I thought the first definition is a woman who has a man that "keeps her", regardless of her looks.
Or are you thinking about a woman who is well put together? <----THIS ONE!/QUOTE]
Going with THIS definition, I think a woman who is well put together makes the best of what she has physically. Her body is in the best shape as SHE can get, her hair is healthy and in a style/cut that works for her. Her clothes fit well and look good on her. She is gracious, courteous, kind and generous and makes ANYONE who comes into her sphere feel comfortable and welcomed.
For example, there is an older couple in my life. He is from a wealthy family. She comes from a family where both her mother and father were part of the French aristocracy. These people have castles [chateaus] in their family. She is a powerful woman who by no means demonstrates or has a subservient demeanor. Yet, when I come to their home, she makes me feel like I want for nothing and she makes me feel so important when I am there. She waits upon me hand and foot.
Continuing with the above definition, for me it's being as authentic as possible [not necessarily 'keeping it real' as in speaking without thinking]. It's being comfortable with who I am, accepting myself and loving myself. There is no need for super revealing clothes, too much make-up or loud gaudy behavior. This type of woman has no
need for attention from those who are external to her. She is so confident and comfortable with herself and she is so deeply ensconced in already having what she needs, that she can focus on others. When you focus on others and the interest is genuine, that is graciousness, to me.
For me, it's keeping my physical body as beautiful and as healthy as possible. Health issues can destroy your physical appearance instantly, in a few days and/ or weeks. It's ensuring that I am as financially stable as I can be, because money worries can eat away your beauty quickly, over time, too. In a addition, I work very hard to protect MYSELF. I try to keep unkind, abusive and inauthentic men and women, at a distance. My picture of my ideal 'kept self' is getting a bi-weekly 2 hour massage, eating organic natural food, having an allowance or passive income that is guaranteed for me for life that is sufficient to sustain me and for international travel and the things I want, within reason. Lastly, having a paid off home in which I am comfortable and happy that serves as my sanctuary when I am there.
Regarding sex, I think if a man or significant other cares for you, the person will teach you what the person likes and how to do it if you don't know what to do or what you are doing. Because...you can do circus flips and roll in ball and bite your own back to a man's amazement,
but if both people are not committed to the relationship, even when a partner has 'phenomenal skills', sex [only] never holds either person in a relationship for the long haul.
Thank you for posting this link too
