Black Men don't like Black women with natural hair...

[prospurr4]

I stopped caring about what people (who don't pay my bills) thought about my hair or hair styles a loooong time ago. I wear my hair how I want to....PERIOD. The only man's opinion I'm interested in is DH's, and fortunately, he loves my hair style choices...I believe it's because he loves ME.

ETA: I passed on the youtube.

 

[Miamori]

I find it very lamentable when we have latched onto and accepted ideals like straight hair as representations of true beauty that we will defend them tooth and nail, almost to the point of anger, when others dare reject, question, or counter them with the truth.

 

[prettyFine]

not saying its right or wrong but its been my experience when talking to dh or guy friends that they don't like nappy natural hair. they seem to like it when its good hair. most like it long from what i've seen. i've always wondered what natural 4a+ women thought of this since so many are going natural.

 

[that_1_grrrl]

That has been my experience as well. I have worn my natural hair all kinds of ways, and the well of men hitting on my never dried up. I think a lot of men like it if you have it in a cute little do.

But now that I have my hair covered all the time, the well has dried up. I think everyone figures I'm bald or something. But, I am okay with that. Once I come back swinging with my APL natural hair, they'll be back (or even until I get some banging headwraps).

I really don't think men care that much. I've been wearing my hair in natural looking styles (Rarely ever straight) for years and I still have men in my face all day everyday. And nothing on me looks or is close to white whether my hair is straight or nappy. Natural hair looks good on me. It looks better with my features. Straight hair does nothing for my face. In my experience, as long as your hair is done, it does not matter to them one way or another. I've noticed more men with an aversion to short hair (which a lot of men equate with being bald headed/masculine) than natural hair.

I've read some people posting about they stopped getting cat calls since they went natural or that they didn't attract as many men or a different type of men (which usually was a positive change) but that didn't happen to me. And I think a lot of that has to do with confidence factor. If you are not so sure about your new natural hair or are not comfortable with it just yet, men may be picking up on that and not approaching. But if you are confident and secure and carry yourself that way men will take notice and see that glow around you. A lot of women have said they felt the most beautiful in their TWA stage. It made them feel fierce.

ETA: I will admit that natural hair acceptance may be higher in some areas than others though. I live in the Baltimore/DC area and natural hair is very common here. Same thing with NYC.

 

[prettyFine]

Girl please. Men look at your head FIRST. What you're talking about is not the real world. There's a lot of superficial people out there. Even good men can be superficial in some ways. They won't have a chance to know your personality if they find you unattractive. Cause they won't try to go that deep.

true i agree here. i know of friend of mine had a chic to come over. she had ..um..4z hair. and it was not well permed. well after she left he said prettyfine, one thing you must always do...get your wig done. I fell out ! he said if you don't get anything done you should always have your wig done! i knew what he was talking about. he said it without saying it. well when he married it sure wasn't her. hey it is what it is. but if you know black men don't like nappy natural hair and you wear your hair like that you must consider your actions if you are not actively dating.

 

[anon123]

Whatever, that's one dude. I went around town Saturday running errands with extra kinky 4B hair looking fly and got 4 compliments from dudes in a few hours talking about how they love to see black women wear their own hair and they love my natural style. I get compliments all the time, frequently from black men.

How come everything one black person says/does/thinks has to be extrapolated to every black person on the planet? I mean, seriously, black people don't all share one communal mind.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MriWQ6r32O4

 

[iprocrz108]

I think we must be more careful with the generalizations. Your husbands, his boys and the other black males you encounter in your circle do not speak for ALL black men. In regards to considering whether your hair is relaxed or natural when it comes to your chances of finding a mate - give me a break! I know PLENTY of single women with relaxed hair who can’t find or keep a man and I’m sure it has nothing to do with them stretching out their relaxers.

If it was true that black men did not like natural hair then many of us would not be here now! Take a look in your old family albums, the ones with the yellowing Polariods from the 60’s, 70’s and 80’s. Don’t some of your most beloved family members, including yourself (if you were around), have natural hair at some point?

Here’s something to think about: Imagine if all black women decided to wear their hair in it’s natural state, be it in a wash and go, braids, twists, locks, etc. Do you REALLY believe that ALL the black men would turn their backs on ALL the black women because of their natural hair? I seriously doubt that!

 

[Hairsofab]

I know this is a controversial topic. I think body type is the number one attraction for any man. For black men, I do think most do not prefer natural hair (unless your hair is 1-3c). There have been naturals on youtube who have said they get less play from black guys with their hair natural or if they do get play its from a different type of guy. The experience is so common that I can't believe there is no truth to it. I don't really notice either way tbh sadly I don't really get hit on much at all.

