"You look like your Homeless and Decomposing"

[LadyPaniolo]

So hateful.... and I bet the head nurse will give a sorry behind apology, or say it was said out of love and concern but it came out the wrong way. SMDH.

 

[IslandChild]

Hello everyone - I've been a lurker for YEARS, but have never been moved to post/reply until now. Given the scenario, the Head Nurse (HN) probably said DECOMPENSATING, not decomposing. Decomposing means rotting, which does not make sense. Decompensation is a valid medical term, and given the situation, would be used accurately. It means that there is an exacerbation of a mental condition (e.g., manic depression) that occurs when corrective mechanisms (medication) cannot maintain the individual at an optimal level of functioning, which results in further personality disturbance and/or psychological inbalance with a diminished ability of think and carry on daily activites, including basic hygiene. If the HN had knowledge of a history of manic depression in the nurse in question and has noticed that her appearance has been taking a nosedive recently (e.g., dirty, wrinkled scrubs/uniforms, messy hair, sudden weight gain/loss, increased distractability, etc.), then she was absolutely correct in bringing it to the nurse's attention. However, she should not have done it in front of the nursing staff and so harshly, and should be called on that. But as a HN, it is her job to ensure that all her nurses are mentally/emotionally capable of providing medical care without causing any injury to patients. It is very difficult to manage manic depression as there is constant readjusting in medications and dosages to maintain the correct serotonin levels in the brain, and unfortunately if one is in either a manic or depressive phase, it is difficult for them to recognize to symptoms. Just my 2 cents.

 

[msa]

Hello everyone - I've been a lurker for YEARS, but have never been moved to post/reply until now. Given the scenario, the Head Nurse (HN) probably said DECOMPENSATING, not decomposing. Decomposing means rotting, which does not make sense. Decompensation is a valid medical term, and given the situation, would be used accurately. It means that there is an exacerbation of a mental condition (e.g., manic depression) that occurs when corrective mechanisms (medication) cannot maintain the individual at an optimal level of functioning, which results in further personality disturbance and/or psychological inbalance with a diminished ability of think and carry on daily activites, including basic hygiene. If the HN had knowledge of a history of manic depression in the nurse in question and has noticed that her appearance has been taking a nosedive recently (e.g., dirty, wrinkled scrubs/uniforms, messy hair, sudden weight gain/loss, increased distractability, etc.), then she was absolutely correct in bringing it to the nurse's attention. However, she should not have done it in front of the nursing staff and so harshly, and should be called on that. But as a HN, it is her job to ensure that all her nurses are mentally/emotionally capable of providing medical care without causing any injury to patients. It is very difficult to manage manic depression as there is constant readjusting in medications and dosages to maintain the correct serotonin levels in the brain, and unfortunately if one is in either a manic or depressive phase, it is difficult for them to recognize to symptoms. Just my 2 cents.

I don't think she said or meant to say "decompensating" based on the rest of the sentence. I think she was saying that the lady was "deteriorating" before their very eyes.

a head nurse walked up to her and said that her hair is horrible, she looks disheveled and also looks homeless. She also said that 'everyone is talking about it' and it appears that she is decomposing 'before their very eyes'.

And even if the HN said decompensating, there are so many other things that are completely out of line that were said first. IMO, the HN meant to humiliate her into changing her look and that's why she said what she said in front of other people.

Either way, it was wrong and I hope that HN is reprimanded harshly, if not fired. Because if she's saying this to another employee who knows what she's saying about patients. And that place would get sued up and down if I heard a nurse talking like that about a family member of mine that was a patient.

 

[IslandChild]

"I don't think she said or meant to say "decompensating" based on the rest of the sentence. I think she was saying that the lady was "deteriorating" before their very eyes."

This is what decompensation means - a deterioration.

 

[lilanie]

If this happened in California; this is probably a tort.

 

[msa]

"I don't think she said or meant to say "decompensating" based on the rest of the sentence. I think she was saying that the lady was "deteriorating" before their very eyes."

This is what decompensation means - a deterioration.

I understand. I just don't think she meant what she said in a medical way. I think she was insulting on purpose.

 

[nucienuce1]

lol buttercreme I told her to come to this website for advice.

 

[mscocoface]

lol buttercreme I told her to come to this website for advice.

Who the lady who was humiliated or the one who did the humiliating? Sorry slow today.

 

[LuyshuZ]

It's so terrible that her friend had to endure an episode like this at work and her objective was obviously to humiliate her in front of her peers.

 

[nucienuce1]

The lady who was insulted, she had to cut her hair due to a medical issue so I suggested that she come to this site for help. I didnt mean to insult her but to help her.

 

[Almaz]

Goodness another Nurse showed me this at work today. I am mortified that someone would even say something like that. That was just mean and cruel.

 

[Almaz]

Okay been a nurse for many years. I understand what you are saying but I truly think she meant what she said. Nurses can be very nice to patients but I have seen some tear each other apart.

Hello everyone - I've been a lurker for YEARS, but have never been moved to post/reply until now. Given the scenario, the Head Nurse (HN) probably said DECOMPENSATING, not decomposing. Decomposing means rotting, which does not make sense. Decompensation is a valid medical term, and given the situation, would be used accurately. It means that there is an exacerbation of a mental condition (e.g., manic depression) that occurs when corrective mechanisms (medication) cannot maintain the individual at an optimal level of functioning, which results in further personality disturbance and/or psychological inbalance with a diminished ability of think and carry on daily activites, including basic hygiene. If the HN had knowledge of a history of manic depression in the nurse in question and has noticed that her appearance has been taking a nosedive recently (e.g., dirty, wrinkled scrubs/uniforms, messy hair, sudden weight gain/loss, increased distractability, etc.), then she was absolutely correct in bringing it to the nurse's attention. However, she should not have done it in front of the nursing staff and so harshly, and should be called on that. But as a HN, it is her job to ensure that all her nurses are mentally/emotionally capable of providing medical care without causing any injury to patients. It is very difficult to manage manic depression as there is constant readjusting in medications and dosages to maintain the correct serotonin levels in the brain, and unfortunately if one is in either a manic or depressive phase, it is difficult for them to recognize to symptoms. Just my 2 cents.

 

[Fine 4s]

OK, I'm still stuck on the Don...who is that?

 

[SVT]

OK, I'm still stuck on the Don...who is that?

Director of Nursing.

 

[Kayluv]

Even if she said decompensating, she was harsh, cruel, rude and just plain unprofessional. There are no excuses for being nasty.