Okay Ladies...PSA

[Platinum]

I agree, maybe its not fear after all maybe its already knowing what went bad/didnt work before

I agree!

gurrrl your so silly!

I think people can take into consideration other people's experiences if they want , its their personal right and choice to either consider it or discard it

I know. I had to do something since I haven't been able to use the dead horse smilie in a while.

 

[Irresistible]

Hmm... maybe I'm one of the patient few.

I expect for there to be repeated questions. As long as there are new members, there will be people still learning. It's a forum... that's what happens on forums.

A lot of the time a subject can be talked about to death and someone will have a question about it that hasn't been answered previously.

I will keep in mind not to ask questions here anymore before reading every single page on the subject that I can find.

I'm with you on the patience, I think that there are a few still around. People really shouldnt be given the tone around here, of dont ask or you'll get your head bit off

 

[Irresistible]

Here's my thoughts... I think that some people believe thier regimen is perfect. Every product they use is perfect and when people say they dont like it or had a bad experience with it, other people get pissy. I feel like people have started attacking people over products. People should be free to post what they liked or didnt like about a product, vendor, technique or anything else hair related on this board WITHOUT BACKLASH OR PERSONAL ATTACKS! Yes some of us go the unconventional route. And yes I turn my nose up at some stuff. I just cant get with some things BUT I bypass those threads especially when I havent even tried the product/technique/etc. I dont go in there and call people punks for not trying it or get reved up dishing out personal attacks. I dont call people fraidy cats either. I dont think every shoudl try everything. PJ-ism is a bad habit. And it hardly ever helps.

Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Simply_Kelz]

I read and then re-read your response and didn't find a hint meaness . However I believe, if using the same line of thought, that at some point all threads have been discussed at one time or another.......well maybe not those that mention specfic members but most of the topics, questions, polls etc have already been discussed. So where does that leave us???????

You know what, lol, I was just thinking that. Everythings been discussed before. That basically leaves polls, but for the new generations of members, hypotheticals, product reviews, video or television hair discussions .. and maybe a few other things.

I didn't miss your point though, I see exactly what you're saying.

 

[MissRissa]

See, I was with you until the bacon grease. But I do get what you mean perhaps I took it the wrong way. I just believe it's hard enough to ask for help anyway, a person shouldn't feel like they are limited to what they can or cannot ask.

maybe i'm a jackass, but several times Ive started my day at work to open this baby up and see within the first 5 pages 4 different posts all titled something to the effect of "so what is oct/mt" and "how does oct/mt work" and "how much growth are u getting from oct/mt". mind you this was when the big oct/mt thread was a sticky right there bolded all big at the top. folks just didn't want to read. ive spent an hour just reading 1 thread or searching various threads for what i needed a many a night on here.

now if you are asking something different or something not covered thoroughly to your liking, i mean ask the hell away.

 

[Evazhair]

You can't make educated decisions if you don't have information and if you don't understand how and why things work, you will never be able to troubleshoot efficently or correctly. If you are not willing to do the reading and learning behind something you are interested in or something you want to try then seriously

/quote]

If you hair has already told you that its a no go then its a no go for you. You have to go off of what your head tells you do. I am talking about people that haven't took time to understand the basics but instead go off of other peoples experiences solely to solve their problems, which still goes on here alot. Just because I didn't like so in so doesn't mean your hair isn't going to like it. Your hair might love it. Just because I think its the devil doesn't mean you have to fear it.

Excellent post, Gym. Ya'll are having hair chuch in here!!!! The bolded is so important if you really want progress. Otherwise, you are spinning your wheels. I think just mimicing others without enough research leads to a lot of the "HELP!!!" threads

You are right, they don't......

For example: "Tell me all about Henna" - I mean - there are 8 million threads about this..........

I just skip those threads...it is outrageous. Read the posts people! Do a google search!

Sorry.... I just am a bit frustrated.

