flipped her hair at me like go away, look my hair, you can't compare.

If remember correctly, Lucie also told a story of a yt woman doing that to her. But Lucie who has long hair flipped back, and the yt woman got really angry.

Here is a good example.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hqRhDG8-z0I

Pwahahahahahahaaaa! okay that was hilarious!

 

[Mizz Diamonds]

LOL they were about 2 dutty whine

 

[Jade Feria]

In my case, like diamonds said she did the dismiss flip. She cut me off and flipped her hair at me like go away, look my hair, you can't compare.

If remember correctly, Lucie also told a story of a yt woman doing that to her. But Lucie who has long hair flipped back, and the yt woman got really angry.

Here is a good example.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hqRhDG8-z0I

OMG!
I can't wait til I'm able to do 0:21 to 0:31! Gorgeous!!!

I'ma be having my hair flip in slow motion like that!

 

[SmilingElephant]

This thread is hilarious! I can't wait to 'stomp with the big dogs'!

But in the meantime, I have a story from "The Short Side of Apl-Ville."

It was late fall/early winter, so my hair was maybe 2" past my shoulders, ie not long at all. I was at the beauty supply, finishing up, when I noticed the new Lottabody (the green one, aloe). So, instead of getting on line immediately, I delayed a bit, picked up the bottle, whatever. As I'm standing there, an older, light-skinned hispanic lady and her husband (based on the convo), who was of a similar complexion walked by. They both had type 1 hair. The husband was pushing a stroller with a little brown baby (really, toddler, but I call any child who can't read yet a baby, lol) inside. Slightly intrigued, I glanced at the woman to see what she had in her hands. JUST FOR FREAKIN ME!!! (sorry for yelling, but that's how I felt inside, just )

I couldn't let it happen. The baby was looking at me, which babies usually do, and I was looking at her, feeling sad inside.... I had to make my move. I didn't know how I was gonna bring it up, but I was gonna tell that woman not to put caustic chemicals on that baby's head. (Yes, I'm relaxed/texlaxed, but I'm grown.)

So I struck up a conversation about the new Lottabody. Then, after we ooh and aah a little over the fact that they finally have something new, I'm like, oh, btw, who's that little cutie-pie? She explains that its her granddaughter, and that she's planning to relax for ease. (Not on my watch you ain't.) The way she was looking at me when she said it (and the fact that she willingly volunteered such information), I can only describe as, akin to how white people look at you when they're about to ask you about 'something black', like a little guilty almost. So I give her the face, like I am horrified to think she could do such a thing to a child's head. How old is she, I ask. She's four! Clearly, we've all heard worse, but I feign shock and horror and proceed to go into the (abbreviated) spiel about relaxers and how bad they are for the actual scalp, carefully explaining that her skin is still very sensitive, and that some chemicals may actually seep in. She seemed open to the information, but at the same time, it was clear that she really didn't know how to deal with the girls hair. I got the idea that she wanted it in a form that was recognizable to her, ie, curly/wavy/straight, but not "...you know", her words.

I decided to change tack: I'm growing out my perm, I mentioned nonchalantly, and my hair's nappy (I used the word on purpose, knowing that's what she's meant), not wavy, it hasn't been too hard. She gave me a look, a look a lot of NY'ers probably know, a kind of appraising side-eye that NY latinas seem to be really good at, and asked skeptically, "That's your hair?" OMG, I almost felt dizzy with the happiness that positively coursed through my entire being at that moment. It wasn't even long, but my braid-out was glowing, shiny and freshly henna'ed, bouncy, and flowy. That was the first time, as an adult, that I felt the power of hair. I became more credible to them just by having my own hair growing out of my own scalp. Intellectually, I knew the power, but to actually have it work for me in real life... in my head, I was like ::

I was so amazed at the question that I just nodded happily, turned around and parted it, moved it around a little bit, and looked back at her (even though I have this whole fantasy in my head about what I would do if anybody ever weave-checked me, lol). Her whole demeanor had changed, she looked eager to hear what I had to say. Her husband had even started to look kinda interested at this point, like this whole hair thing had been a family problem, one to which he wanted a solution.

