Has there been a time that you couldnt help but give hair advice

[beans4reezy]

I feel you my fellow Ayisyen, definitely not attacking you just had to defend my stomping grounds u kno its all love sweety

I know, we gets busy for our own! Mwah!

 

[BrooklynSouth]

I'm not really sure that I did this; but maybe I should rephrase. Growing up in the area where I did; in Brooklyn, NY, offering unsolicited advice could lead to some very ugly situations

Beans, I can appreciate that. I grew up in Brownsville, Bed-Sty, Crown Heights and there was definitely a code of behavior. I don't want people having bad impressions of home.

 

[TrueBeliever]

There was a lady that used to work on the floor below me and I would try not to say anything but just could not help myself in the end. Her colleagues would say stuff behind her back but I would at least try to offer some help and recommendations but she just would not listen at all.

She would boast about her Cartier watch and her expensive shoes etc but she would go to the cheapest people to get her hair extensions done and they looked horrific. It is a shame as she did not take care of her daughter’s hair either and it looked even worse than hers. She told me that she would just buy the cheapest shampoo that she could find for their hair. She would just shampoo their hair and let it dry and then try to comb it. It took me 2 years to persuade her to use conditioner but she still would not take my advice about detangling with the conditioner in their hair.

She was natural for years and then relaxed it and got the strongest relaxer she could find and left it on the little bit of hair that she had left for 40 minutes and left it on her 7 year old daughters virgin hair for 30 minutes. I asked her why she left it on so long and she said that when she used to relax her hair, she always used to leave it long until her scalp burned and would start to peel. She said that she would just switch on the fan and lean forward so the breeze would cool her head.

A few weeks later it just started to break off and she put her hair in extensions. One day she took them out mid week and parts of her hair were eaten down to the scalp. I recommended Aubrey Organic conditioners, oils such as olive as I knew that she would not pay for jojoba oil but she just said that that was the texture of her hair and those items would not work for her.

As the saying goes – you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.

Some ppl just want to be bald.

 

[rosalindb]

Wow......omg just WOWWWW that would have been too much to take for me, I would have really tried to reason with her and knowing me, I might've even bought her some products or given her my own. That is sooooo serious damn that lady just WANTED to be bald

MBP, seriouly I tried to reason with that woman so many times over the 3 years that we worked in the same building - and it was literally like talking to a brick wall. I think I have discussed her hair with her at least 75 times, probably more and I am not exaggerating. I really, really could not help myself where she was concerned no matter how hard I tried.

I was furious that she had left the relaxer on her daughter's hair especially for so long too. Both myself and her colleague really did tell her off about that as we both told her the week before that she should not relax her daughters hair as she was so young and we thought that she would not do it.

One day I gave her 125ml of a home made hair oil concoction I made - it contained oils such as organic jojoba oil, organic EVOO, organic avocado oil, etc and organic essentials oil of lavender and ylang ylang – I only use natural products and try to use organic where possible so it was good quality.

A couple of days later, I asked her if she was using the oil and she told me that she would just put two drops on her hairline. What is the point of that? I told her to use it all over and be consistent to see if it makes a difference and she then did this just a couple of times for her and her daughter and she said that she loved it. A couple of weeks later I asked her if the oil was still okay for them both and she said that it was too nice and she wanted the hair oil to last so she only used it occasionally and then she went and diluted it with some cheap crap she bought and that bottle lasted her and her daughter almost 2 years.

No way was I then going to then give her my Aubrey Organics conditioners – I might have just as well poured them down the drain. I often share products with my friends such as my home made hair oil concoctions and body butters. I gave two of my friends samples of the AO conditioners and one of them is a convert

 

[Nayna]

Rosalind that lady is a nut!

 

[BlackMasterPiece]

MBP, seriouly I tried to reason with that woman so many times over the 3 years that we worked in the same building - and it was literally like talking to a brick wall. I think I have discussed her hair with her at least 75 times, probably more and I am not exaggerating. I really, really could not help myself where she was concerned no matter how hard I tried.

I was furious that she had left the relaxer on her daughter's hair especially for so long too. Both myself and her colleague really did tell her off about that as we both told her the week before that she should not relax her daughters hair as she was so young and we thought that she would not do it.

One day I gave her 125ml of a home made hair oil concoction I made - it contained oils such as organic jojoba oil, organic EVOO, organic avocado oil, etc and organic essentials oil of lavender and ylang ylang – I only use natural products and try to use organic where possible so it was good quality.