GymFreak, Again thank you for starting the discussion. I respect you and your advice greatly on this board.

I do too. We all have a responsibility to do our own due diligence.

The icing on the cake is a repeated question in the same thread, and someone states 'I didn't feel like reading the other posts, but I wanted to ask...'

This irks me to no end. Laziness is one of my pet peeves.

I understand that the search feature does not work sometimes but the number of questions which are repeated... especially when I spend time researching things I want to know and reading entire threads. But then again, I am not the world's most patient person...

ITA! I've been seeing this a lot lately. It's weird how personal become about the products they use. The minute someone says it didn't work for them or they don't like it that person takes it so personal like you done said something about their momma, lol.

I always say to myself "dang, they act like the maker of that product is their daddy" It is not that serious. Like the thread that was calling things hype. People were dogging out my beloved prepoo technique. That has kept my hair from snapping off and drying out, there is no way I could let that talk upset me about something that is soo good for me, lol.

SO...................

When someone writes, " I read everything about cold Bacon Grease, and then I put hot bacon grease on my head and now my hair is falling out" - I do not feel sorry for these people.

This forum has an EXCELLENT archive and search feature, in addition to Google. If people are that lazy - they really don't want to know.....

We are so >>here<< on this
It leads me to often exercise my option to bypass and KIM. It seems like some are "too good" to type a question into google. I think some refuse to acknowledge that google works, especially advanced search. Too many times I have typed in the exact question asked and mad threads will pop up. Yes I could post the links, but then I think why can't they do what I just did? It doesn't take much to do it. I just have a severely limited amount of patience for things like this.

My intention in this thread was encourage people to learn what their hair needs first and not to base all of their decisions on what someone else said in regards to a product. Many times, if people would take a minute and learn more about the backstory of a problem or technique, many problems would be avoided. It seems that some people are afraid of certain things only because someone else said it was bad but they haven't taken in account their own personal needs. That is where more reading could benefit us all.

I bear witness to this. It really saves time and headache in seeing progress.

If you don't have the time to read and find the answer for yourself... why not just wait and do it later? I'm not speaking for anybody else, but I know if there is a question that just HAS to be answered right now cuz this person's in a hurry... it don't make a damn bit of difference to me. You're in a hurry, ok. Find answers to your questions later then, when you have the time. If it's redundant about something that's been discussed hundreds of times I just one star the thread and move on. It's okay for people to feel entitled to get their questions answered cuz they paid their 6.50 to post... but people don't have to answer.

And the search function not working isn't really a valid argument anymore, because google will find you exactly what you're looking for in 2 seconds. I wanted to make a thread about OCT/MT shedding, but I knew there was already one with a poll floating around. I put in OCT MT shedding poll in google search and it was the first result. Most of the terms and things we talk about here are such a specialized jargon that it will ALWAYS come up within the first page or two on google.

I strongly agree with the bolded. Google does work well nearly 100% of the time. It seems like some people just refuse to acknowledge this. Some of the posts come off as so demanding. I always think about how in the time spent demanding answers and bumping they could have been found the answer using google advanced search. Another instance where I just exercise my right to KIM.

 

[Vshanell]

I always say to myself "dang, they act like the maker of that product is their daddy" It is not that serious. Like the thread that was calling things hype. People were dogging out my beloved prepoo technique. That has kept my hair from snapping off and drying out, there is no way I could let that talk upset me about something that is soo good for me, lol.

[/quote]

I know it's like calm down. I remember this one time, it was during the pibbs craze, well I said I was gonna stick to the dryer I had because I liked it but holy crap what did I say that for! I got jumped all on for not wanting a pibbs. I'm like my goodness people, keep your drawls on.

(Sorry I messed this quote all uperplexed)

 

[Platinum]

Okay, I'm probably going to get railroaded for this. I don't think people refuse to acknowledge whether or not Google works; it's possible that some people may not have even thought about using Google to found info that's listed on this site. (I can honestly say I am one of them.) I guess I learned something new today.

