Your Husband Or Boyfriend Got your Back?

[brownsugarflyygirl]

Just wanted to say this is a cute thread...

 

[MiWay]

My husband thought I was crazy at first, but he wants me to have hair to my feet, so he's very supportive. He's actually started referring his co-workers to the site!

But he hates bunning with a passion. Usually by the time Wednesday comes around, he asks if we're doing something on the weekend, and what I'm going to do with my hair. He don't wanna hear nuthin' 'bout no protective styles!

 

[dlewis]

My husband supports me and has even picked up and started to use some things.

 

[Iluvsmuhgrass]

I really love this thread! Reading everyone's experiences makes me happy.

 

[Xavier]

I even catch him giving tips to his mom and sisters, he should be overly qualified to give advice now .

How cute... it shows that he is paying attention.

 

[Summer_Rain]

He's been an eager learner. The conversation begin when he asked me about all the many hairstyles (weaves, braids, buns, hair falls) that i wear. I just randomly said "they're protective styles" as if he should know that. He says "what are you protecting your hair from, the hair thief?"

So I take a deep breath - and dive into the explanation of the world of healthy hair care. We talked about oils, henna, stretching relaxers, vit's&supps. I showed him my progress pics - so he could see how it all does really pay off.

but he's been fun about this all. he's taken it upon himself to help me change my diet/eating habits & begin a work out regimen as well to help accomplish goals.

I even gave him a crash course in weight loss 101! lol

 

[Minx]

My honey is too supportive......he's all up in my hair business!

He loves hair, natural hair to be exact.
He's a 3b/3c, he has long gorgeous locs and spends more time in the mirror than I do!

I transitioned with his encouragement and support.
At first he didn't understand that concept, he was like, " Babe, just shave it off. You have a pretty face, don't worry about it. You'll be fly".
I just gave him a blank stare.

Fast forward a year and a half......
I'm natural now and he is just in heaven!
Everytime opportunity he gets he sticks his hands in my coily fro.
We can be riding down the highway, he's driving, and he reaches over and grabs a handfull of my kinks and just starts grinning ear to ear .

Only thing he complains about is my weekly wash routine, my cowashes, and my daily spritzes.
He says I wet my hair too much.

I told him, I MUST wet it to comb it/pick it ( its tightly coiled 4a/4b).

He's like "Stop washing it so much. You need to just let all that up in there marinate a lil' bit. Let it do what it do. And stop picking out your fro".
He likes the kinky/coily wash n' go look.

But that's what I mean by too much support. Telling me what to do.

Sometimes in an effort to get him to back off, I threaten him by saying,
"I'm telling the girls on you."
He's like," What girls?"
I say, " The LHCF girls. I'm gonna go post about you and let them know you won't leave me alone about my hair!"

Then he shuts his mouth!

dk

 

[tijay]

My husband def had my back! He's always asking about how much growth I've had and goes to the BSS for my staples, takes all my progress pics...and he hasn't said anything about the stinky MTG, so I know he's a soldja (that's soldier)!

 

[gymfreak336]

My boyfriend is supportive. When I feel like cutting it all off and giving up he will always convince me to keep going. He buys me products and sometimes helps me rollerset it, especially in the back. When ever it is wash day I will pick up a video game so he won't be complaining about how much time it takes up but he always tells me that he doesn't mind because he sees how happy I am after I do it. He is my progress ruler because he remembers how bad my hair was when we meet and he constantly tells me how far I have come even when I fail to see it. Right now I am actually making a list of some hair related things I need so he can get them for me. He told to right all of it down so we can just get it out of the way.

BTW- When I am too tired or sick, he will wash my hair

 

[cat eyes]

Ladies,

Thank you for the wonderful stories!!! Keep them comming!!!!!!

 

[Arcadian]

My SO dosen't always know WHY I do things, but he supports it. What sealed the deal for me was when he submitted me applying MTG on him. Now thats LOVE!

He won't relax my hair but he will help me rinse it out. He's clipped my ends as well.

Though on the flipside, every few months I get asked when I'm planning to wear my hair down

-A

 

[Ms Red]

My guy has been 100% supportive of my hair obsession He's taken out tracks , washed my hair for me, gone to the BSS to buy Fantasia IC gel (although he hates the "Sparklites" part!), but most importantly he's been there for me through hair trauma (bad stylist) and almost 21 months of transitioning. So when he wants to play with my hair, he gets full permission!

 

[CarmelTreat]

He don't wanna hear nuthin' 'bout no protective styles!

Sounds exactly like my hubby! He can't stand a bun anymore than a couple of days in a row. LOL (But, he doesn't mind a braidout that's done right.) He's supportive, though. He just wants me to have a life and make sure I'm not addicted to hair 24/7. I'm cool with that. I told him that it's just a hobby of mine.

