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I am so tired of seeing all this Negativity about Natural Hair, I know we go through it, But it has got to be some good in there somewhere. when I was Natural before my recent Big Chop People Loved my natural hair and commented on how soft it look and healthy.:yep:

Come on and post em'
 
People are usually amazed (and a little envious) of the intricate styles that my hair looks SO good in, and that most hair simply cannot replicate.
 
All I can say is it's coming up on 2 decades and I've received far, far more positive energy than negative. As a matter of fact, I can't recall any negative encounters. Whether I'm rocking my own tresses in a kojak, a twa, a fro, picked out, coils defined, plaits, celie braids, twists, whatever I'm usually a natural hair converter without trying, i.e. folks give natural hair a second look. Women express in interest in their natural hair, ask me about going natural themselves or for their daughters, and those who are comfortable with their relaxed hair STILL give me authentic props. Most can't see me any other way even if they would never make my hair choices. They celebrate me and I do the same for them. Folks get comfortable with natural hair in my presence when they never have before.

Now, I put out some intense energy sometimes so folks might be scared to say anything to the contrary, but hey, that's cool too because they get a lesson in improving the silence. :)

The only opinion I was ever afraid of was Daddy's and I did it anyway.

p1
 
I've had lots here are a few

1) People remark that my hair is always styled so nicely and I do so much with it. The point out that everything they see me, I have my hair in a different style.

2) I was standing in line with a group of friends to go into a club. A random guy walking up the street came up to the line, leaned over the rope and a few people to tell me that my hair looked beautiful. (It was in a twist out)

3) I was on the subway and a transexual told my that my bantu knots looked really good.

4) One of my classmates came up to me and told me that he's been meaning to tell me that my hair is really nice and I have real style. He said he sits in class and stares at the back of my head all of the time.

5) A few weeks ago when I was wearing a my shrunken 1.5 inch fro (a rare occasion) I had three black men in 2 hours tell me how good my hair looked.

6) I got my hair dyed at Aveda last week. The teacher kept showing people my hair, talking about how nice my texture is. After the student was done with the highlights, they liked it so much that they took pictures for their Look Book.

Okay, that was more than a few. I have more, but I'll give others a chance.

I love my hair and so do many others!
Lys
 
Hearing your experiences IS very refreshing.

Even though I'm currently experiencing the negative, your experiences are very encouraging, ladies. There are places where hair can just be hair...or something unique to be enjoyed and celebrated.

Thank you OP for starting this thread!

It was well timed, very insightful idea!
 
I don't really experience the negativity that most people have to deal with, for the most part, I receive a lot of compliments, here's a recent one....

On my way to work, I always see the same group of women on the bus who annoyingly gawk and whisper about my hair:poke:. Well, last week, I was rocking a puff when one of the women sat next to me and said, I just wanted to tell you that we absolutely love your hair:blush: The whole time I thought they were dissing me, when they were really admiring my hair.:spinning: Anyhoo, it really made my day:grin:
 
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I get so many compliments on my hair...all the time, from men and women.

Last week, my physical therapist said to me (she is philippian) that she loves my curly hair and the fact that I can wear it straight too and it looks beautiful both ways, but her favorite is when I wear it in a curly puff. She told me that I look like a Queen, and that all my hair was missing was the Tiara! I thought that was so sweet....and true:lachen:I am a Queen!!!

One of my co-workers on Friday asked me: is that a piece on top of your hair or is all that yours? Chile, I blushed for hours after that....:lachen:

I think now that I'm going on my 2nd year of being natural...I'm loving my hair more and more.:yep:
 
:grin:That makes me smile, I know alot of us don't experience the negativity like some do, even with me shaving my head 8 times my friends & family still supported me, they all one problem and that was I kept shaving my head LOL!! But it makes others feel good knowing that Naturals get Love to! Thanks Ladies!! This is very Encouraging.
 
1) A white guy in the Kroger parking lot yelled out to me, "Hey! I love your hair!":lachen:

2) I went to my best friend's dh's birthday party about 3 weeks after my BC. Most of the people there hadn't seen me since their wedding, when my hair was relaxed and MBL. I expected a lot of "why did you cut your hair?"

Instead, his friends (some fine black men:grin:) were complimenting me left and right, saying my hair was beautiful. One of them asked me if he could please touch it.:lachen:I left there feeling so good.:yep: I told my dh when I got home, and he was all salty. "Which one of them n*ggas touched your hair?":lachen:

3) My best friend (BSL relaxed) goes on and on about how she loves all my styles and thinks about going natural because of me.

4) White women on my parenting board compliment me all the time (my avatar there is my siggy pic).

