Excuse me Miss.....

[JustKiya]

.... your track is showing.

Okay. So, I'm in the post office this morning, eyeballing heads as I always do when I'm in a line. The lady in front of me had a cute red color in her hair, and I was eyeing it, trying to figure out if it was hers, or a weave. Then, she turns to walk to the counter, and I see a whole track, just waving hi to the world, exposed by how her curls were arranged in the back.

That got me to wondering..... is it ever okay to tell someone - esp. a stranger - that their tracks are showing? I mean, is that sisterly courtesy like letting someone know a button on their shirt is unbuttoned, or their slip is hanging? Or do you just keep your mouth shut, and hope she feels the cool breeze brushing against her scalp eventually?

 

[Nice & Wavy]

.... your track is showing.

Okay. So, I'm in the post office this morning, eyeballing heads as I always do when I'm in a line. The lady in front of me had a cute red color in her hair, and I was eyeing it, trying to figure out if it was hers, or a weave. Then, she turns to walk to the counter, and I see a whole track, just waving hi to the world, exposed by how her curls were arranged in the back.

That got me to wondering..... is it ever okay to tell someone - esp. a stranger - that their tracks are showing? I mean, is that sisterly courtesy like letting someone know a button on their shirt is unbuttoned, or their slip is hanging? Or do you just keep your mouth shut, and hope she feels the cool breeze brushing against her scalp eventually?

Ok, now that I have that out of my system: YES...do tell.

I was getting my reading glasses last week, and a young lady was there whose hair was long, wavy and literally...off the chain. But, as I looked a little closer, I saw something dangling..."what? what's that?" It was one of her braids (she had her hair in braids with the ends loose)

I kindly said to her "ummm..your braid is hanging" and she thanked me to no end!

Better to tell them than for them to look bad when they are thinking they look their best!

 

[LadyPaniolo]

No Way, No How. Too many sistas would cuss you out, in, up, down, sideways and backwards for pointing such a thing out... especially if your hair is nicer than hers, and is, um, real. And blowing up her spot in the post office!

Now, if you pulled her aside and whispered it low in her ear, there would be less chance of her reacting that way. But too many people are stone cold crazy for me to take the chance and end up in an altercation

 

[anilyn]

I would tell her because I'd appreciate someone telling me. Of course it would be embarrassing, but I'd rather have a sista say something like "Um, girlfriend, one of your tracks is showing. You might want to fix that. " instead of a clear person going "OMG, like what is that? What's wrong with your hair?" Because most of them don't know how to be discrete and would call you out in front of a group of other clears. erplexed

 

[LushLox]

No I couldn't, I'd feel too embarassed, and not everyone would thank you for helping them.

 

[DanaDane]

.... Or do you just keep your mouth shut, and hope she feels the cool breeze brushing against her scalp eventually?

at "the cool breeze"

I would probably try to say something, but be as discreet as possible if it's in public/in front of others . . .otherwise, who knows what kind of attitude they might catch?

 

[Mimi22]

No I couldn't, I'd feel too embarassed, and not everyone would thank you for helping them.

exactly!!

like once, I got str8 out cussed. needless to say, I wont be doing THAT again!

 

[JustKiya]

See, yeah, it's the cussing out I'm worried about. And she looked salty as it was, already. And it was the hood post office, too.

I would definitely be discreet - not calling her out all in the line in front of the fine dark chocolate TSA brother or nothing.....

And - I wanna know who's whipping out the comb. You bold.

 

[BrickbyBrick]

I would appreciate all the help I could get, to be quite honest. A discreet "pssstt....", is perfect, and you'll get an effusive thank you in the process, after I get over my initial embarassment of course.

 

[cupcakes]

i wouldnt tell unless its someone i kno..

 

[Leeda.the.Paladin]

Hmm, this kind of reminds me of the question about whether you would tell someone if they had a booger. However, I think I'd be more willing to tell someone they had a booger than tell someone that they had a track showing.

People around here, especially where I work, love to get their back up about anything, so I'm voting, no way no how on this one.

 

[Eisani]

.... your track is showing.

Okay. So, I'm in the post office this morning, eyeballing heads as I always do when I'm in a line. The lady in front of me had a cute red color in her hair, and I was eyeing it, trying to figure out if it was hers, or a weave. Then, she turns to walk to the counter, and I see a whole track, just waving hi to the world, exposed by how her curls were arranged in the back.

That got me to wondering..... is it ever okay to tell someone - esp. a stranger - that their tracks are showing? I mean, is that sisterly courtesy like letting someone know a button on their shirt is unbuttoned, or their slip is hanging? Or do you just keep your mouth shut, and hope she feels the cool breeze brushing against her scalp eventually?

part of me wants to say yes, you should say something, but another part of me says nah. Not everyone is open to that type of assistance. I've stared in wonderment rolleyes at some tracks in my lifetime and honestly if it's not someone I know, I don't say anything. Even if I know them, if we're not cool like that, I'm not saying anything.

Slightly OT, but how do you tell someone it's time for them to change their deodorant? lachen:

 

[Zenobia61]

Hmm, this kind of reminds me of the question about whether you would tell someone if they had a booger. However, I think I'd be more willing to tell someone they had a booger than tell someone that they had a track showing.

People around here, especially where I work, love to get their back up about anything, so I'm voting, no way no how on this one.

I agree cos' if you tell somebody that they have a booger, they can do something about it right then and there. I figger since the sista can't fix her weave on the spot (unless she has thread or glue in her bag), I would not tell her since she might get mad , couldn't fix the problem anyway and might think that I am making fun of her.