(Stepping back slowly before I become the latest victim of a cyber drive-by)

 

[RedVelvet310]

I agree! *claps*... The only thing I'm guilty of iswhen 98% of the 4A/B naturals population is hating an overpriced product (I think you ladies know what I'm talking about) and the only person who uses these as staples in the 3a/b poster... in that case I'm just gonna *save my money*

 

[jahzyira]

ive read through this thread and it justifies why ive been so reluctant to even speak a word let alone type a single letter! ive been a lurker for the longest and finally decided to join... once i did i felt so "imtimidated" specially by the advanced ladies. i definately dont wanna step on anyones toes and id hate to ask a question only for it to be scrutinized profushusly(yea i know) so for the most part ive did all the searching i can to answer my questions... in which ive gotten a lot of information on the dos and donts of relaxing, which hair care products are the best and which ones to avoid, all the recipes, styling techniques, ect. now the one thing i was cloudy on was the corrective relaxer maybe there is maybe there isnt i dont know ive searched forever on how to do a corrective relaxer all i found was questions no real answers so i took what i learned from the relaxing information and applied it to my situation..... but hey in my honest opinion theres no dumb questions when it comes to black women who are new to the hair care game...

 

[Tee]

Hmm... maybe I'm one of the patient few.

I expect for there to be repeated questions. As long as there are new members, there will be people still learning. It's a forum... that's what happens on forums.

A lot of the time a subject can be talked about to death and someone will have a question about it that hasn't been answered previously.

I will keep in mind not to ask questions here anymore before reading every single page on the subject that I can find.

Even though I have a large number of posts (almost 1900), I still consider myself a newbie. The search feature doesn't always work and I may not be able to find the answer in the stickies. I don't mind asking questions because sometimes I feel like I would like to have a "second opinion". I would rather ask than to end up looking like this:



Okay, I'm wrong for that . Now, if I start a thread about something that's been covered, I would appreciate if someone can post a link to the threads that will answer my question. I don't mind doing that for other members.

I had never heard of "co-washing" "protective styles" "colored showers" or "mtg" etc. until I joined this board a few DAYS ago, but....that doesn't mean that I don't know anything about how to take care of my hair. I think that people who have been on here for YEARS should just be a little more patient with newbies/ questions. Honestly, I've already felt discouraged about asking questions.

And yes, I read the search tutorial and have been reading a lot of back posts, but I don't know what many abbreviations are and it can be frustrating.

Okay, I'm probably going to get railroaded for this. I don't think people refuse to acknowledge whether or not Google works; it's possible that some people may not have even thought about using Google to found info that's listed on this site. (I can honestly say I am one of them.) I guess I learned something new today.

(Stepping back slowly before I become the latest victim of a cyber drive-by)

If you ask a question and I am around, I will answer. I remember being a newbie and getting ignored. I didn't know the lingo and so much was greek to me. So I was a reading woman!!!

I feel like this thread has a lot more history than I know. So I won't touch much.

Off Topic kinda: I also know having a hair big sister, buddy, or mentor is 'Priceless'. I would call, pm, or IM in a heartbeat!! But shoot, l am just a reformed PJ keeping it simple these days. (Don't touch that statement with a 10 foot pole MonaLisa! )

 

[Platinum]

ive read through this thread and it justifies why ive been so reluctant to even speak a word let alone type a single letter! ive been a lurker for the longest and finally decided to join... once i did i felt so "imtimidated" specially by the advanced ladies. i definately dont wanna step on anyones toes and id hate to ask a question only for it to be scrutinized profushusly(yea i know) so for the most part ive did all the searching i can to answer my questions... in which ive gotten a lot of information on the dos and donts of relaxing, which hair care products are the best and which ones to avoid, all the recipes, styling techniques, ect. now the one thing i was cloudy on was the corrective relaxer maybe there is maybe there isnt i dont know ive searched forever on how to do a corrective relaxer all i found was questions no real answers so i took what i learned from the relaxing information and applied it to my situation..... but hey in my honest opinion theres no dumb questions when it comes to black women who are new to the hair care game...