5) Whenever I see other naturals out, there are usually compliments on both sides, or at the very least, smiles and nods. It like we're kin.:grin:
 
I get a lot of positive comments. The funnest was my aunt's friend who keeps her natural faded. She looked at me paused and said "So, you still have more hair than me"-and smiled in admiration. It was a nice gesture.
 
when i first BC'd... every time i ran into someone i used to know i heard the same phrase: "oh my gosh you cut off all your hair? why?" and after a brief explanation they'd say, "it does look cute on you though, i love the litte coils!" :grin:

my SO loved me with relaxed hair, he loved me with 2 inches of natural hair, he loved me thru the funky "grow out" stage, and he loves my hair today. big ups to him for always being supportive, i know sometimes the men in our lives aren't or we think we can't go natural because we'll be seen as less attractive to the opposite sex. and no, other men never stopped hitting on me when i went natural either. :lachen:

everyone i've met since going natural has seen me with straight hair either from old pics or when i flat iron agrees that i look better with my natural hair. which is awesome. :grin:

people always stare but occasionally someone will actually compliment me and it just makes my day. even better, sometimes people ask me for advice (usually mothers for their kids) and that's the best to me... one less child who will grow up with bad hair memories. :grin:

and my puff is so big now, that people don't believe it's mine (they think it's a phony pony). :yep:
 
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Okay, I got a couple. In fact, I've received a lot of compliments over the years. :grin: I rarely got compliments on my straightened hair. Let's see.
Here's a copy and paste I posted in another forum.

I was at the health food store getting some of that good chocolate (Green and Black's Ginger dark chocolate) and some Carrot, Ginger, and Cashew soup (mmmmm, eating it right now). The woman behind the counter told me she loved my hair and I said thank you. She said her hair was falling out she didn't know what to do and that she was going to slap another perm in it. I was like, oh you gotta go natural and told her I can't take those burning chemicals and paying all that money for it. She said it was nice to see so many of "our young girls" embracing their natural hair. I'm not sure which is more flattering, that she loved my hair or that she called me a "young girl", hahaha. I should have told her about CNN and NP. I'm going to have to print out those cards to take to people. Maybe I'll go back and buy some more soup and if I see her tell her about these sites.

Also last Christmas when I visited my father it was the first time for him to see me try a chunky afro. Since this thread is about positivity, I won't relate his feelings. :rolleyes: But it was at my aunt's house and her hairdresser and the hair dresser's husband were stopping by. The hair dresser started to ask me "how did you get your hair . . " and then stopped herself and said "it's natural, right?" I told her yes and she said it was really pretty, like India Arie or Jill Scott. Her husband was like "that's what's up". I was all :grin: and my daddy was sitting there like :blush:
 
Some recent compliments about my hair:
  • When I was in the hospital giving birth to my daugher the nurses were drooling over my hair. They were giving me compliments left and right.
  • My ob/gyn was drooling right along with them. I could tell he was blushing whenever he saw it. He said he wished more young women would embrace their natural hair.
  • Last month one of my neighbors said she loved my hair. She loved that I keep hairstyling very simple and easy. I told her all I've focused on over the years is keeping my hair clean, conditioned and styled in an easy, carefree manner. If you give your hair a natural a chance, it's quite easy to take care of. She loved to hear that and said that's probably a huge reason why my hair is flourishing and many other women are damn near balding.
  • I ran into one of my old bowling buddies and his wife the other night. The last time I saw them, it was a few days after I cut my hair due to postpartum hair shedding a few months ago. The two of them were always fans of my hair and were quite upset when I cut it, although the wife totally understood. When my hair gets back to the massive afro stage it was in before I cut it, dude said he was gonna get drunk to celebrate. :lachen:I love both of those fools! :grin:
 
My mum/ family loooove natural hair we have the full range of types 3b to 4z - mine's a kinky 4a/b, my sister's a coily 4a my mum's a cottony soft 4z, dad's 3b :grin: and I was almost lynched for texlaxing and colouring :look: don't hit me If I complain about ANYTHING to do with my hair (needs washing, tangled, need to moisturise) my mum immediately goes "you had such lovely natural hair- these chemicals are what made your hair [insert reason] dirty/ tangled/ dry and will make you bald" :rolleyes: I love my natural hair and even though I texlax now my kids (when I have them) will be natural till they can buy their own house :lol:
 
I haven't received any negative responses to my hair since becoming natural, and my heart goes out to the ignorant comments that some naturals have to face in order to just be themselves and wear the hair that God gave them. I love to see all textures of natural hair, it's so amazing, and it makes me feel proud. Good thread!!
 
Oh wow! Lauren450, you had me dying laughing with your response below especially the one about your husband's reaction.:lachen::lachen::lachen:


lauren450 said:
1) A white guy in the Kroger parking lot yelled out to me, "Hey! I love your hair!":lachen:

2) I went to my best friend's dh's birthday party about 3 weeks after my BC. Most of the people there hadn't seen me since their wedding, when my hair was relaxed and MBL. I expected a lot of "why did you cut your hair?"

