Some people just aren't meant to be natural

[4HisGlory]

This statement was made in another thread and I was just trying to understand the rationale behind it. This is along the same "lines of everybody can't be natural", which I've heard as well. I undestand some people's choice not to remain natural, but it is just that, a choice. It's not that they are "meant" or "can't" be that way. IMHO, saying that "some people just aren't meant to be natural" is telling God he made a mistake and a slap in the face. If you choose not be natural, that's a different story (sometimes). . .

 

[Keen]

Some of the things I read on this board... SMH I don't know if I should or .

 

[hair4romheaven]

When "I" hear that statement I think of people that can't manage their natural hair so they know it's not meant for them to go natural or better yet those people who just don't like their natural texture they may feel like being natural is not meant for them.

 

[Triniwegian]

Yes, everyone is meant to be natural...that is why we are born that way

 

[likewtr4chklit]

I guess in that case some folks just aren't meant to have hair?? *shrugs* What is meant to be happens "naturally" so I don't get those kinds of statements. I do understand some hairstyles compliment some face shapes more than others but all that "I wasn't meant to be natural" mess is just extra.

 

[gymfreak336]

My two cents...

Everyone can be natural. Everyone can't however reach their length goals being natural, just as some people can't reach their length goals being relaxed. Thats it....It isn't that deep.

When we all deal with our feelings about our own hair we will all be able to live and let live. We won't feel as easily offended or attacked and we won't give a crap about what someone else does to their own head, however stupid we might think it is.

Happy Hair Growing.

 

[Duchesse]

I think when people say that, what they mean is "some peoples facial structures don't look aesthetically appealing with a twa, braids, fro, and other natral styles"...at least I hope that's what they mean.

 

[Classychick20]

Well, my hair is fine and grows out really tightly coiled and wirey to the point that if I let it just air dry in its natural state, it will form knot balls on the ends and break like crazy when I attempt to comb. Even when I comb it out when its wet and loaded w/ conditioner, I'm popping strands the entire time. The only way to avoid serious non-heat related damage is to tame down my texture. I wish I could do a wash and go, but its not in the best interest of my hair if I ever want it to grow long. By braiding it or blowing it out and pressing, Ive been able to avoid the knots and breakage w/ my daily styling. Maybe the person who said that is in the same boat as me, but idk. My hair has no chemical process but I pretty much keep it stretched 24/7.

 

[4HisGlory]

I guess in that case some folks just aren't meant to have hair?? *shrugs* What is meant to be happens "naturally" so I don't get those kinds of statements. I do understand some hairstyles compliment some face shapes more than others but all that "I wasn't meant to be natural" mess is just extra.

That's a good way of looking at it. I have to store that line in the memory bank for future use.

My two cents...

Everyone can be natural. Everyone can't however reach their length goals being natural, just as some people can't reach their length goals being relaxed. Thats it....It isn't that deep.

When we all deal with our feelings about our own hair we will all be able to live and let live. We won't feel as easily offended or attacked and we won't give a crap about what someone else does to their own head, however stupid we might think it is.

Happy Hair Growing.

It's not a issue of trying to mandate other people's lives. As I stated earlier, people make a choice to relax. I don't have a problem with that. I do however have a problem with people telling the creator. You made a mistake. I wasn't meant to be like this.

 

[MsBoinglicious]

Well maybe she just meant some people are not meant to "STAY Natural". Every one is meant to "BE Natural" that's just how your born.

 

[likewtr4chklit]

Well, my hair is fine and grows out really tightly coiled and wirey to the point that if I let it just air dry in its natural state, it will form knot balls on the ends and break like crazy when I attempt to comb. Even when I comb it out when its wet and loaded w/ conditioner, I'm popping strands the entire time. The only way to avoid serious non-heat related damage is to tame down my texture. I wish I could do a wash and go, but its not in the best interest of my hair if I ever want it to grow long. By braiding it or blowing it out and pressing, Ive been able to avoid the knots and breakage w/ my daily styling. Maybe the person who said that is in the same boat as me, but idk. My hair has no chemical process but I pretty much keep it stretched 24/7.

I keep my hair stretched as well. I can't even wear twists for a long period of time without suffering ssk's all over my dang head . But I'm still natural. If I relaxed it would be more for ease of styling and a preference for straighter styles.

ETA: just to clarify something. I'm not a nappy nazi ( I think that's the term around here) or anything I just don't agree that the hair that natural comes out of our heads wasn't meant to be.

 

[gymfreak336]

That's a good way of looking at it. I have to store that line in the memory bank for future use.



It's not a issue of trying to mandate other people's lives. As I stated earlier, people make a choice to relax. I don't have a problem with that. I do however have a problem with people telling the creator. You made a mistake. I wasn't meant to be like this.

But see, that again depends on what you believe.

 

[JJamiah]

My two cents...

Everyone can be natural. Everyone can't however reach their length goals being natural, just as some people can't reach their length goals being relaxed. Thats it....It isn't that deep.

When we all deal with our feelings about our own hair we will all be able to live and let live. We won't feel as easily offended or attacked and we won't give a crap about what someone else does to their own head, however stupid we might think it is.

Happy Hair Growing.

I agree whole heartly. Live and let LIVE!

 

[prettybyrd]

I've always thought this was a strange thing to say...I think the rationale behind it is to say, without saying, that one finds wearing the hair in its natural state unattractive on oneself or others. Which is fine, we are all entitled to our opinions. As far as offending God with that statement...IDK? Without seeming blasphemous, I think God has more to be concerned with than rather or not someone relaxes her hair and hates it to be natural.

 

[30something]

This is silly, we don't know who said it, and for what reason. So its just going to be a giant speculations about opinions.