A couple of days later, I asked her if she was using the oil and she told me that she would just put two drops on her hairline. What is the point of that? I told her to use it all over and be consistent to see if it makes a difference and she then did this just a couple of times for her and her daughter and she said that she loved it. A couple of weeks later I asked her if the oil was still okay for them both and she said that it was too nice and she wanted the hair oil to last so she only used it occasionally and then she went and diluted it with some cheap crap she bought and that bottle lasted her and her daughter almost 2 years.

No way was I then going to then give her my Aubrey Organics conditioners – I might have just as well poured them down the drain. I often share products with my friends such as my home made hair oil concoctions and body butters. I gave two of my friends samples of the AO conditioners and one of them is a convert

rosalindb you really went above and beyond to try to help that lady out its so sweet and thoughtful of you to give her your hommade oil concoction. She is just beyond help but I'm sooooooo tight she's putting all them caustic chemicals on that little girl and leaving it on so long! what a mess! Damn I'd have to just try to avoid her so I dont see her and that chewed up head cuz thats horrendous

 

[dynamic1]

I would never offer unsolicited advice. However, if people are having issues with fungal scalp infections, I would suggest they first seek the advice of a dermatologist and perhaps refer them to ketoconazole (Nizoral). There is less shock & awe when discussing Nizoral over Miconazole products.

I think offering a remedy when you don't know the cause of her balding is rather presumptuous.

 

[Zawaj]

^^ I agree..delivery is very important...you can't be like "Damn girl your hair is a hot mess!!! lemme help you".

iDied

 

[rosalindb]

rosalindb you really went above and beyond to try to help that lady out its so sweet and thoughtful of you to give her your hommade oil concoction. She is just beyond help but I'm sooooooo tight she's putting all them caustic chemicals on that little girl and leaving it on so long! what a mess! Damn I'd have to just try to avoid her so I dont see her and that chewed up head cuz thats horrendous

Thank you. I was extremely upset about her daughter - as far as I am concerned that was child abuse. She has since left the company I did recommend Aubrey Organic conditioners & pure olive oil as it is cheap and easily available.

I think the way she sees her hair stems from her own childhood as she said that her sister had lovely hair but she got the bad hair. Unfortunately she is passing that onto her daughter as she told me and her colleague that she tells her daughter all the time that her hair is bad Both my colleague and I told her not to do that but she thought that it was funny that we were concerned by this.

Kerryann, in future I think I will probably only offer advice if I am asked. Another lady that worked here suffered a lot of breakage from a bad relaxer experience. The IT guy told her that I only use natural products and may be able to offer some advice and gave her my extension number. I met her in reception the following day and we chatted. Over the next few weeks, I gave her some of my hair oil concoction, samples of my rosewater, organic VCO and recommended that she use this to pre-poo overnight, AO HSR conditioner and she now uses these religiously. I also recommended AO GBP and she went and bought that.

She asks me for advice regularly and her hair has since grown from earlength to almost APL. She said that this is the longest that her hair has grown since she started relaxing and wants to see if she can regain the bra strap length hair she had before she started relaxing at 12 years old.

That has been a truly rewarding experience and I also gained a friend

 

[La Colocha]

Thank you. I was extremely upset about her daughter - as far as I am concerned that was child abuse. She has since left the company I did recommend Aubrey Organic conditioners & pure olive oil as it is cheap and easily available.

I think the way she sees her hair stems from her own childhood as she said that her sister had lovely hair but she got the bad hair. Unfortunately she is passing that onto her daughter as she told me and her colleague that she tells her daughter all the time that her hair is bad Both my colleague and I told her not to do that but she thought that it was funny that we were concerned by this.

Kerryann, in future I think I will probably only offer advice if I am asked. Another lady that worked here suffered a lot of breakage from a bad relaxer experience. The IT guy told her that I only use natural products and may be able to offer some advice and gave her my extension number. I met her in reception the following day and we chatted. Over the next few weeks, I gave her some of my hair oil concoction, samples of my rosewater, organic VCO and recommended that she use this to pre-poo overnight, AO HSR conditioner and she now uses these religiously. I also recommended AO GBP and she went and bought that.

She asks me for advice regularly and her hair has since grown from earlength to almost APL. She said that this is the longest that her hair has grown since she started relaxing and wants to see if she can regain the bra strap length hair she had before she started relaxing at 12 years old.

That has been a truly rewarding experience and I also gained a friend

Where were you when my hair needed you, you are so nice.

 

[Almaz]

Yes everytime some knucklehead makes a comment about my long hair when they themselves don't have any

 

[BlaqBella]

Where were you when my hair needed you, you are so nice.

I TOTALLY AGREE! You are a GOOD HEARTED PERSON! We need more of you!