My Hair Confessional

[Soulberry]

I MUST CONFESS I'M OBSESSED WITH RELAXING MY HAIR. I NEED TO STOP BEFORE I LOSE ALL MY HAIR. I MUST NOT RELAX UNTIL FEBRUARY TO SEE MORE HAIR GROWTH.
I WISH THE SIDES OF MY HAIR WILL GROW FASTER. I WILL TRY TO BE MORE PATIENT

 

[scarcity21]

Time to learn! I have a playlist of youtube videos that are styling tutorials. I'll link you, if you want.

can i get the link too?

 

[scarcity21]

I just wish my middle nape and crown area would just catch up to the rest of my hair already...Ive been doing this for 4 years now...and i dont have too much to show for it....i wish my hair would grow faster

 

[LovelyNaps26]

I confess that I want my little ole granny will say to me what she once said when I was about 10 and had not yet gotten my perm: "Is dat your hair"(said with a Jamaican accent). My hair is natural now and CL/SL.

I confess that I'm afraid I'll have to shut down the hair blog and eat all the advice I've given to friends and girls at church this month since I saw the light (yup, I'm a newbie to good natural hair care). Since learning how to care for my hair, I want to share tips with sisters who don't visit forums (and yes, I give full credit to LHCF and no I do not charge lol). I fear that I won't actually grow my hair and have to shut the blog down in shame.

I love my fro, but I feel that my legitimacy in encouraging other sisters to go natural is hinged on my ability to grow my 4a/4b hair at least APL so they can see first hand that their hair WILL grow with care.

I confess I kinda wish I was a bit shorter (i'm 5'9") so I could reach BSL in the time it will take me to reach APL. Still, I love being 6' in heels

I confess that I want to hear (Lord, forgive me): "Yo, shorty...shorty with the long hair" from a random guy. Watch when I hear it, you'll see a post by me complaining "Why are all the brothers wrapped up in long hair"

 

[melodies815]

I confess:

...that I talk to my hair in the mirror while styling.

...that I sometimes pull my twists in church when I see someone looking at my hair. It's longer than it looks. I love the slightly slack jaw as it "sproings" back into place.

...that I purposely do styles to make people ask me what I did to my hair so that they ask for advice on healthy hair practices.

...that my DD is my hair growing credibility even though my hair is not yet BSB and has never been WL like hers.

...that I sometimes STILL think my hair will not grow past the tops of my shoulders even though I can see the evidence of healthy hair practices of all hair types all around me on the board.

...that I dream of stepping into the shower with SL hair and stepping out of the shower, doing twists, and then finding that my twistout is BSL.

...that I honestly believe I could take care of my sister's hair better than her stylists.

...that I length check every other day by pulling my twists.

Oh...it feels so good to get all that off my chest. Thanks, OP!


cj

 

[RosesBlack]

I have to confess I'm kind of obsessed with learning how to straighten my hair properly.

I'm also really -really- am in love with the knock off Denman brush I got. My hair is so detangled and feels fabulous. I LOVE that brush so much.

 

[robot.]

I can't wait for this day to be over so I can get home and DC my hair.

 

[robot.]

I confess:

...that I talk to my hair in the mirror while styling.
You remind me of a poster who said, while DC'ing her hair, "Oh, you like that, do you?"


...that I dream of stepping into the shower with SL hair and stepping out of the shower, doing twists, and then finding that my twistout is BSL.
That would be the best surprise.

Oh...it feels so good to get all that off my chest. Thanks, OP!


cj

Noooo problem, CJ!

 

[robot.]

i'm trying to link this playlist, but idk how. erplexed

 

[BrownSkinQT]

I also confess that one of the last times I saw my mom when she just left the salon tears formed in my eyes because of the damage I know her hair had endured. I just couldn't get over the transparency and broken off hairs. Well hopefully in another month or so she'll let me take over when she retires.

 

[zazzi]

I confess that it excites me to finish a bottle of conditioner (I finished two last week!) because then I don't feel guilty about buying more. I also confess that I bought two bottles on Saturday, and had to stop myself from buying more on Sunday.

 

[halee_J]

I am annoyed. I am annoyed that my hair grows slowly. I am trying to be appreciative of the fact that I have execellent retention,and my hair is thick but I'm not. Not right now. It will be 8 weeks since I last relaxed, and in the front I have barely 1/2 inch. At this rate I feel like it will be 2020 before i get to waistlength

I must also confess that feel slightly ashamed that I've been here for so long and don't really have much to show for it. I went through alot of phases and setbacks with my hair, including a fade, but it kinda saddens me when I see people who joined the site when I did and they are brastrap or MBL and I'm just here with well this layered-not-even-earlength thing..... I think to myself that if i'd just been consistent and kept it simple I'd would be at MBL by now...