Moisture, moisture, moisture, I advised. I explained dc'ing, co-washing, and braid-outs. They asked for product rec's and I gave them. I finished by saying, her hair, once you get it fully 'juicy' (they laughed) and moisturized, it'll be beautiful, just a mess of bouncy curls. I mighta been wrong, but God help me if they didn't looked relieved.

Fin.

I know that facial expression too well!!! Its a Florida thing too! Thats the kinda look that sets me off! ...so i shoot it right back at 'em!! And then flip thy hair!

 

[SmilingElephant]

There's this girl im acquainted with...we were in our Sunday service and i was sitting in fron of her. She tugs my hair and goes....oh let me borrow this.

I gave her my i-just-hopped-out-the-hood-and-who-do-you-thank-you-messin-wit...look

I said girl...not too many ppl upin here know this...but im from the hood...you can't be doing stuff like that! Be careful...cause this don't come off!! 'S'all mines!...right there in front of her mom...but we were joking around but i was slightly heated.

Her mom was like...ooooh she scared now!! So chick goes...I AIN'T SCARED!! So i did my side eye look and went...huh!!..lol ...and turned back towards the front in my seat and flipped my hair!!! How you like dem apples?!

So i saw her again later on in the week and she said somethin slick and i said "Don't start wit me!" and she was like...oh why, cause you from <insert hood here>....? well i'm from Compton! i said AND!? It's the same difference!! We jus souther-en!!

 

[exoticmommie]

There's this girl im acquainted with...we were in our Sunday service and i was sitting in fron of her. She tugs my hair and goes....oh let me borrow this.

I gave her my i-just-hopped-out-the-hood-and-who-do-you-thank-you-messin-wit...look

I said girl...not too many ppl upin here know this...but im from the hood...you can't be doing stuff like that! Be careful...cause this don't come off!! 'S'all mines!...right there in front of her mom...but we were joking around but i was slightly heated.

Her mom was like...ooooh she scared now!! So chick goes...I AIN'T SCARED!! So i did my side eye look and went...huh!!..lol ...and turned back towards the front in my seat and flipped my hair!!! How you like dem apples?!

So i saw her again later on in the week and she said somethin slick and i said "Don't start wit me!" and she was like...oh why, cause you from <insert hood here>....? well i'm from Compton! i said AND!? It's the same difference!! We jus souther-en!!

thanks for sharing more smiley, I wish others were more generous.

 

[caribeandiva]

great thread OP!

 

[Ms. Feliz]

In my case, like diamonds said she did the dismiss flip. She cut me off and flipped her hair at me like go away, look my hair, you can't compare.

If remember correctly, Lucie also told a story of a yt woman doing that to her. But Lucie who has long hair flipped back, and the yt woman got really angry.

Here is a good example.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hqRhDG8-z0I

That commercial is hilarious!! I remember when it was on tv good stuff.

 

[exoticmommie]

Do any of you ladies every scroll past your avatar or siggy, and go, oh my goodness that's my hair! or, that's some pretty hair thinking it's someone else, and it's you.

 

[LadyPaniolo]

^^ no............ When I look at my siggy I think *sigh* my hair is looking crunchy in that pic. That's alright, though, cuz I'm about to DC back to back, put some indigo through my head and DC again, and THEN flat iron. Hopefully the pics will look good. Indigo arrives Monday.

 

[exoticmommie]

^^ no............ When I look at my siggy I think *sigh* my hair is looking crunchy in that pic. That's alright, though, cuz I'm about to DC back to back, put some indigo through my head and DC again, and THEN flat iron. Hopefully the pics will look good. Indigo arrives Monday.

If you are happy with the pictures, make sure to share...

 

[me-T]

Do any of you ladies every scroll past your avatar or siggy, and go, oh my goodness that's my hair! or, that's some pretty hair thinking it's someone else, and it's you.

that happens when i look thru my fotki. like dang... that's really all me.

 

[caribeandiva]

It took me 2 days but I read every single post on all 38 pages! Again OP excellent thread. I wanted to start a similar one ages ago but didn't know how to word it properly.

More stories please! Long hair is the ish!!

