To all the Naptturality ladies...

[DeepBluSea]

Maybe this has already been said, but you will find some of the most wonderful women in the world over at Nappturality, it is one of the most loving and informative places you want to go if you want to go natural. Some of the women are very opinionated, but not all. Many of them are very open-minded and supportive. I would hate for someone to read some of the threads that get started over here and make generalizations. I stay here because I fit in better here and I have a more LHCF viewpoint, but Nappturality overall provides something that is very much needed, love of and appreciation of nappy, kinky, natural hair. I am very grateful that the site exists. It's not perfect, but nothing is.

ITA. I don't see why people bash other sites, ESP when those sites have their purpose statements and rules are clearly stated. So if you want info on how to maintain your text or how to straighten your hair it isn't the place for you. And ITA with DivaRox. Why act lke (you) in general are above it all. We separate on religion and sexual orientation over here. Sure do. I'm sure some other people have something to say about that. Bottomline, if you don't like the rules of this site or any site, you can chose to leave.

 

[Poohbear]

Now Now Bre Bre....how dare you try to be white on monday with a press and black friday with a braidout...oh wait, braid outs give you waves, you trya be hispanic now

TOO FUNNY!!!!

 

[*Muffin*]

I've been to nappturality before. They've actually got some good information and recipes for those with natural hair. I suppose that site is for people who are very serious about keeping their hair natural, not straightening it or doing anything to it. They have view points that I do not agree with, but in the end it serves it's purpose for those who do believe in what they do, I guess.

 

[cutiebe2]

ITA.

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Well waaaaaaaaaaaah. on all dis.

Really.......the MODS and ADMIN here should put a stop to any and all hair board bashing unless of course it's LHCF members bashing LHCF. In that case, i'm going to make the assumption this type behavior would be tolerated for all of say ummm.............a minute maybe and that's about as long as the bashing of other boards should be allowed to last.

imma find a report button now and hope that this thread falls into some cyber toilet hole, where it belongs.

I personally wouldn't call this hair board bashing. I one ha said "I hate NP, there dumb...etc etc" What most people have said it that they feel hurt by what some people say on NP

I am a member of NP but I have never posted. I am too scared to. I love natural hair and I go on NP to get ideas of the protective styles or any styles ad products in general that people use. Plus, they have women with beautiful hair there

But at the same time. My hair texture is soft, mixed on 3c and 4a. Its not that thick, and its easly to slick into a bun. I feel that if I talked about my hair texture on the site I would get bashed. I hate that. I also hate being made to feel like I hate myself for wanting long hair.

Anyway, it short I don't post because I don't feel like im welcome there. And apparently others on LHCF have been made to feel the same way

 

[LynnieB]

I personally wouldn't call this hair board bashing. I one ha said "I hate NP, there dumb...etc etc" What most people have said it that they feel hurt by what some people say on NP

I am a member of NP but I have never posted. I am too scared to. I love natural hair and I go on NP to get ideas of the protective styles or any styles ad products in general that people use. Plus, they have women with beautiful hair there

But at the same time. My hair texture is soft, mixed on 3c and 4a. Its not that thick, and its easly to slick into a bun. I feel that if I talked about my hair texture on the site I would get bashed. I hate that. I also hate being made to feel like I hate myself for wanting long hair.

Anyway, it short I don't post because I don't feel like im welcome there. And apparently others on LHCF have been made to feel the same way

have you seen my hair? i don't do hair types but i'd say 3b, 3c and 4a describe it pretty well.

sorta blows that argument right out the water

and yea it is board bashing. none of it should be tolerated/allowed as none of it is tolerated/allowed over there

 

[glamazon386]

have you seen my hair? i don't do hair types but i'd say 3b, 3c and 4a describe it pretty well.

sorta blows that argument right out the water

and yea it is board bashing. none of it should be tolerated/allowed as none of it is tolerated/allowed over there

LynnieB, I understand what you're saying but I have seen people over there with looser textures not treated so nicely. Especially if you don't fit into the "mold" of the board so to speak. I've been lurking NP for a long time (if you notice my member since date is from like 2003) and I didn't feel comfortable posting at first either for that reason. Even now, even though I do post, I still don't feel totally comfortable. I don't have a rapport with anybody over there like I do here. When I post over there I hardly get replies. It's like I get ignored. I don't let it stop me from posting, but it does happen. The thing is, there is a lot of info over at NP that I can't get anywhere. That's the only reason I visit. Mainly for info on styles. Oh yeah and I like to post pictures in the How are you wearing your hair today thread (but that's only if I'm wearing a natural style. If I'm wearing a wig or something I don't post.) Sometimes if a thread catches my eye, and I have something to add then I'll respond. But that's it. I rarely post a thread of my own or ask questions.

