Some people just aren't meant to be natural

[KinkyGenius]

I think people should view the statement in the context in which it was used. We're probably making that one little statement into something much bigger than what that person meant it as. I highly doubt with that statement she was suggesting that God (or however you label Him in your religion) made a mistake in how He created her.

If you like your natural texture, wear your natural texture.
If you like your hair relaxed (for WHATEVER reason that may be), then wear it relaxed.

I have never understood why we get so worked up by the whole natural vs. relaxed thing.

 

[DirtyJerzeyGirly]

Only in the black community.....

 

[likewtr4chklit]

ITA. Good blessed me with two beautiful babies which unfortunately left me with not-so-perky boobs. I fully intend to "fix" both in the near future.

there a lots of things that I will be fixing, not b/c I think God made a mistake, I just don't like it.

 

[B_Phlyy]

I think people should view the statement in the context in which it was used. We're probably making that one little statement into something much bigger than what that person meant it as. I highly doubt with that statement she was suggesting that God (or however you label Him in your religion) made a mistake in how He created her.

If you like your natural texture, wear your natural texture.
If you like your hair relaxed (for WHATEVER reason that may be), then wear it relaxed.

I have never understood why we get so worked up by the whole natural vs. relaxed thing.

Agreed. I saw the thread this one spawned from and the post in question was almost 2 paragraphs long yet this little sentence was all that was grasped. SMH.

I'm natural and I agree with the statement.

 

[kandi1280]

I remember who said it and the reason it was said. She was trying to comfort another member who was having reservations about going back to being relaxed after being natural and having been "anti-relaxer" to her family and friends. Opinions are like eyeballs, everybody has them. Right or wrong, people are going to share their opinions on certain things. Some women feel that they shouldn't have been born with their hair, period, point-blank and simple.

This battle against natural and relaxed hair goes back ages and while we've made great strides on both sides, we still have far to go. Personally I don't think she meant it to be offensive and anti natural hair, it was just her own personal opinion just as the OP has her own on this matter. And for those that do believe in God, yes he created us but he also gave us free will.

 

[DirtyJerzeyGirly]

Some of the things I read on this board... SMH I don't know if I should or .

Me too!

 

[lovenharmony]

While I think that statement can be misconstrued, I can understand what the OP was trying to say. I don't think that they meant to say that they weren't "meant" to be natural, but that some people don't have the patience or the lifestyle that would be condusive to maintaining natural hair.

Take for instance, if you want a straight style as a natural, you'd either have to flatiron, rollerset, or stretch the hair on a regular basis. If you're not a person who likes to mess with their hair or use direct heat, you're less likely to maintain it the way you should, leading to breakage. If you're a person always on the go, active in exercising, swimming and other sports, whatever hairstyle you wear your hair will need to be manipulated on a regular basis, which can wreak havoc on your strands in the long run.
Your preferences can also be another reason why you may not be happy with a natural hairstyle. If you want to constantly see length, shrinkage may make you feel like you will always have short looking hair and be a deterrant to keeping your hair natural. Individuals who think like this are better off relaxing than keeping it natural because they will never truly be happy with their hair if they don't see length. Therefore saying they weren't "meant" to maintain a natural hairstyle makes sense.

 

[taz007]

I guess this analogy makes since if you view your natural hair as a flaw that needs to be fixed.

there a lots of things that I will be fixing, not b/c I think God made a mistake, I just don't like it.

ITA @ bolded. I did not view my natural hair as '"flawed" (goes back to my post to see if I wrote that). God did not make a mistake on my teeth, nor did he make a mistake with my hair.

I just prefer to wear my hair relaxed and I like my teeth straight at this point in my life.

If I want my teeth to go back to bucked (and have a nice pouty lips) I will just stop wearing my retainer. If I want to go back natural, I will just stop putting a relaxer in my hair.

It is not that serious (shrug)

 

[30something]

This thread is a spin off of the "I feel like a hypocrite" thread. No speculation, I just don't think OP wanted to hi-jack the other thread with her question.

ohhh ...


Best to send her a PM and find out what she meant by that

 

[KinkyGenius]

Agreed. I saw the thread this one spawned from and the post in question was almost 2 paragraphs long yet this little sentence was all that was grasped. SMH.

I'm natural and I agree with the statement.

Exactly, I just went back to read it as well:

"Im not the one to tell any one, "No, No, stay natural!" Because i know in my right mind that some ppl just arent meant to be natural! Sometimes you just have to go with the flow!"

This was said in such a light-hearted way. I don't see how that statement said in that context can viewed as offensive. That's just me though.

 

[likewtr4chklit]

I think people should view the statement in the context in which it was used. We're probably making that one little statement into something much bigger than what that person meant it as. I highly doubt with that statement she was suggesting that God (or however you label Him in your religion) made a mistake in how He created her.

If you like your natural texture, wear your natural texture.
If you like your hair relaxed (for WHATEVER reason that may be), then wear it relaxed.

I have never understood why we get so worked up by the whole natural vs. relaxed thing.

People will always get worked up over words and viewpoints. When I was relaxed I dared anyone to come at me about not being proud to be black and blah blah blah. I relaxed b/c I wanted to and it fit my lifestyle, not b/c I thought my natural hair was a mistake. If I relax tomorrow I will tell them the same thing. It has nothing to do with what was meant to grow out of my head.

People change things about their natural selves either b/c they don't like it or they find it inconvenient for their life style. There is nothing wrong with that. And there is nothing wrong with acknowledging the fact that not everything that happens naturally is appealing to everyone. This issue can be brought up with anything for skin lightening to plastic surgery. Now what if I said

" I WASN'T MEANT TO BE BROWN SKINNED SO IMMA LIGHTEN MY SKIN WITH CHEMICALS SO I CAN BE LIGHTER"

I would have a ten page thread of folks berating me.

 

[Allandra]

Hopefully the OP's question has been answered.