tatiana
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Ever since I chopped off my relaxed hair, I, all of of sudden, have people commenting on my hair from family to complete strangers.
My hair is 90% 3c with a dash of 3b and 4a in certain sections. My hair is also fine/thin and wispy.
I am getting questions like "did set your hair on small rollers" or "did you get a straw set". That annoyed me but I could see why they thought that.
I sometimes get the "Why did I get a relaxer in the first place?" That question stump me but I could easily place blame on my mother who put one in my hair when I was 10 or 11. I also believe my mother did not know how to take care of my hair and thought relaxer fixes everything.
As a newly natural and product junkie, I have spent my summer trying different products from Curls to SCurl to Noodlehead and when I mess up I have to hear about from my black male co-worker who states loudly that I "use too much Jheri Curl Juice in my hair". It is embarrassing. He is so loud. In some ways I view as an insult. Everyday he looks closely at my hair especially at the roots. One day he asked me if I got "my hair did" which I took it as did I get a touch-up. In reality after weeks of using Noodlehead, I decided to use Miss Jessie Curl Pudding which made my hair look different.
On Friday I reached my boiling point, my white co-worker pets my hair asking me why my hair isn't frizzy. I told her that I didn't brush my hair. I felt like she wanted to say something else but didn't know how to say it. She made me feel like a pet. After she left my cube, I suddenly remebered that she doesn't always washes her hands after she uses the bathroom and, on top of that, she runs a kennel for homeless and abused animals in her free time. I went to complain to my black female co-worker about the incident just to find out that my white co-worker has been pumping her for information on why my hair curly and if I have a Jheri Curl.
I have been mad ever since. Am I being petty? I don't understand why my hair is fascination among certain people. To me, my hair does not look like a Jheri Curl, it looks similar to Gloria Ruben or Cree Summer's hair. I don't want to disrespect anyone here on the board but I truly believe that my co-workers think I have chemical services because I am brown. I fear what stupid comments I will get when my hair gets longer. If I am overracting, please let me know. Does anyone have any advice on how to to handle those annoying comments and the hair petters? Because I am not use to it.
My hair is 90% 3c with a dash of 3b and 4a in certain sections. My hair is also fine/thin and wispy.
I am getting questions like "did set your hair on small rollers" or "did you get a straw set". That annoyed me but I could see why they thought that.
I sometimes get the "Why did I get a relaxer in the first place?" That question stump me but I could easily place blame on my mother who put one in my hair when I was 10 or 11. I also believe my mother did not know how to take care of my hair and thought relaxer fixes everything.
As a newly natural and product junkie, I have spent my summer trying different products from Curls to SCurl to Noodlehead and when I mess up I have to hear about from my black male co-worker who states loudly that I "use too much Jheri Curl Juice in my hair". It is embarrassing. He is so loud. In some ways I view as an insult. Everyday he looks closely at my hair especially at the roots. One day he asked me if I got "my hair did" which I took it as did I get a touch-up. In reality after weeks of using Noodlehead, I decided to use Miss Jessie Curl Pudding which made my hair look different.
On Friday I reached my boiling point, my white co-worker pets my hair asking me why my hair isn't frizzy. I told her that I didn't brush my hair. I felt like she wanted to say something else but didn't know how to say it. She made me feel like a pet. After she left my cube, I suddenly remebered that she doesn't always washes her hands after she uses the bathroom and, on top of that, she runs a kennel for homeless and abused animals in her free time. I went to complain to my black female co-worker about the incident just to find out that my white co-worker has been pumping her for information on why my hair curly and if I have a Jheri Curl.
I have been mad ever since. Am I being petty? I don't understand why my hair is fascination among certain people. To me, my hair does not look like a Jheri Curl, it looks similar to Gloria Ruben or Cree Summer's hair. I don't want to disrespect anyone here on the board but I truly believe that my co-workers think I have chemical services because I am brown. I fear what stupid comments I will get when my hair gets longer. If I am overracting, please let me know. Does anyone have any advice on how to to handle those annoying comments and the hair petters? Because I am not use to it.
erplexed my childhood girlfriend of 38 years swears up and down that I'm lying as if it's impossible for me to have shiny curly hair. 
) because you have very little control over what people think or even say but you should have control of your personal space, you must be clear: "Do not touch my hair." Period, that's it. Otherwise, just figure out a quick pat answer to all of the questions and focus on growing your beautiful natural hair. When you are newly natural it can be overwhelming, over time people will be less annoying. Personally I used to hate people touching my hair (relaxed or natural), but lately I have actually told people I know and like who seem curious to go ahead and touch it because I'm so proud of how healthy and soft it is and I enjoy sharing that with people now. But still, only touch it, if I invite you to or give you permission.
The only thing that really bothers me is the petting. WTF!!?!?! 
I am not a dog! I can imagine that it's going to really get out of control once my hair gets long.