 

[sweetwhispers]

LynnieB, I understand what you're saying but I have seen people over there with looser textures not treated so nicely. Especially if you don't fit into the "mold" of the board so to speak. I've been lurking NP for a long time (if you notice my member since date is from like 2003) and I didn't feel comfortable posting at first either for that reason. Even now, even though I do post, I still don't feel totally comfortable. I don't have a rapport with anybody over there like I do here. When I post over there I hardly get replies. It's like I get ignored. I don't let it stop me from posting, but it does happen.

This is how i feel on LHCF.

 

[PaperClip]

This is how i feel on LHCF.

How can we cultivate a more hospitable environment for you here at LCHF?

 

[LynnieB]

LynnieB, I understand what you're saying but I have seen people over there with looser textures not treated so nicely. Especially if you don't fit into the "mold" of the board so to speak. I've been lurking NP for a long time (if you notice my member since date is from like 2003) and I didn't feel comfortable posting at first either for that reason. Even now, even though I do post, I still don't feel totally comfortable. I don't have a rapport with anybody over there like I do here. When I post over there I hardly get replies. It's like I get ignored. I don't let it stop me from posting, but it does happen.

when i first started lurking over there i felt the same way, i even spoke to dee personally about it in chat one night - we had a great laugh about it. But i also told her that nobody and no-thing was going to stop me from joining in fray, and it hasn't and won't. i even mentioned to her how this has turned into a quieter and gentler NP, and it has and NP is better for it.

there are many members over there with hair in the 3's whose hair is not silky curly (and you know this), one of them was nominated for member of the month (and i'm sure you know this too) and they all find manage to find their niche and make themselves at home, are accepted and made to feel at home. they don't go from one board to the other playing the fiddle on how awful this or that website is - dee won't tolerate it. If it's reported, it will be dealt with accordingly if not by the mods than certainly by dee herself. i respect that.

dee herself has really cleaned house of the troublemaking, disruptive types and trollish behavior just isn't tolerated and it includes the blatant dissing other boards that i keep running into here.

eta: i think what i'm getting is we all have our fav and unfav hair boards. the ones we like we go to often, the ones we don't, we ignore and keep it moving as in "whatever", ya know?

all this does is cause ill feelings to those who do NOT have issue with either site. i look at each person and wonder why they have such a terrible problem when i personally don't and never really did and if i ever do, lhcf would be the last place that would know about it.

alas, such is life, eh?

 

[ajoyfuljoy]

This thread seems real petty and distasteful. Why are we wasting time criticizing/bashing another forum? This is very childish. I also hope this thread is closed too and I hope threads like this don't start popping up on LHCF.

I believe the ladies here have better things to talk about than this.

 

[glamazon386]

when i first started lurking over there i felt the same way, i even spoke to dee personally about it in chat one night - we had a great laugh about it. But i also told her that nobody and no-thing was going to stop me from joining in fray, and it hasn't and won't. i even mentioned to her how this has turned into a quieter and gentler NP, and it has and NP is better for it.

there are many members over there with hair in the 3's whose hair is not silky curly (and you know this), one of them was nominated for member of the month (and i'm sure you know this too) and they all find manage to find their niche and make themselves at home, are accepted and made to feel at home. they don't go from one board to the other playing the fiddle on how awful this or that website is - dee won't tolerate it. If it's reported, it will be dealt with accordingly if not by the mods than certainly by dee herself. i respect that.

dee herself has really cleaned house of the troublemaking, disruptive types and trollish behavior just isn't tolerated and it includes the blatant dissing other boards that i keep running into here.