 

[unique4lyfe33]

That commercial is hilarious!! I remember when it was on tv good stuff.

Lol I remeber that commercial too

 

[Sonye93]

Aww man I miss this thread, please guys, somebody share more stories!

 

[truequeen06]

Interesting thread. I haven't read it all, but I can relate to a few things so far lol

 

[RedVelvet310]

BUMP! I love this thread !

 

[exoticmommie]

I can't believe that with all the long haired diva's on hair, no one has more stores to share.

I'll just share some more thoughts maybe it can inspire more replies.

When I go out now, and see heads of hair, I can't believe that prior to LHCF I thought that SL hair was long. When I see some women with SL scraggly hair and they be thinking they the ish, I silently think to myself. poor thing. When I see them SL healthy hair, I wonder if that is the longest it's ever been. I have also noticed that the ones that think their the ish act weird around me now. Never had that happen before, they would usually turn it up.

It's funny when I go out, and my hair is only a little past SL. And I can see other black women gears turning in their head as they look at my hair, and don't let it be in a twist out with ringlets on the ends. It be looking like they want to ask me a question.

I can't wait for my hair to get longer so I can do more updo's. I have already been stocking up on big dangly earrings (FAB!). Hair clips and other accessories.

This thread, hasn't made me more anxious per say, it has made more inspired to stay the road. Of course I can't wait. But it really is making me happy to even be on this journey. I constantly think about how things were before, and how my goals seemed so unattainable. But since making goals with my hair, I have been making goals in other aspects of my life. I really don't know what is about hair care but it really makes you want to upgrade the total package.

APL ladies need to start sharing. I understand that here on LHCF APL is not considered long. But it is Medium Long. It is definitely not short. Think about when you were NL. And the difference between then and now. Some people can't even wear a decent ponytail (I know I couldn't).

Yesterday was my first time going out the house with a full curly ponytail, that was not phony and I loved it! Before I would have to pin it up with pins, because it would disappear in the ponytail holder.

 

[Adaoba2012]

Girl I completely understand..I'm just counting the post relaxer weeks its gonna take me to reach my goals. Even after my recent relaxer I've been getting lots of compliments on my hair and how its growing..my friends are like, "okay I see you..long hair dont care!" or "Hair is going down your back now!" and I'm like huh? Its not even long yet! I told one of my friends how I want to grow my hair to MBL and she busted out laughin at me! I was a little mad but some people don't understand like you ladies do. I love the length I have now but I know I'm just at the beginning and I have a long journey ahead of me.

Today we had a surprise party for one of my classmates and this girl in the class ahead of me kept swinging her very damaged, barely SL dominican blown out hair and I couldn't do anything but SMH I kinda felt like she was hair flippin me! I just did a spiral curl set on my hair yesterday and the shrinkage is crazy..so maybe she thinks my hair is shorter than hers?? No honey! I couldn't help but laugh tho..I just feel like once I make a bit more progress I can really show em..but for now I shall remain humble

ETA: Oh and exoticmommie I feel you on reaching other goals as well..I've been eating better, exercising more and taking care of my skin as well..I hope that once I do reach MBL that I will be in very good shape and have clear bangin skin..everything will definitely fall into place

 

[exoticmommie]

Girl I completely understand..I'm just counting the post relaxer weeks its gonna take me to reach my goals. Even after my recent relaxer I've been getting lots of compliments on my hair and how its growing..my friends are like, "okay I see you..long hair dont care!" or "Hair is going down your back now!" and I'm like huh? Its not even long yet! I told one of my friends how I want to grow my hair to MBL and she busted out laughin at me! I was a little mad but some people don't understand like you ladies do. I love the length I have now but I know I'm just at the beginning and I have a long journey ahead of me.

