aribell
formerly nicola.kirwan
Thanks everyone for the responses and conversation. I have a specific question that's kind of bothering me. I'm not sure whether I'm being overly demanding/picky (I've been called both before) or just sensible.
So, this young man is definitely a Christian, his mother is a pastor, grew up in church, gives sermonettes during special services, does his devotionals, leads Bible study sometimes, prays, all that. We're good friends and I know he takes the Word seriously and we have conversations about it, about what we learned in church, and also about lifestyle stuff, like our thoughts on adultery, premarital sex (which he's against), getting drunk, etc.
In so many ways he has my trust and respect, and yet, I really am bothered by different things he chooses to participate in or watch. For instance, he told me about a Cinco de Mayo 7-hour bar crawl he went on, that he said he didn't get drunk during (though he was "less than sober"), but which also involved everyone around him being drunk. He also said that one of his favorite movies that he likes to watch repeatedly is "The 40 Year-Old Virgin" which, when I watched, I was honestly scandalized by...and it generally takes a lot. I know it's just a movie, but I still feel that it has to reflect something about his character, I just don't know what.
Plus, he seems to wait for me to say what should happen next, and that bothers me also from a spiritual/relationship leadership perspective. Not that he'd go along with anything I said, but he'll just wait for me to say what needs to be said, and I find that quite irksome and slightly worrying.
In light of the big picture I wonder if I shouldn't get over it/let it go. At the same time, I feel like it's so easy to become hardened to the Spirit's voice, and I don't want to start accepting things that I'd long since rejected before he came along. Plus, I feel kind of hypocritical since I can't say that everything I see/watch is pristine, either. Thoughts?
So, this young man is definitely a Christian, his mother is a pastor, grew up in church, gives sermonettes during special services, does his devotionals, leads Bible study sometimes, prays, all that. We're good friends and I know he takes the Word seriously and we have conversations about it, about what we learned in church, and also about lifestyle stuff, like our thoughts on adultery, premarital sex (which he's against), getting drunk, etc.
In so many ways he has my trust and respect, and yet, I really am bothered by different things he chooses to participate in or watch. For instance, he told me about a Cinco de Mayo 7-hour bar crawl he went on, that he said he didn't get drunk during (though he was "less than sober"), but which also involved everyone around him being drunk. He also said that one of his favorite movies that he likes to watch repeatedly is "The 40 Year-Old Virgin" which, when I watched, I was honestly scandalized by...and it generally takes a lot. I know it's just a movie, but I still feel that it has to reflect something about his character, I just don't know what.
Plus, he seems to wait for me to say what should happen next, and that bothers me also from a spiritual/relationship leadership perspective. Not that he'd go along with anything I said, but he'll just wait for me to say what needs to be said, and I find that quite irksome and slightly worrying.
In light of the big picture I wonder if I shouldn't get over it/let it go. At the same time, I feel like it's so easy to become hardened to the Spirit's voice, and I don't want to start accepting things that I'd long since rejected before he came along. Plus, I feel kind of hypocritical since I can't say that everything I see/watch is pristine, either. Thoughts?
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