 

[SleekandBouncy]

No offense to the OP, I'm just honestly and truly not in the mood for more of this. If it's not my dood then I really don't care right now.

And ditto what Gym said.

 

[MonaLisa]

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[yuriko]

This is so funny to me. The age old question, what do men want?

I am sure if you are happy with yourself, at least one will want you as you are.

 

[SweetSpirit86]

My SO doesn't care how I wear my hair, long as I don't look a mess. I'd say he prefers it natural, but that's not so much about the look as it is me not putting chemicals on my head like it's nothing.

 

[pisceschica]

Your comment about men being attracted to a woman's hair has me cracking up. I have heard men say alot of things about women but NEVER have I heard one say he just had to get with so and so cuz she got a bangin hairdo..LOL. Now alot of men will trip over themselves for a woman with a nice booty, nice breast, or any other physical body feature you can think of. But I don't think I have seen a man do a double take cuz of some woman's hairstyle...LOL

They may not because of a woman's hairstyle but a good number of men are drawn to women with lucious locks. They may not date her soley b/c of her hair but that maybe part of her beauty..allure. I remember reading in Marie Claire the one with beyonce on it that the #1 feature men were attracted to was hair. . not its not representative of the population but that was intresting.

 

[pisceschica]

What do you guys think?


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b_L_KIYgtPo​

I most definetely believe it.

I know its not representative of the population but I have come across a handful of CL ads where the black men seeking black women said they didn't want one with natural hair. And I also see alot of it in my daily life hearing comments from black men about a woman with her "nappy rough hair." Are all black men like this no! Not all men care about hair that much. But I believe that most don't care for it but thats just my opinion.

 

[jaszymeen]

just cuz she could get her a fresh pack of yaki 1b doesnt mean she can stick her stank nose up at women who chose to wear their hair for "them" vs a man who can leave u 2day or 2morrow and wouldnt think twice about it.

 

[applebananas]

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[fyb87]

Hmm....not going to watch the video. However, I can only offer my experience with black men or men in general in regards to my natural hair and I've never heard anything bad. It has always been positive. They love it curly and they love it when I flat iron it straight (which is only a few times at the most a year)!

 

[Poohbear]

What do you guys think?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b_L_KIYgtPo​

just so not true...there are black men that love natural hair...her husband just happens to be one of the men that don't like natural hair.

 

[natural2be]

If A Man (and I'm talking a Real Man) really likes/loves you, He will not care how you wear your Hair. All that will be minor. Yes, He may say he has a "preference" but If He Really Likes/Loves you, He won't Care about How you LOOK !

All of that is Superficial Anyway. And most "Real" Men care about what's on the Inside of a Woman. The Heart of A Woman. Have you ever looked at a Man with a woman and think: "What is he doing with her?"

So..........If He's Into You, Really Into You, He won't Care if You're Bald

Bingo! You hit the nail on the head. Me and my hubby just had ths convo Friday. I am in the process of transitioning and since it's been humid now, I ware it up mostly. No special style or anything unless I really feel like it. I saw him look at my hair and asked what was up. He said he missed my hair out sometimes but he knows this is what makes me happy. He said he rather have my hair thick and natural (only straightening if I chose) then me be miserable. He said he doesn't care how I wear my hair as he still considers me the baddest thing walking and he loves me.

 

[BroadstreetBully]

just cuz she could get her a fresh pack of yaki 1b doesnt mean she can stick her stank nose up at women who chose to wear their hair for "them" vs a man who can leave u 2day or 2morrow and wouldnt think twice about it.

Thank YOU! Seriously, do women need another thing to change about themselves for a man? Believe me, there are too many women who have exercised themselves to death, had their breasts stuffed with saline, had their butts/lips injected, have hair straightened and bleached within a life of itself, have spend thousands on looking 20 years younger, ALL OF THIS just to watch long tall bald Sally swoop down and snatch up their men. Do YOU!

If a man doesn't like natural hair, then I'm not going to be his type, so he can keep it moving. I wish a guy would have something to say about my hair considering that so many men don't even have all their hair past a certain age.

 

[FluffyRed]

I see and hear WAY more men acting on and talking about their BODY preference than their hairstyle preference.

If she really cared what black men want, she would not look the way she does.

Clearly she ain't popped NAH situp! Horsehair cannot cover up her gut.

(I didn't watch that ignorance, but wanted to see what she looked like)

She needs to GTFOOHWTBS. Because I never heard one person call Lauryn Hill anything but gorgeous back before she lost her mind.

This chick has a fear of going natural and has stated this opinion to cover up her fear, IMO.

 

[FluffyRed]

just so not true...there are black men that love natural hair...her husband just happens to be one of the men that don't like natural hair.

so he tells her. I wonder if Pam Grier walked up to him in her 70s body would he turn her down.