I'm trying to be patient, but I'm just a little bit disappointed 'cause I wanted to be able to use slightly bigger rollers on my hair for the new year....


I think i'm having one of those days...gonna cheer myself up with a new nail polish creation after work

 

[locabouthair]

I am annoyed. I am annoyed that my hair grows slowly. I am trying to be appreciative of the fact that I have execellent retention,and my hair is thick but I'm not. Not right now. It will be 8 weeks since I last relaxed, and in the front I have barely 1/2 inch. At this rate I feel like it will be 2020 before i get to waistlength

I must also confess that feel slightly ashamed that I've been here for so long and don't really have much to show for it. I went through alot of phases and setbacks with my hair, including a fade, but it kinda saddens me when I see people who joined the site when I did and they are brastrap or MBL and I'm just here with well this layered-not-even-earlength thing..... I think to myself that if i'd just been consistent and kept it simple I'd would be at MBL by now...

I'm trying to be patient, but I'm just a little bit disappointed 'cause I wanted to be able to use slightly bigger rollers on my hair for the new year....


I think i'm having one of those days...gonna cheer myself up with a new nail polish creation after work

I can relate. My hair grows slowly like yours. I get 1/4 an inch per month. Do you eat well? Get enough sleep? Exercise? Those things affect your growth rate.

I've been on this forum for 4 years. The first year I didnt take care of my hair. I've heard people on here make jokes about old members who havent gotten past SL. I just brush it off. Like you I had A LOT of set backs. Hair cuts, bald spots and all. My problem was that I was a salon ho. I kept going to different salons to find the perfect stylist and all of them broke off my hair someway or another. I'm a DIY now and I am seeing progress. Don't give up.

Be thankful your hair is thick. It's not dry, you still have edges, etc..And keep on pressing on.

 

[lawyer2be371]

I confess, that my braids are two months, and for some reason Im obsessed with them, now....I keep touching my hair...and feeling them on my back....and imagining my hair is this length...I have been hiding my hair since June...I have no clue what length I am.....now...I was a couple inches from APL in April....but Im really loving this length...with the new growth ..they are laying longer...and right...at my goal for 2010


I know Im sick....obessed with these braids...but Im flinging them aroung like they freshly done......

 

[shunemite]

My hair must be bipolar. I tried the GVP Balm, liked it at first, then the next wash, today, my hair felt coated and waxy. I took it back to Sally's and exchanged it for GVP humectress. My hair liked it back in the day. We'll see, we'll see.

 

[shunemite]

I am annoyed. I am annoyed that my hair grows slowly. I am trying to be appreciative of the fact that I have execellent retention,and my hair is thick but I'm not. Not right now. It will be 8 weeks since I last relaxed, and in the front I have barely 1/2 inch. At this rate I feel like it will be 2020 before i get to waistlength

I must also confess that feel slightly ashamed that I've been here for so long and don't really have much to show for it. I went through alot of phases and setbacks with my hair, including a fade, but it kinda saddens me when I see people who joined the site when I did and they are brastrap or MBL and I'm just here with well this layered-not-even-earlength thing..... I think to myself that if i'd just been consistent and kept it simple I'd would be at MBL by now...

I'm trying to be patient, but I'm just a little bit disappointed 'cause I wanted to be able to use slightly bigger rollers on my hair for the new year....


I think i'm having one of those days...gonna cheer myself up with a new nail polish creation after work

I know. I get about 1/4 inch, some months a half. My cousin gets a whole inch every month. Don't compare yourself to other people. There's always gonna be someone better off, and worse off than you in life. Yeah, some of us have been here longer and have had set backs, but so what. Life is a journey, not a destination. I had my own set backs due to problems in my personal life, and all I had energy for that entire time was to leave micro braids in my hair for 4 months at a time while my hair dreaded up and my edges broke off. I dealt with my personal issues, and now I can focus on my hair again.

I think it's a bigger message if you get to where you want to be despite all your struggles and set backs. People who breeze through a process, whatever it is, with no problems along the way usually are not as big of an inspiration to others.

 

[robot.]

so, i decided to do finger coils on my hair and only finished the front.

and it's gonna stay that way for now.

 

[Ashleescheveux]

I havent done my hair in a week

 

[halee_J]

I can relate. My hair grows slowly like yours. I get 1/4 an inch per month. Do you eat well? Get enough sleep? Exercise? Those things affect your growth rate.

