How young is too young for a relaxer?

[NOEChic]

My friend is mixed her mother is white and her dad is black. Her mother wanted a more natural look for her daughter. My friend went to go visit her aunts and they put a perm in her head. Her mom was pissed, but there was nothing she could do.

To all those people out there that someone else took your choice away from you, when I read your post, I was upset for you. I would beat a B down if he/she/it EVER called themselves putting somethin in my childs head that I told them not to do. People are overstepping their boundaries these days.

Personally, I do not have any kids, but if I am fortunate to have any, and a girl at that, I would not put a perm in her head until she is of age about 16 and can make the decision for herself. And if she decides to do it behind my back, she is getting a BC lol

 

[shiningstar84]

18 years old...

 

[Sha76]

no younger than 15.

 

[deejoy]

I got mine at 12. When I have children, I dont think I will be relaxing their hair.

 

[brownbrown]

I give my baby sixteen. But I hope she decides against it.

My sis gave my neice one at 6. Her hair was so long and fell out with the perm. i convinced her to cu tthe perm out and it's growing back.


Oh might be harsh but I also pick 16 cuz if she wants a perm she gonna have to get a job and pay for her own salon visits.

Now and days you can do so much with out a perm.

Later on in my life I will cut my perm out....again.

Put it back in for a manerplexed

 

[saqqara]

My sister's niece took a class in college and the professor told her that ladies should not put chemicals in their hair before puberty. And I think I read that on a website also (I have to find out which one). I relaxed my daughter's hair when she was 8 and I still regret it, she begged me for the Just for Me relaxer. I should have stuck to my guns, but I didn't know then what I know now.

I heard that too but from a hairdresser. She refused to put a relaxer in a childs hair who was younger than 12. She said the hair goes through changes as the child developes and if its put in before puberty, the scalp/follicles will be irreparably damaged. I didnt get my first relaxer until I was a teen.

 

[preciousjewel76]

One of my cousins relaxed her baby girl's hair when she was TWO YEARS OLD. Then, she got braided extensions in the baby's hair. The whole family was pissed at her for that one, I tell ya.

 

[InNeedofHairapy]

I was in Target this weekend headed towards the hair aisles when a two year old baby to the baby ran past me giggling her little tail off with the most bouncy long ponytail ever. I was thinking how cute her hair was until I smelled the tell tale aroma of "Relaxer that hasn't been washed all the way out"

Yeah..I said two..or she looked two, cuz she ran the way babies run where they bob their heads and look like they're going to topple over.

I mean, she had the silky smoove just for me look, and I was so sad.

 

[CoCoGirl821]

My sister's niece took a class in college and the professor told her that ladies should not put chemicals in their hair before puberty. And I think I read that on a website also (I have to find out which one). I relaxed my daughter's hair when she was 8 and I still regret it, she begged me for the Just for Me relaxer. I should have stuck to my guns, but I didn't know then what I know now.

I think at the earliest I would put a relaxer in my daughter's hair is 10. My sister put a relaxer in my neice's hair too early and she had breakage and all other problems that come with a bad relaxer too early. If my child has that very coarse hair I would take her to a salon to get it pressed If I don't have the patience. But other than that...NO. Plus what are we teaching our young girls anyway? That our natural hair isn't good enough? We need to educated ourselves and on another (including the children) that "nappy" hair is beautiful too!!!

 

[InNeedofHairapy]

Also,

I think that a child should not get a relaxer if she can not take care of her own hair in the even that mommy or daddy for whatever reason can't do it. I agree with not doing it before puberty.

personally, I won't relax my kids hair at all. When they have are grown and can style their own hair and maintain the health and beauty of it, then power to them.

 

[CAPlush]

One of my cousins relaxed her baby girl's hair when she was TWO YEARS OLD. Then, she got braided extensions in the baby's hair. The whole family was pissed at her for that one, I tell ya.

I have a cousin-in-law who put braided extensions in her 2 year old's head. She put them up in pigtails, but the braids were seriously waist length. I would have rather seen her in a kinky puff with a bow. Lil baby girls are supposed to have fuzzy heads, period. I think it screws with their sense of their own appearance when there are extensions involved that young.

If I have a daughter, I will let her have a relaxer and/or braided extensions if she wants when she is 13. Loose weaves and wigs are out of the question until she is 18 or on her own, whichever comes first.