Right! I totally agree.

 

[Platinum]

If you ask a question and I am around, I will answer. I remember being a newbie and getting ignored. I didn't know the lingo and so much was greek to me. So I was a reading woman!!!

I feel like this thread has a lot more history than I know. So I won't touch much.

Off Topic kinda: I also know having a hair big sister, buddy, or mentor is 'Priceless'. I would call, pm, or IM in a heartbeat!! But shoot, l am just a reformed PJ keeping it simple these days. (Don't touch that statement with a 10 foot pole MonaLisa! )

Thank you, Tee. If you're willing to take a little sis, I would love to ask you to be my hair big sister. Your hair is beautiful!

 

[JustKiya]

I also have to add something - a distinction, if you please.

I can totally respect (and deeply appreciate) someone who asks even marginally educated questions - questions that indicate that you have done at least some reading, and are trying to get clarification on a topic - or expanding your current info.

*sigh*


I REALLY don't want lurkers, and infrequent posters to feel intimidated by this thread. The impression (and information) we are trying to get across is read, then ask.

The idea is NOT that asking is a bad thing - the gods know, it's the second best way to further your personal education. The point is, please make the effort to educate yourself first, then ask.

*grin*

I'm also going to semi put myself out there and say - I don't mind PM's. In fact, if you want a really detailed answer from me on something, PM me - at the same time, I'll be honest and say that if I think you are asking something that can be best answered by doing a quick search, I will tell you so.

 

[Tarae]

ive read through this thread and it justifies why ive been so reluctant to even speak a word let alone type a single letter! ive been a lurker for the longest and finally decided to join... once i did i felt so "imtimidated" specially by the advanced ladies. i definately dont wanna step on anyones toes and id hate to ask a question only for it to be scrutinized profushusly(yea i know) so for the most part ive did all the searching i can to answer my questions... in which ive gotten a lot of information on the dos and donts of relaxing, which hair care products are the best and which ones to avoid, all the recipes, styling techniques, ect. now the one thing i was cloudy on was the corrective relaxer maybe there is maybe there isnt i dont know ive searched forever on how to do a corrective relaxer all i found was questions no real answers so i took what i learned from the relaxing information and applied it to my situation..... but hey in my honest opinion theres no dumb questions when it comes to black women who are new to the hair care game...

I don't think you should be intimidated at all. I'm new also (although I've lurked for a while) and if I have a question I can't find an answer to, then I'll ask.

If you've searched and searched but cannot find an answer, then please ask. I'm sure you rather people get annoyed than to have a setback. And you'll get someone willing to answer; many ladies will help. I think most are just saying why be lazy and ask questions about henna or OCT when there are 50-11 threads with hundreds of replies, or don't completely write off something that can be/is beneficial to you just because someone says it doesn't work for them.

 

[eshille]

I found the archives first before really linking to the board. I started reading w/archive #99 (2005) and I read EVERY post through archive #170 (2006)....ladies that's over a thousand posts, looking for my answers.

By then I learned what did and did not apply for my needs so from #171 through around #221 was a cake walk... I was board ready and paid my fees.

I agree there's a wealth of information at anyone's fingertips both on the board, in the archives and on the internet. I've read q's which could be answered using a little more effort but I do love to read questions which may be repeats, sometimes unexpected answers pop up because people pop in and out.

OP good thread...great input, everyone....

 

[lilsparkle825]

If you ask a question and I am around, I will answer. I remember being a newbie and getting ignored. I didn't know the lingo and so much was greek to me. So I was a reading woman!!!

I feel like this thread has a lot more history than I know. So I won't touch much.