I've been on this forum for 4 years. The first year I didnt take care of my hair. I've heard people on here make jokes about old members who havent gotten past SL. I just brush it off. Like you I had A LOT of set backs. Hair cuts, bald spots and all. My problem was that I was a salon ho. I kept going to different salons to find the perfect stylist and all of them broke off my hair someway or another. I'm a DIY now and I am seeing progress. Don't give up.

Be thankful your hair is thick. It's not dry, you still have edges, etc..And keep on pressing on.

You're right. I need to focus on what I love about my hair. Honestly, my job has been stressing me out lately due to working longer hours and I haven't been able to workout as much as I used to.....ok let me be real, I've HARDLY been working out, and that used to be my stress reliever. And junk has been steadily creeping back into my diet. But I'm turning that around its getting better, hopefully my hair will respond in kind. Like you, I am also now getting the hang of this DIY thing. Thanks Loca

I know. I get about 1/4 inch, some months a half. My cousin gets a whole inch every month. Don't compare yourself to other people. There's always gonna be someone better off, and worse off than you in life. Yeah, some of us have been here longer and have had set backs, but so what. Life is a journey, not a destination. I had my own set backs due to problems in my personal life, and all I had energy for that entire time was to leave micro braids in my hair for 4 months at a time while my hair dreaded up and my edges broke off. I dealt with my personal issues, and now I can focus on my hair again.

I think it's a bigger message if you get to where you want to be despite all your struggles and set backs. People who breeze through a process, whatever it is, with no problems along the way usually are not as big of an inspiration to others.

Shunemite, you are right. It really is all about the journey. Through those setbacks I've learned soooo much . I need to remember that.

 

[JJamiah]

My confession

I cut my hair in 2007 to make my husband ANGRY and it worked

I just found out he knew I was angry when he got home and was hurt because his wife was bald and not speaking to him

I confess that I wish members of my family would stop assuming they know so much about me when they don't.

I made a comment about a young girl, and said I remember when I was that skinny, from a certain full sized family members "you were never that skinny" really I was 88lbs at 21 and I am 125lbs as I type, so is that not SKINNY, I JUST had a BUTT! and Thighs, give me a break.

I can't STAnd that my cousin compares my sisters hair and mine, she has 3a/b and I have 3c, so my sister has poor hair care habits and I relaxed her, because even though our hair can be blow dryed straight we'd like not to frizz out when sweating to death. SO I relaxed her and she would go with out combing or brushing her hair and she would use body lotion to moisturize her hair and soap to wash it no conditioning, I guess she too believed in the good hair syndrome, but my Lovely cousin tells MY SISTER, you shouldn't let people who are jealous of you do your hair. I am like OKAY you who colors every month and has 4 inch hair since I've been born. HOrrid thing to say to my sister, my sister told her no it's because I don't listen to her and I don't comb my hair. HA in your FACE cousin!!!!!

ALso same cousin, I DID A BIG CHOP 1 inch when I was PRegnant hair grew like weeds, I had the LAuren HIll TWIST about 5 inches about 4 months into my pregnancy, someone complemented my hair saying you have a really nice texture (their words not mine, just telling the story) I go okay, she goes she relaxed her hair she got NIG*A Hair, I go actually My relaxed hair is in the trash and I haven't relaxed my hair in quite a while, her sister CHECKS her right away, SHe's not relaxed and have always had looser curls than us. Don't say that.

I AM HURT, this is my family and it's like every chance they just get negative.

I am also confessing, I was at my sisters funeral last year, I bought a wig the day before because my hair wasn't done, a cousin of mines goes at the FUNERAL " oh you have the same wig I have, you know I have that one right" HUH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I walked away

I also confess I feel bad when I look at my sister not taking care of her hair. She used to always get it done and now the ends look damaged and the edges are broken,

 

[JJamiah]

Now that felt good; I've only told my husband about that just a few days ago.

SOmetimes I feel like I love my family more than they love me. (certain ones)

I am also confessing I have Hair Anorexia

 

[Brittanie87]

I love mixing my DC mixes, but I hate actually applying them to my hair. I'm like a kid in a candy store when I'm going through my conditioner stash deciding which one I want to use. It takes me 30 minutes to apply it to my head, and sometimes when I feel really lazy I just put the mix in the fridge and wait until the next day to do it.

 

[Jaegermany]

I just tried my caruso rollerset again...and Im lookin like shirley temple (in a good way!)