To the bolded, yeah you're right. There are but, they are usually the militant ones that stick around. The rest usually leave or lurk and not post. Or you can tell when they say things they'll be like "I might get shot for this..." or some disclaimer like that. There's a lot of people who lurk but don't post. I've even had people I know in real life find me over there and PM me. But when I look at their profile they don't have any posts but they've been there a long time. I don't even see NP talked about over here that often. Maybe once in a blue. I've seen more references to other sites more often. I think for the most part we all have to just agree to disagree. Because what works for one person, may not work for another. I guess that's just life. On all the boards I've ever participated in (for various topics, not just hair) I've never felt as much of a sense of community as I do here. One board I visited when I was a teenager came close (I still have some lifelong friends from that board) but other than that nah.

 

[sweetwhispers]

How can we cultivate a more hospitable environment for you here at LCHF?

awww RelaxerRehab your too sweet!
I don't really think i'll ever feel like i "fit" in here. But thats ok. I'm on about 4 hairboards and its on 2 that i really feel comfortable on them. I'm just not a "popular on the internet" type of person, i never have been. I enjoy lurking and posting. I utilise the search function on the hairboard, cos my threads sink without a trace

 

[DeepBluSea]

This is how i feel on LHCF.

Ditto!

Hey Cutie2b, there is a thread called "I want toe length hair" giggle and also a TWA/baldy grow out challenge. I'm a part of the TWA grow out challenge and there are ladies with the looser textures on board. Not tellin you how to feel, but just letting you know that there are folks on there interested in growing hair. HTH and HHG.

 

[glamazon386]

This is how i feel on LHCF.

Aww really? Why?

 

[PaperClip]

awww RelaxerRehab your too sweet!
I don't really think i'll ever feel like i "fit" in here. But thats ok. I'm on about 4 hairboards and its on 2 that i really feel comfortable on them. I'm just not a "popular on the internet" type of person, i never have been. I enjoy lurking and posting. I utilise the search function on the hairboard, cos my threads sink without a trace

Awww.... hmmm.... I'm curious.... whatcha askin'?

Yesterday I went to my first LCHF meet-up and that convinced me that the internet is a powerful place to connect people, online and in real life.... I've gotten more comfortable and it took time.... I was real anti-relaxer (ergo, RelaxerRehab) when I got here and some folk thought they were being nice by "recommending" NP to me but I promptly (yet politely) informed them that I knew what I was looking for and I knew what I needed.... And I have the same screen name in both spots and I've found my balance between the two spots (but I'm mostly here, so there ya go! So fit is flexible, if you will.... (LOL!)

It's cool if you're not a "popular on the internet" but at the same time, I want you to feel comfortable and not isolated, you know?

 

[sweetwhispers]

You know its weird i'm on LHCF everyday, but i don't know, i feel comfortable posting but starting a thread? Forget it.

I've had instances when i've been snubbed/ignored, maybe thats been it?

Another thing i'm not a very articulate person so i find it hard to convey how i'm feeling or my thoughts or opinions, unlike a lot of people. Plus i have no pictures of myself up, i don't talk about myself, my hair is in a craptastical state at the moment.

Also i don't think there has ever been a UK LHCF meet up. But on my other boards i have met up with members, that could be something also.

It takes me a while to get into a messageboard, i 've not been posting long on LHCF( even though my join date says 05). Maybe i've not hit my stride yet.

I've learnt a whole lot on this site, i love it, but i dunno there's just a little piece missing.

 

[Evolving78]

I'm a member of that board as well and I feel like it has helped me a lot in embracing my natural hair. I guess the women on that board feel the way they do because nappy hair has been rejected by our people and others for so long. It is hard being a natural when you have your own race of people not accepting of it, making you feel bad for accepting the natural you. I understand the whole concept of hair is just hair, but everyone on this board knows that it goes deeper for us. When we can finally accept the way God truly made us, then maybe we can just say hair is just hair.

 

[glamazon386]

You know its weird i'm on LHCF everyday, but i don't know, i feel comfortable posting but starting a thread? Forget it.

I've had instances when i've been snubbed/ignored, maybe thats been it?

Another thing i'm not a very articulate person so i find it hard to convey how i'm feeling or my thoughts or opinions, unlike a lot of people. Plus i have no pictures of myself up, i don't talk about myself, my hair is in a craptastical state at the moment.

Also i don't think there has ever been a UK LHCF meet up. But on my other boards i have met up with members, that could be something also.

