2013 Relaxed Hair Buddy Thread

[Nix08]

Team 18weeks sunnieb Cherry89 Nix08 divachyk baddision would you believe that my 9weeks plus ng actually enhanced my style this weekend...I used caruso rollers and the ng gave just enough lift to look vivacious
I'm still floored that I'm successfully managing this stretch!
sunnieb did you get your DC on this weekend?

 

[Mande30]

hnntrr klsjackson mschristine

Alrrrrrrrrighty- 2 more weeks until my first Mommy-relax (I will take over after the application and smoothing). I chickened out on doing a self-relax and DH will simply not cooperate. He won't look at vidoes, he won't practice. Just thinks that he can DO it. Not on my head!!!

I have nixed the idea of stretching beyond 12 weeks. I am going to go to where I KNOW that I don't have any breakage or tangling issues. I am too far in to risk any major set backs.

I am rather excited about this relaxer. I will be in control, control of the products, control of the neutralizing, control of the shampooing method, control of the gentleness, control of the COMBING, control of the entire process, from beginning to end. I can take full ownership of the results.

 

[Babygrowth]

Hey buddies! londonfog, sckri23, lovely_locks, Kim0105 how are y'all holding up? I had a little extra shedding last week but its back in order. I discovered my hair loves coconut milk. As a rinse and as a pre poo. This keeps my NG in check and my shedding minimal. I can't wait to relax in April only because my hair is growing good and I'm retaining length which I knew wouldn't be a problem once I learned how to take care of my hair. Still washing and cornrowing weekly...

 

[londonfog]

@Babygrowth, @sckri23, @lovely_locks, @Kim0105

Hello ladies!! Not too much going on over here. I've found some extra NG up in the top of my head right smack dab in the middle, it was trying to hide!! It's about an inch long but the surrounding NG is about half an inch. All in all, its manageable & soft so I don't have a problem running my comb through it. My edges and nape have no NG whatsoever!! Thinking I may not even touch my edges & nape when its time for the relaxer. Probably just keep them moisturized & slicked down in the meantime. Its not like they are visible or anything. I have been narrowing down on my products by using up my stash & have found some that I would like to stick with & found new ones that are working well with my hair. I've been rocking my cornrows & wig in the meantime & sticking to the same routine.

 

[yoli184]

How do you like the Sukesh? I bought some during their BF sale, I think I tried it once but didn't like how my hair responded...I think. I'll have to revisit it.

Can you do a wet wrap set and wear it flat? I did this years ago when I was growing out my cut like that. It was actually really cute, have you tried that?

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@Altruisticoam
@yoli184
@xu93texas
@Cattypus1
@shortdub78


I'll be six weeks post on Friday. I'm still cowashing nightly. Has helped me tremendously with my new growth. I recently bought Generic Nexxus Humectress Conditioner. Always wanted to try it out. Heard it was pretty good. Rolleret my own hair this afternoon and it only took 25 min...Thats a lot of improvement. Used to take me almost an hour.
Oh...I will be finishing up my Hairfinity and switch to something cheaper. Its good but there is no dramatic change in my growth rate (of my hair). Will going back to maxihair vitamins. I also wanna try hairomega

 

[KiWiStyle]

@Altruisticoam
@yoli184
@xu93texas
@Cattypus1
@shortdub78

I'll be six weeks post on Friday. I'm still cowashing nightly. Has helped me tremendously with my new growth. I recently bought Generic Nexxus Humectress Conditioner. Always wanted to try it out. Heard it was pretty good. Rolleret my own hair this afternoon and it only took 25 min...Thats a lot of improvement. Used to take me almost an hour.
Oh...I will be finishing up my Hairfinity and switch to something cheaper. Its good but there is no dramatic change in my growth rate (of my hair). Will going back to maxihair vitamins. I also wanna try hairomega

yoli184 how long have you been taking Hairfinity?? That's great your setting time is improving, I can't wait to get my time to at least 30 minutes. I will be CW in the morning and doing a Rollerset because DH have an event to attend. I want my tresses out, lol!

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[MissyB]

Hi everyone! I need a buddy. This is my first post on LHCF. I'm about a month into my hair care journey. I'm also still figuring out my regimen.

I got a touch up on Friday. I just came off a 20 week stretch and I plan to go at least 15 weeks next time.

