Crystalicequeen123
Well-Known Member
Well....not "afraid" per se, but....you ladies who are growing your hair longer, or who used to have short hair and now have shoulder-length, BSL or longer hair... Was there ever a time when you felt kind of hesitant or self-conscious about growing your hair longer because you were afraid of what people would say/think about you?
Case in point.... I just had my relaxer touch-up, and I guess I must be doing something right because my hair is a lot longer than I thought it was going to be, and my hair is now about 3 inches from maybe grazing my bra-strap! YAY!!
But now that my hair is longer, I'm getting a lot of attention from others (especially women) and although most of that attention is good (nice compliments), in the back of my mind I feel like if my hair grows even longer, some women may start to think to themselves: "oh look at her, she thinks she's all that just because she has long hair."
So now days, I'm feeling kind of self-conscious! It's the weirdest thing!
I feel like it's harder for women who perhaps had neck-length hair all their life to now be sporting bsl or longer hair. It's like people are okay with you if you ALWAYS had long hair, or if you're mixed and have long hair. But if you're not mixed, or if you're a darker-skinned sister and you used to have short short hair, but now have longer hair, it's like it messes with their mind or something, and they now start hating on you.
Has anyone gone through this?
PS-don't get me wrong, I'm going to grow my hair out as long as I can no matter what ANYONE else says/thinks....but in the back of my mind I just feel kind of hesitant. One night I was air-drying my hair after washing it, and my hair is now noticeably longer...but when I went downstairs, my mom didn't say anything, she just stared at my hair....not a peep. Then, on another occassion, she made some snide remark like: "Well, I'm not trying to grow my hair long like some of you are...so that's why I cut my hair on a regular basis."
Case in point.... I just had my relaxer touch-up, and I guess I must be doing something right because my hair is a lot longer than I thought it was going to be, and my hair is now about 3 inches from maybe grazing my bra-strap! YAY!!

But now that my hair is longer, I'm getting a lot of attention from others (especially women) and although most of that attention is good (nice compliments), in the back of my mind I feel like if my hair grows even longer, some women may start to think to themselves: "oh look at her, she thinks she's all that just because she has long hair."


I feel like it's harder for women who perhaps had neck-length hair all their life to now be sporting bsl or longer hair. It's like people are okay with you if you ALWAYS had long hair, or if you're mixed and have long hair. But if you're not mixed, or if you're a darker-skinned sister and you used to have short short hair, but now have longer hair, it's like it messes with their mind or something, and they now start hating on you.

Has anyone gone through this?
PS-don't get me wrong, I'm going to grow my hair out as long as I can no matter what ANYONE else says/thinks....but in the back of my mind I just feel kind of hesitant. One night I was air-drying my hair after washing it, and my hair is now noticeably longer...but when I went downstairs, my mom didn't say anything, she just stared at my hair....not a peep. Then, on another occassion, she made some snide remark like: "Well, I'm not trying to grow my hair long like some of you are...so that's why I cut my hair on a regular basis."