Oh, and he's learning, too! He can tell anybody right now the disadvantages of mineral oil/petrolatum, the importance of moisture and protein, and the difference between lye and no-lye relaxers. Surprised me one day when he was able to recite it to my mom. That brotha's good! I love him!

And he applies and tests his newfound knowledge, too. He used some Blue Magic (grease w/petroleum and mineral oil) for a few weeks and then switched to using some of my moisturizers and mentioned how he noticed that his hair would shine at first but then get really itchy later with the Blue Magic. He said that the water-based moisturizers worked better in the long run. I was so proud of him for that! Now, he uses whatever moisturizer I buy and uses the Blue Magic only when he'll be washing his hair soon. Too cute for me!

 

[toniy]

My husband does not participate in anything dealing with hair. On the other hand, he doesnt hinder my progress and always has encouraging words. He has always hated the fact that I used to cut my hair for different styles. His only complaint is that he wants to know why its taking so long to get hair like the women on this site. He is sooo in AWE over some of yalls hair.

 

[Radianthealth]

My husband is jealous and confused by LHCF. Sometimes he feels neglected because I am always on the board and he doesn't get why I would spend so much time talking to women about things that are so "unimportant". He thinks the entertainment thread has turned me into a "Hater" .

About 7-8 months ago when he saw me with the Cathy Howse book he shook his head. I think he thinks that I am being silly and unfortunately he believes the myths about Black Women not being able to have long healthy hair, I am so happy that I will be proving him wrong...I always do

Anyway I have been (or should I say will be) working on spending less time on the board, and he is seeing my hair progress so I think he just lets me do my thing.

 

[Frustrated]

My SO has jokes! He is a barber and I am new to this so he wants the hair growth but thinks I should be going to a stylist. I have been coming home with copies of regimens and produce list. He calls everything my online kit.

I relaxed my hair this week after a 12 week stretch and had a very little shedding and he did give me postive comments. He also asked when I was going to put the Lacio Lacio in my hair (he likes the smell!)

He has washed and trimmed my hair for me and may not know it but that is going to be his new job!

 

[LoveLiLi]

I can't say that my SO was supportive at first. I have only been growing out my relaxer for 3 months so he's still used to seeing me with long flowing hair, lol. And he always says "I like girls with perms". But lately he's been more supportive and said he doesn't mind my bun etc. because he knows that I want to grow my hair out. I promised him that once it's natural I would wear it straight every couple of months and he's happy with that.

 

[CarmelTreat]

My honey is too supportive......he's all up in my hair business!
...
I transitioned with his encouragement and support.
At first he didn't understand that concept, he was like, " Babe, just shave it off. You have a pretty face, don't worry about it. You'll be fly".
I just gave him a blank stare.

...

But that's what I mean by too much support. Telling me what to do.

Sometimes in an effort to get him to back off, I threaten him by saying,
"I'm telling the girls on you."
He's like," What girls?"
I say, " The LHCF girls. I'm gonna go post about you and let them know you won't leave me alone about my hair!"

Then he shuts his mouth!

dk

Too funny and too cute, dkbeauti!!!

 

[Lynnerie]

I've been talking to a guy (who will probably end up being my man officially) and he's soooo supportive already. I told him how my co-workers will ask what's up with my hair if I don't have it down and he said. You gotta do whats best for you to reach your hair goals. Everything else comes after. How sweet. Other guys just thought I was obsessed. His hair is on point ofcourse and because of all this....and some more stuff, I know he's the man for me. No matter what you do, you want to have that support.

 

[LovelyLionessa]

My husband is my #1 supporter of my hair journey. In the first 6 months of our marriage, he encouraged me to transition becuase he loved the natural texture of my hair. I ended up returning to relaxing, but soon discovered LHCF thereafter and all the wonderful advice on this board. My husband now helps me do my touch-ups, so no more stylists for me. He likes how we relax my hair together and it's no longer bone straight and lifeless afterwards like it often would be after going to the salon for TU. After trying henna, I got spooked by all the henna cautions out there, became frustrated and anxious and talked about giving up henna altogether. My hubby encouraged me to continue using henna. Last week, I used indigo mixed with henna, and my husband absolutely loves the color, he said to me, "I'm so glad you found the indigo!"

He knows all about my hair obession, he teases me about my stockpiled favorite products in the closet. I tell him about interesting LHCF posts, and many nights we spend together on the sofa, with him wathcing T.V. and me on LHCF.

 

[Nenah]

Mine says he gonna get me a Nasdaq for xmas( LHCF) he says this many women concerned about hair has to have some stock in it. But it's all good he don't mind.

 

[RosesBlack]

My man is great about it. He even knows what products I will and won't use so I can send him to the store for things. And he's always good with the compliments even if I do something totally jacked up to my hair.

 

[patient1]

I remember that comment, but thought it was Vannessa Bell Calloway Either way a man like that is a KEEPER!!