 

[life_is_great]

I let a hairstylist talk me into giving my daughter a relaxer at 8 yrs old. She had severe breakage and I'm currently trying to grow her relaxer out. She likes the way her new growth look and she recently told me she wishes I had never had her hair relaxed. If had known 4 years ago what I know now, I would have never done it.

 

[CaramelMiSS]

I would never give my daughter a relaxer because I don't have one! My mother had a perm but she didn't put one in my or my sisters hair, she kept tellin us it will make your hair fall, so it literally scared the crap out of me and my sisters. We loved our long hair so much and we hardly saw black girls with long hair like ours so we wanted to keep! Hearing about the relaxing at these very young ages is amazing 18 months?!

 

[Miss*Tress]

And the worst part is that she does it every 6-7 weeks, relaxing root to tip.

People don't read the instructions that come with the relaxer or what? Good grief.

 

[Candiss]

I already made up my mind that if I have a daughter, she will not be allowed to relax as long as she is under 18. I just think it's important for her to grow up learning how to take care of and appreciate her hair in it's natural state. Then is she wants to, that's her choice.

 

[nikkiheaven]

OK, my daughter is 5, and I'm seriously considering putting a texurizer in her hair. It's basically been in braids for the past 3 years. She wants to wear ponytails, but they seriously do not look all that great in her hair. I don't want to blow dry in weekly. I feel like that's too damaging. Not sure what to do.

 

[RoseTintedCheeks]

OK, my daughter is 5, and I'm seriously considering putting a texurizer in her hair. It's basically been in braids for the past 3 years. She wants to wear ponytails, but they seriously do not look all that great in her hair. I don't want to blow dry in weekly. I feel like that's too damaging. Not sure what to do.

Is it a breakage problem or just a styling issue? Adding headbands and other hair accessories can spice up a bun or ponytail.

IMO relaxing/texturizing should be the child's choice and made at an age where she can make that choice herself.

 

[koolkittychick]

I was 17 when I got my first relaxer for my senior prom. My mom had never used relaxer herself (she has 3b/c hair that is easy to straighten with rollersetting), so she never thought to do that to her girls at a young age.

I will wait until my daughter is 17/18 before I allow her the option to relax, unless she reaaally wants it and can show that she can care for it by following my regimen, and even then it won't be until she is at least in high school. Until then I will help her rock the beautiful natural styles available to her, with heat straightening only on special occasions.

 

[MissErikaM]

If I am ever lucky enough to have a daughter she can get a relaxer when she is old enough to pay for her salon visits (i.e 17+), and even then I will hope she doesn't ask for one.

 

[LovelyNaps26]

that is way to young. i don't plan to perm my daughter's hair. when she can pay for the upkeep with her money then she can get it which will likely not until college. I will flat iron it a few times a year if she wants but i won't relax it.

 

[belldandy]

i use the same rule of thumb as when it comes to weaves: once they are old enough to purchase and maintain these things themselves, then i would allow it. sense i know how to take care of my hair, there is no reason my child's hair should not be long and full...no reason to weave it up or relax it in that instance anyway.

 

[DaiseeDay]

I believe it's best to wait at least until puberty. Three is WAY to young in my opinion.

 

[PinkGirlFluff]

If I have a daughter she can get a relaxer when she can pay for it herself and can pay for the upkeep. And I will NEVER complain about how her hair naturally comes out of her head. If she desires to get a relaxer it won't be because I didn't remind her how beautiful her hair is as is. It won't be because I won't teach her simple methods to maintain her natural hair. I will do all I can to prove to her that she does not NEED a relaxer to be beautiful. But if she wants one regardless I'll still support her.

 

[HauteHippie]

I think around 11th grade will be okay, probably 16.

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[HauteHippie]

nikkiheaven

I think my mom and my aunt relaxed me and my cousin's hair around 5. I could be wrong, but I don't remember-- and that's the problem. We were too young to really remember. We all went natural as adults. I also suspect that we had long-term hair damage. I'm not saying your daughter will be upset when she is older, but I wish my mom had listened to her mom on that one and not her daughter. I was too young to be running stuff!

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[Afrobuttafly]

That is disgusting....if you can't spell relaxer you shouldn't be getting one.

 

[kupenda]

If you have to ask, the child is too young IMO


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[vtoodler]

I was about 9 or 10 when I got my first relaxer.

If I have a daughter, I will probably not let her get one until she is in high school. I want her get to know her natural texture.

 

[LiftedUp]

This was nearly 5 years ago, how's the little girl's hair doing now OP?

 

[HauteHippie]

5 years ago?! Oh. I have got to quit posting from my phone...

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