 

[sprungonhairboards]

Would I tell a friend? Of course A stranger?

I'd tell you if:

You had toilet paper stuck to your shoe
Your tag was sticking out
A bug is on you
Your zipper was down

But I would NEVER tell a stranger their track was showing.

 

[baby42]

Nope i would just back if i didnt know the person. people are FUNNY ABOUT THEIR WEAVES.

 

[Minnie]

I voted NO, but if it is a friend, relative anyone you now well, that a different story. I would try to cover it up for them (discreetly), because I would want anyone elese to know.

 

[camilla]

.... your track is showing.

Okay. So, I'm in the post office this morning, eyeballing heads as I always do when I'm in a line. The lady in front of me had a cute red color in her hair, and I was eyeing it, trying to figure out if it was hers, or a weave. Then, she turns to walk to the counter, and I see a whole track, just waving hi to the world, exposed by how her curls were arranged in the back.

That got me to wondering..... is it ever okay to tell someone - esp. a stranger - that their tracks are showing? I mean, is that sisterly courtesy like letting someone know a button on their shirt is unbuttoned, or their slip is hanging? Or do you just keep your mouth shut, and hope she feels the cool breeze brushing against her scalp eventually?

I WOULD WANT TO KNOW

 

[wheezy807]

Nope, her and her hair is none of my business! But if it's a relative i would.

 

[MissNina]

I would tell her because I'd appreciate someone telling me. Of course it would be embarrassing, but I'd rather have a sista say something like "Um, girlfriend, one of your tracks is showing. You might want to fix that. " instead of a clear person going "OMG, like what is that? What's wrong with your hair?" Because most of them don't know how to be discrete and would call you out in front of a group of other clears. erplexed

"Other clears"

And yes I have told before and I will do it again! I've never had anyone curse me out, look at me crazy or say anything negative. We're all black women. We understand. Better me tell you than someone else. They have all been thankful to no measure. I firmly believe it's how you say it.

I say it on the low with a smile like "Hey girl, I'm not trying to be in your Biz or anything, but your track/braid is about to fall out on the LEFT" lol then she goes "OMG are you serious? Where?" and I politely touch it lightly or direct her to it....And we laugh a lil bit and she thanks me to no end/tells me what happened to make it loose and RUNS off to the bathroom to fix it! 90% of the time it goes just like that lol

 

[Geminigirl]

nah. i too wld feel kinda embarassed.

If you were at the hood post office she prolly already knew and didn't give.

 

[glamchick84]

Family,Friends, and some associates ! but strangers on the street, heck no. it's none of my business! and man ole' man, i have seen some pretty jacked up tracks before. some women just refuse to take their hair down when it's time. trust me some of them already know their tracks are showing! sad but true

 

[Restore111]

I'd rather have a sista say something like "Um, girlfriend, one of your tracks is showing. You might want to fix that. " instead of a clear person going "OMG, like what is that? What's wrong with your hair?" Because most of them don't know how to be discrete and would call you out in front of a group of other clears.

LOL! You are funny yet soo true, rather a sister tell you then a "clear" person lol.

 

[natural2008]

If I did not know that person, I would not say anything. But the people that I know or am associated with, I would definitely say something.

 

[SilkyandSmooth]

I couldn't do it. I would hate to embarrass anyone.

 

[flowinlocks]

I voted no, but if was a coworker or friend, family I would, cause I would want some one to tell me.

 

[DMJ's Mom]

I definitely would. I was at SOs basketball game a while back and this girl had 2 strand twists and one was hanging much lower than the rest so we pulled it out and handed it to her she was very embarassed but thankful still

 

[Channie]

It depends. Family & friends (even friends of friends)? No question. Stranger? If she was alone. Probably so. (I'd look and see how she dressed: if she's got on sweats, I'd leave her alone. If she's dressed up, yes.) If she's got friends with her... they need to be better friends. Not my business.

I'm game for anything else (bugs, lint, boogers, etc.) Hell, I even took it upon myself and flicked a big *** grasshopper out of this girl's micros while she was sleep on the bus (imagine waking up to that!), but a woman & her ego are a dangerous thing when it comes to appearances. So it's always a case by case thing.

 

[anon123]

um, i know i'm the last black woman on the face of the planet to not know anything about weaves, but i don't even know what a loose track would look like. is that the same thing as a "weft"? does anyone have a picture with someone's track showing? does it look like a lump? cuz, you know, just in case i see someone i want to have the option, though i doubt i ever would. i can't believe MissNina here has done it often enough to have stats on it like "90% of the time this is how it goes down".

 

[200AndOne]

negative ghostwriter!

i agree w/ geminigirl - she might already know her weave's on its last leg, no need for me to point out the obvious

 

[JustKiya]

um, i know i'm the last black woman on the face of the planet to not know anything about weaves, but i don't even know what a loose track would look like. is that the same thing as a "weft"? does anyone have a picture with someone's track showing? does it look like a lump? cuz, you know, just in case i see someone i want to have the option, though i doubt i ever would. i can't believe MissNina here has done it often enough to have stats on it like "90% of the time this is how it goes down".

Yeah, it was the 'weft' - the top of the track, where all the hair is 'sewn in' to keep it together? It wasn't hanging- it was still tight up against her head, but her curls were parted/arranged badly, so the part that was sewn (or glued, actually, as it looked like it was glued) to her scalp/head/hair was exposed.

It wasn't even a lump or hanging, it was just a track, in all it's glory.

*cracks up at Ms. Nina* Right? She must live in a weave loving area!