Has there been a time that you couldnt help but give hair advice

[Kerryann]

So yesterday i was at the supermarket ringing up my items low and behold the cashier was so bald on the sides and in the back it was just hurting me to look at it because it was so bad

Of course the LHCFer kicked in i was like excuse me do you want your hair to grow back in those areas i(m sorry it may sound bad but yes people i couldnt help myself) She said yes so

I said hand me a paper and a pen i wrote down Micanzole nitrate on the paper and told her after work walk across to the family dollar it $5 and make sure you use it every night. I couldve gave her more info but i had to go.


Have any of you ladies had to give out hair care info simply because you couldnt help it and not to mention it was needed asap

 

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

Damn you're bold. LOL

 

[melissa-bee]

That is bold. Did you even bother to tell her about the side effects?

 

[Irresistible]

yeah that is bold

without further info she is gonna be like what, coochie cream? LOL

But to answer the question, yes there have been times I really really wanted to, but I always could help it. I choose the timing try to gauge appropriateness of the situation

although it hurts my heart sometimes when I cant, but also figure in those times they wouldnt listen anyway

 

[Diva_Esq]

WOW!



I don't give unsolicited advice for the most part.

 

[Irresistible]

That is bold. Did you even bother to tell her about the side effects?

yeah , very important info to give

 

[BlackMasterPiece]

Wow, I think that was actually really good of you, I'm bold myself and I wouldn't have had the bravery to ask a balding lady if she wants her hair to grow back in those patches I'd be too scared she'd be too defensive to address it.

Alot of times people will walk up to me and compliment me on my fro or curls or how silky straight I got my hair and often after a while they bring up the issues they're having with their hair, I use that as an opportunity to give some tips tricks and every time they eagerly whip out a piece of paper if I have none. I LOVE to give advice, I do it all the time and its such a great feeling when the person goes "omg! thanksomuch!" it makes me feel sooooo happy to help

Kerry, if you see that lady again I hope you also recommend to her castor oil, I've heard great things about that too and its more mainstream. Miconozole nitrate is a bit of a leap for most people Also have a little convo with her and make sure she isnt sabotaging whatever growth aid she's using by overprocessing or wearing a too tight pony

 

[Beaute Noire]

IDK, I've wanted to but I've never given advice to someone I'm not familiar with. I think the most I would do is tell her to visit LHCF...not tryna get a beat down :axehunter:

Funny thing is, If my hair was badly damaged and someone approached me with advice on how to get my hair healthy, I would be very open to what they had to say...Especially if he/she had a beautiful head of healthy hair ​

 

[La Colocha]

Ive wanted to but i don't unless asked. And when asked i try to be as detailed as possible.

 

[Beaute Noire]

Ive wanted to but i don't unless asked. And when asked i try to be as detailed as possible.

^^ I agree..delivery is very important...you can't be like "Damn girl your hair is a hot mess!!! lemme help you".

 

[SistaSista]

WOW! I'm not sure that I would go up to a complete stranger and ask if they want their patches to grow. Not to say that I never wanted to, but you never know what her situation is. She may have a medical problem or maybe she's just uninformed about proper hair care. I just don't feel comfortable giving my opinion on someone else's hair without them asking for advice first.

 

[Kerryann]

i did tell her to read on it though and she will see and it really works.

If you saw it i swear you wouldve have said something. she did tell me it was because of as perm she had years ago and her pulling her hair tight in a ponytail

 

[BeetleBug]

Wow! I wouldn't tell a stranger to put anything on her scalp w/o researching it first. She might be allergic to that stuff. At the very most, I would have directed her to this site.

 

[MilkChocolateOne]

I know your intentions were good and you were trying to help.

If her baldness is due to chemical damage, bad practices, or traction alopecia, micanzole nitrate will not help her.

What you did was the equivalent of telling an overweight person to take diet pills to lose weight without addressing the basics of possible existing medical conditions, diet, nutrition, and exercise.