Other stuff that I feel inclined to add..... I had mid-back length locs until one day boredom hit and I combed one out (don't ask why), that one loc was the challenge I needed and before I knew it I had a poofy head of hair, with no idea what to do with it! I went flat iron crazy and was enjoying it too. I went to a stylist three months later and got a relaxer (May 2012), after a touch-up in October the stylist cut SL to a CL bob. She said there were split ends and heat damage, which I don't doubt. Now, thanks to this site I know about moisturizing and sealing, health of hair and protective styles.

 

[hnntrr]

klsjackson mschristine Mande30,

We are comin up on our dates soon! I wont be joining you guys on relaxer week but you have my full support and you ladies are awesome to make it this far! I know I havn't gone this long between relaxers and its so free'ing (still a struggle though, but in a different way). Hopefully gonna stretch for another 15 weeks so it will be a total of 6 month stretch to see if I wanna transition.

 

[SweetSunshine]

Is it too late for me to get a buddy?

I had my first Texlax (on natural hair) on Feb 2. I plan to texlax every 4 months, so I'm looking to texlax again at the beginning of June.

Does anyone stretch 4 months?

 

[Cattypus1]

yoli184 how long have you been taking Hairfinity?? That's great your setting time is improving, I can't wait to get my time to at least 30 minutes. I will be CW in the morning and doing a Rollerset because DH have an event to attend. I want my tresses out, lol!

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I'm going to cowash tonight...of course, being the pj that I am I bought the L'Oreal cleansing condish to try tonight. 6.99 versus 30 bucks (Wen) will work if I like it. I hope I like it. Going with the tea-DC too.

 

[KiWiStyle]

I'm going to cowash tonight...of course, being the pj that I am I bought the L'Oreal cleansing condish to try tonight. 6.99 versus 30 bucks (Wen) will work if I like it. I hope I like it. Going with the tea-DC too.

Be sure to come back with a review on the L'Oreal CC. You know I was planning to CW today as well but then I remembered the event. I'm looking forward to it; the dishes are all made with Tequila!!!!

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[Cattypus1]

Be sure to come back with a review on the L'Oreal CC. You know I was planning to CW today as well but then I remembered the event. I'm looking forward to it; the dishes are all made with Tequila!!!!

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Nice...dishes with Tequila, awesome! I'll let you know how the L'Oreal works. Let us know how the Tequila works...giggle

 

[KiWiStyle]

Nice...dishes with Tequila, awesome! I'll let you know how the L'Oreal works. Let us know how the Tequila works...giggle

LOL! Will do.

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[klsjackson]

hnntrr mschristine Mande30
Today was wash day and I am not a happy camper. My hair is so out of whack! Between needing a trim and stretching I have massive tangles. I want to relax, but I plan to stick it out. It took a little longer than I liked to rollerset my hair and my roots are so puffy. I may have to flat iron them but I really dont like using any direct heat.

 

[Cattypus1]

LOL! Will do.

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Okay, so about that L'Oreal CC, I'm not loving it. It smells weird and it didn't feel as good as my beloved Wen. My hair does feel good but I wouldn't buy it again. I guess I'm looking for the next Wen sale. Anyway, I did use the tea/DC process again and it does appear that I lose/break a lot less hair than before.

 

[KiWiStyle]

Okay, so about that L'Oreal CC, I'm not loving it. It smells weird and it didn't feel as good as my beloved Wen. My hair does feel good but I wouldn't buy it again. I guess I'm looking for the next Wen sale. Anyway, I did use the tea/DC process again and it does appear that I lose/break a lot less hair than before.

That's great news about the tea rinse! Do you plan to return the CC??

I can't wait to CW and tea rinse in the morning! This will be my first Rollerset since December, I'm so giddy!

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[Cattypus1]

That's great news about the tea rinse! Do you plan to return the CC??

I can't wait to CW and tea rinse in the morning! This will be my first Rollerset since December, I'm so giddy!

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Yay, for the rollerset bun month almost done...one day I might join you, ill have to break my magnetics out of cold storage. Yes, I think I will return the CC...I don't like it at all.

 

[xu93texas]

SweetSunshine and MissyB,

Hi and welcome!