Off Topic kinda: I also know having a hair big sister, buddy, or mentor is 'Priceless'. I would call, pm, or IM in a heartbeat!! But shoot, l am just a reformed PJ keeping it simple these days. (Don't touch that statement with a 10 foot pole MonaLisa! )

i'll vouch for that; i feel like you have gone above and beyond in helping me with non-hair related stuff and i am grateful every second for it, and i know i am not the only one just cause i cant be. thank you tee :Rose:

I also have to add something - a distinction, if you please.

I can totally respect (and deeply appreciate) someone who asks even marginally educated questions - questions that indicate that you have done at least some reading, and are trying to get clarification on a topic - or expanding your current info.

*sigh*


I REALLY don't want lurkers, and infrequent posters to feel intimidated by this thread. The impression (and information) we are trying to get across is read, then ask.

The idea is NOT that asking is a bad thing - the gods know, it's the second best way to further your personal education. The point is, please make the effort to educate yourself first, then ask.

*grin*

I'm also going to semi put myself out there and say - I don't mind PM's. In fact, if you want a really detailed answer from me on something, PM me - at the same time, I'll be honest and say that if I think you are asking something that can be best answered by doing a quick search, I will tell you so.

CLAP CLAP CLAP! love this reply. i'll leave it at that cause i know i come off as a rudy judy.

 

[SoAnxious12]

I had never heard of "co-washing" "protective styles" "colored showers" or "mtg" etc. until I joined this board a few DAYS ago, but....that doesn't mean that I don't know anything about how to take care of my hair. I think that people who have been on here for YEARS should just be a little more patient with newbies/ questions. Honestly, I've already felt discouraged about asking questions.

And yes, I read the search tutorial and have been reading a lot of back posts, but I don't know what many abbreviations are and it can be frustrating.

Maybe you missunderstood my post a lil bit (or i'm misunderstanding you). What i'm saying is sometimes q's are repeated... when the poster feels they may have a different take on an older topic. I'm not syaing you don't know how to take care of your hair. Thats not my issue at all. For newbies, we now have sticky type post that can guide newbies around and familiarize themselves with lhcf jargon/abbreviations. Or just browsing through older threads (click on random numbers for pages at the bottom of the screen... i still do this lol) can help you ask better questions later, or eliminate the need to ask questions all together. Yes i understand it can be frustrating, but with time and patience the different phrases will be like second nature to you.

Oh and don't feel discouraged about asking questions. Like i said and another poster said somebody will bump an older thread for you.

 

[chicacanella]

I have noticed a trend in some posts lately, really over the past 3 months, and I have noticed this fear factor people are having.

This site has a ton of information and I really think that we all could use some more time just reading. You can't make educated decisions if you don't have information and if you don't understand how and why things work, you will never be able to troubleshoot efficently or correctly. If you are not willing to do the reading and learning behind something you are interested in or something you want to try then seriously

Everyone of us has a different head of hair. We all have the same needs but in different magnitude.

ONCE YOU LEARN THE TOOLS AND BASIS OF HAIRCARE, THERE IS NO NEED TO FEAR THINGS

Being afraid of something doesn't help you. Yes too much of anything is harmful but you need to find your OWN limits because they are all different. Sometimes the fear we have on certain things keeps us from finding the magic bullet in solving our problems and taking our hair care and hair health to the next level. Once you understand something, there is no need to fear it. You just have to learn its place in your hair universe and go from there.

Great post! And this is the reason some AA women or women of color won't have long hair.....their own fear of even attempting to go on the journey!

 

[Channie]

Am I the only one who NEVER had a problem with the search feature?

I ran across a Newbie Start Thread (I believe it's a Sticky) and it showed me how to get good results from a search no matter what. By going advanced and picking what forum I want to search. I find the search engine only has a problem when you have 20+ pages of results because you haven't put parameters on the search. It even goes as far as to filter how many responses a thread must have at least. It's a great deal of help, and even when the more seasoned members say they had problems with it on a certain day, I didn't have problems because of that.