 

[shunemite]

I just tried my caruso rollerset again...and Im lookin like shirley temple (in a good way!)

Weehee! Nothing like the first good caruso set.

 

[LunadeMiel]

My hair is looking a hot frizzy mess. I did these two strand twists on Sunday and I'm pretty sure they aren't coming out until tomorrow night (if I feel like it ).
My hair is getting longer and it irritates me. I think I want a haircut

 

[melodies815]

Well..this isn't a hair confession, but I confess, whenever I hear a Chris Brown song, I feel sorry for him because I don't really see his career recovering. ;_;

You made me giggle....cute post.


cj

 

[melodies815]

I confess that:

Robotxcore has the most interesting and probably the most peaceful, long-running threads. I hate seeing the worst in everyone. Your threads seem to bring out the best, most girly side of us. Thanks for that!

*I should be working*

cj

 

[blacksapphire]

My confession

I cut my hair in 2007 to make my husband ANGRY and it worked

I just found out he knew I was angry when he got home and was hurt because his wife was bald and not speaking to him

I confess that I wish members of my family would stop assuming they know so much about me when they don't.

I made a comment about a young girl, and said I remember when I was that skinny, from a certain full sized family members "you were never that skinny" really I was 88lbs at 21 and I am 125lbs as I type, so is that not SKINNY, I JUST had a BUTT! and Thighs, give me a break.

I can't STAnd that my cousin compares my sisters hair and mine, she has 3a/b and I have 3c, so my sister has poor hair care habits and I relaxed her, because even though our hair can be blow dryed straight we'd like not to frizz out when sweating to death. SO I relaxed her and she would go with out combing or brushing her hair and she would use body lotion to moisturize her hair and soap to wash it no conditioning, I guess she too believed in the good hair syndrome, but my Lovely cousin tells MY SISTER, you shouldn't let people who are jealous of you do your hair. I am like OKAY you who colors every month and has 4 inch hair since I've been born. HOrrid thing to say to my sister, my sister told her no it's because I don't listen to her and I don't comb my hair. HA in your FACE cousin!!!!!

ALso same cousin, I DID A BIG CHOP 1 inch when I was PRegnant hair grew like weeds, I had the LAuren HIll TWIST about 5 inches about 4 months into my pregnancy, someone complemented my hair saying you have a really nice texture (their words not mine, just telling the story) I go okay, she goes she relaxed her hair she got NIG*A Hair, I go actually My relaxed hair is in the trash and I haven't relaxed my hair in quite a while, her sister CHECKS her right away, SHe's not relaxed and have always had looser curls than us. Don't say that.

I AM HURT, this is my family and it's like every chance they just get negative.

I am also confessing, I was at my sisters funeral last year, I bought a wig the day before because my hair wasn't done, a cousin of mines goes at the FUNERAL " oh you have the same wig I have, you know I have that one right" HUH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I walked away

I also confess I feel bad when I look at my sister not taking care of her hair. She used to always get it done and now the ends look damaged and the edges are broken,

I feel you pain..my family is the same way too which get's me so angry...they constantly assume that they know me, they would say oh "I won't do this" and "I'll say this or that" without even asking my and when I do ask a question they take it negatively and I'm looking like erplexed (I wasn't even thinking like that...)

They constantly say things to try to bring me down by making remarks about everything about it...It's a good thing you have your sister to stick up for you, I'm the youngest and my sisters are mostly the ones who say these things Even though I always make myself available when they need me and always stick up for them.

My sisters do want healthy long hair but they don't put the time that i do into it so their ends are damaged and DRY....I eldest sister is now listening b/c my hair is now healthier and longer than hers

I sometimes feel like I'm the outcast in my family....


LOL this turn into a confession....

 

[JJamiah]

I feel you pain..my family is the same way too which get's me so angry...they constantly assume that they know me, they would say oh "I won't do this" and "I'll say this or that" without even asking my and when I do ask a question they take it negatively and I'm looking like erplexed (I wasn't even thinking like that...)

They constantly say things to try to bring me down by making remarks about everything about it...It's a good thing you have your sister to stick up for you, I'm the youngest and my sisters are mostly the ones who say these things Even though I always make myself available when they need me and always stick up for them.

My sisters do want healthy long hair but they don't put the time that i do into it so their ends are damaged and DRY....I eldest sister is now listening b/c my hair is now healthier and longer than hers

I sometimes feel like I'm the outcast in my family....


LOL this turn into a confession....

..........

 

[Geminigirl]

I confess...

I will never try henna because I think that the paste looks like poop, and I can't get past that.

That's cute.