 

[Mande30]

@hnntrr @mschristine @Mande30
Today was wash day and I am not a happy camper. My hair is so out of whack! Between needing a trim and stretching I have massive tangles. I want to relax, but I plan to stick it out. It took a little longer than I liked to rollerset my hair and my roots are so puffy. I may have to flat iron them but I really dont like using any direct heat.

klsjackson
You don't have that much longer to go. Do you still plan to relax at the beginning-middle of March?

This is where I am getting confused with my hair. How do you know that you need a trim? What are the visible indications, besides split ends?

 

[sunnieb]

Nix08 - yes, I dc'd Saturday night. I think I'm going to add my hair routine to my Flylady Control Journal. That way I can stay on schedule.

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[klsjackson]

@klsjackson
You don't have that much longer to go. Do you still plan to relax at the beginning-middle of March?

This is where I am getting confused with my hair. How do you know that you need a trim? What are the visible indications, besides split ends?

Mande30

The 12week date for me is March 21st. But I will be on vacation the week of March 11th and I think I will self-relax during that week. I can take my time and use a full day and not feel rushed. (my weekends have been crazy lately!) I know that is it time for a trim because my hair won't "hold" a style and no matter how much moisture I add my ends still feel dry. Also, I had some major breakage that took place last year and I'm still trying to get my hair back in shape. But I will not trim the same day as I relax. I will wait until a week or so later to see how my hair behaves after the retouch. Shrinkage at the roots, makes my hair appear uneven at the ends.

I have about 2 inches that "need" to be cut, but I'm not ready to do it. So, I have myself set on a 3-month trim cycle until those scraggly ends are gone. The last trim was Dec 12, 2012 and trimmed a good inch. I plan to trim 1/2 inch this time and another 1/2 in June. I should be free of them by June. My hair has been growing at a nice rate. During the warmer months I get between .5 and .75 inches a month, during the colder months a little less than .5. I have noticed this since I began tracking my hair growth over the last year.

 

[SweetSunshine]

@SweetSunshine and @MissyB,

Hi and welcome!

xu93texas,

Thanks for the warm welcome! Hoping I can squeeze my late self in here and join the fun!

 

[Kim0105]

Hey buddies! londonfog, sckri23, lovely_locks, Kim0105 how are y'all holding up? I had a little extra shedding last week but its back in order. I discovered my hair loves coconut milk. As a rinse and as a pre poo. This keeps my NG in check and my shedding minimal. I can't wait to relax in April only because my hair is growing good and I'm retaining length which I knew wouldn't be a problem once I learned how to take care of my hair. Still washing and cornrowing weekly...

Babygrowth, @sckri23, @lovely_locks, @Kim0105

Hello ladies!! Not too mention going on over here. I've found some extra NG up in the top of my head right smack dab in the middle, it was trying to hide!! It's about an inch long but the surrounding NG is about half an inch. All in all, its manageable & soft so I don't have a problem running my comb through it. My edges and nape have no NG whatsoever!! Thinking I may not even touch my edges & nape when its time for the relaxer. Probably just keep them moisturized & slicked down in the meantime. Its not like they are visible or anything. I have been narrowing down on my products by using up my stash & have found some that I would like to stick with & found new ones that are working well with my hair. I've been rocking my cornrows & wig in the meantime & sticking to the same routine.

I did a protein deep condition today followed by a moisture dc. Not sure if it's the combination of products but my hair feels horrible. Gonna dc with vanilla silk dream after school pickup and maybe do a roller set.

 

[lamaria211]

SunySydeofLyfe!! How's it going over there? I'm so happy with the amount of new growth I have. Even though I can only get a comb thru it when it's wet. This weekend I plan on doing a loooonnnggg moisturizing DC using AO HSR, hemp, GSO, walnut, avocado and coconut oils. And some organic honey, with heat for at least an hour. Then I'll probably sleep in it rinse and CW the next day. I've been wearing wigs Mon- Fri, M&S nightly and only using a comb on wash days

 

[MissyB]

Thanks!!!!!

 

[Babygrowth]

I did a protein deep condition today followed by a moisture dc. Not sure if it's the combination of products but my hair feels horrible. Gonna dc with vanilla silk dream after school pickup and maybe do a roller set.

Oh no! What did you use? I know vanilla silk will get that hair back on track!