Of course just as we have different hair, we have different personalites on here. So, we have lazy women just as much as we have go-getter women here. We have pushover women just as much as we have pushy women. And of course there are women in between every spectrum. And this board is daunting at times, but it can be your best friend too.

 

[chicacanella]

What's cowashing?

Tell me about bunning!

I'm like

There's a search feature.

But I just answer quickly anyway ..

ITA with your whole post

yeah, that gets annoying. We do have a wonderful search system that works on this site unlike BHM where it is a hit and miss. The search feature does work here people.

 

[Angkin73]

I guess I'm still a newbie of sorts. When I first came on here, I read thru the Newbie thread and really used the search. I still do. Its where I'm at most of my time on this board.

I must say I agree with the things said in this thread. I take the time to read thru the whole thread, no matter how long it is if its some thing I really want to know. If I can't find it on this board, I will check others and also google it. I know I don't know other peoples situation, but when you get 3 or 4 people asking the same question in the same thread it really gets a little annoying. I hate to say it, but it just does.

 

[MizAvalon]

Wonderful advice Gymfreak, thanks for posting!

Oh, and I still want some of those GRAPES!

 

[MizAvalon]

^^^^
THAT AIN'T NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH!

Especially where it concerns henna, imo.

I see a lotta 'Henna Horror Stories'...

Now I don't claim infinite knowledge on anything. We're all learning but I know enough not to be throwing anything and everything in my head when I don't know what it is or what it can or what to do if something goes wrong.

That mess can take your hair out if you use the wrong type. ...and you can break if you don't know enough about the different powders to know what they can and can't do to your head....

...all I know is I read that henna thread back and forth.
All 78980097908901 pages of it. LOL

I'm researching Henna and Indigo now because I'm thinking of trying it in about a month. Please believe I am reading every single post in every single thread about it.

 

[Tee]

Thank you, Tee. If you're willing to take a little sis, I would love to ask you to be my hair big sister. Your hair is beautiful!

Awhhh thanks. And no problem at all.

i'll vouch for that; i feel like you have gone above and beyond in helping me with non-hair related stuff and i am grateful every second for it, and i know i am not the only one just cause i cant be. thank you tee :Rose:

CLAP CLAP CLAP! love this reply. i'll leave it at that cause i know i come off as a rudy judy.

I also have to add something - a distinction, if you please.

I can totally respect (and deeply appreciate) someone who asks even marginally educated questions - questions that indicate that you have done at least some reading, and are trying to get clarification on a topic - or expanding your current info.

*sigh*


I REALLY don't want lurkers, and infrequent posters to feel intimidated by this thread. The impression (and information) we are trying to get across is read, then ask.

The idea is NOT that asking is a bad thing - the gods know, it's the second best way to further your personal education. The point is, please make the effort to educate yourself first, then ask.

*grin*

I'm also going to semi put myself out there and say - I don't mind PM's. In fact, if you want a really detailed answer from me on something, PM me - at the same time, I'll be honest and say that if I think you are asking something that can be best answered by doing a quick search, I will tell you so.

I love this post.

 

[Lady Esquire]

My intention in this thread was encourage people to learn what their hair needs first and not to base all of their decisions on what someone else said in regards to a product. Many times, if people would take a minute and learn more about the backstory of a problem or technique, many problems would be avoided. It seems that some people are afraid of certain things only because someone else said it was bad but they haven't taken in account their own personal needs. That is where more reading could benefit us all.

1) As a newbie, I read, reread, and read some more. Although the search feature is quirky, I would refine my search terms and just read endlessly (and at the time, I was unaware of the 'google' trick). It is frustrating to sift thru a lot of the material at first, but along the way you pick up so many valuable gems: techniques, products, other websites, inspirations, etc.