Instead, his friends (some fine black men:grin:) were complimenting me left and right, saying my hair was beautiful. One of them asked me if he could please touch it.:lachen:I left there feeling so good.:yep: I told my dh when I got home, and he was all salty. "Which one of them n*ggas touched your hair?":lachen:

3) My best friend (BSL relaxed) goes on and on about how she loves all my styles and thinks about going natural because of me.

4) White women on my parenting board compliment me all the time (my avatar there is my siggy pic).

5) Whenever I see other naturals out, there are usually compliments on both sides, or at the very least, smiles and nods. It like we're kin.:grin:
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Great thread!

I think most of the reaction I've gotten has been positive. I get a lot of people who say they can't go natural because of their hair texture. I ask them when's the last time they really saw their hair texture, since they were kids...I usually get the blank stare, lol. I tell them don't knock it 'til you try it.

I did have a doofluss ex-bf who just didn't get it - that he met me with natural hair and that's the way it was staying. Reason number 1 out of many that he is an ex!! :yep:

We went to the SoulBowl here in Charlotte back in March...I saw this girl in line with the greatest puff. I made sure to tell her that I loved her hair. Any time I see a natural out in public I try to give a shout out, and spread the positivity.
 
supervisor told me: I love your hair cut! (I had just bigchopped)

coworker told me: I look better with my hair like that:blush: (I had just bigchopped)

my dd told me: it looks good (she helped me bigchop)

classmate told me: it looks so cute

I never really had any negative remarks...well atleast told me to me anyways.
 
Keep the positive comments rolling!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:clap::clap::clap:

well here are a couple of mine...

- when I first big chopped and went home my mom told me that she wanted to go natural now because my hair was so pretty. and my little sister actually did go natural a couple of weeks ago.. :grin::grin::grin: starting a change in my fam. hehe

- the first time i went to the club with my afro this guy stopped me and asked if he could touch my hair becaus ehe loved my afro. i told him i appreciated his compliment, but I'm sorry i don't feel comfortable with his hand in my hair. shoot i don't know wher ehis hands been... ewwwwww

- my supervisor is always comming to my section to play with my puff when I'm at work, he says it calms him lol. he said one day he will cut the puff and make it his own stress ball... wdh uhhh no :lachen::lachen:
 
At my fashion show in college, got some white folks saying they wish they had my hair ( which was a little surprising at 1st, seeing as when I was a kid I wanted straight hair). As well as some people telling me my braidout looked good (even when it was a HOT MESS :lachen:). Its very uplifting that other races appreciate our natural hair, and even funnier when they don't know how its supposed to look but think it looks good anyway (no offense to anyone) :look:
 
Aviah said:
At my fashion show in college, got some white folks saying they wish they had my hair ( which was a little surprising at 1st, seeing as when I was a kid I wanted straight hair). As well as some people telling me my braidout looked good (even when it was a HOT MESS :lachen:). Its very uplifting that other races appreciate our natural hair, and even funnier when they don't know how its supposed to look but think it looks good anyway (no offense to anyone) :look:
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I get that one all the time. I never know what to make of it, cause I know white folks love them some straight hair. However, I get a majority of the compliments at my job where our clients are upper class white women. They are always like "I LOVE YOUR HAIR!" or "I want to wear my hair like that":rolleyes: I've been getting positive comments from older black men as well, they LOVE it!
 
I currently don't have natural hair, but I have to say I make it known to women who do rock their natural hair. I always let them know how beautiful it is, because it is and it is very refreshing to see it!:grin:
 
redRiot said:
I get that one all the time. I never know what to make of it, cause I know white folks love them some straight hair. However, I get a majority of the compliments at my job where our clients are upper class white women. They are always like "I LOVE YOUR HAIR!" or "I want to wear my hair like that":rolleyes: I've been getting positive comments from older black men as well, they LOVE it!
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That reminds me, at the skating rink one night in Atlanta, Baba from Arrested Development told me that he liked my hair and he wished more young women wore their hair natural. My dumb butt didn't even know who he was. :lachen: He then proceeded to hem me up for like 45 minutes talking, and I had to text msg a friend of mine to come rescue me. He was cutting into my skate time! :lachen::lachen:
 
cute thread!

My aunt who hadn't seen me since I bc'd asked where i got my piece from(i was wearing a big low puff), and i told her it was mine, she was stunned. Then she couldn't stop touching it, and telling my other aunts and uncles who all touched it too. I guess they all thought it was fake,:grin:.

when I was in cali a woman who was walkign behind us was like I love your hair, and your dress, you look like a beautiful african goddess.:shocked::grin: that was the nicest thing a stranger has ever said to me.

Ppl in my inner circle always compliment my hair. My SO saw pics of when i was relaxed and was like don't do that anymore, and when i told him i was gonna wear my hair straight for a while he was like i don't know, your hair is perfect just the way it is.:rolleyes::grin:

I've had some negative comments when i first bc'd, but as my hair gets longer ppl tend to have only nice things to say.
 
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