Today we had a surprise party for one of my classmates and this girl in the class ahead of me kept swinging her very damaged, barely SL dominican blown out hair and I couldn't do anything but SMH I kinda felt like she was hair flippin me! I just did a spiral curl set on my hair yesterday and the shrinkage is crazy..so maybe she thinks my hair is shorter than hers?? No honey! I couldn't help but laugh tho..I just feel like once I make a bit more progress I can really show em..but for now I shall remain humble

ETA: Oh and exoticmommie I feel you on reaching other goals as well..I've been eating better, exercising more and taking care of my skin as well..I hope that once I do reach MBL than I will be in very good shape and have clear bangin skin..everything will definitely fall into place

yeah I get you on the shrinkage. That happens to me with my twists outs, because I put spiral curls on the ends. I too am waiting for the big reveal.
Reading these stories make me not even want to wear my hair out straight because I want the reveal to be jaw dropping. I will do a big reveal when I reach APL.

And I too have been taking care of my skin. I know that the hair skin and nail pills are supposed to help with thickness of your hair. But I have simply fallen in love with them because they have your skin glowing! And I can't wait to be back at a perfect 10 (body wise). I am gonna be one hot mommie!

 

[LadyPaniolo]

BUMP!

Ok y'all. I have a story to share!

Yesterday I went to the Philadelphia Home Show. I wore my hair out as it is in my siggy. This was only because I didn't have the time to cornrow it up to fit under my wig... which is getting to be quite an undertaking.

I noticed several beautiful heads of hair at the show and I was eyeballing folks heads in an admiring fashion but overall I had the longest hair of any black woman at the show! This surprised me, though I guess it shouldn't. I still think of my hair as being on the short side.

There was one booth I passed a few times and I was looking at the hair in the reflection like for like 3 seconds before I realized that was MY HAIR

I didn't get any flirty looks from men, as some long hair ladies report. This could be because I am *heavily* pregnant and I was with my DH. Since it was a homeowners event most of the people there were married couples. I got friendly smiles from several black ladies that I saw there, and I didn't perceive any hateration from anybody.

I DID see several white men looking at me quizzically. Not lustily, but with interest.

One of the security guards appeared to be totally blase about me in general *shrug* UNTIL I took out my hairtoy and began putting my hair UP into a chignon. I was doing this in preparation to put on my chenille hat ( I never expose my hair to cold dry winter air). He was looking at me like I was smearing feces on myself or something... just out and out shock and horror that I was putting my hair up!! It made me realize that he had the belief (as many black folks do) that if your hair is long you should wear it out and blowing in the breeze 24/7. Even though he was looking at me crazy I took it as a compliment, lol.

[ETA: Actually, there was ONE nasty look I got. There was a girl there whose hair looked very very nice. It was about APL, and it was very shiny and straight... it may have been a weave but I can't say for certain. I was standing near her and she gave me a balled up face like I smelled bad or something though I had just showered so I know I didn't When her man came up she flounced off kinda in a huff. *shrug*. Whatever. No skin off my nose.

 

[me-T]

... I still think of my hair as being on the short side...

you need to stop!

 

[Galadriel]

I love your new Avi, EM!

I won't feel like my hair is long until I reach BSL (darn hair anorexia caught me and whacked me over the head--never thought I'd say that). However, it did feel good this past holiday season to receive compliments from my family. We were over my grandma's for Thanksgiving and I was freshly co-washed and had let my hair air dry and had it pulled back into a low ponytail with a hair zing and had a huge puff. It was fluffy, shiny, and soft. Even though my shrinkage made the puff only SL, it was so voluminous that my family kept commenting on how they could tell my hair grew and was longer

I plan on continuing my bunning and updos until May (partly out of laziness and partly out of a desire to reach BSL or full BSL by this time).

Oh, and congrats on your upcoming baby, LP...I think we may be due around the same time?

 

[LadyPaniolo]

you need to stop!

Lol, well my goal is classic length, so I am a long ways from attaining it. Plus I've been lurking on a primarily white long hair board where the women have hair to the kneecap sometimes. My poor little hair can't hold a candle to that!

 

[LadyPaniolo]

Oh, and congrats on your upcoming baby, LP...I think we may be due around the same time?

I'm due the first of May. Even though I'm only about halfway through, my belly is enormous. It's just the way I carry my babies. My son was 9lbs 3oz and the doc says this one will be big, too.

Once I have this baby (it's a girl! ) and heal up from the C-section it's going to be big time!

When are you due?

 

[exoticmommie]

you need to stop!

Don't she!

Congrats on your pregnancies ladies.

More stories please!