It takes me a while to get into a messageboard, i 've not been posting long on LHCF( even though my join date says 05). Maybe i've not hit my stride yet.

I've learnt a whole lot on this site, i love it, but i dunno there's just a little piece missing.

Oh okay... maybe you just haven't warmed up yet?

 

[kweenameena]

You know its weird i'm on LHCF everyday, but i don't know, i feel comfortable posting but starting a thread? Forget it.

I've had instances when i've been snubbed/ignored, maybe thats been it?

Another thing i'm not a very articulate person so i find it hard to convey how i'm feeling or my thoughts or opinions, unlike a lot of people. Plus i have no pictures of myself up, i don't talk about myself, my hair is in a craptastical state at the moment.

Also i don't think there has ever been a UK LHCF meet up. But on my other boards i have met up with members, that could be something also.

It takes me a while to get into a messageboard, i 've not been posting long on LHCF( even though my join date says 05). Maybe i've not hit my stride yet.

I've learnt a whole lot on this site, i love it, but i dunno there's just a little piece missing.

Everyone feels like this at one point. But it's no biggie. I've had a ton of threads that no one will respond to and then a couple of days later someone else will make a thread about the same thing with like 30 responses. So I just go and join in on that thread. I just want to discuss the topic....it doesn't matter to me if I've started it or not. Sometimes people flock to certain personalities, especially if they are funny or known to be controversial. Don't take it personal!! It's not even worth your grief. As long as no one is disrespecting you!

 

[hopeful]

This is how i feel on LHCF.

Well I wanna be your friend. And if you need help with getting your hair on track, I'm sure some of us can help, and we can certainly give you encouragement. And if I ever see a thread you've started, I'm gonna post in it, even if I've got nothing to say

 

[glamazon386]

Everyone feels like this at one point. But it's no biggie. I've had a ton of threads that no one will respond to and then a couple of days later someone else will make a thread about the same thing with like 30 responses. So I just go and join in on that thread. I just want to discuss the topic....it doesn't matter to me if I've started it or not. Sometimes people flock to certain personalities, especially if they are funny or known to be controversial. Don't take it personal!! It's not even worth your grief. As long as no one is disrespecting you!

Ameena's right.

 

[CurleeDST]

NO board bashing!

Ya know, I found these boards (nc.com first) through a friend who was constantly on the internet searching for information on natural hair. Prior to that I didn't even know these things existed! Now you can't get me off of'em.

With that said, there are NO boards I dislike or wouldn't visit to post or read up on information from nc.com to d.com to a HOST of others. Heck I even asked one member, what are some other hair boards I could join to get varying perspectives and then soon realized - oh heck these the same topics over at lhcf....heck these the same ladies! LOL!!!

It's all good and really not that deep to me. I mean it is great to pm and chat and have a cyber convo with someone you have never met in person but let's put it in perspective - we have never met in person or talked on the phone...it ain't that deep. I have learned of logins on all these boards who may have a problem with my posts and how I come across. So because they do not like what I wrote, they interpret that to mean they do not like me. Yet they have never met me. And ladies, remember this b/c I have attended some of these meet and greets in person LONG time ago - some folks come off way more aggressive on the boards than they are in real life. It is almost like a Dr. Jekyll and Mrs. Hyde thang going on. I mean MEEK and mild in person yet LOUD and OPINIONATED on these boards. Just an observation I found interesting.

God made us individuals for a reason. All of these boards have wonderful information in them and that is fantastic but if they were to go away tomorrow - it would be all good. I would have to resort back to thumbing through hair magazines to get ideas. I do not agree with bashing of ANY KIND on ANY BOARD! It is unecessary.

 

[AvaSpeaks]

I feel like this is a flashback from School Dayz. Jiggaboos and Wannabes... We all need to Wake up and respect each other. This has been going on for too long

Your just a Jiggaboo, sitting around with nothing to do....

Well your a Wannabee, wannabee better than me....

Aww, the good ole' days of watching a Spike Lee movie.

 

[sweetwhispers]

Aww i feel all special now!
Yayyy!

 

[frizzy]

This is how i feel on LHCF.

Me too. But I have posted here consistantly and < a hand full of times on NP. (I was napptural)