Ya'll are probably right. I'm old with three kids. I knew it was an actress with three names.!!! LOL!

p1

 

[Hair Iam]

At first my DH was not too interested but as my progress became more apparent, he started giving me complements. Now he asks me what else do I need, are my tools (hair dryer, flat iron) ok? Do I need new ones? Last Saturday he went to a football game in Buffalo NY, would you believe he surprised me with hair products. I guess he really is paying attention.
He suports me in pretty much all I do.
Thanks ladies for reminding me how blessed I am.

God bless his big heart

 

[EbonyHairedPrincess]

I love this thread. My papa (hubby) is wonderful anyway, but he is super supportive about my hair. He seen it long, short, weaved, braided, flat ironed and natural. He actually encouraged me to drop the braids and grow my hair. When I was blow drying my hair with paddle brushes, he would help. I am teaching my daughter how to apply relaxers (15 years old) once she gets the hang of it I will ask my papa to help me. He like to smell my hair. So I try to only use products that smell good. Then I make him massage my scalp. He loves how long my hair is now. It's fun to surprise him with roller sets to show him how healthy and long it is.

 

[jtsupanova]

He wants me to have longer hair
He supports my regmine (as long as it does not take time away from him)
He dose not have a problem with hair boards (as long as it does not take time away from him)
HE CAN NOT STAND MY PJISM
HE CAN NOT STAND ME COMPLANING OR AS HE LIKES TO SAY OBSESSING ABOUT MY HAIR

 

[OneInAMillion]

It's nice to see that so many of you have supportive BF's and husbands...

My ex was TERRIBLE to me about my hair journey. Where do I begin?

• He frequently refererred to my hair as nappy because I would stretch for 5-6 months at a time and put my hair in a bun
• We went on various trips that involved water (i.e. skiing, rafting) and he constantly asked me why I was embarassing him with my nappy hair
• When I did have my hair rollerset (which I do EVERY WEEK), I would only get my roots blown. He hated that I liked to have curls in my hair and didn't wear it straight. I tried to explain that I didn't like having heat on my hair shaft, but he didn't get it.
• He complained that I didn't have the 'good hair' of his previous girlfriends.
• The few times I did straighten my hair, he treated me like a goddess.

That's it for now . Since he's been gone, I've been hiding my hair on the xmas challenge. I've NEVER seen so much healthy growth and I will MOST DEFINATELY be flaunting it!

Let me just add...I once found a box texturizer in this man's bathroom .

 

[cicilypayne]

It's nice to see that so many of you have supportive BF's and husbands...

My ex was TERRIBLE to me about my hair journey. Where do I begin?

• He frequently refererred to my hair as nappy because I would stretch for 5-6 months at a time and put my hair in a bun
• We went on various trips that involved water (i.e. skiing, rafting) and he constantly asked me why I was embarassing him with my nappy hair
• When I did have my hair rollerset (which I do EVERY WEEK), I would only get my roots blown. He hated that I liked to have curls in my hair and didn't wear it straight. I tried to explain that I didn't like having heat on my hair shaft, but he didn't get it.
• He complained that I didn't have the 'good hair' of his previous girlfriends.
• The few times I did straighten my hair, he treated me like a goddess.

That's it for now . Since he's been gone, I've been hiding my hair on the xmas challenge. I've NEVER seen so much healthy growth and I will MOST DEFINATELY be flaunting it!

Let me just add...I once found a box texturizer in this man's bathroom .

He sounds like a real jerk. I think your good to be rid of him

 

[Ladyhenri]

It's nice to see that so many of you have supportive BF's and husbands...

My ex was TERRIBLE to me about my hair journey. Where do I begin?

• He frequently refererred to my hair as nappy because I would stretch for 5-6 months at a time and put my hair in a bun
• We went on various trips that involved water (i.e. skiing, rafting) and he constantly asked me why I was embarassing him with my nappy hair
• When I did have my hair rollerset (which I do EVERY WEEK), I would only get my roots blown. He hated that I liked to have curls in my hair and didn't wear it straight. I tried to explain that I didn't like having heat on my hair shaft, but he didn't get it.
• He complained that I didn't have the 'good hair' of his previous girlfriends.
• The few times I did straighten my hair, he treated me like a goddess.

That's it for now . Since he's been gone, I've been hiding my hair on the xmas challenge. I've NEVER seen so much healthy growth and I will MOST DEFINATELY be flaunting it!

Let me just add...I once found a box texturizer in this man's bathroom .

Girl,
I hope when he was on his way out you gave him a hard and well desrved kick up the arse!

 

[Ladyhenri]

My fiancee is lovely and supports me most of the time.
My current hair related problems with him are that he is begining to complain about the phony pony...Since he saw my progress, he has been wanting me to wear my hair down all the time!!

Other than this, even though i have my hair in a baggy 97% of the time, he still complements me.