 

[Kerryann]

I know your intentions were good and you were trying to help.

If her baldness is due to chemical damage, bad practices, or traction alopecia, micanzole nitrate will not help her.

What you did was the equivalent of telling an overweight person to take diet pills to lose weight without addressing the basics of possible existing medical conditions, diet, nutrition, and exercise.

Slow down mam i am actually going back to the supermarket today and she is working so i told her i do have more to tell her i had to run because my mom was in a hurry so slow down pump brakes take a breath

 

[ChristmasCarol]

I like having teeth in my mouth so I just smile and KIM.

 

[Chaosbutterfly]

You are boldddd.
I have never given a random person hair advice, just because I'm scared they might turn around and beat my butt. I feel like black women in particular are sensitive about when they are having serious hair issues, and that sensitivity can manifest itself in negative ways. You never know what people will do.

But I do applaud you for trying to help out a fellow lady in need, because that surely took courage. But I'm more glad she was so receptive to what you had to say, because if she wasn't, that could have gotten ugly.

 

[naturalpride]

I have wanted to give advice to people, even if we are on the topic of hair, but I don't like to seem like a know it all unless the person is really serious about taking care of their hair and they ask me personally what tips can I give on hair care or products.

 

[Bene]

Unsolicited advice like that from a stranger is one of those things I'd brush off as the ramblings of a stranger. If I hadn't heard previously what the miconazole does, I'd just smile and nod, then go home and tell everyone I know about the crazy person in the store who told me to put coochie cream on my scalp.

 

[Diva_Esq]

I like having teeth in my mouth so I just smile and KIM.

 

[Bella_Atl]

Of course the LHCFer kicked in i was like excuse me do you want your hair to grow back in those areas

Girl..please tell me you had your sneakers on and checked for exits signs before you asked that question.

Cause I seriously had to read your post twice. I heard cricket sounds in my head for about 3 minutes while I was processing the information. Whew that was bold!

 

[Ganjababy]

I stopped...............

 

[Duchesse]

You are bold! But, you did a good deed. I've given unsolicited advice to students, but never to an adult. I honestly think that 8 times out of 10, depending upon your delivery and tone, the info would be greatly appreciated. But those other 2 times, I would be afraid to receive some backlash and teeth snapping.

 

[naturalmanenyc]

That was nice of you to give her a tip.

I only give hair advice when asked. People can be really touchy about their hair.

 

[30something]

Companies should hire you to fire people! But seriously if you ever see her again you should ask her if she seen a doctor about it. I'd be so upset if a relaxer ruined my hair like that. How does relaxer even destroy your hair like that? Leaving it on for 2hrs?

 

[Kerryann]

You know what i didnt understand why she needed to relax her hair because she was Puerto Rican and her hair was fine. the rest of it was long. I didnt deliver it bad i said it friendly to her she was excited to so i didnt see what was wrong.


20something you silly and i actually deal with men stubborn arses all day which i do fire sometimes.

 

[chellero]

I tell bald and raggedy headed folks who compliment my hair about this forum, but that's as far as I'd go with a stranger.

 

[supermodelsonya]

I never give unsolicited advice...but I have felt the urge....

 

[Leeda.the.Paladin]

I'm also a fan of having teeth so, I'll not be giving out hair advice without prompting.

She probably thought you sent her on a wild goose chase when she ended up in the feminine hygiene isle LOL!

I know your heart was in the right place.

 

[locabouthair]

Companies should hire you to fire people! But seriously if you ever see her again you should ask her if she seen a doctor about it. I'd be so upset if a relaxer ruined my hair like that. How does relaxer even destroy your hair like that? Leaving it on for 2hrs?

If the relaxer is not washed out properly your hair will break off to less than an inch. Unfortunately I know this from experience

Anyway OP, I would have just given her the name of this site instead of telling her about MN.