Your First Love.....Have You Let It Go Completely?

[foxxymami]

Sorry if a similar thread has already been started before.

Every couple of months, thoughts of my first love sneak up on me and I'm always like Does that mean if you think about someone all the time that he's the one you want to be with?

We broke up over 3 years ago and currently I have a SO of 2 years that I'm VERY much in love with. He's my honey pie, however my EX and first love pops into my thoughts every so often. I don't like this because I feel like it's so wrong and not fair to my SO to be having nostalgic thoughts of EX. Maybe it's just that saying that goes "you never forget your first love"? In that case it makes sense, but I don't want to NEVER be able to forget him. IDK.....

Have you stopped thinking about your first love? How long did it take?

 

[audacious1]

Sorry if a similar thread has already been started before.

Every couple of months, thoughts of my first love sneak up on me and I'm always like Does that mean if you think about someone all the time that he's the one you want to be with?

We broke up over 3 years ago and currently I have a SO of 2 years that I'm VERY much in love with. He's my honey pie, however my EX and first love pops into my thoughts every so often. I don't like this because I feel like it's so wrong and not fair to my SO to be having nostalgic thoughts of EX. Maybe it's just that saying that goes "you never forget your first love"? In that case it makes sense, but I don't want to NEVER be able to forget him. IDK.....

Have you stopped thinking about your first love? How long did it take?

We broke up the summer before my senior year of high school. I just started my senior year of college. I don't think about him much, but when he messages me on myspace or texts me (we ended as friends because we started that way), I cant help but think "what if." But then, I remember that I called it quits for a reason, so then I forget about him and the what if thoughts. Works every time.

 

[Everything Zen]

We "dated" when I was 22 for a few months. I think about him from time to time and hope he is doing well wherever the hell he is. I thank God for the amazing man that I am with now that that sociopath is out of my life for good.

 

[frankie]

I had a crush on him for years before we got together. We went to school together from grade 5-12 so I knew him for a loooooooong time. I never really let on that I liked him until our Junior year of high school. Long story short, we fell hard and fast, he was my "first", we went to different colleges. He got a girl pregnant at his college. I found out from someone else and went through the roof. We had an on again off again relationship. He married the baby momma, and now they have several chldren together. I hope that he is well and that he is not cheating on his now wife. I wouldn't touch him with a ten foot pole. But I would piss on him if he was on fire, and probably throw in a little spit too.

Funny thing is the kid and the girl weren't the breaking point. [I was still young and dumb] It was his lack of support and joy in my success. He seemed almost resentful that it was going to take him longer to finish undergrad than he expected, whereas I was on the 4 year path. He was also dissapointed that he'd had a kid so early in life...he'd always talked about waiting until he was 28, which didn't happen by a long shot. In the end, I knew this was not the man for me. He wasn't fatihful, supportive, or available. It took me some time to move on, but I think by my Junior year of Undergrad I no longer wanted to play with that fire. I knew I was worth more, deserved more, and there were men out there that didn't feel threatened by my drive.

I still think of him. But, I don't wonder what if because too many things have happened between us for it to be healthy for us to be together.