Who in the world knows what the person meant by that

 

[Meridian]

Yes, everyone is meant to be natural...that is why we are born that way

I don't agree with that one. Many people are born with no hair or their hair may fall out later in life, doesn't man it was MEANT to be that way. Many people on here complain about their hair being dry and breaking off, I guess that means it was MEANT to be that way and they should do nothing to change it to their way of liking?! I could say more regarding the "born that way" comment, but I'll keep quiet...for now.

Oh and I wasn't meant to be natural. I look better relaxed and that's just how it is. No one can tell me any differently.

I think God has more to be concerned with than rather or not someone relaxes her hair and hates it to be natural.

ICAM!

 

[taz007]

It's not a issue of trying to mandate other people's lives. As I stated earlier, people make a choice to relax. I don't have a problem with that. I do however have a problem with people telling the creator. You made a mistake. I wasn't meant to be like this.[/QUOTE]

I see it as a personal preference. Just like my teeth. God (the creator) blessed me with bucked teeth, why must I continue to look like Black Beauty's sister?

I chose to permanently fix (alter) what God had blessed me with. Having bucked teeth did not affect my health in any way; straight teeth was just my personal preference.

Just like relaxing my hair after 9 years natural as an adult. Personal preference.

 

[hair4romheaven]

It's not a issue of trying to mandate other people's lives. As I stated earlier, people make a choice to relax. I don't have a problem with that. I do however have a problem with people telling the creator. You made a mistake. I wasn't meant to be like this.[/QUOTE]

I see it as a personal preference. Just like my teeth. God (the creator) blessed me with bucked teeth, why must I continue to look like Black Beauty's sister?

I chose the fix (alter) what God had blessed me with. Having bucked teeth did not affect my health in any way; straight teeth was just my personal preference.

Just like relaxing my hair after 9 years natural as an adult. Personal preference.

This is a very good point. God created all including braces relaxers & hot combs

 

[LiberianGirl]

To each their own. However, I **personally** find it strange.

 

[LiberianGirl]

It's not a issue of trying to mandate other people's lives. As I stated earlier, people make a choice to relax. I don't have a problem with that. I do however have a problem with people telling the creator. You made a mistake. I wasn't meant to be like this.[/QUOTE]

I see it as a personal preference. Just like my teeth. God (the creator) blessed me with bucked teeth, why must I continue to look like Black Beauty's sister?

I chose to permanently fix (alter) what God had blessed me with. Having bucked teeth did not affect my health in any way; straight teeth was just my personal preference.

Just like relaxing my hair after 9 years natural as an adult. Personal preference.

I guess this analogy makes since if you view your natural hair as a flaw that needs to be fixed.

 

[CaliDiamond]

My story...

When I first went natural I couldn't find a salon to do my natural hair CORRECTLY for the life of me. And I lived in Oakland, CA (LOTS of natural heads there). I learned how to do my hair after about a year and wore various styles like twist-outs and braids.

I was natural for 5 years and decided to texlax last year. It wasn't so much for the straight look as it was for the managability. I RARELY wear my hair straight or out. My hair is 4b and as thick as they come. Although I miss my poof sometimes, texlaxing (70%) helped me manage my texture and retain the hair on my head so that I may reach my goal length (my hair STAYED at SL when natural..and I was doing the "low-mani, DC 2x a week" thing). I am now grazing SL after 1 year texlaxed and a big 2-3" trim.

You know..I always wonder how different things would've been if my mum would've taught me how to take care of my natural hair from day one.

 

[supermodelsonya]

But see, that again depends on what you believe.

Thank you for saying that. Not everyone believes in a creator. Not everyone believes what YOU believe. Live and let live.

 

[Eluv]

I think when people say that, what they mean is "some peoples facial structures don't look aesthetically appealing with a twa, braids, fro, and other natral styles"...at least I hope that's what they mean.

And the fact that not everybody like kinky/coily/curly textured hair or whatever you want to call it.

Even my white co-worker straighten their wavy hair, they think it looks better. But I think it looks better wavy. Everybody has a preference.

 

[Charz]

This ain't gonna end well.

 

[DivaD04]

I wouldn't go that far and say Im not ment to be natural. For me personally, I'm thinkimg about relaxing again. It is however wonderful knowing that being natural is another way to be versatile(ooo did i spell that right) but i'm the same length since October...my hair constantly split, knot, and break. For me it's the upkeep that effects my growth rather than what the Lord has made. He makes no mistakes only I.

 

[Jazala]

This thread will not end well. Where' s the popcorn?

 

[Lola Laughs]

I see it as a personal preference. Just like my teeth. God (the creator) blessed me with bucked teeth, why must I continue to look like Black Beauty's sister?

I chose to permanently fix (alter) what God had blessed me with. Having bucked teeth did not affect my health in any way; straight teeth was just my personal preference.

Just like relaxing my hair after 9 years natural as an adult. Personal preference.

ITA. Good blessed me with two beautiful babies which unfortunately left me with not-so-perky boobs. I fully intend to "fix" both in the near future.

 

[gymfreak336]

These threads never will end well. Too many differences in many ideologies that can be related to this issue. That is why you just have to be happy with your decision and KIM....

 

[CaliDiamond]

ITA. Good blessed me with two beautiful babies which unfortunately left me with not-so-perky boobs. I fully intend to "fix" both in the near future.

Thanks for keeping it light in this thread. I know it's gonna get locked sooner or later.

 

[likewtr4chklit]

This is silly, we don't know who said it, and for what reason. So its just going to be a giant speculations about opinions.

Who in the world knows what the person meant by that

This thread is a spin off of the "I feel like a hypocrite" thread. No speculation, I just don't think OP wanted to hi-jack the other thread with her question.