 

[Mande30]

@Mande30

The 12week date for me is March 21st. But I will be on vacation the week of March 11th and I think I will self-relax during that week. I can take my time and use a full day and not feel rushed. (my weekends have been crazy lately!) I know that is it time for a trim because my hair won't "hold" a style and no matter how much moisture I add my ends still feel dry. Also, I had some major breakage that took place last year and I'm still trying to get my hair back in shape. But I will not trim the same day as I relax. I will wait until a week or so later to see how my hair behaves after the retouch. Shrinkage at the roots, makes my hair appear uneven at the ends.

I have about 2 inches that "need" to be cut, but I'm not ready to do it. So, I have myself set on a 3-month trim cycle until those scraggly ends are gone. The last trim was Dec 12, 2012 and trimmed a good inch. I plan to trim 1/2 inch this time and another 1/2 in June. I should be free of them by June. My hair has been growing at a nice rate. During the warmer months I get between .5 and .75 inches a month, during the colder months a little less than .5. I have noticed this since I began tracking my hair growth over the last year.

klsjackson
What led to you needing to trim 2 inches? I ask because I am still trying to figure things out as far as my routine and what to do and what not to do. I am in the Boot Camp challenge and am limited to only dusting for this entire year. I did my first dusting about 6 weeks ago, which was 6 weeks post. And I plan to do one after my relaxer next week.

I know what you mean by NG making your ends look uneven. One of my former stylist had to drive that into my head when I kept asking for a trim at 5 weeks post. He refused to do it. But I did do my dusting at 6 weeks post. I did not trim the uneven edges, I just did a search and destroy, as well as, snipped the split ends, one by one. It took a while.

I have read some ladies say that they don't trim but once a year. And others have said that they tried that and had a MAJOR set back. So I am going to err on the side of caution and dust, trim or whatever on a regualr schedule (6 weeks). What is your opinion on this?

 

[FelaShrine]

Think Im gonna stop using GOW Amla Oil..relaxed 1st of Feb and my edges already looking rough.

Really need to find a place for a really nice full headed weave so I wont have to worry about my hair at all. just hide it.

 

[klsjackson]

@klsjackson
What led to you needing to trim 2 inches? I ask because I am still trying to figure things out as far as my routine and what to do and what not to do. I am in the Boot Camp challenge and am limited to only dusting for this entire year. I did my first dusting about 6 weeks ago, which was 6 weeks post. And I plan to do one after my relaxer next week.

I know what you mean by NG making your ends look uneven. One of my former stylist had to drive that into my head when I kept asking for a trim at 5 weeks post. He refused to do it. But I did do my dusting at 6 weeks post. I did not trim the uneven edges, I just did a search and destroy, as well as, snipped the split ends, one by one. It took a while.

I have read some ladies say that they don't trim but once a year. And others have said that they tried that and had a MAJOR set back. So I am going to err on the side of caution and dust, trim or whatever on a regualr schedule (6 weeks). What is your opinion on this?

Mande30
How can I make a long story short? I had a major setback in Oct 2011 I asked my stylist for a trim and got a serious haircut. I went from 2 inches from APL to Nape length in the back and EL on the sides!!! (check out my album) It has been 13months since that horrific cut and I am SL, but my hair had thinned out very badly (you could see through it). The 2 inches that I want to cut are the remaining see through ends. Once the thickest part get to SL (in about 2 to 3 more months) I should not have any more see through hair. Now they just appear thinner than the rest of my hair and it doesn't look bad, but it is hard to rollerset with part of it thinner than the rest. I do agree that most people that protect their ends only need to trim once or twice a year. After my cut, I didn't trim my hair for 9 months. I went to another salon to a stylist that I trust and she said I didn't need a trim unless I just wanted to get one, but told me to keep an eye on my ends. Once I remove the last of the thinner hair I will only trim twice a year. Most stylist give regular trims to maintain a style. Before my setback I had a really nice haircut that I liked and I wore my hair a few inches away from APL and I liked it! I got a trim every other month to maintain my style.

 

[Kim0105]

Oh no! What did you use? I know vanilla silk will get that hair back on track!

I used motions CPR for protein and coconut milk with Naturelle Grow's Aloe and Avocado as a deep condition afterwards. My hair feels fine now that it is dry. I do think that I'm going to relax this weekend (8w2d). Experiencing demarcation breakage and since this is my first stretch I probably should take it stretch by stretch. I'll aim for 10 weeks next stretch.