2) Personally, it bugs me when someone makes an entire thread telling others not to follow bandwagons 'cause it broke her hair off, or such-and-such method is overrated, This is a forum to share hits and misses. Your own hits and misses, not to make broad, swooping comments to discourage others, especially if you are still learning your self and can probably use a few more months of more haircare practice before spouting out mistruths.

3) Newbies, PLEASE do not be intimidated to chime in, ask quetions, and make comments. However, reading on the subject may more than likely make you more versed on the subject, answer the question for you, give you more precise questions to hone in on, or may even change your opinion about something. Either way, making an effort to read up on it first, benefits you mostly. And if you still must ask, then ask....there are plenty of us here that will answer, even if it is for the 60 zillionth time on that topic.

4) I want a midback and waist length mentor. I am more than willing to mentor others who are just new to the game as well.



Its all love.

 

[cocoaluv]

yeah, that gets annoying. We do have a wonderful search system that works on this site unlike BHM where it is a hit and miss. The search feature does work here people.

Not always. I cant tell you how many times I have tried to do a search and got a blank white screen. But the times the search option did work I was thankful.

 

[MA2010]

1) As a newbie, I read, reread, and read some more. Although the search feature is quirky, I would refine my search terms and just read endlessly (and at the time, I was unaware of the 'google' trick). It is frustrating to sift thru a lot of the material at first, but along the way you pick up so many valuable gems: techniques, products, other websites, inspirations, etc.

2) Personally, it bugs me when someone makes an entire thread telling others not to follow bandwagons 'cause it broke her hair off, or such-and-such method is overrated, This is a forum to share hits and misses. Your own hits and misses, not to make broad, swooping comments to discourage others, especially if you are still learning your self and can probably use a few more months of more haircare practice before spouting out mistruths.

3) Newbies, PLEASE do not be intimidated to chime in, ask quetions, and make comments. However, reading on the subject may more than likely make you more versed on the subject, answer the question for you, give you more precise questions to hone in on, or may even change your opinion about something. Either way, making an effort to read up on it first, benefits you mostly. And if you still must ask, then ask....there are plenty of us here that will answer, even if it is for the 60 zillionth time on that topic.

4) I want a midback and waist length mentor. I am more than willing to mentor others who are just new to the game as well.



Its all love.

OMG Lady Esquire, you took the words right out of my mouth. ITA with what you are saying.

A newbie myself, I love the knowledge I read from eveyone. At first I was really intimidated by a few people on this website and/or the products they discussed. Now, I'm like whatever works for me, works for me and that's that!!!! .

I feel free to search, ask, begin a new thread, or just sit back and read. I think everyone's input counts here at LHCF: good or bad.

I appreciate it all!!!

Nothing but LOVE!!!!

 

[Irresistible]

ive read through this thread and it justifies why ive been so reluctant to even speak a word let alone type a single letter! ive been a lurker for the longest and finally decided to join... once i did i felt so "imtimidated" specially by the advanced ladies. i definately dont wanna step on anyones toes and id hate to ask a question only for it to be scrutinized profushusly(yea i know) so for the most part ive did all the searching i can to answer my questions... in which ive gotten a lot of information on the dos and donts of relaxing, which hair care products are the best and which ones to avoid, all the recipes, styling techniques, ect. now the one thing i was cloudy on was the corrective relaxer maybe there is maybe there isnt i dont know ive searched forever on how to do a corrective relaxer all i found was questions no real answers so i took what i learned from the relaxing information and applied it to my situation..... but hey in my honest opinion theres no dumb questions when it comes to black women who are new to the hair care game...

This is sad! do not let the FEW 'high and mighty's' around here intimidate you, they are still not the Majority!

 

[MA2010]

This is sad! do not let the FEW 'high and mighty's' around here intimidate you, they are still not the Majority!

ITA with you Irresistable!!! I believe the majority are ladies who are ready to help and lend a kind helping hand for the sake of beautiful healthy hair!

LIKE YOU IRIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!